Evaluate Your Heart

Introduction:

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Heart Hearing Evaluation (Luke 8:4–15)

  1. Does Your Heart Hear BUT DISBELIEVE? (Luke 8:12)

    2 Corinthians 4:4In their case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.

  2. Does Your Heart Hear BUT STALL OUT? (Luke 8:13)

    Matthew 7:13–14Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.

  3. Does Your Heart Hear BUT GET DISTRACTED? (Luke 8:14)

    1 Timothy 6:10For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.

  4. Does Your Heart Hear AND PRODUCE A CHANGED LIFE? (Luke 8:15)

    Revelation 2:4–5But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first. Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first. If not, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place, unless you repent.

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Small Group Discussion
Read
Luke 8:4-15

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. What is your biggest heart problem right now? Why can’t it be ignored and how should you address it?

  3. Re-read the Parable of the Sower and break down what the characters and elements represent. What is the major message of this parable?

  4. According to Jesus, what is the true test of saving faith?

Breakout
Pray for one another.

  • We all love quick fixes, don't we?

    If we have a problem, we wanna solve it

    in the quickest and simplest way possible.

    And our bent towards quick fixes

    pops up almost every single day.

    The router is acting up, so what do you do?

    All right, try to be a bit louder so I can hear you.

    What do you do when the router's acting up?

    You unplug it, then you plug it back in, right?

    You have a pounding headache.

    What's your go-to when you have a flare up?

    Just pop a few ibuprofen or Tylenol to take the edge off.

    And when the edge doesn't grow dull or you get so annoyed,

    when that router issue isn't fixed by the unplug

    and plug back in, you get so frustrated.

    The ultimate example of an easy fix from my life

    is the N64, the Nintendo 64, whoever owned one growing up.

    For those of you who weren't born sometime in the 1900s,

    let me make it clear that these games

    were not played on discs.

    You couldn't download them digitally.

    You had to play them on cartridges.

    And for you, 80s and 90s kids in the room,

    what was the quick fix to the problem

    of the game glitching or freezing?

    The harmonica method, right?

    (splat)

    We thought there was dust in the cartridge

    and you had to blow it out.

    According to my internet research,

    people are divided over the effectiveness

    of the harmonica method.

    Some people say that it was the placebo

    that made you feel better, but didn't actually do anything.

    While others say, yeah, it was a short-term fix.

    It worked for a bit, but it caused long-term damage.

    According to these gamers online,

    the moisture from your breath corroded

    the inside of the cartridge or something, I don't know.

    But all of these nerds online agree about one simple fact.

    This was a quick fix,

    not a long-term solution.

    It either did nothing to help the problem

    or it made the problem even worse.

    As you saw in the promo video a few moments

    ago, we have been hyper-focused on one major theme

    from Scripture over the past nine months.

    God wants your heart.

    He doesn't just want your external rule following,

    He wants your internal love and devotion.

    But maybe you've heard this theme of God wants your heart

    preached about Sunday after Sunday,

    but you still aren't there.

    Maybe you know what God wants from you,

    for some reason you don't want to give it to Him.

    Your heart is distant from the Lord.

    Your heart is cold towards His Word.

    There is something off inside of you.

    You need to get to a better place,

    but you don't know how to get there.

    And for weeks, months, or even years,

    you've been trying all the quick fixes,

    but nothing is working.

    The problem just keeps getting worse and worse and worse.

    You have a serious heart problem

    that you cannot solve on your own.

    If that's you, I have a two-part question to ask

    that you don't have to answer out loud,

    but you do need to answer in your heart.

    Are you ready to put away the quick fixes

    and stop doing things your way?

    Are you ready to grab ahold of God's long-term

    solutions and start doing things His way?

    If the answer is yes, I have to warn you,

    it's gonna hurt.

    It's gonna take God's painful scalp cuts,

    scalpel cuts to truly lead you to the change that you need.

    True change requires an open heart procedure.

    Over the next month,

    we're gonna undergo four surgical solutions

    to our heart problems, evaluating our hearts,

    confessing from our hearts,

    giving thanks with our hearts, and guarding our hearts.

    As you may have noticed, all these surgical solutions

    require your cooperation and participation.

    None of these solutions will be easy,

    but they are guaranteed success.

    If you submit to your divine doctor

    and let Him do His work in your heart.

    So before we continue, let's go to the Lord

    and ask for His help.

    Please pray for me and I will pray for you.

    Father, we thank you for this most important appointment

    of the week.

    This isn't just a throwaway time.

    We come if we have a break in the schedule.

    There's a time we come together as your people

    to worship you and to come under the teaching of your Word.

    Or may you do a work that only you can.

    May you work in human hearts.

    May you bring conviction.

    May you challenge.

    May you build up.

    May you bring life where there is none.

    What I can do, none of those things, only you can.

    Preach a much better message in people's hearts

    than I ever could with my mouth.

    We ask all these things in Jesus' name, amen.

    So the first surgical solution to your heart problem

    is found in Luke chapter eight, verses four through 15.

    Please turn there with me.

    Luke chapter eight, verses four through 15.

    At this point in his ministry,

    Jesus is being followed around by crowds

    who want to experience his miracles

    and hear him preach messages that are unlike anyone else's.

    In our passage for this morning,

    Jesus teaches the crowd a parable.

    And as a refresher, a parable

    is an everyday story with a spiritual meaning.

    It is a work of fiction that points to the reality

    of God's kingdom and the salvation that Jesus offers.

    Let's read one of the greatest parables

    in Luke chapter eight, verses four through eight.

    And when a great crowd was gathering

    and people from town to town came to him,

    Jesus said in a parable,

    a sower went out to sow his seed.

    And as he sowed, some fell on the path

    and was trampled underfoot

    and the birds of the air devoured it.

    And some fell on the rock.

    And as it grew up, it withered away

    because it had no moisture.

    And some seed fell among thorns

    and the thorns grew up with it and choked it.

    And some fell into good soil

    and grew and healed at a hundredfold.

    As Jesus said these things,

    he called out, "He who has ears to hear, let him hear."

    So a sower is in his field,

    scattering seed anywhere and everywhere that he goes.

    And some of this seed lands on good soil

    but most of it lands on bad soil.

    Some of the seed falls along the path

    where people stomp on it

    and it is quickly picked up by birds.

    Some falls on soil where it looks good

    but there is a bedrock underneath the soil

    that you cannot see.

    So the seed has no moisture.

    It can't develop a root system

    so it withers away and dies.

    Some of the seed falls on thorns

    where it is choked out.

    But some of the seed falls on good soil

    where it steadily but surely grows over time

    and leads to an abundant harvest.

    That's the story.

    And Jesus closes out by saying,

    "He who has ears to hear, let him hear."

    Why does he say that?

    What's the point of saying that?

    Well, the modern day equivalent is on the screen behind me.

    Can any of you young people decipher this for us?

    What is it?

    Thank you, Sierra.

    If you know, you know.

    Jesus is saying you're either gonna understand

    what I'm saying or you won't.

    Well, the disciples themselves are left confused

    not really understanding the story.

    So they work up the courage to go up to Jesus

    and say, "Hey, Jesus, great story."

    But what in the world was that about?

    And check out Jesus' response in verses nine through 10.

    And when his disciples asked him what this parable meant,

    he said, "To you, it has been given to know the secrets

    "of the kingdom of God,

    "but for others they are in parables.

    "So that seeing they may not see and hearing

    "they may not understand."

    Now you may be thinking, hold on a minute.

    It seems like Jesus is saying

    that he taught in parables to confuse some people.

    Yeah, you get a gold star for observation.

    That is exactly what he is saying.

    This may be a hard pill to swallow,

    but Jesus taught these parables

    both to reveal and to conceal the truth.

    He taught these parables to reveal the truth

    to those whose hearts are soft and ready to receive it.

    But he also told these parables to conceal the truth

    from those whose hearts are hardened

    and resolved to reject it.

    The good news is if you truly want to understand

    the parables, you will.

    But if you don't really care

    about understanding the parables, you won't.

    It's that simple and clear cut.

    But thankfully Jesus does something that he rarely does.

    He explains the meaning of the parable.

    Praise the Lord, isn't that so convenient

    for every single one of us in this room?

    Jesus is like that teacher who tells you

    what's on the final exam

    and lets you go to the back of the book to find the answers.

    So let's go to the back of the book

    and see Jesus answer for what this parable means

    in verses 11 through 15.

    Now the parable is this.

    The seed is the word of God.

    The ones along the path are those who have heard it.

    And the devil comes and takes away the word from their hearts

    so that they may not believe and be saved.

    And the ones on the rock are those

    when they hear the word, receive it with joy,

    but these have no root.

    They believe for a while and in time of testing fall away.

    And as for what fell among the thorns,

    they are those who hear, but as they go on their way,

    they are choked by the cares and riches and pleasures

    of life and their fruit does not mature.

    As for that in the good soil,

    they are those who hearing the word hold it fast

    in an honest and good heart and bear fruit with patience.

    Jesus clearly spells out everything for us.

    The seed is the word of God that is scattered

    by the sower by anyone who faithfully shares the word.

    The seed of the word is scattered every single Sunday

    as someone stands before you to proclaim

    what God has to say.

    The seed of the word is scattered

    whenever you teach the lesson back in Harvest Academy

    or do family devotions with your kids.

    The seed of the word is scattered

    whenever you share the gospel

    with that unsafe family member, friend, coworker, or neighbor.

    And according to Jesus, the scattered seed of the word

    lands on four different types of soils,

    which represents four different types of human hearts.

    And Jesus is not talking about the organ

    that's bumping in your chest right now.

    He's talking about who you really are on the inside.

    Your heart is the source of all your emotions,

    your affections, and your motivations.

    Your heart is constantly taking in everything you see

    here and experiencing and evaluating it.

    And according to God's word,

    you don't just have physical ears on the sides of your head,

    you also have spiritual ears on your heart.

    And these spiritual ears can either hear the truth

    and reject it or can hear the truth and accept it.

    Three of these soils,

    three of these heart hearers in this parable

    reject the word, which leads to eternal destruction.

    Only one soil, only one heart here accepts the word

    and is saved and has eternal life.

    Do you remember those hearing evaluations

    you had to take back in elementary school

    where you shuffled the school library or some random room?

    You put on the headphones,

    where they play different noises

    at different frequencies and decibels.

    And what would you do if you could hear the noise?

    Show me what you would do.

    You raise your hand, right?

    Or you kept it down if you couldn't hear it.

    And depending on how the evaluation went,

    you could either go about the rest of your day as normal

    or you'd be sent to an ear doctor.

    Well, this parable is a heart hearing evaluation.

    It gauges how your heart hears

    and responds to the word of God.

    It reveals if you are currently rejecting Jesus Christ

    in His gospel or if you've actually accepted Him or not.

    It reveals how serious of a heart problem you have

    and how serious of a heart surgery you need.

    So after one of the longest introductions

    in the history of this church,

    it's time to put on the spiritual headphones

    and take your heart hearing evaluation.

    First question of the heart hearing evaluation.

    Does your heart hear but disbelief?

    Does your heart hear but disbelief?

    Let's start with the pathway soil

    where the seed is crushed and eaten by birds.

    Listen again to Jesus' explanation in verse 12.

    The ones along the path are those who have heard,

    then the devil comes and takes away the word

    from their hearts so that they may not believe

    and be saved.

    The birds stand in for Satan himself

    who has a mission to accomplish,

    to keep unbelievers from truly hearing the gospel message

    and accepting it.

    The apostle Paul speaks to this ministry of Satan

    in 2nd Corinthians 4/4.

    He says, "The God of this world, that Satan,

    "has blinded the minds of the unbelievers

    "to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel

    "of the glory of Christ who is the image of God."

    Do you know that Satan and his demons

    are faithful church attenders?

    I guarantee they have a better track record of attendance

    than anyone in this room.

    They never miss a Sunday.

    But they don't show up to worship God,

    they show up to deceive and to divert attention.

    Satan wants you to daydream during the message

    and think about what's for lunch afterwards.

    Like that even matters at all.

    Satan wants you to have sleepy eyes

    and a head that bobs up and down, up and down.

    He wants you to be restless and fidgety in your seat.

    He wants you to absentmindedly doodle on your outline

    rather than take diligent notes.

    He wants you to be doubtful regarding the things of God.

    He wants you to suffer from this condition of believing

    that God could never love or forgive someone like you.

    He wants you to hear the word, but disbelieve the word.

    Is that where you are this morning?

    Is your heart problem that you're disinterested in

    and maybe even disgusted by?

    What is preached behind the pulpit here?

    Or shared with you by faithful Christian relatives and friends?

    Maybe you're here to make your family happy,

    but you're not buying into all this Jesus stuff.

    Maybe the teachings of the Bible seem outdated,

    harsh and even harmful to you.

    Maybe when you look at this book,

    it just doesn't make any sense whatsoever.

    If I've described you at all,

    I wanna share with you that I am so glad that you're here.

    And I have been praying for you all week.

    I've been praying that Satan would not steal

    the seed of the word from your heart once again.

    I've been praying that you would hear the word

    with fresh ears and a willing heart.

    I've been praying that you would see yourself

    as a sinner and Jesus Christ as the only savior.

    Turn from your disbelief, turn to Jesus Christ

    and believe in what he accomplished

    through his perfect life, his sacrificial death,

    and his resurrection from the grave.

    If you do, he will wipe away all of your sins.

    He will give you his perfect righteousness.

    He will give you a new heart that has new life

    and a new love.

    That is what faith in Christ will get you.

    Let me ask, what has disbelief in Christ ever gotten you?

    Nothing but an anxious and dissatisfied heart.

    If you continue with that disbelief,

    you will experience spiritual death that lasts forever.

    Second question of the heart hearing evaluation,

    does your heart hear but stall out?

    Does your heart hear but stall out?

    Next up is the rocky soil.

    Let's read verse 13.

    "And the ones on the rock are those,

    when they hear the word, receive it with joy,

    but they have no root.

    They believe for a while in time of testing fall away."

    This kind of heart hears the word and seems to accept it.

    There is an immediate willingness to follow Jesus.

    There is quick growth.

    Bad habits are put away and new habits are formed.

    This person feels happy.

    Boy, oh boy, it's fun to be a Christian.

    Life is the best.

    But then times get tough.

    They experience hardship.

    And life isn't so great anymore.

    It isn't so fun to be a Christian anymore.

    The view ahead used to be filled with hope and with life,

    but now it is full of darkness and uncertainty.

    Back in high school, my friends and I were driving

    in two separate cars to a concert.

    When the car I was in stalled and came to a halt

    on the side of the road.

    And the other car full of guys parked right behind us.

    And my friend Robert, who was driving the car I was in,

    got out.

    He popped the hood, which was basically an empty gesture

    because none of us had jumper cables

    or knew how a car worked.

    I wish Ben Maul was there that day.

    That would have been fantastic.

    He could have helped us.

    And so Robert pretended like he knew

    he was doing looking under the hood.

    And then he called his stepdad to come and help.

    But the problem was the other car full of guys

    was getting antsy because they still wanted

    to go to the concert.

    And the driver of that car said,

    "Hey guys, we got one less spot.

    We got one more spot less in this car.

    Two of you are gonna have to stay here

    because we're not waiting."

    And that made me so mad.

    I was like, "Seriously?

    I'm not gonna go have fun at the concert

    while we leave people stranded here."

    Well, my friend Ryan didn't feel the same way.

    He said, "I'll go with you."

    And he jumped in the car.

    They sped off while we were coughing up dust

    from their speedy getaway.

    And we waited for Robert's stepdad

    for what felt like hours.

    And it was the dead of summer, so it was hot.

    It was hot like this auditorium often is, right?

    And we got so desperate,

    we drank the emergency water in the trunk,

    which must have been there for years

    'cause it tasted like warm motor oil.

    And eventually Robert's dad, his stepdad showed up

    and he said, "Hey, I called a tow truck.

    It's gonna come soon.

    And I can still take you to the concert if you want to."

    How do you think we felt about that?

    We're like, "No, we're totally over that.

    Just take us back home."

    We were so done with that concert.

    The day had started out so well.

    It was a ton of fun.

    Then the car stalled out

    and we were thrown for a loop.

    The concert was no longer exciting and appealing to us

    like it used to be.

    That happens to so many people who profess faith

    in Jesus Christ.

    They seem to be doing just fine

    as they drive along on the Christian journey,

    but then they hit an unexpected bump in the road

    and totally stall out.

    Family members stopped talking to them

    because of their new beliefs.

    Friends make fun of them for their new ridiculous standards.

    Coworkers belittle them for missing happy hour

    to go to small group.

    Romantic interests threaten to break up the relationship

    if you don't cut it out with this religious nonsense.

    Instead of persevering through these tough times

    and moving forward, they give up on Jesus.

    They retreat and go back to their old lives.

    Following Jesus was convenient for a season,

    but then there was too high of a price to pay.

    Have you already given up?

    Are you tempted to give up right now?

    You have to understand that Jesus never promises

    an easy life if you follow him.

    That's not listed in the brochure.

    True Christians are not exempt from suffering and persecution.

    Actually, true Christians are targets

    for suffering and persecution.

    Listen to Matthew chapter 7 verses 13 through 14.

    "For the gate is wide and the way is easy

    that leads to destruction,

    and those who enter by it are many.

    For the gate is narrow and the way is hard

    that leads to life, and those who find it are few."

    Let me ask you, what is the smarter play?

    Easy for several decades in this life

    and horribly hard in hell forever

    or hard for a little bit in this life

    and easy for all of eternity in heaven?

    Which is the better option?

    Anyone can start out well, but very few finish well.

    A quick start out the gate doesn't mean much

    if you don't cross the finish line.

    Only those who hear the word and persevere in the Word

    possess a transformed heart.

    So please do not give up.

    Do not pick up your ball and go home.

    If you already have, it's not too late to get back in the game.

    It's not too late to jump back on that racetrack

    and keep going until the end.

    Third question of the heart-hearing evaluation.

    Does your heart hear but get distracted?

    Does your heart hear but get distracted?

    Does your heart hear but get distracted?

    In verse 14, Jesus talks about the thorny soil.

    And as for what fell among the thorns,

    they are those who hear, but as they go on their way,

    they are choked by the cares and riches and pleasures of life

    and their fruit does not mature.

    This kind of heart here is not at all hostile to Jesus.

    This person may even claim to be a Christian,

    know a lot about the Bible

    and even sit in church on Sunday.

    But the knowledge in his or her brain

    does not affect his or her heart

    because any growth, any transformation

    is pushed down by an obsession with the world.

    It is choked out.

    Climbing the ladder of achievement,

    having a stacked financial portfolio,

    planning for a carefree retirement

    and raising impressive kids who do impressive things

    is always the front of this person's thinking.

    They have no interest in hearing what God has to say

    about how they should live

    because they already have a plan for their life.

    To be clear, I'm not saying it's bad to have a lot of money,

    invest in the stock market or plan for retirement.

    It's not bad if you own things,

    but it is bad when things own you.

    People often misquote the apostle Paul

    and say, "Money is the root of evil."

    Is that what the Bible says?

    The apostle Paul says it this way,

    "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil.

    It is through this craving

    that some have wandered away from the faith

    and pierced themselves with many pangs.

    The greedy longing for more and more and more stuff

    and success will spiritually bankrupt you."

    Please be honest with yourself.

    Are you distracted by the things of this world right now?

    Are you more excited to receive your direct deposit from work?

    More than you are excited to receive and read God's word?

    Does remodeling your house or buying a new car

    thrill your heart more than worshiping God?

    My son is almost six years old

    and my daughter is three and a half,

    and they are totally oblivious to the basics of finances.

    And they have next to no interest in money.

    If I were to come home and tell them,

    "Hey, do you want to spend an entire day with me?

    Or do you want all the money in my various accounts?"

    What do you think they would say?

    They want to spend a time with their dad.

    They would want me more than stuff from me.

    And please listen to me. This is so important.

    It is a serious heart problem to want stuff from God

    more than God himself.

    This is a symptom of a heart that is thorny and distracted.

    According to Jesus, this kind of heart does not truly know Him.

    If that's you, please don't push aside this concern

    and say, "I'll deal with it later."

    No, deal with it right now.

    Ask God to take His scalpel and clear the thorns

    from your heart that are keeping you from Him.

    Let go of the garbage of this world

    so you can grab ahold of the treasures of heaven.

    Final question of the heart-hearing evaluation.

    Does your heart hear and produce a changed life?

    Does your heart hear and produce a changed life?

    Let's see what Jesus has to say about the good soil

    in verse 15.

    "As for that in the good soil,

    there are those who hearing the word hold it fast

    in an honest and good heart and bear fruit with patience."

    This heart here receives the word and perseveres in the word.

    It doesn't experience quick growth.

    It actually grows in a sustainable pattern for the long run.

    This person has a good and godly heart

    that produces good and godly life.

    This good and godly fruit is a changed life.

    This good and godly fruit includes ongoing repentance of sin,

    loving the church, refusing to throw in the towel,

    sharing their faith, making disciples.

    The true test of saving faith

    isn't that you pray to prayer as a kid.

    Walked an aisle at a revival service,

    raised your hand or signed a card.

    There are so many people who grew up in the church

    and say that they accepted Christ,

    but there is nothing different about them now.

    A past action means nothing

    if there is no present evidence of God at work in your life.

    What you did back then doesn't really matter

    if you're not trusting in Jesus now, loving Jesus now,

    following Jesus now.

    The true test of saving faith is a changed life.

    And it brings my heart so much joy to know

    that many of you in this room are the good soil.

    You have received the word of God

    and it is growing up and taking over your life.

    It changes how you think, it changes how you speak,

    it changes how you react.

    Your heart is good soil.

    But that doesn't mean that your heart is exempt from heart problems.

    The temptation to stay still or to backslide

    will always be there.

    You will go through seasons of apathy and depression.

    There will be times you read the words in these pages

    and they mean nothing to you in your heart.

    You will know what you should do,

    but you still decide to do what you shouldn't.

    The question isn't will you experience heart problems?

    The question is what will you do when you experience heart problems?

    And we're going to spend the rest of this series answering that question,

    but I don't want to leave you hanging until next Sunday.

    So I'm going to provide you with Jesus' own answer to this question

    in Revelation 2 verses 4 through 5,

    where the church in Ephesus gets a personal message from Jesus himself.

    He says this,

    "But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first.

    Remember therefore from where you have fallen.

    Repent and do the works you did at first."

    Brothers and sisters, have you abandoned your first love?

    Have you lost the passion that you used to have for Christ when you were first saved?

    Remember how you used to feel about Him.

    Remind yourself of how you couldn't get enough of the Bible and impactful sermons.

    Remind yourself of how you couldn't wait to grab ahold of people

    to tell them all that you were learning, to tell them about Jesus.

    Don't you miss how things used to be?

    Don't you want your heart to be on fire for Christ again?

    You can get back to that point and move so far beyond it,

    if you repent of your dispassion and do what you did before.

    Don't wait to make the right choice until you feel like it.

    Make the right choice so you will feel the right way once again.

    Now, I know what some of you are thinking as we come to a close with this message.

    Man, this is a super heavy sermon series for the summer.

    Don't you realize this July?

    Mentally, I'm just checked out and on a beach somewhere wearing flip flops.

    This is the month of rest and relaxation.

    Not in this church, it's not.

    We're going to get after it for the next month.

    We are going to walk out of this building as different people

    with different heart attitudes at the end of July.

    We are going to be done with the quick fixes.

    And instead, we're going to pursue after God's solution to our heart problems.

    Is anyone else with me?

    The first step in receiving God's solution to your heart problem

    is to evaluate the health of your heart.

    So how is your heart doing?

    Is it stomped on and disbelieving?

    Is it rocky and stalled out?

    Is it thorny and distracted?

    Or is it good and ready to go?

    Only one of those hearts will truly hear God's word over the course of this series

    and be changed.

    The other three, we denied access into heaven one day

    and cast into hell.

    And I don't want that fate for any of you.

    I want to spend eternity with every single person in this room.

    As much as I may want to, I can't change your heart.

    But thankfully, I know the one who can.

    I hope and pray that the Holy Spirit is cultivating the soil of your heart

    and preparing you to receive the word in an honest and good heart

    that perseveres in patience.

    He who has ears to hear, let him hear.

    Let's pray.

    Father, this is a very weighty passage.

    Lord, it's obvious that there are serious consequences for rejecting you and rejecting your word.

    Well, let the very single person in this room, if there is anybody here who does not know you,

    does not have a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ, may today be the day of salvation.

    May today be the day where the seed lands on the soil of the heart,

    grows up, takes over, and continues.

    But Lord, only you can do this.

    Well, I pray that you'd push away the distractions.

    You'd push away the worries about what's after service or what's happening tomorrow.

    I pray that we would fix our minds on Jesus Christ and what He accomplished.

    And what He offers to every single one of us.

    And for those of us who do know and love you,

    where we admit that we are all experiencing heart problems of some kind right now.

    And we need your assistance. We need your healing.

    But we do pray at the end of this month, we would look way different than we do this Sunday.

    We ask all these things in Jesus' name. Amen.

The Secret to Fasting

Introduction:

What is fasting? – Abstaining from food (and/or other things) for measured periods of time in order to heighten my hunger for the things of God.

What Am I Really Hungry For? (Matthew 6:16–18)

  1. Am I hungry for ATTENTION ... (Matt 6:16)

  2. ...or am I hungry for GOD? (Matt 6:17–18)

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Small Group Discussion
Read
Matthew 6:16-18

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. What is the purpose of fasting? Why do you think that fasting isn’t more common in the American church?

  3. How would you describe the spiritual benefit of fasting to a believer who has never done it?

  4. How would you respond to someone who says “Due to my health issues, not eating is impossible for me.”?

Breakout
Pray for one another.

  • Open your bibles to Matthew chapter 6.

    Are you there?

    Look, verse 1, "This is the greatest sermon ever preached,

    and here Jesus is talking about the heart of religion."

    And this is how this whole section starts.

    "Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people.

    In order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven."

    Jesus says, "Beware of trying to impress people with your religious acts.

    Beware of doing your church stuff in a way that you want people's attention."

    And specifically, Jesus goes after three things here.

    He goes after giving and praying and fasting.

    And you know, anytime that I teach or preach about fasting,

    I always feel like I'm playing from behind.

    What I mean is people recognize giving and praying

    as normal religious things that God's people do.

    Those are kind of no-brainers.

    But fasting?

    Well, look at verse 16.

    Look at the first phrase. Jesus says, "And when you fast..."

    Stop there. "When you fast..."

    You know what that phrase tells me?

    That phrase tells me that fasting is just as expected as giving.

    Fasting is just as expected as praying.

    Let's bow our heads. I'm going to ask that you would please pray for me to be faithful, to communicate.

    A passage and a concept that's very simple and very hard at the same time.

    Pray for me and I will pray for you that our hearts would be open to receive what God wants to tell us today.

    Transform us, Father, by the power of Your Word.

    We pray in Jesus' name. Amen.

    Let's talk about fasting, shall we?

    Our culture is obsessed with food, have you noticed?

    Turn on the TV.

    If the commercial is not about a pharmaceutical, what's the commercial about?

    Food, right?

    Food. Get on social media.

    You'll find somebody took a picture of their hamburger.

    Right? We're obsessed with it.

    You know the thing that always fascinates me though?

    These eating contests. Have you ever seen those eating contests?

    You know the most famous one?

    Like the hot dog eating contests.

    How many people here show of hands have been in a hot dog eating contests?

    Nobody.

    They're like, "Well, Pastor Jeff, have you ever been in an eating contest?"

    Yeah.

    And I won.

    It was eating a pie as fast as you can, hands free.

    And I won.

    I won a shop vac.

    That is a true story.

    And I needed that shop vac to clean up when I got sick

    after eating a pie that fast without my hands.

    There's all kinds of eating contests.

    A taco eating contest. I think I could win that too.

    Wings. How about this one?

    An oyster eating contest.

    How many people would be up for that?

    A couple of you would.

    All right, Pastor Taylor, game on.

    Or here's an eating contest.

    I have no idea what this even is.

    Slug burger. A slug burger eating contest.

    Does anybody know what a slug burger is?

    Anybody?

    All right.

    We'll have to Google that one later. Not now, later.

    But I'm always fascinated by these eating contests.

    This one caught my eye.

    There was one eating contest.

    It was eating a 72-ounce steak.

    Do you know how much a 72-ounce steak is?

    That's 4.5 pounds of steak.

    And I read of this woman.

    A 120-pound woman ate the 72-ounce steak.

    And then she ate another one.

    And then she ate a third in 20 minutes.

    And with that, she also ate three baked potatoes,

    three shrimp cocktails, three salads,

    and three buttered rolls in 20 minutes.

    I read that.

    I'm like, you put butter on the rolls?

    Doesn't that seem excessive?

    But there's TV shows all about food.

    Like, you see these shows.

    They have all these shows about cake.

    Have you seen this?

    And it's not just like, what's the best tasting cake?

    It's like, well, I made a cake that looks like a football

    or whatever.

    And then there's these shows where they travel all over the

    world and they eat these exotic foods from all over the world.

    And we're sitting in our TVs watching people eat.

    And then you turn the channel.

    And on the other channel is a show called My 600-Pound Life.

    We're obsessed with food.

    And we live in a culture where we are constantly, constantly

    taught that life is about consuming.

    But how much talk is there really about refusing consumption?

    So with that horrible backdrop, we're going to talk about fasting

    because this is what the Word of God addresses.

    So what is fasting?

    We have a definition here.

    What is fasting?

    Fasting is abstaining from food and/or other things.

    We'll explain that in a minute.

    Extaining from food and/or other things for measured periods of

    time in order to heighten my hunger for the things of God.

    That's fasting.

    Fasting measured periods of time in order to heighten my hunger for the things of God.

    You see, Jesus, when He talks about giving, praying, and fasting, that's really

    three categories of things.

    Giving has to do with what you do with others.

    And praying is what you do with God.

    And fasting is what you do with yourself.

    Right?

    So there's different kinds of fasting.

    There's a normal fast that's just no food.

    Right?

    There's a partial fast where you only have maybe vegetables and juice.

    And there's an absolute fast where you have absolutely nothing.

    But you can and should also fast from other things.

    And we'll talk about that in a moment.

    But primarily, primarily, biblically, fasting is about food.

    Well, speaking of biblically, fasting is mentioned more than 77 times in the Old Testament

    and the New Testament.

    It is almost always connected with prayer.

    You see fasting throughout the Bible, different occasions, like for example, repentance.

    I'm guilty of this sin.

    I need to turn from this sin.

    I'm going to fast and I'm going to pray in my repentance.

    In the same line of thinking, fasting accompanies mourning over sin.

    My personal sin, the sins of our culture, our country, we should be mourning.

    And part of mourning is fasting and praying.

    You see fasting in the Bible is seeking God at critical times.

    We need to fast because I really need to seek the Lord right now.

    Think Jesus in the wilderness.

    Right?

    Think the early church in the book of Acts.

    Now when you talk about fasting, you always have the person that comes along and says,

    "Well, you know, Pastor Jeff, fasting isn't explicitly commanded in the New Testament."

    And that's absolutely true.

    But something we can't get around is this.

    Jesus obviously assumed that we would fast.

    I mean right here, you're going to see in this passage today, twice He says, "When you fast."

    He says it again in Matthew chapter 9 and verse 15.

    He's assuming that His people would fast.

    Oh, and then as I said, by the way, the early church did.

    They fasted.

    Fasting though, to clarify our definition here, we're going to make sure we understand

    what it's not.

    Fasting is not self-punishment.

    Okay?

    It's not self-punishment.

    Fasting isn't like, "I've sinned.

    I've messed up."

    You know what?

    I'm not going to eat because I don't deserve to eat.

    And like you're sort of punishing yourself.

    That's not what fasting is about.

    It's not self-punishment.

    But fasting also is not self-serving.

    Meaning somebody could walk away from this service going, "Oh, you know, Pastor Jeff was

    talking about fasting and I could stand to lose a couple of pounds.

    So I'll fast."

    That's not what it's about.

    Fasting also is not a bargaining chip.

    Like I need something from God.

    Oh, okay.

    I'll fast and then God will have to give me what I want.

    Talk more about that in a minute.

    Fasting is not something that makes you holy.

    All right?

    Listen, fasting is not even about getting God's attention.

    Understand that.

    Fasting is not, "Look!

    Look at me, God!

    I haven't eaten!

    Look at me!

    Look at me!"

    No, that's not what it's about.

    Fasting isn't about me trying to get God's attention.

    God noticed me.

    Fasting is about me noticing God.

    You see the difference?

    Fasting doesn't make your prayer more powerful.

    Fasting makes you more focused.

    Fasting is what I do when I need my entire concentration, all of my being.

    Every cell in my body focused on God.

    That's what fasting is.

    Because Christ's follower, listen, I know, I know, you want to focus on God.

    You do.

    But the problem is sometimes, if we're honest, and we should be, we want to focus on God,

    but sometimes we want other things more.

    You're like, "What do I do when what I know I should want is not the thing that I'm going

    after?

    What do I do?"

    You fast.

    Fasting is stopping the feeding of ourselves with other things to focus only on our relationship

    with God.

    Because here's the reality.

    Every day, every day of your life, you have the capacity to only consume so much.

    The capacity that you have to satisfy yourself is limited.

    Here's what I mean.

    Let's let this table here, this tabletop, let's let this represent you.

    Let this table represent you, your heart, your spirit.

    You realize every day of your life, you are filling yourself up with stuff.

    Now obviously as we talk about fasting, one of the things that we fill up, we satisfy ourselves

    with is food, right?

    This isn't just life.

    This is mighty life, cereal.

    That's how we roll in our house.

    We fill ourselves up with food.

    I need to tell Aaron we need to get more pretzels.

    But we fill ourselves up.

    We're filling ourselves up.

    But it's not even just food, right?

    Think of how much stuff we fill ourselves with every day.

    For some of us, maybe it's sports.

    Like I'm on the church softball team, right?

    That's one of the things that I'm filling myself up with.

    I'm consuming myself with every day.

    Maybe it's not even just eating the food.

    Maybe it's preparing the food.

    So we have our magazine with the latest recipes and we're filling ourselves up with this stuff.

    Maybe some of us, we like to grow our food in the garden.

    We have our seeds here, right?

    But maybe we're filling ourselves up with that.

    What else are we filling our hearts, our minds, our souls with?

    For some of us, we're like, "Well, I've got to do my recreational reading, right?

    So I've got to make sure I get that into me."

    And oh, here's more seeds.

    And for some of us, it's like, "Well, I like to paint, so I've got to take time out."

    That's something that I fill myself up with, a hobby that I do.

    For some of us, it's exercise.

    You've got to make sure you get your reps in, right?

    Right, Dr. Andrew?

    We've got to make sure that we get our exercise in.

    That's something else.

    This is 6.6 pounds.

    That's why I'm so ripped.

    The first service last one, I said that.

    Can you believe those jerks?

    For some of us, you're on the golf course, right?

    That's something that we fill ourselves with, right?

    For some of us, maybe you're a gamer.

    You spend time during the day playing your video games.

    It's something you're consuming.

    I don't mean to show off, but this is Pac-Man from PlayStation 2.

    Not the old PlayStation.

    This is PlayStation 2.

    That's cutting edge, right?

    We fill ourselves up.

    Do you see where we're going with this?

    We're constantly filling ourselves.

    Oh, and it's not even just that, because we've got to make sure we entertain ourselves, right?

    With movies.

    This is a DVD.

    I had to explain to the first service what a DVD was.

    Before streaming, this is a shiny circle that you stick in a machine that plays a movie.

    This particular one was a gift.

    It's called The Masked Saint.

    It's about a pastor who becomes a pro wrestler.

    Have you ever heard such a stupid thing?

    But we've got to get our intake of entertainment, right?

    Do you see how much stuff we're taking in?

    Do you see?

    That's not it.

    How much time do we spend on our computers?

    We've got to get that in, don't we?

    Am I forgetting anything?

    Oh, yeah.

    How about this little guy?

    How much time a day do we spend filling ourselves with content from this?

    Do you see the point over the course of a day how much are you filling yourself with?

    Your body, your mind, your belly, your spirit, you're constantly, constantly, constantly,

    constantly consuming.

    Now, we're going to let this glass cross represent our walk with Jesus.

    This represents your relationship with Jesus Christ, your personal walk with Him.

    Now, do you see a problem?

    We have to...

    Well, that's...

    You see a problem?

    Now we're so full of stuff that we don't have any room left for the thing that really matters.

    And that's our walk with the Lord.

    So do you see the purpose of fasting?

    You know, if fasting does...

    Fasting just...

    Fasting takes everything off the table and says the only thing that I'm going to focus

    on is my walk with Christ.

    The only thing that my heart, my mind, my attention is getting is my personal walk with

    the Lord.

    That's the purpose of fasting.

    So on your outline, I want you to draw a couple of things down here.

    The question is, what am I really hungry for?

    What am I really hungry for?

    Number one, am I hungry for attention?

    Am I hungry for attention?

    Right?

    Look at verse 16.

    Jesus says, "And when you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites, for they just figure

    their faces that they're fasting may be seen by others.

    Truly I say to you, they have received their reward."

    Am I hungry for attention?

    Jesus calls out to Pharisees.

    He says, "When they fast, they look gloomy.

    They disfigure their faces."

    You know the Pharisees in Jesus, they fasted twice a week.

    Like, why did they do that?

    Well, that wasn't commanded in the Old Testament.

    Like, well, why did they do that?

    Jesus tells us why they did that.

    They were putting on a show.

    That's why.

    He tells us that they may be seen by others.

    Actually, the Pharisees in Jesus, they would literally put ashes over their eyes because

    they were all in on the performance.

    They wanted to make sure that people knew.

    And when people knew that they were fasting, they were like, "Oh, you don't look so good.

    What's going on?

    Well, I'm fasting."

    You're fasting?

    Wow.

    Wow, you are really, you're a really devoted believer.

    You're a really religious person.

    Wow.

    Wow.

    And that little pat on the back there, that little, as Pastor Taylor calls it, the atta

    boy, that little thing, Jesus goes, "There's your reward."

    Have fun with that.

    It's like giving.

    It's like praying.

    We can become tempted to fast with the wrong motive.

    See, the fasting is supposed to be about seeking God, not human applause.

    And look, let's just be real.

    We love the attention.

    There is something deep down in every one of us that loves the attention, and that's

    the problem with hypocrisy.

    The problem with hypocrisy is it works.

    I mean, we've all been there.

    Someone makes a comment about how devoted we are.

    Someone sees how religious we must be, and we start to feel pretty good about ourselves.

    Jesus says, "Beware."

    Beware.

    Like, well, what about corporate fasting?

    I mean, others have to know about that, right?

    Well, yeah, there's New Testament examples of corporate fasting, Acts chapter 13, Acts

    chapter 14.

    Now look, here's the thing with that.

    It's not about whether or not other people know.

    It's about whether or not you want them to know.

    See the difference?

    There's a difference between being seen fasting and fasting in order to be seen.

    That's how it is with corporate fasting.

    That's how it is with private fasting.

    When I fast, I tell Aaron, "Why?"

    Not because I want her applause, but because she feeds us, right?

    Oh, and by the way, it'd be a pretty impossible thing for me to hide from her, right?

    She's going to notice if I go days without eating.

    The point Jesus is driving us to is the motives.

    The motives.

    It's a hard issue.

    It's the same as giving, and it's the same as praying.

    It's the same point if you're looking for praises from man, don't look for anything from God.

    So what am I really hungry for?

    Am I hungry for attention?

    Or am I hungry for God?

    According to verses 17 and 18, Jesus said, "But when you fast, anoint your head and wash

    your face that your fasting may not be seen by others, but by your Father who is in secret

    and your Father who sees in secret will reward you."

    So here Jesus is saying, "Look, on the other hand, instead of making yourself look like

    you're dying, anoint your head and wash your face."

    Oh, by the way, it goes without saying, right?

    You don't make that a show, right?

    Like I shouldn't come to church and catch you in the men's room at the sink washing your

    face.

    Like, "Joe, why are you washing your face?"

    Oh, I'm fasting and being obedient to our Lord.

    Like you could make that a show.

    Obvious point, right?

    Jesus says don't leave any physical clues that you're fasting.

    It's like giving, it's like praying, make it a secret, make it between you and God.

    And He sees and He rewards according to Jesus.

    He rewards.

    Listen, reward does not mean, reward does not mean that God owes you one now.

    Like look, God, I starved myself for you.

    I sacrificed eating for you, God.

    No, you have to do what I want.

    Look, God never works like that.

    Do you realize anything at all that we have from God is grace?

    It's all grace.

    Your salvation in Christ, believing that Jesus died for your sins, believing He rose to give

    you eternal life.

    If you've received Him, if you are saved, it is only by the grace of God that you are

    saved.

    The gift of the Holy Spirit, God indwelling His people.

    It's a gift.

    It's grace.

    You know, God does not run a swap meet.

    To say, you do for me, then I do for you.

    That's not how it works.

    And that's not how it works with fasting.

    So like, what is the reward?

    The reward is connecting with God.

    The reward is connecting with God because you're seeking Him in a very deliberate way.

    You have taken off anything else that could distract you because you want to focus solely

    on your relationship with Him.

    And someone would say, "Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, time out."

    You're telling me that if I choose not to eat or I choose to abstain from other things

    and instead use that appetite and use that time to seek the Lord, you're telling me that

    if I do that, that something spiritual will happen.

    Yeah.

    Yeah, that's exactly what I'm telling you.

    Look, I know I could never fully explain it.

    And it's hard to understand, but you will understand it if you do it.

    If you do it for the right reason.

    That's what I want to encourage you.

    I'm sure there are people here that have never fasted for spiritual reasons in their lives.

    I want to encourage you to try it.

    Can you just, as a simple act of obedience, as a simple God, this is what your Word said,

    so I want to respond in obedience.

    Can you do that?

    Now look, you can modify.

    Like maybe you say, "You know what, I've never done this before, but this week I'm going

    to take a few days and I'm going to skip lunch."

    And instead of eating at lunchtime, I'm going to spend that time reading a passage from

    God's Word and praying to God.

    I'm going to do that instead this week.

    Can you do that?

    You can do that.

    Or maybe you say, "You know what, I've never had an extended fast, but this week I'm going

    to spend one day.

    I'm going to spend just two days with nothing but water, and instead I'm going to seek the

    Lord over something very specific."

    You can do that.

    Because look, if you're sitting here going, "Oh, I hear what He's saying, but you know

    what, I don't know if I could skip a meal.

    Like I don't know.

    I don't know if I could go without eating."

    Well, that might be a commentary on which appetite really controls you.

    Are you hungry enough for God that you're willing to forego consuming food and/or other

    things to focus solely on seeking Him?

    Because if you're finding that focusing on your walk with Christ has been difficult.

    If you're finding that lately you really haven't had much of an appetite for prayer that you

    know you should.

    If you're finding like, "In this chapter of my life right now, this season of my life

    that I'm in, I haven't really been seeking the Lord as I know He calls me to."

    If any of these describe you, I want to encourage you to use this gift that God has given and

    redirect your appetite.

    This is the heart of religion.

    God wants your heart.

    And true religion comes from a heart that wants God.

    I'm sure some of you have picked up on this, which you realized for the last three weeks

    between Pastor Taylor and I.

    We've basically preached the exact same sermon three times.

    Why?

    Because our goal is to represent the text and really it's the exact same formula in

    all three things that the Lord calls us to.

    It's the same sermon.

    Here it is.

    If you give, pray, or fast in order to be seen by others, you're going to miss God's reward.

    But if you do them in secret, God sees in secret and He will reward you.

    Oh, and there are rewards for a faith that says, "I'm not looking for man's applause.

    All I'm looking for is God's reward."

    And with fasting, God is the reward.

    Let's pray.

    Father in heaven, we confess before you as a church that we don't seek you as we should

    too often.

    The Father, we've allowed other things to crowd our hearts and our minds and our bellies.

    We very diligently distract ourselves from what's most important.

    So Father, I pray that we would be hit with, for some of us it's an old concept that we

    need renewed.

    And for some I'm sure this is a brand new concept.

    Father, let us take a serious and honest and hard look at your word and that we would fast

    as our Lord assumed that we would, but with motives that honor you.

    Father put it in our hearts and minds.

    Make us feel how desperately we need you.

    Let us match that desperation with how hard we seek after you.

    We pray in Jesus' name.

The Secret to Praying

Introduction:

Four Marks of Real Prayer (Matthew 6:5–15)

  1. PRIVATE. (Matt 6:5–6)

  2. PERSONAL. (Matt 6:7–8)

  3. PROPORTIONED. (Matt 6:9–13)

    Three Ingredients of Prayer:

    1. PRAISE. (Matt 6:9)

    2. PURPOSE. (Matt 6:10)

    3. PROVISION. (Matt 6:11–13)

  4. PRACTICAL. (Matt 6:14–15)

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Small Group Discussion
Read
Matthew 6:5-15

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. “Prayer is the screw that almost always needs to be tightened for the Christian.” Why do you think this is true? Why do you think prayer is so difficult for many Christians?

  3. Explain Jesus' teaching in verse 6 in your own words. Why is secret prayer so important?

  4. What are the 3 ingredients of prayer in “The Lord’s Prayer”? Which one do you need to work on the most right now? Why?

Breakout
How is your prayer life these days? What have we learned from this passage that we will apply to grow as pray-ers?

  • Matthew chapter 6.

    Let's turn to God's Word together.

    I'm going to ask that you please pray for me to be faithful to communicate it clearly.

    I will pray for you to have a heart open to receive it.

    Father in heaven, we humble ourselves before you

    and ask that you would make us the people that you've called us to be

    so that you may accomplish the purposes you want to accomplish through us.

    Thank you ahead of time.

    The transformation that comes when we come under the authority of your Word.

    We pray in Jesus' name.

    In all of God's people said, "Amen."

    Matthew chapter 6, are you there?

    Well, I was going to college in Ohio.

    I was working at Walmart, among many other places I was working.

    But at Walmart, I worked with this man named George.

    And I was trying to think of how I could describe George to you.

    But I think the only phrase that really encapsulates who he was

    was a phrase they use in the South.

    Bless his heart.

    You know what I mean? Okay, enough said.

    George, when I would go to work and we were on the same shift, George would always say,

    "I'm awfully tired today."

    He said, "I drove..." He drove truck. That was his other job.

    He goes, "I drove the rig down to Alabama and back last night."

    Like, you went to Alabama and back in one night?

    He's like, "Yeah?"

    So I'm trying to calculate. I'm like, "Is that possible? Are you driving a jet?"

    "Can you make it to Alabama and back from Ohio in one night?"

    I don't know about that.

    I'm like, "Wow, you must be tired then."

    He goes, "Yeah?"

    He goes, "My other job-driving truck, they got me working 200 hours a week."

    And he was not being hyperbolic, by the way.

    I said, "You work 200 hours a week driving truck?"

    He goes, "Yeah?"

    So how many hours you work in here?

    He goes, "40?"

    I said, "You work 240 hours last week?"

    He goes, "Yeah?"

    And bless his heart.

    I just couldn't tell him.

    I just didn't have it in me to tell him.

    But he was always telling me this story.

    But I'm somewhat of an armchair psychologist, I guess.

    But I wonder what was it in him that made him want to tell me that story every time we worked together?

    Because I heard it a lot.

    What would possess a guy to say something like that?

    And there really is only one answer, right?

    He wanted to impress me, right?

    He wanted me to be like, "Wow, George, you're such a hard worker.

    You work more hours than there are in a week."

    Like, that's what he wanted from me. He wanted my attention.

    And, church, what is it in us that we want the attention from other people?

    Why are we like that?

    Why don't we bring that mindset into the church where we encounter the words of our Lord when He says in Matthew 6,

    verse 1, "Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them,

    for then you have no reward from your Father who is in heaven."

    Jesus very clearly warned us.

    Well, we are to do religious acts. I mean, that's a given.

    He talks about prayer. He talks about giving.

    And He talks about fasting.

    And you're going to see Jesus just assumed that His people would do those things, right?

    But the caution He gives is trying to do these things in a way to get attention from other people,

    to try to impress other people.

    That's a question.

    Pastor Taylor addressed last week. We'll look at this week.

    And spoiler alert next week too.

    Because it's the same question for all of these things.

    Giving, praying, fasting. Whose attention do you want?

    Do you want God's attention?

    Or do you want other people's attention?

    Excuse me. Today, we're going to talk about prayer.

    Why is prayer so hard?

    In the Christian life and discipline,

    why is prayer the hardest thing?

    Preparing for this message, that was the question that was just like

    constantly running through my mind this past week.

    Why is it so hard?

    I think there's three overlapping reasons that prayer is hard.

    One is we are bored with it.

    As one author put it, we're bored with prayer because we pray the same old things about the same old things.

    True. Boring. We're bored with it.

    That's why it's so hard.

    Number two, second overlapping reason why prayer is the hardest thing

    is we don't see God moving in our lives.

    Or, excuse me, we don't trust that He will.

    I mean, who wants to set themselves up for disappointment, right?

    We're on our face, we're crying out for something, and He doesn't do it.

    What fun is that?

    Third reason is we don't really know what to pray about.

    Again, these are all overlap. We just don't know what to pray about.

    Somebody's got a health issue, somebody's got a relationship problem.

    We're like, what exactly do I say about that?

    Why is prayer so difficult?

    I mean, here Jesus is talking about the religious acts that His people do, right?

    Giving to the needy.

    Pastor Taylor talked about last week.

    What do the pagans do that, right?

    People that have never opened a Bible in their lives

    will contribute when they see someone in need, right?

    Or next week we're going to talk about fasting.

    Let's talk about self-discipline.

    I know non-Christians that have much better self-discipline than me

    diet and exercise and time management.

    Non-Christians.

    And then I thought about preaching a sermon.

    There are a ton of people in this church, in this church, that can do that.

    I'm like the sixth or seventh best preacher in this church.

    In this church.

    Or whether it's preaching or leading a Bible study.

    People do that.

    But you know the question that really hits us is why is talking to God

    harder than talking about God?

    God wants your heart.

    And this is a tough pill to swallow, but swallow it we shall.

    Prayer is the test where your heart really is with the Lord.

    Do you get alone with God?

    I mean do you really spend time alone with God?

    When you do, if you do, do you have something to say to God?

    Well, prayer is the screw that always needs tightened.

    Christians, true or false.

    And you know what, a lot of times around the church we idealize prayer

    and we talk about prayer, but...

    Let's be people that actually pray.

    How about that?

    So on your outline, four marks of real prayer.

    And if you, like me, are an alliteration nerd,

    boy are you in for a treat.

    Four marks of real prayer, number one.

    Real prayer is private.

    Look at verse five.

    Jesus said, "And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites,

    for they love to stand and pray in the synagogues

    and at the street corners that they may be seen by others."

    What looks like prayer often is not prayer.

    It's performance.

    See, Jesus was calling out the religious people of His day,

    praying on the street corner.

    And the picture here is, I just couldn't wait to get to the temple to pray.

    I just, my heart was so bursting with wanting to pray, I couldn't wait.

    So I'm just praying right here.

    And look how holy I am, everybody.

    And it's performance.

    And you're like, pfft.

    I'd never do that.

    Really?

    Let me ask you this.

    Have you ever been praying in a group?

    Like you're in a Bible study, you're in your small group,

    or you're in one of your little prayer groups at one of our prayer services.

    Have you ever been praying in a group of people and in your prayer,

    you know you're about to come up to a phrase in your prayer

    that's going to sound so good.

    So good, in fact, that you're planning for a little pause

    because you just know people are going to amen that.

    You know what I'm talking about and you're praying and here comes the phrase.

    We're going to ratchet it up.

    Wait for amen.

    Okay, and then we keep going. Have you ever done that?

    Or how about this?

    Have you ever complimented a person in your prayer?

    Have you ever done that?

    Oh, come on, you know what I mean.

    Like, we're praying.

    And I'm like, Father in heaven, I want to pray for my brother Chuck

    because Chuck is so handsome and God, he's such a great dad.

    And he's such a devoted husband.

    And God, I love Chuck so much. I just thank you.

    God, he's a fine figure of a man, Lord.

    Like, who is that for?

    But don't we do that sometimes?

    Have you ever given somebody a subtle rebuke in a prayer?

    I'm getting warm in here, isn't it?

    Partly the temperature of the room and partly conviction.

    Have you ever rebuke somebody in a prayer?

    That you're praying and you're like, you know, Father in heaven,

    Betsy asked for prayer for this relationship she's entering into.

    But Lord, I pray that you would teach her patience.

    Like shop-blocking people in their prayer.

    Have you ever made a need known in your prayer?

    Have you ever done that? You're praying?

    And you're like, oh Lord, I'm just praying You provide me $1,100

    to fix my 94 Honda Civic.

    And then you're looking around, seeing who's reaching for their wallet.

    Have you ever tried to turn prayer into teaching time?

    Like, I'm about to lay out some doctrine in this prayer.

    As if the Lord doesn't know.

    As if the Lord's like, wait, let me write this down.

    This is fantastic.

    Alright, here's the point.

    If you have ever said something in a prayer

    for the benefit of the other people around you,

    then you're performing.

    Jesus said you have received your reward.

    After the prayer, they're like, wow, that was such a great prayer.

    Wow, that was a powerful prayer.

    You know, that little, you know, half a second of warm fuzzies you get from that.

    There's your reward.

    Enjoy.

    The look at verse 6, Jesus says,

    "But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door,

    and pray to your Father who is in secret."

    Go to your room, shut the door.

    Private.

    You want the secret to prayer is?

    Praying is secret.

    It's private.

    It's shutting out other people.

    Now listen, this is not an excuse to skip prayer service.

    We're having one tomorrow night at the property.

    Talk about that in a few minutes.

    But don't like no show me.

    And I'm like, hey, didn't see it to prayer service.

    Well, you know, prayer is supposed to be private.

    Now, there are many examples of people praying in groups, the church,

    praying together in God's Word.

    There's power in praying with your small group.

    There's power in the elders coming together to pray before elder meetings.

    All right?

    But, all that said,

    Jesus here is specifically and clearly addressing private prayer.

    Because your secret prayer life is your real prayer life.

    I mean, you can say what you want about prayer.

    And you can get on Twitter's or X's or whatever it's called

    and tweet your pithy little sayings about prayer.

    Or you can get on the Facebook's and show a post, a picture of a pretty sunset

    and a duck and some verse about prayer.

    Here's the truth, my friends.

    What you really believe about prayer

    is proven when you pray privately.

    Because that's when prayer is real business.

    Because then it's just you and God,

    and no one knows what you are saying to God, except God.

    And there's no one around to be impressed by your prayers

    or to applaud your prayers.

    It's just you and God.

    And that is when prayer is pure.

    Because that is when you are proving by faith

    that you really believe that you're talking to God.

    Your secret prayer life is your real prayer life.

    Jesus said, verse 6, "And your Father who sees in secret will reward you."

    Like giving, you have a choice.

    Do you want rewarded by man?

    Or do you want rewarded by God?

    I could guess most of us here would probably say I want rewarded by God.

    So the question is, well, what is God's reward?

    What do you think the reward is?

    What do you think is the reward that God gives?

    I think it's answered prayer.

    That's the reward.

    And you see, for some of you,

    the reason you haven't seen answered prayer

    is you haven't really been praying.

    When's the last time in your life

    you can point specifically to say,

    "I was praying specifically for this thing.

    Nobody knew about it.

    I was praying specifically for this thing.

    And then I saw God answered the prayer very specifically."

    When's the last time that's happened to you?

    Because if you're a follower of Christ,

    that should be happening on a regular basis.

    Some of you haven't seen prayer answered

    because you haven't really been praying.

    You haven't prayed in secret.

    Your Father hasn't seen in secret.

    So He hasn't rewarded you.

    Because it is the rewarded prayer

    who has faith-fueled private conversations with God.

    It is that person that sees prayer answered

    and you're like, "God, we were just talking about that.

    God, I specifically was talking to you about this very thing

    and I see what you did.

    Thank you."

    You want to see God move in your life like that?

    Then you've got to get with God privately.

    And you'll see how He rewards.

    Like, "Well, how do I do that?"

    I have to remind you again

    that the most important things in life

    are intentional, right?

    You've got to be intentional.

    You can't hope that it accidentally happens.

    That doesn't work with anything else in life, does it?

    You don't roll out of bed and say,

    "Well, I hope I exercise today."

    If you don't intentionally try to make that happen,

    it's not going to happen.

    You're not going to accidentally exercise.

    You can't get up and say,

    "Oh, I hope I stick to my diet today.

    Hope that Oreos and Funyons

    don't find their way into my mouth today."

    If you're not intentional,

    it's not going to happen.

    Parents, you can't say,

    "Oh boy, I sure hope I spend time with my kids today."

    It's not going to happen by accident.

    The most important things in life are done intentionally.

    Same with prayer.

    Carve out a time, get alone with God,

    and by the way, turn off all the electronic distractions.

    And pray privately.

    That's real prayer.

    Number two, for March of Real Prayer, it's personal.

    It's personal. Look at verse 7.

    Jesus says, "When you pray, do you know what?

    Heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do,

    for they think that they will be heard for their many words."

    Jesus here isn't talking about this need that's on your heart

    that you keep bringing before the Lord sincerely crying out.

    Jesus is talking about mindless repetition.

    That's why verse 8, he says, "Do not be like them."

    Don't be like them.

    In some churches, that is the thing.

    Can prayers.

    Oh, you've sinned?

    Well, what you need to do is recite this prayer ten times.

    And I've talked to people in those churches,

    and what they do is they go out and they just spin out the words

    as fast as they can, not thinking about what the words even mean.

    That's exactly what Jesus is talking about here.

    Empty phrases.

    Like, yeah, that's church, right?

    You know what I mean?

    How about this church?

    You know, sometimes we teach our kids to recite canned prayers.

    You know the first prayer I remember learning?

    "Now I lay me down to sleep."

    How many people know that?

    Raise your hand if you're familiar with it.

    "Now I lay me down to sleep."

    Okay.

    And then you get to that.

    I'll tell you how young I was.

    I learned the words to that before I knew what the words meant.

    Because I remember at a point in my childhood,

    when I was saying that, like, if I should die before I wake,

    I was like, "What?!"

    Like, "That can happen?!"

    Seriously, I was freaked out.

    My parents had to come to my bedside.

    I was like, freaked out.

    I'm like, "Well, what if I die before I wake?"

    I had no idea what was going on.

    Canned prayers.

    Here's another canned prayer that we teach before dinner.

    You know that one?

    "God is great. God is good."

    You know the rest of that?

    How many of that one?

    Okay, all.

    Okay.

    "Let us thank Him for our food. Amen."

    We always had to find out what mom was making

    before we thanked God for it.

    I'm not so thankful for this one.

    That's what Jesus talked about.

    Empty phrases.

    I mean, if you had an appointment with the Lord,

    if it was like in the spirit of the Zacchaeus event,

    that the Lord was like, "I'm coming to your house for dinner."

    And Jesus is sitting at your table.

    How would you talk to Him?

    If Jesus sat down and said,

    "What would you like to talk about?"

    Would you go,

    "Now I'll lay me down to sleep.

    I pray to the Lord my soul to keep.

    I should die before I wake."

    You wouldn't just go into some empty poem thing

    that you heard as a kid.

    Wouldn't you just want to talk to Him?

    That's what prayer is.

    It's conversation.

    It's conversation.

    God wants your heart.

    Have you heard?

    And private prayer is to be a very personal thing.

    Look, verse 8, he says,

    "Do not be like them for your Father

    who knows what you need before you ask Him."

    It's personal with God.

    He knows and He cares.

    Prayer is personal to Him

    and you've got to make it personal to you.

    But this part of the verse is troubling for a lot of people

    because your Father knows what you need

    before you ask Him.

    So why ask Him?

    Luke chapter 18, you don't have to turn there now.

    I'm going to paraphrase it for you for the sake of time.

    But you can look this up later.

    But the paraphrase, look chapter 18, Jesus is walking

    and there's a group of people following Him

    and there's this blind guy on the side of the road

    and he hears all the commotion.

    He's like, "What's going on?"

    They're like, "Well, Jesus is coming

    and there's a lot of crowd with Him."

    And the blind guy is like,

    "Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!"

    And people with Him are like, "Shut up!"

    And he's like, "No! Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!"

    And Jesus stops.

    He goes, "Bring that guy here."

    So they brought the guy to Jesus, the blind man.

    They brought the blind man to the Son of God

    and Jesus asks him the strangest question.

    Jesus says to him, "What do you want me to do for you?"

    Now, I've got to confess to you, I'm not proud of this,

    but I've got to confess there's a little smart alecky side of me

    that imagines the blind man going, "A pizza!

    That's what I want from you! A pizza! Do you have any?

    What do I want from you?

    I want the Pirates to Win the World Series.

    Can you make that happen?"

    Look, look, I'm not the Son of God.

    But I think even I, in ten guesses or less,

    could probably guess what a blind man would want from God.

    I said to Jesus, "I want to see. I want my sight."

    And I have to ask you, church, do you think Jesus knew that?

    I would suggest to you that Jesus saying,

    "What do you want me to do for you?"

    is not such a crazy question.

    I think it is infinitely profound.

    Because you see what Jesus was saying,

    you need to be specific.

    But Jesus already knows.

    Oh, yes, that stirs up the question,

    "Well, why do we pray if He already knows?"

    Right? Why pray? God knows, right?

    Why pray? Here's why.

    Like the blind man praying specifically,

    praying specifically is an act of faith.

    Praying specifically is an act of faith.

    Let's be honest, church. Can we be honest today?

    Can we be honest?

    Do you want to answer that one?

    Can we be honest?

    Don't we pray vague?

    Don't we pray vague?

    This guy prayed vague. Have mercy on me!

    What does that mean?

    We do the same thing

    when we do things like, "God bless grandma."

    "Bless grandma, how?"

    What am I asking for for grandma?

    Or another one we do is we say, "I pray for it."

    I caught myself doing that.

    I'm like correcting myself when I pray sometimes.

    Because I'm like, "No, God knows I'm praying for it."

    But we're like that. We're like, "I pray for Pastor Rich."

    "I pray for Bethany." You know, "I pray for Lord."

    Like, "Yes, you're praying for them."

    It's almost like the Lord's like,

    "I could tell you were praying for them."

    You're on your face and they're on your prayer list.

    Praying what?

    Do you know I think we do that?

    I think sometimes we don't have enough faith

    to pray specifically.

    I mean, if we say, "God bless grandma,"

    anything that happens to grandma,

    we can just say that was the blessing I prayed for.

    Grandma won bingo, her gout went away, whatever.

    I prayed for her.

    I think we're afraid.

    I think we lack the faith to pray specifically.

    Maybe you don't see answered prayer

    because you haven't received a specific answer

    because you haven't prayed specifically.

    Four marks of real prayer.

    Number three, write this down.

    Proportioned.

    In this section, the Lord gives us

    what we call the Lord's prayer.

    Look, this is a pattern prayer.

    There are principles that show us the right balance

    in how to pray.

    I'm going to go through this quickly

    because the truth be told, I can preach 10,000 sermons

    on this passage in 10,000 different ways.

    I don't want us to be so caught up in the individual trees

    that we miss the forest here.

    When you pray, our Lord is showing

    that your prayer should be proportioned.

    There should be balance.

    There should be three things in your prayer,

    three ingredients in your prayer.

    Take your prayer time, divide it up into thirds.

    These are the three things you should be going after.

    The first one is praise letter A.

    Look at verse 9.

    Pray then like this, our Father in heaven.

    "Hallowed be your name."

    "Hallowed." That's holy.

    That's praise.

    Notice that's first.

    Worshiping God for who He is.

    That's why I encourage you.

    We're teaching the youth group this.

    Praying God's word back to Him.

    Praying concepts.

    "God, you said this in your word.

    Therefore, I'm praying that back to you."

    When you do that, especially in the Psalms,

    you will find yourself worshiping God

    with concepts that you don't even normally think about.

    But your prayer time should start with praise.

    Secondly, purpose.

    Verse 10.

    "Your kingdom come.

    Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven."

    We should be praying for purpose.

    Whose purpose? His.

    And therefore, ours.

    May your kingdom advance.

    Use Me, however you want to use Me,

    to advance your kingdom.

    Gospel purposes.

    Let us see.

    Third ingredient of prayer is provision.

    Provision. Verses 11 through 13.

    "Give us this day our daily bread,

    and forgive us our debts.

    As we also have forgiven our debtors,

    and lead us not into temptation,

    but deliver us from evil."

    Provision.

    And there's balance in provision, right?

    Balance in provision.

    Physical, right?

    Bread.

    Relational.

    Forgiveness.

    Spiritual.

    Lead us not into temptation.

    See the balance in that?

    Most of our prayer requests

    have to do with so and so sick pray for them.

    I'm not saying we shouldn't pray for them,

    but I'm saying it's concerning to me

    when that seems to be all that we pray for.

    Where's the praise? Where's the purpose?

    Where's the other provision things?

    Because usually when we pray,

    between praise, purpose, and provision,

    provision gets the most attention.

    True or false?

    Sometimes it's the first thing we pray,

    embarrassingly, sometimes

    it's the only thing we pray.

    God, I need. God, please provide.

    God, help me.

    Prayer is about communion with God.

    Prayer is not about getting things.

    I think too often in the church we treat God

    like mall Santa Claus.

    We show up, we tell them what we want,

    and then we leave and hope He caches in.

    That's not prayer.

    Look, if you're bored,

    if you're bored with prayer,

    maybe it's because you've been lopsided

    in the way you pray.

    Take these ingredients that the Lord has given us,

    incorporate these into your prayer life.

    Our prayers should be proportionate.

    One more.

    One more. Finally, Mark of Real Prayer is,

    it's practical.

    Look at our last two verses for today,

    14 and 15.

    It says, "For if you forgive others their trespasses,

    your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

    But if you do not forgive others their trespasses,

    neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."

    Again, we don't want to get too deep

    in the weeds on the subject.

    I want you to see the overall point.

    Jesus is showing us that there is to be a connection

    between our prayers and our everyday lives.

    You see, too often we pray holy-sounding words

    that have nothing to do with life at work,

    at home, at school, wherever.

    We pray things like this,

    "Heavenly Father, I beseech Thee,

    hither to fore, to bestow on thine servants

    a bountiful haja protection."

    What?

    What are you even saying?

    Prayer isn't detached from real life.

    Jesus is showing us that prayer directly connects

    to real life.

    Prayer should be practical.

    For example, the example that the Lord gives us.

    Verse 12, "You pray for forgiveness,

    and you pray to be a person who forgives others."

    Jesus is showing us that when you do that business with God,

    now you're motivated and empowered to forgive others.

    Jesus was not saying that the basis of salvation is forgiving.

    Forgiving others isn't a plan of salvation;

    it's the proof of salvation.

    Salvation comes through God's grace alone.

    And that topics a whole other sermon series.

    Here's the point Jesus is making right here.

    What happens in the prayer closet

    directly affects what happens outside of it.

    Are you having trouble forgiving someone?

    How much time have you prayed about that?

    Maybe for someone else that's your temper.

    I just have a temper, man.

    It's just something I struggled with for a long time.

    How much have you talked to God about that?

    Maybe for somebody else that's anxiety.

    "Oh, you know what, Pastor Jeff, I'm just so nervous and anxious."

    I know I shouldn't, but I just...

    Have you really talked to God about that?

    Like really spent time in the presence of the Lord talking about this?

    For someone that's lost, like I just can't seem to figure out the self-control thing, Pastor Jeff.

    How much have you really prayed about?

    Because my guess is if you're still struggling in a particular area,

    you probably haven't been praying too much about it at all.

    Because Jesus says what happens in the prayer closet

    affects what happens to you outside of it.

    Our worship team would make their way back up front

    and say, "Prayer is the screw that always needs tightened."

    That's true for me.

    And I imagine that's true for a lot of you.

    Look, over the years I have read so many books about prayer.

    I've read so many blogs from so many amazing preachers about prayer.

    I have listened to so many sermons about prayer, podcasts.

    I've been to conferences where they've talked about prayer and taught on prayer.

    But you know what I've learned?

    That there's really only one way to grow as a person who sincerely prays.

    Do you know what that is? Do you know what that one way is?

    To pray.

    Today I just want to encourage you to take a few pointers from the one who did it best.

    Jesus Christ, who told us, "Pray privately.

    Make it personal.

    Keep it proportions.

    And make it practical."

    Let's pray now.

    Father in heaven, as we come to this teaching, you're worded,

    I know it really hits me between the eyes.

    And I imagine there's a lot of people in this room in the first service

    and they'll be listening to this later. It hits us all.

    I'm just asking Father that we would be a people who would in a fresh way be renewed in our prayer lives.

    Maybe we've been filling our time with lesser things.

    Maybe we've been discouraged or despondent.

    Father, bring a fresh conviction, bring a fresh enthusiasm, bring just a fresh excitement in all of us

    to privately and sincerely come before you.

    Father, I know you're going to reward when we do that.

    Let all glory and honor and praise be unto your name.

    We pray in Jesus' name, amen.

The Secret to Giving

Introduction:

Watch Out... (Matthew 6:1–4)

  1. Because your MOTIVES MATTER. (Matt 6:1a)

    1. Wrong Motive – TO GLORIFY YOURSELF.

    2. Right Motive – TO GLORIFY GOD.

    Matthew 5:16In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

    1 Corinthians 10:31So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

  2. Because your REWARD IS AT RISK. (Matt 6:1b–4)

    1. Worldly Reward – THE RECOGNITION OF OTHERS.

      James 1:27Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction…

      James 2:15–16If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that?

      2 Corinthians 9:6–7The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has decided in his heart...

    2. Eternal Reward – THE RECOGNITION OF GOD.

      Matthew 25:23“Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.”

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Small Group Discussion
Read
Matthew 6:1-4

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Why do your motives matter so much to the Lord?

  3. In what ways do you see yourself struggling with self-glorification? How can you fight against this sinful trend?

  4. Why isn’t the worldly reward of human praise worth pursuing after?

  5. Why does the Lord want you to be motivated by eternal rewards? Explain why this motivation isn’t legalistic or self-centered.

Breakout
Pray for one another.

  • Open your Bibles to Matthew chapter 6 verses 1 through 4. Matthew chapter 6

    verses 1 through 4. You know 12 years ago my friends and I took a road trip down

    to the middle of nowhere Tennessee. My one friend promised us a free stay in a

    spacious cabin that his dad built right next to a scenic lake. Only one of those

    guarantees end up being true. This day was free but it was free for a reason. It

    was not a spacious cabin it was a glorified shack. It turns out we weren't

    even allowed to sleep in the beds we had to sleep on the floor because his dad

    didn't want us to mess up the beds. We were also not right next to the lake it

    was a mile walk through hilly woods and once you got to the beach this is the

    site that greeted you. Warning dangerous water because nothing says come on in the

    water is fine like a do not swim here sign in the foreground and a nuclear

    power plant in the background. You can't really see it but there was a fenced off

    area where dozens and dozens of people were swimming and splish plashing

    around without a care in the world. I kept thinking to myself what are you

    people doing don't you see the sign I mean can you even miss this sign is that

    even possible? It is unmissable. I guess people saw this sign but they just

    didn't care. They thought it was a harmless joke and not a serious warning.

    You know how you respond to warnings says a lot about who you are as a person.

    The waitress brings you your food and says hey be careful the plate is hot. What

    do you do in that moment? Do you believe your nice waitress or do you touch it to

    see if she's telling the truth? I don't know what's in it for her to lie to you

    about the hot plate or you pass by a wet paint sign and you think to yourself is

    this actually wet? You decide to touch it right? Or here's a new one I learned

    this week. Did you know in bold letters on the Q-tip box it says do not insert

    into ear canal. I was blown away. I've been doing it wrong for all these years.

    Now that you know are you gonna keep exploring your ear like it's a cave or

    are you gonna stop doing it? Or you come to a red light at the top of the red

    light says no turn on red. But you look both ways and there's no one coming so

    you go anyway. Let's move beyond these somewhat funny examples of something

    much more important. God's Word is filled with hundreds and hundreds of

    warnings that you can either ignore or take very seriously. This is the first

    week in a new section of our study of the Sermon on the Mount, the heart of

    religion. In Matthew chapter 6 Jesus gives a three-part warning of how you

    should and should not approach the spiritual disciplines of giving, praying,

    and fasting. According to Jesus these disciplines are not just external things

    that you can check off your to-do list. They are internal indicators of who you

    really are and who you are really worshiping. Because Jesus cares how you

    give. Jesus cares how you pray. Jesus cares how you fast. The how of these

    disciplines reveal if you are a religious phony or a religious follower of

    Christ who is faithful from the heart. This morning we're gonna dig into

    Matthew chapter 6 verses 1 through 4 and focus on the warning of our Lord when

    it comes to giving of our time, talents, and treasures. Before we get started I

    want to plead with you to not ignore this warning from Christ. Take it very

    seriously. Be on guard. Watch out for what he is cautioning you against. Do not

    close your eyes to your own sin. Do not think you have it all figured out

    because Jesus has a not-so-secret secret to share with you this morning that you

    often lose sight of. The secret to giving is giving in secret. So before we

    continue any further let's go to the Lord and ask for His help. Please pray for me

    and I will pray for you.

    Father we come to once again a very challenging and convicting passage in

    your word. We're once again we are being exposed not just on the outside but on

    the inside. I pray for every single person in this room including myself Lord may

    we truly listen to what your word has to say and take this warning with the utmost

    seriousness. We thank you in advance what you are going to do and we ask all

    these things in the name of your Son Jesus Christ. Amen. Alright so watch out

    number one because your motives matter. Watch out because your motives matter.

    Let's read the first half of chapter 6 verse 1. Jesus says beware watch out of

    practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them.

    It's important to note that Jesus doesn't say it's bad for other people to

    notice you practicing your righteousness or doing the right thing in public. What

    does he say? Watch out for practicing your righteousness and doing the right

    thing in public in order to be seen by others. In the original Greek that phrase

    in order to be seen it comes from the word for theater. You're putting on a

    show. You're pretending to be someone that you are not. You are putting on an

    insincere performance. So once again Jesus zeros in on the on the internal. He

    focuses on your heart's greatest desire. It's all about your motive. So let's check

    out the wrong motive first. So what is the wrong motive? To glorify yourself. To

    glorify yourself. I'm not proud of this but in the past I've done chores around

    the house in the hopes that my wife will notice my hard work. Is anyone else

    guilty of this kind of behavior? Jonathan Trent thank you so much. I am so

    appreciative. It's just you and me buddy. To be fair all the guys should have their

    hands raised as high as humanly possible whenever asked that kind of question.

    This is so lame to admit but I've done the dishes. Taken out the garbage. Lay

    down mulch. Cut the grass. Done long past due house projects hoping that my

    wife will see it and award me husband points. And husband points are a form

    of currency in marriage that aren't worth as much as you would hope and go as

    bad as quickly as unrefrigerated fish. All the husbands in the room know

    exactly what I'm talking about. In those moments my motive was not to honor my

    wife but to glorify myself. To show off how great of a husband I am. And when

    Kate didn't notice what I had done I began to pout and feel disappointed.

    I only felt that way because I had a bad motive. I wouldn't have felt that way if

    I had the right motive which is to be a loving husband who took

    responsibility for his own home. And this proves an important principle.

    Self-interest and self-glory always lead to self-deception and self-defeat. Without

    fail the most miserable person in every room is the most selfish person in that

    room. The more you make life about you the more unhappy you will find yourself.

    Maybe that is why you feel so depressed this morning. Maybe that's why you feel

    so empty right now. You want to be the son at the center of your solar system

    but the problem is nobody else cares about your desired position. No one wants

    to orbit around your preferences. And you may be wondering how can I tell if I am

    this kind of self-glorifying person or not. Well first of all you are this kind

    of person to some degree and so am I. This problem does exist within your heart

    at some level. You have to figure out how serious and far-reaching the problem

    actually is. Here are some things to be on watch for. Do you check out what other

    people share about their problems? Do you have a hard time being happy for someone

    else when they achieve a goal that you've always wanted to accomplish? When they

    receive a blessing that you've always wanted? Do you always try to one up

    people and have a better story than someone else? Do you always bring the

    topic of conversation back to you? What you've done in the past? What you're doing

    right now? And what you plan to do in the future? Do you get annoyed and even

    sulky when you don't get your way? Do you push away opportunities to serve and

    help if you don't see what's in it for you? Even though there are tell-tale

    signs it can be extremely difficult to spot your own narcissism because you are

    often blind to it. But other people around you are not. It would be a good

    exercise to check in with your family and your friends after church today to ask

    if they see any of these tendencies and how you speak and how you talk and how

    you act. And if you ask that question please shut your mouth and open your

    ears. Stop inserting your opinion. Stop justifying yourself. You will not grow if

    you are more interested in defending yourself than dying to yourself. Start

    dealing with your problem because I guarantee you that you do have a problem.

    Stop glorifying yourself because you are not worthy of this act of self-worship.

    So that's the wrong motive. To glorify yourself. What's the right motive? To

    glorify God. To glorify God. So Jesus provides the right motive for doing the

    right thing earlier in the Sermon on the Mount. Listen to what he has to say in

    Matthew 5.16. "Let your light shine before others that they may see your good works

    and give glory to your Father who is in heaven." Compare that to chapter 6 verse

    1. "Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by

    them." Do you see the difference? Instead of shining the spotlight onto yourself

    you shine on to the only one who is actually worthy of it, the Lord and Him

    alone. Because this is the reason for which you were created. You exist to

    honor God and show a watching world how awesome He truly is. This must be the goal

    of your marriage. This must be the goal of your parenting. This must be the goal of

    your job. This must be the goal of everything that you do. In 1 Corinthians

    1031 Paul says this, "So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the

    glory of God. Because any worldly glory that you collect for yourself will be

    snuffed out when you pass on from this life. But the glory of God is an unending

    fire that can never ever be put out." In 100 to 200 years from now you're gonna be

    long forgotten. No one is gonna be thinking about you. But the name of Jesus

    Christ will stand the test of time. His name will be forever high and lifted up.

    I'm not a betting man but I can guarantee you with a hundred percent

    certainty that you will be rewarded for throwing your chips in with the victory

    of God's name and reputation. That is the only motivation that will truly fuel

    you. That is the only motivation that will get you across the finish line of

    life. So watch out because your motives matter. Secondly, watch out because your

    reward is at risk. Because your reward is at risk.

    Jesus lays out the consequence for doing the right thing for the wrong reason

    at the end of verse 1. "Beware of practicing your righteousness before other

    people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your

    Father who is in heaven." If you were dominated by the desire to rob God of

    his glory as you do good deeds, you will receive a loud and clear message from

    God. It is the same message that Willy Wonka gave the Charlie and his grandpa at

    the end of the Chocolate Factory tour. You get nothing. You lose. Good day, sir.

    That may seem extreme, but that's what the text says. That may seem harsh, but it's

    even better than what you deserve. With that in mind, Jesus continues on with his

    warning in verse 2, "By revealing the emptiness of the worldly reward that you

    often settle for. Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you,

    as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and the streets, that they may be praised

    by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. The worldly reward

    that is most tempting to seek after is the recognition of others. The

    recognition of others. And notice that Jesus doesn't say, "If you give to the

    needy," he says, "when you give the needy." And he says that again in verse 3,

    "which means that you are expected to help those in need with your time, with

    your talents, and your treasures. You are expected by God to care for the orphan

    and the widow." James 1.27, "A religion that is pure and undefiled before God is

    this, to visit orphans and widows in their affliction. You are expected by God

    to not ignore the poor, especially those within the body of Christ." Once again,

    let's read what James has to say. James 2.15 through 16, "If a brother or sister

    is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, 'Go in

    peace, be warmed and filled without giving them the things needed for the body,

    what good is that? It is worthless.'" You're expected by God to be generous with

    the money in your account, and not hoard it for yourself. 2nd Corinthians 9 verses 6

    through 7, the point is this, "Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and

    whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has

    decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a

    cheerful giver." Harvest, you are expected to make these kinds of sacrifices. But as

    you make these expected sacrifices, you are also expected to not sound a trumpet

    before you, like the scribes and Pharisees did 2,000 years ago. Now, they

    didn't literally sound a physical trumpet. They didn't pull a Miles Davis and

    blast a physical trumpet whenever they did a nice thing or made a donation.

    Jesus is using an over-the-top and funny illustration to prove a simple point. Do

    not be an obnoxious jerk who draws attention to himself or herself whenever

    you do the right thing. You know, while you were doing whatever you were doing

    over the past week, I was racking my brain to think of a modern-day example of

    sounding a trumpet before you. And I came up short. So I'm going to ask you guys to

    silently brainstorm, because I actually have something I need to do in the meantime,

    okay? So just be using your brains to think about an example.

    Alright, don't mind me guys.

    [laughter]

    You know what? I don't want to interrupt your brainstorming time, but you know what?

    This sermon is going really well. And you guys are all just laughing at my

    stories. I guess really tell that you're dialed into my spot on teaching. I really

    think Facebook needs to know about this. Oh, by the way, have you guys had any luck

    with your brainstorming? Wait a minute. Maybe I did stumble upon the 21st century

    version of sounding a trumpet before you. What do you guys think? Alright, I guess

    I'll put this away then. You know, seeking after the affirmation and praise of

    others is the heartbeat of the virtual world. People put on a manufactured

    version of themselves. They put their best foot forward. You can post about your

    best day to accumulate the affirmation and adulation of others. Maybe you post a

    status on Facebook, a picture on Instagram or real on the TikToks as Pastor Jeff

    calls it, that highlights a mission strip, a service project or a charitable

    event that you took part in. Now, you can certainly do this in a godly way with

    godly intentions, but you can also do it in an ungodly way with ungodly

    intentions. You just bask in the glory of the likes and the comments and the heart

    emojis as human praise begins to pour in. You make a sizable contribution to a

    GoFundMe page. And instead of remaining anonymous, you put your name right next

    to the amount that you donated. And you don't do that to show support. You do it

    to show off. You want others to be amazed by your big hearted generosity. Some of

    you are feeling pretty safe and sound right now because you don't leave much

    of a digital footprint. You don't post anything anywhere. Well, let's move

    beyond the bounds of social media because I don't want to leave you out of all the

    fun. Maybe you can seal a prideful remark of something kind you did as a praise

    at a prayer service or at small group. Maybe you accidentally slip in or

    reference something nice you did while in conversation with someone else. And

    you inwardly hope that they'll take the bait. They'll ask a follow-up question so

    you can get the at a boy or at a girl that you are so desperate for. Maybe you

    like to brag about your family's accomplishments in the yearly Christmas

    letter. That's right. I went there. Because some of you may do that. You say that you

    want to keep everyone informed about your life, but you actually want to keep

    everyone impressed with your life. All of these examples are sounding a trumpet,

    pulling out the selfie stick so that everyone will notice you because you

    want to be the recipient of admiration. You know, whenever I was a full-time

    youth pastor for eight years, I went to a countless number of musicals, track

    meets, games, graduation ceremonies, graduation parties, and before, during, or

    after the event, I would track down my student and their parents to let them

    know that I was there. Because how could I bless them with my presence if they

    were totally unaware of my presence? It's kind of weird to admit, but if I

    didn't make myself known or receive credit, it didn't really seem to count.

    Does that make sense? Does that seem reasonable? But you often feel a very

    similar way when it comes to your acts of good works. To your acts of service. If

    others don't recognize what you did, it doesn't really seem to count, right? It

    may even seem like a complete waste of time if you do not receive immediate

    praise. Jesus says you can blow that trumpet, you can pull out that selfie

    stick if you want to, knock yourself out. If you do, you will receive the reward of

    human praise, but that's all you'll get and nothing more. You will get nothing

    from your Father in heaven because you know what? You don't really care about

    what He has to give you. What other mere human beings have to offer seems much

    more appealing. But that is so short-sighted because compliments, thank-yous, and awards

    feel good for about 15 minutes. And then you're just jones in for the next dose,

    right? Praise leaves almost as quickly as it arrives. And you so quickly forget

    how little it satisfies you the next time you desire it. In verses 3 through 4,

    Jesus warns you to long for that which truly lasts. He cautions you to walk the

    path of delayed gratification so that you can receive the eternal reward of the

    recognition of God Himself. So that is the eternal reward, the recognition of God.

    Let's read verses 3 through 4. "But when you give to the needy," there it is again,

    "not if, when, when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what

    your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret, and your Father

    who sees you in secret will reward you." As I said earlier, the secret to giving

    is giving in secret. Jesus says, "not even let your left hand know what your right

    hand is doing." I just want to give a warning up front. I don't want to offend

    all the left-handed people in the room with this explanation of the

    illustration. I love all of you just as much as the normal people in the room.

    Okay, so don't be offended.

    Moving on, about 90% of Americans are right-handed, not left-handed. Again, don't

    hate me, it's just the facts, which means that the majority of people use their

    right hand way more than their left hand. So just go with this over-the-top funny

    illustration from Jesus. Imagine that your hands can actually speak to each

    other. In that scenario, your right hand shouldn't constantly brag about all the

    things that it was used to do over the course of the day to the left hand.

    Instead, it should be quiet. It should be satisfied that it was used instead of

    broadcasting how it was used. Jesus is calling us to a very serious type of

    self-denial here. He is saying, "serve me, serve others, and then do your best to

    forget all about it." Don't keep track. Don't keep score. Don't manage your own

    personal scoreboard. Don't comb through your mental file of successes and think,

    "Yeah, I'm doing pretty good compared to most people at church, compared to most

    people in my small group." That is a complete waste of time and energy. It is

    not your job to keep score because you cannot accurately evaluate yourself.

    Only God can do that. But this kind of self-forgetfulness is so counterintuitive

    to us because we all live in a culture that tries to ram self-worth down our

    throats every single chance that it gets. Oh, your self-esteem matters more than

    anything else. If you don't put yourself first, other people will put you last.

    Don't forget to love yourself. Give yourself pep talks and tell yourself

    how awesome you are. Is any of that biblical? Why do we often fall for it? The

    Bible doesn't teach you to have high self-esteem. The Bible also doesn't

    teach you to have low self-esteem either. The Bible says to have no

    esteem, which means that you're not focused on your self-image. You're not

    obsessed with what other people think and say about you. Instead, you focus on

    what God thinks and says about you because his authoritative opinion matters

    the most. Listen, it does not matter if other people recognize and acknowledge

    your faithfulness. Let me say that again because I really need to hear it. It does

    not matter if other people recognize and acknowledge your faithfulness. What

    matters is you hear these words from the Lord when you stand before Him one day.

    Well done, good, and faithful servant. Enter into the joy of your Master. That is

    the reward you should long and live for. Jesus says that if you give in secret,

    your Father who sees in secret will reward you. Jesus isn't saying that you

    can earn right standing before God or work your way to heaven. That's not

    possible. Salvation is found in the person and work of Jesus Christ and

    nowhere else. Forgiveness of sin and eternal life are gifts to be received

    by faith, not earned by works. Scripture is so clear on that. But scripture is

    equally clear that rewards in heaven are diligently earned, not automatically

    received. If you honor God in this life, He will honor you in eternity. If you

    reject temporary rewards that you cannot take out of this world, you will be given

    eternal rewards that can never be stolen away from you in heaven. What a promise.

    That is a heavenly check that will never bounce and it will clear every single

    time. So let God keep score because He will reward you. What are these heavenly

    rewards? I wish I could tell you but the Bible doesn't give us specific

    details. But I can tell you this, God has never given you a lame gift in the past

    and He will not give you a lame gift in the future. If God promises it,

    trust me, you want it and you will love it. Right now you may be thinking, okay,

    what do I do when someone else does praise me? This is going to happen at some

    point. Do you just shut them down and say, whoa, whoa, I didn't do this to be

    praised by you. You're going to make me lose my eternal reward. Is that what you

    should do? That'd be super weird and awkward for the other person. So please

    don't do that. You should humbly accept this person's compliment and then

    redirect their praise to the source and supply of your good works. The love of

    Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit. Point the complimenter to God Himself.

    And this kind of redirect will not lead to a forfeiture of heavenly reward. If

    anything, it will lead to even greater reward because you have rightly handled

    praise and you have put it in the place where it truly belongs, which is the

    hands of Almighty God. You know, compared to some of the weighty topics we've

    covered during the Sermon on the Mount, this passage may seem kind of light and

    inconsequential to you. But I can assure you that it's not because you're giving

    and serving in public speaks volumes of who you are in private. This is serious

    business. You have received a personal warning from Jesus Himself. He has warned

    you to watch out for the motive of glorifying yourself. To watch out for

    the worldly desire to receive worldly rewards. And there are only two responses

    to this kind of warning. Indifference or humility. Maybe you don't see any problem

    with your motives right now. You don't see any issue for the reward you're living

    for. So you just want to move on with your day. Well, you're free to make that

    choice if you want to, but it is the wrong choice. Because until the day you die

    and are in the presence of Christ, your motives will always be tinged with

    selfishness. Even as I stand before you to preach this sermon, there is selfishness

    in my heart. Your motives will never be 100% pure. And you will desire the wrong

    reward. So please do not choose ignorance because too much is at stake. And maybe you

    do see major problems with your motives and the reward you are living for. You

    know that you have to make a change, but you don't know how to make that change.

    Well, I have good news and bad news for you. Let's start with the bad news. You

    cannot change your motives and desires. Are you ready for the good news? God can

    change your motives and desires, but this will only happen if you humble

    yourself before Him. Admit that you need His help. Submit to the master motivator

    and the richest rewarder in the entire universe. Go to the Lord in prayer and do

    that right now. Spend some time in prayer.

    Father, we come to you to lay our motives before you. To lay down the worldly

    rewards that we are living for. What help us to remember the only thing that will

    truly last is your glory and your name. What help us to live for these rewards

    that last forever and not these worldly rewards that fade away so quickly. And

    Lord, there's anyone in this room who is not a follower of you and is just stuck

    in this cycle of glorifying themselves and living for themselves. May they for

    the first time submit to Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. That they can

    fulfill the purpose for which you've given them, which is to make much of you.

    And for the rest of us Lord, help us to remember that biblical goal. To remember

    who we are living for. To remember why we exist. And we ask all these things in

    Jesus' name. Amen.

Love Like God

Introduction:

Leviticus 19:18 – You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the LORD.

Leviticus 19:34 – You shall treat the stranger who sojourns with you as the native among you, and you shall love him as yourself, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt: I am the LORD your God.

I Love My Enemies... (Matthew 5:43–48)

  1. ...because of WHO I AM. (Matt 5:45a)

  2. ...by WHAT I DO. (Matt 5:45b)

  3. ...because I Am CALLED TO BE DIFFERENT. (Matt 5:46–47)

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Small Group Discussion
Read
Matthew 5:43-48

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. What does it mean to be persecuted? When Jesus said we must pray for those who persecute us, what / how exactly should we pray?

  3. Can you genuinely love your enemy if you don’t really feel like it? Why or why not?

  4. Explain Romans 12:20. How exactly does loving your enemy lead him to repentance? See also Romans 2:4.

  5. What did Jesus mean in verse 48 when He said we “must be perfect”?

Breakout
Pray for one another.

  • Open up those Bibles to Matthew chapter 5.

    As we go through our series, the Sermon on the Mount, Matthew chapter 5 verse 43, Jesus

    said, "You have heard that it was said."

    Stop there for a second.

    This whole section that we're in right now, if you've been following this series at all,

    I'm sure you've noticed that that has come up.

    What is it like?

    Six total times pastor?

    Like, "You have heard that it was said, but I say to you."

    What Jesus is dealing with here is correcting some garbage beliefs.

    And I've shared with you before, that's my biggest concern for this church is the area

    of discernment.

    We live in a day that there is so much bad teaching out there.

    And thanks to the Internet, we have access, right?

    And look, I'm not saying it's all bad, but I'm saying probably for every good teaching

    you can find online, you can probably find ten other garbage teaching online.

    And my concern for the church is people not knowing the difference.

    And it gets back to what did Jesus actually say?

    It's the issue that He was dealing with in His day, lack of discernment.

    Last week we saw Jesus said, "You've heard that it was said, and I for an eye."

    And Jesus said, "No, no, no, no, no, no."

    Jesus, as I say to you, I'm paraphrasing, He says, "Do not retaliate."

    You can walk away from last week's message and say, "Got it.

    Don't retaliate."

    So I'm just going to ignore the people that I can't stand.

    Well, let's keep reading.

    Verse 43, "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your

    enemy.'

    But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."

    Oh, no, no, don't ignore your enemies.

    You have to look for ways to be good to them.

    You're like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

    You're saying that I not only don't get to get even with them, but I have to proactively

    love them?

    Yeah, that's what He said.

    All right?

    It's a hard word.

    So I think we should just stop and pray right now, shouldn't we?

    I'm going to ask that you would pray for me to be faithful to communicate God's word,

    accurately and clearly, and I will pray for you to have a heart open to receive what our

    Lord is teaching us in this part of His Sermon.

    All right?

    So let's pray.

    Father in heaven, as we go through this sermon from our Lord, it's just wave after wave of

    things that really confront our selfish, sinful, fleshly tendencies.

    And I don't know of one that's bigger than this one.

    I'm asking, please God, please, by the power of Your Word, Father, by the power of Your

    Spirit that You would change our minds today, Father, change our hearts and that we wouldn't

    just leave here knowing some things, but we leave here deeply convicted and moved to do

    some things.

    For Your glory and honor, Father.

    We pray in Jesus' name.

    And all of God's people said, Amen.

    All right, let's break this down here.

    Jesus says in verse 43, "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor

    and hate your enemy.'"

    You have heard.

    You have heard.

    That's what we've seen in this series.

    The scribes and the Pharisees in Jesus' day did what's still happening today.

    They twist verses in the Word of God to justify whatever it is they want to justify.

    For them, Jesus called them out.

    They were justifying their lust.

    They were justifying their hatred.

    They were justifying their getting even with people.

    He calls them out again.

    You've heard that it was said, "You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy."

    That's what the scribes and the Pharisees said.

    And you're like, "Well, was that in the Old Testament?"

    Well, the first part was, kind of.

    Here's what I mean.

    Here's what's actually in the Scripture.

    Leviticus 19-18.

    Look at this.

    "You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you

    shall love your neighbor as yourself.

    I am the Lord."

    So you see, with the way that they sort of restated that, they ran into four problems.

    Four problems.

    The first problem is the scribes and the Pharisees left out the "as yourself" part.

    Did you notice that?

    Well, I love my neighbor, but as myself, that's a bit too much.

    Let's keep it vague.

    Because if we keep love vague, then whatever we do, we can just say it was love, right?

    So keep it vague.

    God never kept it vague.

    That was their first problem.

    Second problem is the scribes and the Pharisees redefined neighbor.

    And their definition of neighbor was, "Those I choose to love."

    That was their definition.

    So do you realize...the reason I'm laughing is, do you realize what that made the command?

    God's command is, "Love those you choose to love."

    That's convenient.

    Third problem, the scribes and the Pharisees totally added the "hate your enemy" part,

    right?

    Totally added that.

    You're not going to find that anywhere in the Old Testament.

    My vague love is for my Jewish neighbors.

    What about the foreigners?

    Hate them.

    And that leads us actually to the fourth problem.

    Because that whole love your neighbor as yourself, that was in Leviticus 19, 18.

    But if you go down a few verses to verse 34, it says, "You shall treat the stranger who

    sojourns with you as the native among you.

    And you shall love him as yourself."

    For you are strangers in the land of Egypt.

    I am the Lord your God.

    See the scribes and the Pharisees, they thought that they were honoring God by hating foreigners.

    And we get asked this question a lot.

    "Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait."

    In the Old Testament, didn't God tell the Israelites to exterminate the nations that

    were living in the Promised Land?

    And don't we have all these imprecatory psalms?

    Like what's up with that, huh?

    Well, it's like the eye for an eye thing that we talked about last week.

    The scribes and the Pharisees took a thing that was designed for Israel as a nation and

    they turned it into a personal thing.

    So the whole exterminate the enemies in the Promised Land.

    Yeah, absolutely.

    Israel's wars weren't personal vendettas.

    They were commanded by God to wipe out those nations because those nations did horrible

    things.

    And God says, "You are not going to pollute my nation Israel."

    So Israel, you're going to wipe them out.

    And if you have a hard time with that, I would just like to lovingly remind you that God

    is allowed to make those calls because vengeance belongs to Him.

    Okay?

    And God's whole purpose in that was to protect Israel as a nation in that land.

    That's why when you turn to your New Testament, you don't see any imprecatory language in

    the New Testament.

    It's for Israel.

    And individually, we're talking about personally now, what about the people that hate me?

    What about the people that are my enemies?

    Love them.

    Love them.

    Look at verse 44, Jesus says, "But I say to you," pretty clear, isn't it?

    Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

    You see the whole loving your neighbor command includes everyone around you, including your

    enemy.

    Now breaking this down, when He talks about enemy, He's talking about your personal enemy.

    Okay?

    It's not this collective group idea.

    It's somebody who personally hates me.

    And Jesus says our response is to love them.

    That's the word agape.

    That is the highest form of love.

    That's self-sacrificing love.

    That's the kind of love that we should have for our enemy.

    And the verb tense here is constant.

    It's continually.

    You need to continually love your enemies.

    And you're like, well, who is my enemy?

    Who is it that hates you?

    Who is it that you know that if you tried to call them, they wouldn't answer the phone?

    If you sent them a text, they wouldn't reply.

    Or vice versa?

    Who is it that has been slandering you, making accusations against you?

    Jesus says we not only love our enemies, but you notice He ratchets it up even more when

    He says pray for those who persecute you.

    Those who persecute you.

    Those are your worst enemies.

    Where Jesus is speaking about your enemies who they don't just hate you.

    They actively hate you.

    These are the people that make an effort to show you how much they hate you.

    And as we've been going through the Sermon on the Mount, we see that a true believer

    in Jesus Christ is someone who is defined by the Beatitudes.

    And if you were here for the Beatitudes here, do you remember what the last one was?

    The highest rung on the ladder of following Jesus Christ is when we're persecuted.

    And here's the part where we stop and ask, are we persecuted?

    Are we really persecuted?

    Because here's the thing.

    I think for a lot of us our knee-jerk reaction to that would be I'm not persecuted, but the

    reality is you probably are.

    But you just haven't realized it.

    Here's what I mean by that.

    Here's what I mean.

    Persecute doesn't just mean somebody physically attacks you.

    Somebody murders you.

    Somebody gets you arrested, thrown in jail.

    Yes, that is persecution, but those are the most graphic manifestations of persecution.

    The word "persecute" literally means to pursue.

    That's what it means.

    And listen, listen to this.

    Persecute means somebody is chasing after you to constantly criticize and condemn you.

    So I imagine most of you are being persecuted right now according to the true definition

    of persecution.

    Think about it this way.

    Was Jesus persecuted?

    If you're like, "Oh yeah, when He was crucified."

    Of course!

    But He was persecuted His entire ministry because what were they constantly doing?

    The proper definition.

    They were constantly - read the Gospels.

    They were constantly pursuing Jesus.

    They were - how would we say it?

    They were out to get Him.

    That's what persecution means.

    I mean, read your Gospels.

    They were constantly looking to criticize Jesus and assaulting Jesus, accusing Jesus.

    "You did this in the Sabbath and you shouldn't be doing healing this way and your disciples

    didn't wash your hands and what's up with the fasting?"

    They were constantly, constantly, constantly after Him.

    That's what persecution means.

    And if you really follow Jesus, you have people pursuing you in that way too.

    Don't shout out any names.

    But do you have somebody at your workplace, for example, that's always watching you,

    always looking to get their little remarks in, get their little digs in,

    always looking to criticize anything you say or anything you do.

    That's persecution according to the proper definition.

    They're pursuing you.

    Maybe you have that family member.

    Never approves of a thing you do.

    The bum just can't do anything right and they're always vocal about it.

    Getting their little shots in, their little passive aggressive comments, they're always

    out to get you.

    That's persecution.

    Maybe it's on social media.

    You know anything you post.

    You know that person is going to show up with their snarky little comment.

    That's pursuing.

    That's persecution.

    Jesus says we need to pray for the people to do that to us.

    The people that are out to get you.

    Jesus said pray for them.

    So when was the last time you did that?

    I don't know about you but I have a list of people that I regularly pray for.

    When was the last time that you loved your enemy?

    And you're like, why in the world would I do that?

    Well let's keep reading.

    Jesus says in verse 45, "So that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven."

    Why would you love your enemy?

    Why would you pray for people that are constantly out to get you?

    It's not because of who they are.

    It's because of who you are.

    That's the sermon that our Lord gives.

    That you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven.

    It's not because of who they are.

    It's because of who you are.

    We just confess that so much of our lives, our attitudes, our moods are determined by

    other people, good or bad.

    People have a way of just like governing our lives.

    Here's what I mean.

    Your service, you go over to a giant eagle and you run into an old friend that you haven't

    seen in years.

    "Oh, that puts you in a good mood.

    Oh, it was so great catching up."

    That's going to put you in a good mood for the rest of the day, right?

    Or somebody makes a really jerky comment to you at work intentionally wanting to get

    under your skin.

    Then that's just like wreck your day and you're in a bad mood for days over one jerky comment.

    And I would bet if you had a bad day last week, if you could point to a day last week

    or like, "Oh, that was a bad day," I would be willing to bet that it had something to

    do with people.

    You're laughing because it's true.

    And Jesus here is saying, "My people don't react to people.

    My people act according to the Word of God."

    So let's unpack this for a few moments, shall we?

    When you're outlining, I want you to jot some things down.

    I love my enemies.

    Can you say that?

    You're like, "Not now."

    You will in a few minutes.

    I love my enemies.

    Number one, we already touched on this.

    We're going to drill a little deeper here.

    Number one, I love my enemies because of who I am.

    Look at this again.

    This is Jesus' whole rationale.

    Why would I love my enemies, Jesus?

    Lord, why would I pray for the people that are constantly out to get me?

    So that You may be sons of Your Father who is in heaven.

    This is where Jesus starts Your identity.

    You love Your enemies not because of who they are, but because of who You are.

    Jesus is in essence saying, "You love Your enemies because..."

    It's a family tradition in our family.

    You have family traditions.

    You have family traditions.

    You know what I mean?

    Every family has on brand things that they do, right?

    Like some families, they're like, "We're campers.

    We go camping."

    Yes, we have a house, but for a while we like to pretend that we don't.

    That's just what we do in our family.

    We live in a canvas enclosure in the wildlife.

    Okay, but that's your family thing.

    For some families, it's like, "We're beach people.

    We love the beach."

    Our family loves the beach.

    We love the beach.

    That's our family thing, right?

    Some families are sports families like, "Oh, we're baseball.

    We're a baseball family.

    We love the box and we're on the church softball team."

    And we're like, "We love baseball."

    Every family's got their thing, right?

    I mean, I remember growing up, our family.

    Our family had our thing.

    I remember when we were teenagers, Aaron actually came over to our house for Thanksgiving.

    And they had the stuffing out and the turkey and all the dressing and all that stuff.

    And I just remember our family was passing around the table a bag of funyons.

    And I just remember Aaron sitting there going, she looked like she saw a ghost.

    I'm like, "What's the matter?"

    She goes, "Why are you passing around a bag of funyons?

    It's Thanksgiving."

    And I'm just like, "What's Thanksgiving without funyons?"

    Like, "We're not the weird ones here."

    And then I got older and realized that we were.

    Every family's got their thing.

    That's what Jesus is saying here.

    Like, "Hey, hey, hey, we're in God's family."

    He said, "You know what we do in God's family?

    Do you know what we do?

    We love like God."

    And God loves His enemies.

    You're like, "Who are God's enemies?"

    Everyone.

    Do you realize that?

    Literally every single person on the planet is an enemy of God until they are reconciled

    to God in Jesus Christ.

    That's what Paul said in Romans 5, right?

    "If while we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of His Son."

    See that's the glorious reality of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

    When you receive Jesus Christ by faith, when you believe that He died to take away your

    sin, when you believe that He rose from the dead to give you eternal life, when you turn

    from your sin and receive Him, God changes you from an enemy of God to a child of God.

    And now we are a child still living among enemies of God, child of God.

    Ephesians 4, spilling over to Ephesians 5, says, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted,

    forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you.

    Therefore be imitators of God as beloved children."

    This is what we do in our family.

    We love like God.

    And as His children, we imitate our dad.

    Do you ever notice that kids love to imitate?

    Do you ever notice that?

    Kids loved to imitate adults.

    It was made painfully aware to me, oh, many, many years ago, a couple decades ago at this

    point we had foster kids.

    Before we had any of our own kids, we had foster kids.

    And I remember, one little boy, he was five years old, his name was Walter, and we'd be

    playing the PlayStation.

    We were sitting there, playing the PlayStation, and look, I was a perfect gamer back in the

    day.

    But sometimes the stupid game would glitch or something, and my guy would get killed.

    And when that happened, I remember I'd put the controller down, and I'd be like, "Oh,

    for Pete's sake!"

    Well Walter would be playing video games with me, and I remember he'd be playing a video

    game, and he'd just randomly throw his controller down and go, "Your pee stinks!"

    Like no, no, no, no, no, no.

    No, it's for Pete's sake.

    But he was...

    It never clicked with him.

    He was constantly commenting on the smell of urine.

    Your pee stinks.

    Why did he do that?

    He was just imitating me.

    Right?

    Kids love to do that.

    And as a child of God, we naturally, we supernaturally want to imitate him.

    So when that guy at work is constantly out to get you, and you love him, and you repay

    his nastiness with kindness, and then somebody else comes in and says, "Well, what are you

    doing?

    You love that guy?

    That guy's a real jerk to you!"

    And your response says, "Yeah, I get that from my dad."

    You see, I see people as dad-season.

    Lost.

    Blind.

    Slave to sin.

    Heading to hell.

    You know what my heavenly dad taught me?

    He taught me that I don't need to retaliate.

    And my heavenly father taught me I don't need to ignore them.

    My heavenly father taught me that people like that need compassion.

    And I know right now somebody's thinking, "Yeah, I love your enemies.

    I see it.

    I hear it.

    Pastor Jeff, you don't know what this person said to me.

    You don't know the horrible things that they said to my face.

    You don't know the horrible things they said behind my back.

    Pastor Jeff, you don't know this person for years has been just out to get me."

    Look.

    You're right.

    They don't deserve it.

    You're right.

    They've been miserable.

    But you, you love them not because of who they are, but because of who you are.

    You're a child of God.

    And your heavenly father, he loves his enemies.

    Right?

    So I love my enemies because of who I am.

    Secondly, number two, write this one down.

    I love my enemies by what I do.

    I love my enemies by what I do.

    And you might be sitting here going, "Ah, yeah, this love your enemy thing.

    I ain't feeling it.

    I ain't feeling it."

    And I would say, "That's okay.

    You don't have to feel it."

    But you do have to do it.

    Because look, when the Bible talks about love, agape love, it's not an emotion.

    Listen, you don't have to like them.

    But you do have to love them.

    And biblically, love is an action.

    Here's what I mean.

    Love is an action.

    First, John 5.3 says, "For this is the love of God that we keep His commandments."

    Jesus said the same thing.

    What is it?

    John 14, 15.

    Jesus said, "If you love Me, you will keep My commandments."

    John 15, Jesus said, "Abiding in Him is keeping His commandments."

    Notice the Bible never calls us to stir up some kind of emotion.

    Loving God is a choice.

    And yes, we worship God with our emotions in song and worship, yes, but that is the

    fruit of a choice to love God.

    The proof that you love God isn't based on your feelings.

    The proof that you love God according to our Lord is based on your actions.

    And listen, church, love works the same way with your enemies.

    You are not called to love your enemies by conjuring up gushy feelings.

    You're called to love them by your actions.

    You're called to love them by actively blessing them.

    Why?

    Because that's what God does.

    Look at verse 45, the rest of it.

    He says, "For He makes His Son rise on the evil and on the good and sends rain on the

    just and on the unjust."

    God is so kind to sinners.

    Did you ever stop and think about that?

    Have you ever stopped to just marvel at the glorious truth that somebody can live their

    entire life and completely ignore God?

    And they can still have a pretty good life on the earth.

    Isn't that astounding?

    Isn't it amazing that somebody can live their entire life hating God, speaking against God,

    speaking against God's people, speaking against God's truth.

    They can live their whole life and do that, and they can still have a good life on the

    earth.

    In God's kindness, He still lets them have sun and rain and a million other good things.

    You can hate God, still have food and friends and laughter and family and health.

    And yeah, the heart hearted may refuse to be thankful or acknowledge this, but regardless,

    God does it anyways.

    God's kindness says little about them, but it says much about Him.

    And Jesus says, "Take note, children of God, you show love for your enemies by what you

    do for them.

    You show love for enemies by actively seeking their good."

    Like, well, what does that look like, Pastor Jeff?

    What does that look like?

    Okay, so you've got a nasty, older family member who's always hated you.

    Go do your yard work.

    You got a jerk co-worker always looking to get their little shots in on you?

    Look for ways to sincerely and genuinely compliment their work.

    You got a nasty neighbor?

    Find out what they like and treat them.

    Hey, I saw your garden, and the other day I was at the store and I saw that there was

    this magazine about gardening, and I picked it up for you.

    I thought you might be interested.

    I don't know.

    Just get on your face and ask God to show you how you can show kindness to your enemy.

    Romans 12.20, Paul quotes from Proverbs 25.

    He says if your enemy is hungry, feed them.

    If he is thirsty, give him something to drink.

    For by so doing, you will heat burning coals on his head.

    When I was a young Christian, when I read this, I had this idea that if you do good

    to people that aren't good to you, like if you meet their needs, they're going to have

    this like mini Sodom and Gomorrah experience on their head.

    Like I'm going to be nice to you, and it's going to rain lava on your head.

    I'm burning!

    Like that will show them.

    And then I learned that that's not what that means at all.

    It was actually an Egyptian symbol that they would put hot coals in an insulated pot and

    carried around on their head.

    It was a sign of repentance.

    See, Israel had the sackcloth and ashes.

    Israel had the pot of coals on their head.

    And that's what God's Word is driving us to.

    Because no one's ever been one to Jesus because a Christian matched their pettiness.

    No one's ever been one to Jesus because a Christian just flat-out ignored them.

    It's kindness that leads to repentance according to Romans 2-4.

    Show love to them.

    Actively show love to them.

    Why would I do that?

    Because it's not about who they are.

    It's about who you are.

    And one more.

    I love my enemies because of who I am by what I do.

    In Romans 2-3 we get to another because I love my enemies because I'm called to be different.

    Look at verses 46 and 47.

    Jesus says, "For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have?

    Do not even the tax collectors do the same?

    And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing

    than others?

    Do not even the Gentiles do the same?

    Stop there.

    If you're like, "You know what?

    I love the people that I like.

    I love the people that I like."

    Well, then you do what people who don't even know Jesus do.

    And our Lord here is saying, "What's so special about that?"

    Oh, so you think you're great because you do what's normal.

    Well hang on a second.

    Let me shine up your participation trophy.

    Why is it that we want applause for doing what's expected?

    Here's an example.

    Well Aaron and I, we always look at each other and kind of laugh.

    When we hear a dad say, "Yeah, I had a baby sit my kids last Monday."

    Do you hear somebody say that?

    You're not going to say it anymore.

    I had a baby sit my kids last Monday.

    I believe that's called being a father.

    You didn't baby sit your kids.

    What did your wife pay you $10 an hour?

    Like look, I'm not giving you a cookie because you did what was expected.

    That's what our Lord is saying here.

    You're expected to be different because Christians have something that no one else in the world

    has.

    Do you know what that is?

    Like the Bible?

    Not everybody has that.

    Like compassion?

    No, a lot of people have that.

    Christians have something that nobody else in the world has.

    You know what that is?

    God living in them.

    In other words, you should be different.

    I mean, anybody can go one mile.

    That was the law.

    That's expected.

    Anyone can give up a shirt that they lost legally in a lawsuit.

    That's expected.

    And here our Lord is saying, "Anybody can say hi to their friends."

    That's expected.

    But God expects and empowers us to do more, to be like Him.

    So do you do what the world expects?

    Or do you do what God expects because God's called you to be different than the world?

    Do you have a heart like God?

    We'll find out.

    We'll find out because it's revealed not in how you treat your friends, it's revealed

    in how you treat your enemies.

    You love them.

    Not because of who they are, but because of who you are.

    Oh yeah, there's one more verse.

    One of the most deeply convicting and challenging verses in the whole Bible.

    Jesus says, "You therefore must be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect."

    In the context of this teaching, obviously, he's talking about the way we love, right?

    You must love perfectly the way your heavenly Father loves perfectly.

    That's what Jesus is saying here.

    And look, you and I, we look at that verse and we say, "I failed.

    I failed."

    We all have.

    And actually, remembering the beatitudes, step one and two of the beatitudes was recognizing

    that you failed.

    And you're like, "Man, I'll never be perfect."

    But God says you must be perfect.

    You know what that means?

    It means I always have room to grow.

    And today we're talking about loving your enemies.

    And maybe right now you're saying, "You know, I knew that.

    I knew that, but today I'm encountered by this calling in a fresh way and I realize

    now I need to grow.

    I want to grow in this area."

    It's grace.

    It's grace.

    God has made us perfectly righteous in Jesus Christ.

    God has adopted us as His children, and He is constantly changing us.

    We don't deserve anything, but God has given us everything, even though we were His enemies.

    It's grace.

    You get that?

    Then like your Father, give it.

    In just a moment, we're going to be gathering around the Lord's table as a church.

    And it is the Lord's table that reminds us that we are grace people.

    Because in essence, what we are remembering, what we are celebrating, what we are declaring

    when we take the Lord's supper together is the Lord is saying, "I saved you."

    Not because of who you are, but because of who I am.