Life Lessons

Becoming What You Behold

At 32, I’m beginning to feel the old adage of you are what you eat. As a teenager, I could eat whatever I wanted at any time of the day with next to no consequences. This is no longer so in my early 30s. The short-term and long-term consequences of my diet are obvious and unavoidable. This past week, the Lord has been impressing an important reality upon my heart: you are what you behold. To put it another way, you become what you choose to behold. If you choose to constantly behold morally bankrupt and worldly entertainment, you will become morally bankrupt and worldly. If you give yourself over to mindless scrolling on social media and beholding posts that are empty of value, you will become a mindless individual who has little capacity for critical thinking. If you choose to behold pornography, you will become a miserable slave to your lusts and appetites.

In 2 Corinthians 3-4, the apostle Paul implores you to behold the glory of Christ so that you can become more like Him. If you know and love Jesus, a spiritual veil has been lifted from your eyes by the Holy Spirit and you now have the ability to see Jesus as awesome, mighty, and glorious. Paul writes, “And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit,” (2 Corinthians 3:18). Please, don’t miss the beauty of this verse. If you choose to behold the glory of who Christ is, what He has done, and what He continues to do, you will slowly but surely be transformed into His image. Day by day and inch by inch, you will become more and more like Him. You will set your mind on the lasting things of heaven instead of being consumed by the fading things of earth (Colossians 3:1-2). You will put off the old self and continually put on the new self (Colossians 3:5-17). You will grow in your desire and ability to love as He loves, to hate what He hates, and to serve as He serves.

You may be thinking, “This sounds fantastic…but what does it mean to behold Jesus and how can I do this on a daily basis?” In this life, we behold Jesus by faith and in eternity we will behold Him by sight. One day all our hopes will become reality and our faith will become sight. The apostle John promises us that “we shall be like Him (Jesus) because we shall see Him as He is,” (1 John 3:2). Try to wrap your mind around this truth. One day you will see Christ as you can see a friend, a family member, a neighbor, your kids, or your spouse. Seeing Him in His full and unadulterated glory will forever and perfectly change you into His likeness. Until then, we must behold Jesus through the eyes of faith. We must behold Him by focusing our minds and hearts upon the gospel and the truths of God’s Word. You will not become more like Jesus if you fail to behold Him in His Word. Beholding Him in the Word doesn’t just involve reading the words on the page but mediating and reflecting upon them as well. This involves memorizing Scripture and digging these truths into the fertile soil of your soul. This involves putting His Word into action. Beholding Christ is a holistic activity that involves your head, your heart, and your hands.

Maybe you’re reading this and your love and affection for Christ has dwindled in recent weeks, months, or maybe even years. Bible study and prayer have become lifeless tasks that don’t excite you as they once did. Church has become a legalistic routine instead of a life giving time of worship, learning, and fellowship. The fire that once burned so brightly is now a fading wick on the verge of blowing out. The only solution is to get on your knees and ask the Lord to fix your eyes upon the Savior and His infinite glory. Hundreds of years ago, the famous pastor and theologian, John Owen, had this to say in his amazing book, The Glory of Christ, “Do any of us find decays in grace prevailing in us; deadness, coldness, lukewarmness, a kind of spiritual stupidity and senselessness coming upon us? Do we find an unreadiness unto the exercise of grace in its proper season, and the vigorous acting of it in duties of communion with God, and would we have our souls recovered from these dangerous diseases? Let us assure ourselves there is no better way for our healing and deliverance, yea, no other way but this alone, -- namely, the obtaining a fresh view of the glory of Christ by faith, and a steady abiding therein. Constant contemplation of Christ and his glory, putting forth its transforming power unto the revival of all grace, is the only relief in this case." Brothers and sisters, look unto Jesus day in and day out. There is no better view in this world or any other. There is no other view that is eternally transforming.

The Business of Disciplining - Additional Resources

There simply was not enough time to cover everything that I would’ve liked in this message.  This post tries to capture some of the other thoughts or references that I wanted to share.

What Else Does God’s Word Say…

  • Proverbs 3:11-12 - My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.

    Proverbs 4:23 - Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

    Proverbs 6:23 - For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching a light, and the reproofs of discipline are the way of life.

    Proverbs 10:1 - A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.

    Proverbs 10:13 - On the lips of him who has understanding, wisdom is found, but a rod is for the back of him who lacks sense.

    Proverbs 12:1 - Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid.

    Proverbs 13:24 - Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

    Proverbs 14:29 - Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.

    Proverbs 15:5 - A fool despises his father’s instruction, but whoever heeds reproof is prudent.

    Proverbs 15:10 - There is severe discipline for him who forsakes the way; whoever hates reproof will die.

    Proverbs 19:18 - Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.

    Proverbs 20:30 - Blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts.

    Proverbs 22:15 - Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.

    Proverbs 23:13 - Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.

    Proverbs 29:1 - He who is often reproved, yet stiffens his neck, will suddenly be broken beyond healing.

    Proverbs 29:15 - The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

    Proverbs 29:17 - Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.

  • Think (Psalm 139:23)

    Remember (Deuteronomy 8:2)

    Know (Jeremiah 24:7)

    Store Things (Psalm 119:11)

    See (Ephesians 1:18)

    Say (many)

    Meditate (Psalm 19:14)

    Pray (1 Samuel 2:1)

    Faint (Job 23:16)

    Hate (Leviticus 19:17)

    Envy (Proverbs 23:17)

    Give (Deuteronomy 15:10)

    Receive (Ezekiel 3:10)

    Turn away/to (1 Kings 11:2)

    Rejoice (Psalm 13:5)

    Sing (Colossians 3:16)

    Love God (Deuteronomy 6)

    Become Proud (Ezekiel 28:2)

    Walk Faithfully (1 Kings 2:4) 

    Deceive (Jeremiah 17:9)

    Be Upright (many)

    Become Hard (Ephesians 4)

    Set Up Idols (Ezekiel 14)

    Repent (Joel 2)

    Seek God (Psalm 27)

    Believe (Romans 10:9)

    Honor Christ (1 Peter 3:15)

  • Sadness (Nehemiah 2:2)

    Joy (Isaiah 65:14)

    Secrets (Psalm 44:21)

    Plans (Proverbs 16:1)

    Stubbornness (Jeremiah 9:14)

    Anguish (Isaiah 65:14)

    Desires (Psalm 37:4)

    Evil Thoughts (Matthew 15:19)

    Lusts (Romans 1:24)

    Motives (1 Corinthians 4:5)

    Intentions (Hebrews 4:12)

    Reasoning (Luke 9:47)

    Doubts (Luke 24:38)

    Jealousy (James 3:14)

    Peace (Colossians 3:15)

A Brief Discussion on Spanking

In 2022 in the US, the idea of spanking is very controversial, but then again so is the concept of believing in two genders.  Google will happily provide you with links to articles from Christianity Today (hardly a bastion for Biblical truth anymore) denouncing it or some psychological study (likely from an organization that doesn’t believe in God) decrying the emotional damage that spanking a child causes.  But consider the source.  I think most of us want to follow God’s wisdom when it comes to living our lives, but especially in raising our kids.  

In my research, I have found these two articles to be particularly helpful in analyzing spanking from a Biblical standpoint and even in articulating how to properly execute it.

  • Focus on the Family article (2018; 6pgs) - I have my own reservations about the current direction of the Focus on the Family organization in a number of issues, but this 2018 article from this specific author (Dr. Danny Huerta) provides an excellent overview of the question of “Is Spanking Biblical?” and 5 principles for doing it correctly.

  • Desiring God Interview with Dr. Tedd Tripp (2014; 7min) - Tony Reinke, the host of the “Ask Pastor John” [Piper] podcast, interviews Dr. Tripp on why many Christians parents don’t spank their children.  Again, I personally have some more recent concerns with the direction of John Piper’s ministry, but this interview is Biblically solid.

Other Helpful Resources

  • Shepherding a Child’s Heart - Dr. Tedd Tripp - The whole book is great, and it includes a specific training on “when”, “how”, and “why” of spanking and some frequently asked questions on it.

  • Have a New Kid By Friday - Dr. Kevin Leman

    • Book - (it’s cheaper on Amazon, but who wants to support them anyway)

    • Article - quick summary of the book

    • Podcast - weekly topical discussion with the author

  • Family Life (one example podcast with Steve Ferrar) - Dennis Rainey, Bob Lepine 

  • James Dobson Family Institute (discipline articles) - Dr. James Dobson

Pastor Appreciation Month! (Blog Entry.)

For Pastor Appreciation month, here's a little tribute to my pastor. 

Pastor Bob Huber went to glory on July 4 this year, or to put it as he referred to a believer's death: he graduated. And while I can say so much about his impact on me with his teaching, I think more of his impact was felt through things I observed. 

For example…

One particular snowy Wednesday night at North Street Christian Church, many many years ago, one of his grandsons (who shall remain unnamed, I'll call him “Abe”) got into a bit of trouble. I guess if “Preachers' Kids” are notoriously mischievous, “Preachers' Grandkids” must be worse...? We were holding our weekly kids' program and Abe (who must have been around 5-7 years old) was wondering the halls of the church. He asked his teacher for a restroom break, but told any adult who stopped him in the halls that “his class took a field trip walking to the park without him”. (Not likely, it was snowy, dark, and about 12 degrees outside.) So he basically blew off most of the evening by lying to both sides. 

After the classes dismissed and people were slowly filtering out of the church, I was walking by Abe being “disciplined” by Pastor Bob: “You have to stay in your class, you can't be lying to people and wondering around by yourself...” - trying to sound as stern and serious as possible. 

Abe listened, and while Pastor Bob was still talking, Abe put his little hands on Pastor Bob's cheeks and squished them together, essentially giving Pastor Bob “fish lips”, and Abe just very calmly and sweetly said, “Awwww. You are such a cutey-pie.”

I could see Pastor Bob breaking. Then he was stifling his laughter – discipline time was officially ineffective... and over. 

What did this anecdote teach me? Nothing ultra profound or deep, but a reminder of something that will change your life if you let it: you don't always have to take yourself so seriously. 

I'm still learning. Miss you, PB. 

jeff

-not a cutie-pie, in the traditional sense

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Our Guest Speakers Maybe Did Too Good of a Job...?

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Two questions I get asked a lot that I want to put to rest:

1) “You only work one day a week, only for an hour on Sunday, right?” Incorrect. I don't work that whole hour, just 35 or 40 minutes of it.

2) (After one of our guest speakers spoke) “Aren't you afraid of losing your job?” No. I have worked hard to be the most replaceable person at the church.

But I get the sentiment behind #2. Our guest speakers – Mike Wolski, Taylor Brown, Matt Koll, Ryan Stroupe, and other regulars Justin Cady, Rich Sprunk, Mark Ort and Dan Thompson – all do a phenomenal job. They work hard and pray hard and pour themselves out delivering the Word of God. Their success in doing so doesn't make me “sweat over my job”. Quite the opposite. The excellence they demonstrated in competently preaching must be viewed as a huge success. Not just for me. Not just for HBC. But for the Kingdom of God. 

That man in the picture with me is Pastor Bob Huber. He taught me everything. I was blessed to have such a “Father in the Gospel” for 25 years, and on July 4th – the faith became sight for him as he met Jesus face to face. 

At his funeral, four men, including me, stood and testified to his faithfulness to the church, his family, and above all, to the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Four pastors. Though Pastor Bob has “graduated” (as he used to call a believer's death), he multiplied himself many times over. Four of us represented countless others as we honored PB's memory and continue the work of the ministry as we await our Savior's return. 

So anything good that came from our guest speakers in July (and there was much good), came as the baton of discipleship was passed from Bob to me, and from me to these guest speakers. And by God's grace, may these men pass the baton of discipleship to many others. 

Who knows how many more pastors will be raised up down the line because of the way Jesus worked through Pastor Bob? Why not? I mean, pastors only have to work one day a week, anyways. 

Pastor Jeff

-2 Timothy 2:2