Get Unified

How Do I Control Myself?

Introduction:

How to Get Self-Controlled: (1 Corinthians 9:24-27)

  1. You Must Give Maximum EFFORT. (1 Cor 9:24)

    2 Peter 1:5-6 - For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control...

  2. You Must Be Motivated By the PRIZE. (1 Cor 9:25)

  3. You Must Have a PLAN. (1 Cor 9:26)

    The Plan for Self-Control:

    1. AVOID Situations Where You'll Be Tempted.

    2. ACCOUNTABILITY.

    3. Put OFF / Put ON.

  4. You Must Have a Healthy Fear of Being DISQUALIFIED. (1 Cor 9:27)

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  • 00:36-00:41

    Open up those Bibles to the book of 1 Corinthians, in chapter 9.

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    After a little break from 1 Corinthians to go through our Easter series about the offices of Jesus, Prophet, Priest, and King, we are back in 1 Corinthians.

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    Let's get caught up, let's review, for those of us who have been part of it, and for those of you who are visiting with us, of 1 Corinthians so far.

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    The first four chapters are about the church being united.

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    Paul's like, "You guys have to get it together.

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    You've got to stop the faction, stop your little clique, stop the divisiveness.

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    You guys have got to get it together." And then, chapters 5 and 6, he talks about the church purified, dealing with sexual sin in the church.

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    you guys got to get it together.

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    All right, and then when you get to chapter seven and beyond, 1 Corinthians sort of turns into a Q&A session.

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    Paul's like, okay, you had some questions for me and I'm gonna answer them.

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    And the first issue was about marriage and the issues that go with that singleness, intimacy, all of those things.

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    And then this last stretch we've been on before our little break was the issue of Should Christians eat the meat that was sacrificed to idols?

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    And that turned into a whole discussion where Paul says the mature believer is willing to lay down his rights or her rights for the sake of winning the lost.

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    And that takes us to chapter nine, verse 24, picking up where we left off last time.

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    So, I'd like you to just bow your heads and just take a moment and please pray for me.

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    To be faithful to clearly communicate the word of God, I'll pray for you to have a heart open to receive what it is.

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    The Lord has something for each of us in this passage today, all right?

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    Let's pray.

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    Father in heaven, as we turn to your word today, it's such an ironic concept because we think we're in control.

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    But when we insist on doing things our way, we actually aren't in control at all.

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    You've commanded us, Father.

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    You've empowered us to be self-controlled people.

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    And I pray for every single one of us in this room, everyone who's watching the stream, everyone who's going to be downloading the podcast later, everyone who encounters this teaching from your word, Father, every single one of us, please, by the wisdom of your word, by the power of your Spirit, make us different than the world.

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    Make us kingdom people who are self-controlled. To your glory and honor, We pray in Jesus' name.

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    And all of God's people said, "Amen." Amen.

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    When you drive home today, just be careful.

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    I'm not sure legally if I'm allowed to say anything, but I have a pastor friend who, driving home from Easter, was crashed into by a door dash driver.

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    And I was so confused when he told me.

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    I'm like, "I thought they just brought the food to your house." Like, "Ah." But there's a lot of maniacs on the road.

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    You're like, "Yeah, I'm one of them." But several years ago, Aaron bought me a tire cover for the back of my Jeep that says, "To God be the glory." And at first I thought, that's just a nice little witnessing tool or something, right?

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    but I found that it's had a much different effect than I was expecting.

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    That thing has given me a lot of self-control. Aaron's always reminding me in traffic, "Remember what the back of your Jeep says, remember what the back of your Jeep says, do not give that driver a thumbs down, remember what the back of your Jeep says." And the reality is we all need help with self-control, don't we? We You and I, we have an enemy.

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    And if you're not careful, this enemy is going to destroy you.

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    And your enemy is not some spiteful coworker, not some other student in your school, not some slanderous church member.

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    And I'm not even talking about the devil himself.

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    Your biggest enemy is you.

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    And if we're going to be honest with ourselves, which we certainly encourage, many of your problems ultimately find their root in a lack of self-control.

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    I mean, just think about the problems a person can have.

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    Think about the problems that you have.

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    How much of it comes from just a complete lack of self-control, right?

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    People dealing with issues of lust.

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    It's a lack of self-control.

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    People dealing with anger issues, fits of rage.

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    What do they say?

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    "I just lost control." Right.

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    People dealing with addiction issues.

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    Zero self-control, whether it's a chemical or a drink or food.

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    Lack of self-control.

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    For some people, it's spending.

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    They just spend out of control.

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    There's no budget, there's no discipline, there's no self-control.

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    For some of you, it's your words.

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    Like, man, I just, I say things and I joke about things, I'm determined I'm not gonna do that, and then I just kinda go with it and I don't have any self-control.

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    But church, God's word is absolutely clear on this.

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    Your walk with Christ is to be on a path of self-control.

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    Self-control is going to affect every single area of your life.

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    Do you want to feel like you're walking in victory with Christ?

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    It's a path of self-control.

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    Lack of self-control can affect your physical health.

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    Lack of self-control can affect your mental health.

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    How many people dealing with depression, at the very base of it is, they lack self-control.

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    Lack of self-control can affect your witness for Christ.

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    So in this passage we're looking at today, Paul is going to show us how to grow in spiritual self-control.

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    And Paul says you need to learn principles from an athlete.

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    And they tell you, you know, when you're in preaching class, you don't always want to go to a sports illustration in your sermon.

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    And Paul didn't get the memo about no sports illustrations because that's where he went.

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    So this illustration we're going to look at is a familiar analogy to the Corinthians.

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    They were a sports-dominated culture.

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    Sound familiar?

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    They had the It's Me In Games.

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    It was every two or three years, depending on who you read.

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    But they were like the Olympics.

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    And I found this fascinating.

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    The athletes in these games had to take an oath that they were going to train for ten months, including abstaining from eating anything unhealthy.

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    Okay?

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    Funyuns for 10 months. These people were dedicated. But it was even harder than that because the last 30 days before the event, they were required to be in the gym every single day. And the winner of the event got a pine wreath. Alright, with that as a background, let's look at what Paul says, we're going to read all of it and then go back, pick up some principles.

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    That is a background.

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    They knew what he was talking about here.

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    He says in verse 24, "Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize?

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    So run that you may obtain it.

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    Every athlete exercises self-control in all things.

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    They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we, an imperishable.

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    So I do not run aimlessly.

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    I do not box as one beating the air, but I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others, I myself should be disqualified.

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    It's obvious Paul's point here, right?

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    He says our life is like a race.

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    And we need to run our race in such a way that we are useful to God.

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    And to do that, Paul makes it very clear, we must be self-controlled.

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    We have to be willing to give up anything that's going to hinder our race.

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    So using this race metaphor, God gives us principles for self-control.

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    So if you're taking notes on your outline, I certainly encourage you to do that.

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    Just very simply, here's the point.

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    This is how to get self-controlled.

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    Number one, you must give maximum effort.

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    You must give maximum effort.

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    Look at verse 24 again.

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    He says, "Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize?" Here it is.

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    run, that you may obtain it." Now their race only had one winner. But this prize he's talking about in this passage is open to everyone because it's your own race. Listen, in this race you're not competing with anyone but yourselves. You're like, "What's this prize he's talking about? Only one receives a prize. I knew what it was for the athletes, but how How does this analogy translate spiritually?

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    What prize is he talking about here?

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    You know, when you read the Bible, you have to read it in context.

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    You know, too many people just pull a passage out and kind of run with it, but he's keeping the same train of thought going throughout this whole section.

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    What is the prize?

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    Well, in the previous section, he talked about being all things to all people.

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    Why? Why, Paul?

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    If you recall, he said he wants to win people.

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    Win people.

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    He said it five times.

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    Verse 19, verse 20, verse 21, verse 22.

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    Paul's like the Jews, those under the law, those outside the law, the weak.

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    I want to win lost people.

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    That's the prize in view here.

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    You see, the prize he's not talking specifically here about salvation, or heaven, or some believers' heavenly rewards specifically.

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    All of those are prizes for sure.

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    But specifically in this context, he's talking about people.

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    Specifically here, he's talking about winning lost people with the gospel.

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    You see, this flows from the thought of the previous passage where he says, "Holding on to your rights can make you lose your opportunity to share the gospel and win people.

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    So what's his point here with this analogy, with this illustration?

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    This is the whole point.

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    If you're concerned about winning the lost, listen, church, you have lost your audience.

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    You have ruined your opportunity to share.

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    You have shot yourself in the foot when you're trying to win someone to Christ, but they don't see Christ in you.

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    You see, if somebody looks at your life, somebody that you're trying to win to Christ, they look at your life and they see sin.

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    They see hypocrisy.

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    And you're telling them that they need Jesus like you need Jesus.

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    They're thinking, well, Jesus didn't seem do you any good.

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    You know, all your church, and all your Bible studies, and all your Sunday school didn't seem to help you at all.

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    So why would I be interested in that?

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    That's why Paul says, "Run that you may obtain the prize." Run that you may obtain the prize.

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    You're like, well, that's obvious, right?

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    I mean, you run like you're trying to win.

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    He's talking about putting forth the effort.

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    Isn't this kind of a no-brainer?

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    I mean, what athlete would show up and not try to win?

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    Who shows up to the event and puts no effort into it?

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    a lot of people.

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    Here's what I mean.

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    For example, Christian men say, "I'm struggling with looking at things on the computer that I shouldn't look at." And I've dealt with a lot of this over the years where men come to me and they're like, "I'm struggling with that!" And I'm like, "Okay, well, tell me about your struggle." Well, I do it every day.

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    Like, that's not a struggle.

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    You know what struggle implies?

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    Struggle implies that there is some effort going on to deal with it.

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    But to just sort of roll over and give yourself to some besetting sin, and be like, well, it's a struggle.

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    You're not struggling.

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    Just doing it in no way suggests there's any effort for self-control with any besetting sin.

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    Not just that one.

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    And that's what Paul's saying here.

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    This is where it has to start.

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    Look, church, you've got to make the effort.

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    You can't just go to bed and hope the self-control fairy shows up.

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    You have to make the effort.

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    You have to get to the place where you're like, look, I am in a race, okay?

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    And maybe I haven't been putting the effort in, but that changes today.

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    I'm gonna win.

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    Look, you're gonna get to the place in your life where you say, I'm not okay with living in defeat.

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    I'm not okay with that anymore.

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    This ends right now.

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    You gotta put forth the effort.

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    How are you doing there?

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    As you know, I coach my son's deck hockey.

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    We, I've done it for years.

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    And several years ago, at the time, actually, the GOAT was coaching with me, we had a couple players on our team.

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    Don't say their name.

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    We had a couple, they're gonna be watching this, we're like, "Hey!" We had a couple players on the team a few years ago, extremely high-skilled players.

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    And during the game, we noticed - Sean and I did - we noticed that these two players in particular, any time we had a line change, they'd go out on the deck.

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    It was somewhere between a walk and a trot.

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    And I'm like, "Sean, what's going on there?" And he's like, "What are they doing?" we called them over like next line change and we're like what's going on out there why are you guys are like barely moving out there everybody else like running and they're just like and they said well we got a we got a big important game with another league this weekend we don't want to risk getting hurt so Sean and I were like hey that's great we'll help you with that you can and just sit the rest of the game.

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    Because we're not putting players out there that aren't putting forth any effort.

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    We're not going to do that.

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    You're embarrassing yourselves and you're embarrassing the team.

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    But you know, those two young men had everything they needed to win.

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    They had their equipment on.

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    They had a great knowledge of the game.

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    They had a lot of experience.

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    what they didn't have that day? Effort. So you see, it doesn't matter what else they had. When there was no effort, it was game over before it started. It's like, why did you guys even show up? Why did you put your gear on and go on the deck if you don't want You don't have to make any effort.

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    And I think that describes a lot of Christians in their walk with Christ.

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    I mean, you come to church, you go to small group, you go to the men's conference, you go to the women's conference, and you show up.

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    You have everything you need to succeed, but there's just zero effort in the area of self-control.

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    It's a problem.

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    It's a problem.

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    Look what 2 Peter 1:5-6.

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    Same thing.

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    Look, "For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with..." Oh, oh, there it is again.

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    Self-control.

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    Yes, listen, I know.

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    Before you send me a text or an email, I know that self-control is a fruit of the Spirit.

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    I know that the only way that happens is if the Lord empowers you to do that.

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    I know that. Yes.

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    That is 100% true, and that is also another sermon entirely.

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    This is telling us right here.

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    This passage is telling us here, you and I are commanded to make every effort.

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    Are you doing that?

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    You must give maximum effort.

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    If you're not willing to do that, none of the rest of this sermon is going to apply.

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    But if you are willing to do that, if you're willing to say, "I'm done.

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    I'm done living in defeat." If that's you, great, let's keep going.

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    Number two, you must be motivated by the prize.

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    You must be motivated by the prize.

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    Look at verse 25 again.

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    Bless you.

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    "Every athlete exercises self-control in all things.

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    They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable." First of all, note, "every athlete." This isn't a passage for preachers and missionaries alone.

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    This is for you too.

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    And then notice he says self-control in all things.

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    All things.

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    Every area.

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    You have an area of your life right now where you're like, you know what, I think overall I'm doing good in my walk with Christ, but I do have this area where I'm not self-controlled.

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    Do you have that?

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    You need to stay motivated.

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    You've got to keep your eyes on the prize.

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    I like Paul's point here.

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    The comparison of the prizes.

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    Paul says here that these Greek athletes, all that training, right?

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    Ten months, 30 days, all that training.

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    And what do they win?

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    What do they win?

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    A Christmas decoration put on their head.

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    Hip, hip.

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    No.

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    No, not even close.

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    That's Paul's point, right?

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    He says, "They do all that for a lame prize." Talk about lame prizes.

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    In these past Olympics, didn't those medals like fall apart or something?

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    Wasn't there a whole thing like, "Hey, I've traded my whole life for this medal." Oh, and a stuffed animal, yay.

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    (audience laughing)

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    He goes, "It's a lame prize." It's like, you know, that's like several years ago, a bunch of guys from church, we went to, do you ever see those indoor places where you can throw the ax at the wood,

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    (imitates ax thudding)

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    when you're into the bulls eye,

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    (imitates ax thudding)

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    do you ever see these?

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    What's it called, the lumber jacks or something, or you know what I'm talking about?

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    The old ax throwing thing?

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    Well, a bunch of us went there, And there might've been some ladies there too, I don't remember, but here's what I do remember.

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    I won.

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    I won.

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    Yeah, thank you, the one person that's proud of me.

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    No, Tristan, just Tristan, just Tristan.

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    The rest of you, too late, thank you, Tristan.

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    I won.

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    Do you know what I won?

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    A sticker.

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    (Laughter)

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    I'm not even joking.

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    It's on my wastebasket in my office, the sticker.

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    That's what I want. And that's Paul's point here.

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    He goes, "They did all that training, all that competing, and all they got was a stupid wreath for their head." Paul's point here is, shouldn't we be more motivated?

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    Because our prize is winning people to Jesus.

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    We're talking about eternity, and we're talking about lost people who are going to suffer apart from the presence of God forever, and we have the opportunity to change that.

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    And look, if you've ever won someone to Christ, you know the humble joy that that brings.

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    And if you haven't, go do it.

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    And if you have, go do it again.

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    It's about winning people to Christ.

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    That's the prize.

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    That's the prize.

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    I know there are some people that are hearing this, and they're like, "Oh, that's the prize." Yet people aren't excited about the gospel because they aren't doing what makes the gospel exciting.

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    That's the problem in the church.

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    They're not living it, and they're not sharing it.

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    That's what makes the gospel exciting.

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    That's the prize.

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    I promise you, someday, someday, Christian, when you stand before the Lord, you're going to realize it was worth it.

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    You're going to stand before the Lord, you're going to say, "Jesus, You were worth it." You're going to say, "Jesus, every time I used the self-control you gave Me by the power of Your Spirit for the sake of imitating You, it was all worth it.

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    Every person that you reached, Jesus, through Me, that is now beholding Your glory and worshiping You for all of eternity, it's worth it.

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    There's a glorious victory celebration that's coming soon.

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    And Paul reminds us, keep your eyes on the prize.

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    Not some stupid wreath.

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    Perfecting eternity.

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    So keep control of yourself.

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    How to get self-control.

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    Maximum efforts.

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    Motivated by the prize.

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    Number three, you must have a plan.

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    You must have a plan.

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    Luke 26.

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    Paul says, "So, I do not run aimlessly.

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    I do not box as one beating the air.

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    I do not run aimlessly.

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    Track and field people, you know this, right?

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    When you show up for a meet, when you show up for a race, there has to be a track and a finish line, right?

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    You don't show up to the event, you're like, "I'm ready to run." They're just like, "Run wherever you want." Well, how do I know if I win?

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    That's his point.

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    I don't run aimlessly.

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    You got to stay on track.

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    You don't show up at the track meet and you just start running through the bleachers, running by the concession stand.

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    Well, this is my race.

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    No, no, no.

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    No track.

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    No finish line.

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    Likely, no effort.

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    Definitely no victory.

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    You have to have a plan to win.

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    Please hear me.

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    This is why many of you struggle with self-control.

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    Many of you struggle with self-control because you do not have a plan.

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    Here's what I mean.

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    You'll walk out of church today, and this is your big takeaway.

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    You'll say, "You know what?

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    He's right.

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    From now on I'm going to have self-control.

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    And you're going to leave it that vague, you're going to leave it that non-specific, and you're going to fail again.

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    Because you don't have a plan.

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    You're not being intentional.

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    You're running in a concession stand.

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    You have to have a plan.

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    So very quickly here, you're like, "Well, I don't know what the plan is." tells you what the plan is.

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    I'm going to give you the plan for self-control.

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    Start here, okay?

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    Three things, again, quickly.

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    We could spend a whole lot of time on these, but if you want to dig deeper, come and meet with one of our pastors.

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    We will be glad to walk through this with you.

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    But letter A, the plan for self-control.

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    Avoid situations where you'll be tempted.

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    We just talked about this recently in a message.

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    You know, I'd like to remind you, as I do often, I've never ever ever lost a fight to Mike Tyson.

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    Not once ever.

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    I have a perfect record against Mike Tyson.

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    Zero losses, thank you, thank you Tristan.

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    Tristan is the only person in this church that's proud of me.

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    I've never lost a fight to Mike Tyson, why?

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    Because I've never showed up.

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    Right, you have to avoid situations where you'll be tempted because I guarantee you if I would have showed up to fight Mike Tyson, my teeth would have been in the fourth row, okay?

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    you won't lose the fight if you don't show up.

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    So avoid situations where you'll be tempted.

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    Put up fences for yourself.

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    You're like, "Well, that sounds like legalism." Listen, it's okay to be a personal legalist.

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    It's okay.

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    Legalism is a problem when I start enforcing my convictions on you.

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    That's when it's a problem.

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    But when I have convictions and fences that I enforce on myself, that is healthy.

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    That is self-control.

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    You can be a personal legalist.

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    It's okay.

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    But avoid situations where you'll be tempted.

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    Letter B, how about accountability?

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    Accountability.

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    You should be in a small group.

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    You should have a trusted brother or sister in Christ.

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    Somebody that you can be open with.

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    Somebody that you can share your heart.

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    Where you're really struggling.

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    Where you really need prayer.

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    Where you really need them to check up on you.

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    You should have a two-way street with someone that way.

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    Someone that's not going to judge you or look down on you or be harsh with you, but somebody who's going to love you through it and encourage you.

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    And you do that for them.

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    Accountability.

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    The third plan for self-control.

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    Put off, put on.

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    Put off, put on.

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    This is all through the Bible, by the way.

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    This is a key piece in your personal discipleship.

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    This is a key piece in your walk with Christ.

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    Here's the short version.

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    The Bible doesn't tell you to just stop sinning.

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    The Bible tells us that you need to replace sinning with something good.

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    That's over and over and over in Scripture.

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    It's like, "Okay, stop sinning." No, no, no. Don't stop sinning.

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    Replace sinning.

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    Take the sin off and then replace it with something else.

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    If you've ever come to one of us for counseling, especially if you're dealing with a besetting sin, this is what we do, because this is what the Bible commands.

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    That besetting sin, okay, here's what we're going to do.

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    We're going to look at it the way God looks at it, and we're going to replace that sin with something else, with something that honors and glorifies God.

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    It's like the old story.

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    I've shared this with you before.

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    I didn't make this up.

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    This is ancient, but I love it because it's effective and I like dogs.

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    But this guy had two dogs.

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    He had a white dog and a gray dog.

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    And every time he let him off the leash to eat, that old gray dog, he just beat that white dog up and the gray dog got all the food. So over time the gray dog was getting stronger and stronger and the white dog not getting to eat was getting weaker and weaker and the guy's like this isn't working. So here's what he did he he leashed both dogs and for a season he gave the white dog all the best most Awesome dog food kibbles and bits and bits and bits and and the gray dog He barely gave enough food to keep it alive. It's just an illustration. It's made up. Do not call PETA But the guy says no for a season I'm only feeding the white dog So, you know what happened the white dog got bigger and stronger in the gray dog at that And that season got weaker and weaker. So when he let him off the leash guess which dog was stronger, right?

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    The point of the story is this, the dog that you feed is going to be the stronger dog.

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    And if you find in your life that you're constantly feeding your sin, whatever your sin, your besetting sin is, your sin tendency, if you're constantly feeding that, it's a lot harder if you don't want to do the right thing when you're constantly feeding doing the sinful thing.

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    Self-control is feeding the white dog.

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    I'm only going after the things that honor the Lord.

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    That's what I'm going after.

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    I'm not feeding my sin.

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    I'm feeding righteousness, so to speak.

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    That's the plan.

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    I want to remind you that self-control has to happen before you encounter temptation.

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    Self-control isn't, well, I hope if I encounter a temptation today, I hope I stand strong.

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    It's usually too late by then.

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    The work has to be done beforehand.

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    Decisions have to be made beforehand.

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    That's why Paul here says in the second part of the verse, "I do not box as one beating the air." Same principle, right?

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    Paul says I have a plan.

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    I stick to the plan.

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    I stay focused on the plan.

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    Like wait, wait, wait, wait.

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    Boxing? I thought we were talking about racing.

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    I thought we were talking about running.

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    boxing thing. You know that'd be a great new sport. Wouldn't that make the Olympics so much more interesting if the people that were running were also allowed to punch each other? Wouldn't that be awesome? You know, because you, right, as one person pointed out, you would have one guy that's like really fast and like he's not getting punched and he's probably gonna win but I think that everybody faster. And I think it would really make those middle-of-the-pack people... I think we need to get on this. So what's he talking about here? Well, Paul says, "Yeah, I'm still talking about racing, but while I'm running my race, I have an opponent who wants to knock me off track. I have this opponent that I I have to knock him out.

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    Like, who is that opponent, Paul?

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    And he's like, it's me.

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    I'm the biggest problem in my race.

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    My flesh is my biggest enemy.

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    Which is why number four leads us to this, you must have a healthy fear of being disqualified.

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    You must have a healthy fear of being disqualified.

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    Look at verse 27.

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    He says, "But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others, I myself should be disqualified." I was like, hey, hey, I control my body, not vice versa.

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    My body doesn't control me.

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    I tell my body what we're doing.

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    Paul, why are you so adamant about that?

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    Why are you coming in hot about self-control here?

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    What's your issue, Paul?" He tells us right here, he says, "Because I don't want to be disqualified." That's why.

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    You know, it's interesting, in these It's Me and Games, their Olympic Games, the whole The whole thing began with a herald.

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    They would have a guy who got up, he announced the contest.

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    He announced the games.

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    He announced the rules.

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    He announced the contestants.

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    And anyone who broke the rules was disqualified.

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    You're out.

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    We don't tolerate that.

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    And here's the point, church.

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    Paul here is telling us that the Christian is the herald and an athlete in the race at the same time.

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    Do you see why that's such an important point to make?

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    Paul is saying here, how embarrassing would it be You stood up and told everybody the rules, and then you got disqualified because you broke the rules.

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    How embarrassing would that be?

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    Oh, it's worse than embarrassing.

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    Because a ruined testimony discredits the gospel in the eyes of the unsaved.

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    It's Paul's point here.

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    He goes, "Look, you're no longer effective.

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    You're worthless when it comes to witnessing.

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    You've discredited yourself.

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    It's happened to too many.

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    It's happened to too many Christians.

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    It's happened to too many preachers.

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    You stand up and announce, and then you break the rules yourself.

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    Like, dude, shouldn't you have known more than anyone?

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    So you need another motivation for self-control?

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    You should have a healthy fear of failure.

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    And please, let's be clear, he is not, when he's talking about disqualification, he's not talking about your salvation.

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    Understand that.

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    You cannot lose your salvation.

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    If you are truly born again, I mean, if you are truly born again, you believe in Christ, you receive Christ, you believe in His death on the cross to take away your sins, If you believe He rose from the dead, He gave you the promise of eternal life, if you truly believe that, you are an adopted child of God.

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    You are sealed in the Holy Spirit and nothing can change that.

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    There is not a force in the universe that can change that.

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    And I see no language in the Bible that talks about being unadopted.

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    That talks about the seal of the Spirit being removed from you.

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    I don't see any language in the Bible about that.

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    He is not talking about losing your salvation.

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    You can't.

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    But, you can lose your ministry.

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    And if you're a believer, you know, that's one of the greatest losses that you can experience in this life.

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    Any ministry, however you serve God, Whatever you're doing for the king, you lose that.

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    You're like, "You know, I was partnering with the living God.

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    I was doing things that matter for eternity and it's over.

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    And I have no one to blame but myself because I just couldn't control myself.

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    And I got myself disqualified." on the outside looking in.

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    Watching other people do what used to give you so much purpose and joy.

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    You're disqualified.

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    You ruined your testimony.

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    You shattered people's trust in you.

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    You're no longer useful for ministry.

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    You're disqualified.

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    You should have a healthy fear of that.

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    You should always have it in the back of your mind what's at stake if you fail to be self-controlled.

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    If our worship team would come back up, I'd like you to just bow your heads, please.

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    I just want us to take a couple of moments.

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    I want us to take a couple of moments for prayer, self-evaluation.

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    You know, sometimes we get together and go to little groups and pray.

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    That's wonderful, but we're not doing that today.

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    Today, this is between you and the Lord.

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    Just you and the Lord.

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    Right now.

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    Is there any area of your life right now where you are not exercising self-control?

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    We talked about this not too long ago.

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    Confession.

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    Agreeing with God.

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    Do you need to do that today?

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    Agree with God.

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    Yeah, God, you know what?

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    This is an area, Father, where I have completely neglected to exercise any kind of self-control.

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    I just want to ask you today - your head's bowed - how much effort are you putting into this?

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    Can you honestly say you've been struggling with sin?

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    Or have you just been sort of letting sin walk all over you?

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    Are you putting forth any effort?

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    Do you realize the prize?

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    Oh, there are so many prizes.

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    Eternal life in the presence of our Lord, the rewards that come through faithful service, all of that, but specifically again, here he's talking about winning the lost in this whole section. He's talking about winning the lost. That's the prize. Changing eternity for people, winning people to Christ, should motivate us to repent of our hypocrisy. So Again, my friends, you don't want to walk out of here with some generic, "I'm going to try to be self-controlled." It's just not going to work.

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    You've got to have a plan.

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    Are you willing to put up fences for yourself to stay out of places where you know you're going to lose that fight if you walk in there?

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    Are you willing to get accountability?

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    Are you willing to replace that sin, that time, that energy, that effort you're putting into sin, will you put that into something that honors the Lord instead?

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    You're going to start feeding the white dog and stop feeding the gray dog.

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    What's your plan?

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    Remember what's at stake.

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    Oh yes, there's always shame and embarrassment in being found out that you've been living in some kind of unrepentant, besetting sin.

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    There's also forfeiting your ministry, disqualifying yourself, being completely ineffective for the kingdom because you were so unwilling to get with God.

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    Today's the day to put the flag in the ground, draw the line in the sand, whatever other metaphor you want to use, but today's the day.

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    We're changing things today.

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    Father in heaven, I pray for every single one of us who are called by Your name.

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    Father, we all have areas of our lives where we just have let it go.

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    We've made excuses.

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    We've not exercised any control.

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    Today, Father, let us be done with the excuses.

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    Give us a reality check on what's at stake.

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    The main thing, Father, is Your glory and honor.

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    So I pray today, Father, that we leave here recommitted that the light of Your Word, the and the light that comes from Your Holy Spirit would shine in all of the dark places in our hearts and minds and show us where we are not honoring You.

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    Father, let today be a day of confession and repentance.

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    Let us be people who actually show up to the race to win.

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    We thank You, Father, for the power that You give us to do that through Your Holy Spirit.

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    Give us the want to by that same power.

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    We pray in Jesus' name, Amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 9:24-27

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. What strategies have you found effective to be self-controlled?

  3. Why do you think many Christians put little (or no) effort in self-control?

  4. The “prize” in this context is winning lost people. How is that a motivation to self-control?

  5. NO NAMES! – but do you know someone who disqualified themselves from ministry due to lack of self-control? How did you react to that news? How does this make an unbeliever think about the Gospel?

Breakout

Pray for one another. In what area are you struggling with self-control? What is your plan for change?

Why Should I Deny Myself?

Introduction:

Are You Committed to Winning People with the Gospel? (1 Corinthians 9:15-23)

  1. SACRIFICE: Do You Give Up Your Rights in Order to WIN People?

  2. STEWARD: Do You See Yourself as ENTRUSTED with the Gospel?

    2 Corinthians 5:19 - that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.

  3. SHARER: Do You Know the Joy of Sharing the Blessings of the Gospel?

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    Open up those Bibles to 1 Corinthians 9.

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    While you're turning there, let's just take a moment.

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    I'm going to ask that you would please pray for me to proclaim the Word of God as I should.

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    And I will pray for you to have a heart open to receive what it is the Lord wants to teach us today.

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    Let's pray.

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    Father, we understand that what is about to happen is supernatural.

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    This isn't giving some TED Talk.

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    This is the proclamation of your eternal word that somehow your Holy Spirit works with your word.

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    to conform us into the image of your Son.

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    Father, I pray that you would do a mighty work in all of us this morning.

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    Thank you, Father, in advance for the work that you're going to do.

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    We pray in Jesus' name, Amen.

    01:22-01:24

    1 Corinthians 9, are you there?

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    Before we start this, Doug, did Taylor get paid this week?

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    He did not.

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    We don't usually do this publicly, but would you pay Taylor?

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    (congregation laughing)

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    You gotta keep the pastor humble, thank you, Doug.

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    You gotta keep the pastor humble.

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    Don't expect anything else for like a month.

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    You're gonna have to stretch it.

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    You got him the king-size Kit Kat, right?

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    Okay, then I don't wanna hear nothing about no second service.

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    You got plenty.

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    Don't be a hog.

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    When Erin and I were first married, we lived in town and we had a neighbor up the street that would often walk his dog right by our house and he would often stop in our front yard and let his dog do what dogs do on walks.

    02:35-02:37

    And there was no cleanup, by the way.

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    But this went on for some time and one day he was walking the dog up the street on the sidewalk in front of our house and Erin was outside and she said, "Hey, I'm buying you a shovel for Christmas." He got a little smile on his face and he goes, "So, you think I'd look pretty good with a shovel?" I think he thought that Erin was flirting with him.

    03:10-03:15

    And if so, that is a really weird pickup line to use.

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    Hey baby, you look good with a shovel.

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    It's pretty easy to miss the point, isn't it?

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    At least it was for him.

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    It was easy to miss the point.

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    And as we get to this next section in 1 Corinthians, I think that's what's going on here is I think Paul wanted to make sure that none of the Corinthians missed his point.

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    All right?

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    This is the Q&A section.

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    In this section in particular, they had asked him about eating meat that was used in pagan worship and they're like, "Well, it's just meat, but it bothers some of the weaker Christians that are, you know, just kind of fresh coming out of paganism." So what do we do about that, Paul?

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    Paul says, "You are free." But love says, "I will lay down my rights so that I don't offend a weaker brother." And then Paul, led by example, that's what we saw last week.

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    Paul goes, "Look, I'm showing you an example from my own life.

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    I have every right to be paid to preach." And he went through all the reasons it is legitimate for the pastor to get paid.

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    He gave us five very compelling reasons.

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    "Yes, the pastor should be paid." He said, "That's a right that I have.

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    That's a freedom that I have, but I'm laying it down for the sake of the gospel." And I think when you get to this point in chapter 9, Paul knew that some of the Corinthians were going to miss the point, and Paul's talking about paying the pastor, paying the pastor, while you pay the past year's while and they're like, "Ah, um. Yeah, Paul, we asked about meat. That was what we asked about. It's a bigger issue. It's not about the meat." "Oh, not about the meat. Oh, oh, this is about getting paid to preach. No, no, no, it's not about the money. That's like saying the fall of man. That's like saying Adam's sin in the Garden of Eden is a story about fruit trees. You missed the point.

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    The bigger issue is this, examining how does what I do affect somebody else?

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    That is the issue.

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    It's about not letting anything be an obstacle to not only loving a weaker brother, but winning people to Christ.

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    people to Christ. How high of a priority is that for you? I mean, can we just take an honest assessment today? How often do you think about winning somebody to Christ. How committed are you to personal evangelism? I thought so much about this this past week. And I want you to hear what I'm saying here because this isn't pack your bags we're going on a guilt trip. This is deeply convicting to me. And I'm right here with you, church. Please hear me, corporately and individually, corporately and individually, church, we are distracted and we are insulated.

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    We are, first of all, distracted. We're distracted. We are so distracted. Winning people to Christ, What are you talking about?

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    Oh yeah, I guess that is a thing.

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    I've been so distracted, distracted with good things.

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    Work and sports and home projects.

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    There is so much that demands our attention.

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    I think especially in a church like ours, we're insulated.

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    How much of our lives revolve around going to church, going to small group, going to event at the church.

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    And then when we're not at Harvest Bible Chapel, we are sending our kids to Christian school, or we volunteer at a Christian school.

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    And all of that is great stuff, obviously.

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    But I have to ask, how often are we even interacting with lost people?

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    I think we're insulated.

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    Look, there's so much.

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    There's so much that this church does so well when it comes to discipleship.

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    We have an excellent small group ministry.

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    We just had two excellent conferences, one for the men last month, one for the women yesterday.

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    Excellent.

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    Our giving to missions, I've never seen a church like this one.

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    Whether it's the Vision Appalachia or Thailand or somebody taking a short-term trip, our Forgiving to missions is excellent.

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    But when we get to this passage, we have to ask ourselves, "When was the last time that you led somebody to Christ?

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    When was the last time that happened?

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    When was the last time that you even shared the gospel with someone?

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    When was the last time that you even invited somebody to come to church to hear the gospel here?

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    Are you committed to personal evangelism?

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    Not just talking about the church at large, obviously that is a concern for me.

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    I'm talking about you as an individual.

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    Are you committed to that?

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    Look down at verse 23 here in chapter 9.

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    Paul says, "I do it all for the sake of the gospel." Paul says, "Everything in my life revolves around the gospel.

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    Everything in my life revolves around winning people to Christ." And this verse has a very special place in my heart because our missionary in Thailand, This is His verse.

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    This is the verse that fuels everything that He does.

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    Several years ago, He was at our house and He was talking to Erin and I about how this verse fuels everything in His ministry.

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    "I do all things for the sake of the gospel." He kept going back to that.

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    "I do all things for the sake of the gospel." Twenty-three churches, four children's homes, a Bible institute.

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    I do all things for the sake of the gospel." That's how that mission started, by the way.

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    Do you know how that started?

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    It was Barnabas, this Burmese man going through the northern mountain jungles of Thailand looking for villages.

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    Looking, looking for lost people in the middle of the jungle and finding a village and walking in and just sharing the gospel of Jesus Christ with them.

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    That's how that started.

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    All things for the sake of the gospel.

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    He is like spiritually hilarious to talk to.

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    He was telling me recently about a telemarketer that was calling to try to sell him on some kind of goofy energy pills or something.

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    And do you know what he told her?

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    The gospel!

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    He told her the gospel.

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    He also told me, this was just a couple weeks ago.

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    He had a couple guys show up to pump their septic tank.

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    And do you know what he told them?

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    The gospel, yeah.

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    One of my favorite stories, he had to get some sound equipment.

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    They do this big outdoor Christmas program as an outreach.

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    It's kind of like open air preaching and the Lisu tribe, they're dancers and there's this whole thing, right?

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    But he had to get like this PA system.

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    So he goes into the store, the electronics store, where they sell these things, and he wants to buy one.

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    He goes, "I wanna try it out." Remember this, Justin?

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    He goes, "I wanna try this out." And they're like, "Okay, you can try it out." He's like, "I wanna make sure it works." So they fire up this PA system, and he gets on the microphone, and do you know what he says?

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    "He proclaimed the gospel to the whole store!" I'm gonna give you the short version of the story, I don't have time to get into all of it, but he told me about a village across the border that was guarded by four armies that needed fish.

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    And he took them fish, and I said, "How did you keep the fish from spoiling?" He's like, "What are you talking about?

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    "What do you mean spoil?" I'm like, "Well, he said it took him 10 days "to walk through the jungle with these fish." I'm like, "Fish is gonna get bad after a while." He goes, "No, no, no, no, no, no, live fish." I'm like, "How did you take live fish?" And then it hit me.

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    I said, "Hang on, hang on.

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    "Did you carry bags of water full of fish "through the jungle for 10 days "to take fish to a village?" And as a matter of fact, he just says, "Yeah, they needed fish." You carried an aquarium through the jungle for 10 days.

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    He's like, "They needed fish." Why would somebody do something like that?

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    What would possess a man to do something like that?

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    I'll tell you what possesses a man.

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    He does all things for the sake of the gospel.

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    He says, "The reason I'm taking these fish to them is it's going to open the door for me to share the gospel with them." Who does something like that?

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    A person who wants to win people to Christ, that's who.

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    So what about you?

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    Do you love lost people?

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    You're like, "Man, I guess I don't love lost people like that." Now, this section here in 1 Corinthians shows us what the heart of an evangelist looks like.

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    I think there's something here for all of us.

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    I just want to go through the text, and then I want to go back and pick up some of the key principles that motivated Paul here, but let's pick up in verse 15.

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    Paul says, "But I have made no use of any of these rights." He didn't use his right to get paid to preach.

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    That's what he's talking about.

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    Like, why didn't you do that?

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    Well we talked about that.

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    Paul didn't want anybody to think that he was using some new religion to try to get rich.

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    He didn't want people to assume that he had bad motives.

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    Time out here for a second.

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    They're like, "Well, if Paul had this conviction, why didn't the other apostles have this conviction?" I mean, it makes sense, but why didn't the others have this conviction?

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    And the answer is very simple.

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    Paul was the apostle to the Gentiles.

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    He was reaching pagan people.

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    That Peter and the rest that were going to the Jews, the Jews already had this system in place about paying the spiritual leaders.

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    That wasn't a weird concept to them.

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    Paul going to the Gentiles, it was a different ball game.

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    All right, look, keep going to verse 15.

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    He says, "Nor am I writing these things "to secure any such provision." Paul's like, "I'm not writing this to you "to secure provision." Like, what's he mean by that?

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    Paul's saying, "To be clear, "I'm not trying to use reverse psychology here "to make you pay me." All right?

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    Paul's like, "I'm not trying to be like, "Well, you know, I'm just out here preaching for free." And then you're like, "Oh, poor Paul, preaching for free.

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    "We should pay him.

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    "He shouldn't have to do that.

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    "We should pay him." Paul's like, "I'm not trying to reverse psychology you, okay?

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    "This isn't, I'm not throwing this out there "so that you're convicted to pay me." He goes, "That's not it at all." All right, go on.

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    He says, "For I would rather die than have anyone deprive me of my ground for boasting." Wow.

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    Paul says, "I would rather die than somebody accuse me of using the gospel to rip people off." But what's this boasting thing?

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    You see that?

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    He says, "Deprive me of my ground for boasting." So that word for boasting literally is rejoicing.

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    Usually when we hear boasting we have a bad connotation with that.

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    The word literally is rejoicing.

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    Okay?

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    And boasting is really not a bad thing, it just depends on what you're boasting in.

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    Because we're called to boast in the Lord, right?

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    But the question is, what is Paul's ground for boasting?

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    What is it?

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    What's he boasting about?

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    What about this is occasion for boasting?

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    Well, first he tells us what it's not.

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    Look at verse 16, he says, "For if I preach the gospel, that gives me no ground for boasting.

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    For necessity is laid upon me.

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    Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel.

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    If I do this of my own will, I have a reward, but if not of my own will, I am still entrusted with a stewardship." He says, first of all, the boasting is not about preaching the gospel.

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    Let's get that off the table.

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    That's not...because that's not in the actual preaching the gospel itself.

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    I'm not like boasting in the opportunity to preach, because you realize, church, the gospel leaves no room for boasting, right?

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    You can't earn your salvation not by what you do, not by who you are, not by who you You know, you cannot do a thing to earn your salvation.

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    You can't do a thing to make God happy with you because you are a guilty, rebellious sinner before the eyes of your holy creator.

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    That's reality.

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    There is not a thing that we can do.

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    We are guilty of sin.

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    But God, because of His great love, He's given us grace.

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    God says, "Because I love you, I am providing salvation, not through what you do, but through what my son did on your behalf." It is a gift, and when you receive a gift, there is no room for boasting.

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    So okay, so what is the reward?

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    What is it?

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    Well, he tells us, look at verse 18.

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    He says, "What then is my reward?

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    That in my preaching I may present the gospel free of charge, so as not to make full use of my right in the gospel." See, Paul says, "You know what thrills me?

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    Do you know what I'm really like fired up about?

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    It's this.

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    There's this one thing, this one thing that I can choose to do, and that is to preach the gospel for free." In other words, Paul is saying, "God's not making me do this.

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    God's not making me lay down my right to be paid." Paul goes, "I chose that.

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    That is my contribution.

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    That is Paul's contribution to the kingdom.

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    I choose to do it for free." He's so excited in this passage.

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    He's so excited to forfeit his rights so he can preach.

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    Paul's like, it is such a joy for me that I have the ability to love people in a unique way.

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    That I can give to them and not get a thing in return from them.

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    That is such a joy for me!

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    Right now, somebody's like, look good with a shovel.

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    I don't get it. I don't get it.

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    Who gets joy from denying themselves something that they are rightfully entitled to?

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    Who does that?

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    The person who wants to win people to Christ, that's who.

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    Verse 19, he goes on, "For though I am free from all, "I have made myself a servant to all "that I might win more of them." He's like, I'm free, I'm a child of God.

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    My salvation is not based on my performance, but I made myself a servant for the sake of winning people.

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    Paul is always about winning people.

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    And Paul would do anything to win someone to Christ.

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    He found so much joy that he could give up his rights to win people to Christ.

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    So what does that look like, to lay down your rights in order to share the gospel?

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    What does that look like, to lay down your rights for the sake of evangelism?

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    Well, he tells us what it looks like.

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    Look at verse 20.

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    He says, "To the Jews, I became as a Jew in order to win Jews.

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    To those under the law, I became as one under the law, though not being myself under the law, that I might win those under the law." So Paul says, let me tell you what that's like.

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    When I'm with the Jews, I'm not going to violate the law in front of them.

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    Paul saying, "I'm not going to walk into the synagogue eating a ham sandwich in front of them.

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    That would really offend them.

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    Like, "Look, I'm free in Christ.

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    I can eat a ham sandwich." Like, he goes, "I would never do something like that." I mean this is all through the book of Acts.

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    All throughout, you see in Acts chapter 15 with the Jerusalem council, that's what that whole thing was about.

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    You see it in Acts chapter 16, that was an interesting story.

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    Paul had Timothy circumcised.

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    Like why?

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    So Timothy can get saved?

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    No, no, no, that has nothing to do with that.

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    Paul had Timothy circumcised so that they didn't offend the Jews that they were trying to win.

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    Boy, that had to have been an awkward exchange, don't you think?

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    Did you imagine?

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    Paul's like, "I will do whatever it takes to win people!" And Timothy's like, "Yeah!" And Paul's like, "Make any sacrifice for the gospel!" And Timothy's like, "Yeah!" And Paul's like, "Circumcise Timothy!" And Timothy's like, "What?" Paul's like, "Are you committed or not?" That's the point, though.

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    Anything.

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    What's it going to take?

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    What's it going to take?

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    He goes on, verse 21, he says, "To those outside the law, I became as one outside the law," being outside the law of God, but under the law of Christ, clarifying. We'll talk about that more in a minute. He says that I might win those outside the law. You see, you also see that in Acts, right? When Paul was with the Gentiles, he acted like the Gentiles.

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    Not in a sinful way, but he assimilated with them. You see it in, what is it, Acts 17.

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    Paul quoted one of their poets.

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    It was a bridge.

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    He goes, "You know what one of your poets says?

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    Ah, he was on to something." And he uses that as a bridge, but he assimilated with them.

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    That's what he's talking about.

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    Verse 22, he says, "To the weak I became weak that I might win the weak.

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    I have become all things to all people that by all means I might save some." The weak.

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    We've been talking about the weak.

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    These are the baby Christians.

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    These are the people that are coming out of paganism.

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    It's just so hard to let go of things that we were so used to.

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    And that's what really the whole meat issue was about, right?

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    And Paul goes, "Oh, if eating meat is a problem for them, I will be a vegan." And then we land on verse 23.

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    Here it is.

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    I do it all for the sake of the gospel that I may share with them in its blessings." That's the thesis.

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    That's the thesis of the passage.

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    That's the thesis of Paul's whole life.

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    Everything I do is for the gospel.

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    Is that the thesis of your life?

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    You see the passion for winning lost people in the past?

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    Did you see it?

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    Don't miss it.

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    You think I'd look good with a shovel, don't miss it.

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    It's passion for the lost.

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    So on your outline, I just want you to draw some things down here.

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    You see, three big ingredients, three things that motivated Paul that I have to ask myself and you have to ask yourself.

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    Are you committed to winning people with the gospel?

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    Are you?

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    Are you?

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    Are you committed to winning people with the gospel?

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    The first ingredient, it's the most obvious one, right?

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    It's sacrifice.

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    Sacrifice, do you give up your rights in order to win people?

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    Do you give up your rights in order to win people?

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    Again, Paul found laying down a freedom for the sake of the gospel to be an absolute joy.

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    He goes, "I will go along with whoever I'm with.

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    Gray areas, I'll give up anything that might cause an offense." You're like, "Wait, wait, so you're saying that you win people by accommodating them?" No, that's not what we're saying at all.

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    You accommodate yourself so that you have the right to speak to people.

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    That's what he's saying.

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    If you offend somebody because you insist on your freedom, you lost the audience.

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    They're not going to hear you.

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    That's what he's talking about, removing anything that would offend.

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    What does that look like today?

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    Here's a few examples today of what that could look like.

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    Let's say you have some Catholic friends that you've been witnessing to, and you know that they're faithful Catholics, but you're not sure if they truly know Christ.

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    And it's Lent season, and you invite them over to your house for dinner on a Friday.

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    You're not serving hamburgers.

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    You see?

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    You're gonna offend them right out the gate, and they're not gonna hear you.

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    Let's say you have some Muslim neighbors, and it's summertime, and you're like, "I wanna reach them with the gospel.

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    "I wanna have an opportunity to share Jesus with them." You invite them over to your house for a barbecue.

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    You're not having pork at your barbecue.

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    You offend them, you've lost your audience.

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    Let's talk about the big one.

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    Is there any issue in our day that really quickly brings offense?

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    Can you think of anything?

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    Say anything at all.

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    Anything at all that you could mention that people would immediately get offended.

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    Politics, right?

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    Let's say that you have a neighbor that is a true blue Democrat and you are of the MAGA persuasion.

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    This isn't a political statement, okay?

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    This is an illustration.

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    But if you're inviting your hardcore Democrat friend to your house, you're putting away the MAGA stuff, okay?

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    You're not wearing your little red ball cap to the dinner table.

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    Why would you want to offend them over something you don't need to offend them over?

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    It works the other way too, by the way.

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    If you're a Democrat and you have a Republican friend over, take down your Bernie Sanders banner.

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    By the way, it's 2026.

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    You've needed to take that down anyways.

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    And I think one of the biggest places where we're so quick to offend people is in social media.

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    Look, if you're one of these social media people, yes, post your Bible verses, sure.

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    Post your excerpts from the devotional.

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    But can I tell you this just lovingly?

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    Stop posting all the political garbage, because you know what you're doing?

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    You're losing half your audience.

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    And someday you're going to want to tell them about the gospel.

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    Someday you're going to have an opportunity, and they're not going to want to hear it because they know that you're on the other side of the political aisle, and we know that automatically makes you a demon.

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    Either way, all things to all people.

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    Not compromising the gospel.

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    We have to be clear about that.

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    Not compromising the gospel.

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    Church, this is a call for discernment.

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    You have to discern what is optional and what is not.

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    Some things are not optional, right?

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    Some things are not optional, like the truth, like Jesus, like the gospel, like God's command to repent, God's command to believe, not optional.

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    Truth is not optional.

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    You know what else is not optional?

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    walk." Meaning, in no way is Paul saying, he made this very clear, that you should sin to fit in. Right? You think, "Oh, I'm gonna win them. I'm gonna be just like them.

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    We're gonna get into the crude anatomy jokes so he'll know I'm one of the boys." No. No. Gossip. Well, they're all gossiping. I jump in the gossip with them. No.

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    Getting drunk. No. We're not compromising our walk. That's not optional. But there are some things that are optional. Like we've said, food, music played. Maybe you know they have a big issue with tattoos, and you go to tattoo, you wear long sleeves and cover it up, so you don't offend them.

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    Nothing at the expense of the gospel, nothing at the expense of being an ambassador of Christ, but if it's a gray area that might offend, I'll always seek to take the high road, because committed to winning people means committed to giving up your rights. So that's the first S and these are all alliterated. I get paid more when that happens. The second S is steward. What are the ingredients? What are the ingredients of somebody that's committed to people with the gospel? The second one is steward. Do you see yourself as entrusted with the gospel? Do you see yourself as entrusted with the gospel. Look at verse 17 again. The very last phrase, he says, "I am still entrusted with a stewardship." God is trusting you to give this out. He's trusting you. You got a Bible on your lap? He's trusting you with that, to give it out. You're entrusted. Like, "Well, yeah, that's good for Paul. I mean, he obviously was. What about the rest of us? He ropes us all in." Look at 2 Corinthians 5.19. Look, that is, "In Christ, God was reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, thanks to Jesus.

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    Look at this last phrase, "and entrusting to us, us, the message of reconciliation." Do you realize how awesome that is?

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    That the God of the universe, your Creator and your Savior said, "Here, here, here is the message that's going to forgive sin.

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    Here is the message that's going to transform people.

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    Here is the message that's going to save people from hell.

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    Here it is.

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    Here it is.

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    And I'm giving it to you.

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    Do you know the gospel?

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    You know it?

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    If you do, that means that God's entrusting you to make sure that people hear it.

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    He's trusting you with it.

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    You know, last week, Bob Brown and Jesse Boggs went down to deliver some boxes that were packed.

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    Our small groups donated boxes for the needy that were given out through the ministry Vision Appalachia.

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    And to nobody's surprise, they packed way more boxes than our target goal, right?

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    How many boxes were sent, Bob?

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    250.

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    How many were asked, like, we were shooting for like 25 or something from this church, right?

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    And didn't we get like, we got 30.

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    All right.

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    Nobody's shocked, Bob.

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    Nobody's shocked.

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    Again, you guys are so generous.

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    But Bob and Jesse took the boxes down.

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    Let me ask you, they had the U-Haul trailer right out here.

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    Bob, want you another van we had out here?" With all these boxes with the donations for Vision Appalachia, let me ask you this.

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    Did Bob and Jesse have a choice in what happened with those boxes?

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    Did they have a choice what would happen with them?

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    No.

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    No.

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    Not convinced of that?

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    Okay.

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    What if Bob would have drove that U-Haul back to his house and him and Jesse threw the mother of all block parties with those supplies.

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    Would you have been like, "Good for you, Bob.

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    Live it up." Is that what you would have said?

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    You would have been like, "What are you doing?

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    That was given to you to give to them.

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    What are you doing?" We trusted that stuff to them, and they are faithful stewards.

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    They got it where it needed to go.

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    principle here, church.

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    God is trusting you with His message.

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    You don't have a choice.

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    Like, I don't really feel like a steward.

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    You are a steward.

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    God did not give you the option to keep it to yourself.

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    He didn't give you that option.

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    And somehow we get saved and down the road we forget and we get all self-focused and all we care about is our walk with Christ.

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    I'm going to tell you, it's so convicting to me, you know, you plant a church because you want to win lost people for Christ.

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    You want to win lost people, and then you get down the road, you know what we end up doing?

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    We end up swapping complaining sheep with other churches.

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    That's what we end up doing.

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    The guy complaining about his last church is now here, and the person leaving this church complaining about this one is going there, and we call that doing gospel ministry.

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    You know, we're talking about putting up this new building, an opportunity to win more people to Christ, but are we winning people to Christ here and now?

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    If we're not passionate for the gospel and reaching lost people here and now, what makes us think that we're going to get this new building and all of a sudden we're going to be magically converted into evangelists.

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    Committed to winning people means you've got to see yourself as entrusted with the gospel.

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    You're a steward.

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    The third S, number three, is shareer.

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    a word. You know how I know it's a word? Is my computer didn't give me a red squiggly line underneath it when I typed it. And in my world, that's a word. Share.

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    Do you know the joy of sharing the blessings of the gospel? Look, there is there is nothing more exciting than leading someone to Christ. Have you ever done that? If you have, you know, right? If you have, you know. There is nothing more exciting than that, seeing them baptized and knowing that God used you to reach somebody for eternity. There is nothing in the world greater than that.

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    Look at verse 23 again. This is the verse, "I do it all for the sake of the gospel," look, "that I may share with them in its pleasures," in its blessings, excuse me, "share with them and its blessings.

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    Think of everything you've experienced as a follower of Jesus.

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    Everything you experienced, think of it.

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    If you're a Christian, you get it.

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    You know the forgiveness of sin.

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    God will never hold your sins against you.

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    You know the joy that comes, the peace that you have no matter how horrible things get, The comfort God gives you in the tragedies of life, the fellowship of the church, oh and the hope of heaven that our best days are ahead of us.

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    Everything you experience as a Christian, to go to somebody that doesn't have that and say you can have all of that too.

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    Sharing the blessings, that should be a natural inclination, you know?

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    You know?

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    It's like, imagine this scenario.

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    Imagine Erin and I are at a restaurant and we order different dishes, something neither of us have ever had before, but we got different things.

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    And I take a bite and I'm like, this is the best thing I've ever tasted.

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    I gotta be sure.

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    And I take another bite.

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    I'm like, yeah, verified.

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    This is the best thing I've ever tasted in my life.

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    What's the next part of that story?

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    Oh, oh, Erin goes, "Can I try it?" I'm like, "No, eat your own." That's not how the story goes, is it?

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    That's not how it goes.

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    The story goes like this.

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    This is the best thing I ever had in my life.

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    Erin, you have got to try this.

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    You have got to try this.

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    And she's like, "I don't want to try it." You're trying it.

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    That's actually happened, hasn't it?

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    Both ways.

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    I'm like, she's like, this is so, I don't wanna try that.

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    Erin's like, you know, next thing you know, she's like, the fork can go in your mouth or in your forehead, pick one.

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    You gotta try this.

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    See, when you have something, when you experience something so glorious, so beautiful, there's something in you that wants to share that.

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    God put that in us.

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    That's how it is with the gospel, by the way, to that lost person.

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    Like, bro, you have got to get in on this.

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    You have got to get in on all of the blessings that comes in the gospel, knowing Jesus, the fellowship of the church, serving Him locally and in international missions, worshiping Him together, oh, and heaven, we'll get to share that one for all of eternity.

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    One of your greatest joys in life should be winning people to Jesus and sharing in the blessings of knowing Him.

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    Because committed to winning people means sharing in the blessings of the gospel.

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    Our worship team would make their way back up front.

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    Next week, our Easter series begins.

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    I don't really like the word Easter.

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    It doesn't mean anything to me.

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    I call it Resurrection Day, but you know what I mean.

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    Our Easter series begins next week, and it's a season where talking about Jesus and inviting someone to church is going to be much more natural. God is entrusting you to share the blessings of the gospel. Will you do whatever it takes to win someone? Let's pray.

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    Father in heaven, I confess before you in front of my brothers and sisters here that this passage tears me up because we look at the life of Paul and we look at the life of like Barnabas today, we look at people like that and we see Father Such passion to win lost people and we look inwardly and don't see that in ourselves sometimes, a lot of times. Father we come to you because you're the God who changes us, you're the God who transforms us, and I pray Father, I just pray simply this, that you would stir in the hearts of all of your people here to have the same mindset of Paul, an attitude of sacrifice, an attitude of being a steward, and the joy that comes in sharing the blessings of Christ.

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    Stir that spirit in us, Father, so that evangelism isn't some mechanical, obligatory thing that we think we have to do, but it's just so natural for us to to share the glorious gospel of Jesus Christ.

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    It's in his name that we pray, amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 9:15-23

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. How would you respond to someone who says, “I don't really share the Gospel with anyone. I don't know what to say.”?

  3. Reread 1 Cor 9:17. What does Paul mean that he was “entrusted with a stewardship.”? Is that true of all Christians? See 2 Corinthians 5:19.

  4. What are the “blessings to be shared” when you win someone to Christ (1 Cor 9:23)?

Breakout

When was the last time you shared the Gospel with someone or invited them to church? What happened? 

Who has God put on your heart to win with the Gospel? What are you doing about it?

Pray for one another.

Should Pastors Be Paid?

Introduction:

5 Reasons Pastors Should Be Paid: (1 Corinthians 9:1-14)

  1. It's COMMON Sense. (1 Cor 9:7)

  2. It's a CONCERN in the Law. (1 Cor 9:8-11)

    1 Timothy 5:17-18 - Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching. For the Scripture says, “You shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain,” and, “The laborer deserves his wages.”

  3. It's CLAIMED By Others. (1 Cor 9:12)

  4. It's a CUSTOM from the Old Testament. (1 Cor 9:13)

  5. It's COMMANDED By Jesus. (1 Cor 9:14)

    Luke 10:7for the laborer deserves his wages.

    Matthew 10:10 - the laborer deserves his food.

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    Open up those Bibles to 1 Corinthians 9.

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    The title of today's message is, "Should Pastors Be Paid?" Yeah.

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    I'd like to invite the worship team to come back up as we close.

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    If you want to worship through giving, the offering.

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    You're like, "You better earn that pay." Fair, fair.

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    You know, I was associate pastor for 11 years.

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    And one of the things that I did was run the Wednesday night program.

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    It was pioneer clubs like Awana's.

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    But I'll never forget one girl who was lifelong member of the church from forever.

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    She the one little girl came up.

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    She goes, "Pastor Jeff, where do you work?" And I'm not gonna say her name 'cause she's an adult now and might be watching this, but I said, "Well, you know where I work.

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    "I'm one of the pastors here at the church." She just rolled her eyes.

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    She goes, "I know that, but I mean, where do you work?

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    "Like, what's your job?

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    "Like, what do you do to get paid?" I'm like, "You know, just when you start "to feel pretty good about yourself." Along comes some kid to bring you right back down to earth, right?

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    Where do you work?

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    Many people hold that opinion, right?

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    I mean, being a pastor isn't really work.

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    You know, my favorite, you only work for one hour a week.

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    And you know what?

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    I've heard that so many times.

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    I'm quick to correct people on that.

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    I'm like, "No.

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    I don't work the whole hour.

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    My part's only like 35 minutes.

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    I work 35 minutes a week." So should pastors be paid?

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    When you bring it up, people get weird.

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    People get weird.

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    Everybody's evaluating the pastor's car.

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    Everybody's evaluating the pastor's house.

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    Everybody's evaluating the pastor's clothes.

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    How much is he making?

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    You know nobody does that for other professions, right?

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    Like for example, if somebody here is a nurse and you pull up to church driving a Boxter, what are people gonna say?

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    "Good for her, good for her.

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    Wow, I am so happy for her.

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    If I drove up driving a Porsche, what are people gonna say?

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    How much is he making?

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    I've heard a lot of things over the years, statements people have made, their little evaluations on how pastors should be paid.

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    I just want to share a couple with you.

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    Just this is, these amuse me.

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    But one person told me this regarding how a pastor should be paid.

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    He said, "A pastor shouldn't make more "than the lowest paid congregant." So we should find out who in the church makes the least and that should determine the pastor's salary.

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    Because after all, the pastor shouldn't make more than anybody else in the church.

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    I had one guy tell me this.

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    He goes, "I have a real problem "with preachers getting paid by the church." And I said, "What's the issue with that?" He goes, "Think about it this way.

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    "You teach tithing, right?

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    "10%." I'm like, "I'm following you." He goes, "Okay, so if 10 people give 10%, "now automatically the pastor's making "more than everybody in the church." And I'm like, you're gonna have to back up here 'cause you lost me somewhere on that math.

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    I mean, does that math work out?

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    Should pastors be paid?

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    Awkward.

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    Right, it's an awkward subject.

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    Can we just get that under, it's an awkward subject to stand up and preach about.

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    You're like, well then why are you?

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    Because we're going through the book of 1 Corinthians and guess what the subject is of this next section that we are going in?

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    "Should pastors be paid?" Yeah, it's going to be awkward to talk about, but you don't be more awkward than that, skipping it.

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    Right?

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    Because didn't God put it in His Word for a reason?

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    And we don't skip anything here.

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    So we're going after it.

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    We're just going to go after it.

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    Should pastors be paid?

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    The Bible is clear, yes.

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    But some ministers, you know, they live lavishly, and they demand that the church pay for the their extravagant lifestyle, and that is wrong.

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    But we can't just disregard what the Bible says just because some people have abused the privilege.

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    This section here, we're in 1 Corinthians, it's about liberty.

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    You're like, "Well, what is liberty?" It's this, you know, to be saved means that you have to turn from your sin and receive Jesus Christ.

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    And when you receive Him, you believe that Jesus died for your sin, when you believe that Jesus resurrected from the dead, when you believe that, the Bible says you are adopted as a child of God.

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    And nothing can change that.

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    Nothing can separate you from the love of God in Jesus Christ.

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    Nothing.

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    When you are saved, you are saved as a gift of God's grace.

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    Nothing can change that.

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    So understand your salvation is not performance-based.

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    So that means there's nothing you can do.

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    If you're saved, there's nothing you can do that would disqualify you from being a child of God.

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    It's not performance-based.

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    So the extreme view of that is, well, if it's not performance-based, I'm free to do whatever I want.

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    And that's what we're looking at in this section.

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    Am I free to do whatever I want?

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    Their particular issue, we talked about this last week, was they were, some of the more mature Christians were eating meat that was sacrificed to idols, and they were like, "A burger's a burger." But it bothered some of the weaker Christians who came out of the pagan background and said, You don't want to touch meat that was used in pagan worship.

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    And Paul says, "Love says, 'I will give up my rights if it keeps a brother from stumbling.'" I'll give up my rights.

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    So understand here in this section that we're looking at today, Paul is saying, "Corinthians, I'm not asking you to do anything that I'm not willing to do.

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    Paul is saying here in this section we're looking at, I am laying down a freedom that I have.

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    I have the freedom to get paid by the church.

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    And Paul says, I laid that freedom down.

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    We're going to talk more about that part of it next week, but why would Paul lay that freedom down?

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    He knew it would bring offense.

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    You see, he knew that there were going to be some people that thought, "Oh, look at this guy.

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    There's this new religion and he's using it to cash in.

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    He's using it just to make money.

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    He's trying to rip you off." So Paul got a job making tents.

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    So he's like, "I'm not going to be a financial burden to anybody because I don't want anybody to think that I have an ulterior motive in preaching the gospel." So chapter 9, the section we're looking at today illustrates this whole giving up my liberty issue. I have the freedom to not use my freedom.

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    All right, let's bow. I'm going to ask you to pray for me to be faithful to communicate God's Word, and I will pray for you to have a heart open to receive it, and then we'll go right after it. Let's just take a moment and pray.

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    by your name and your word, Father.

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    We ask you in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior forever.

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    And all of God's people said, amen.

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    All right, so the Corinthians are like, hey, we are free in Christ to do what we want.

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    Look at chapter nine, verse one.

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    Paul says, am I not free?

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    Am I not an apostle?

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    Paul's like, "I'm free.

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    "I'm free to, you know about your freedom?

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    "I'm free too." And Paul says, "By the way, I'm not just a pew sitter." Okay, he's like, "I'm an apostle." And as always, when the issue comes up, you're going to have a group of people that were like, "Are you, Paul?

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    "Are you really an apostle?

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    "Are you really?" Oh, look at what he says.

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    "Have I not seen Jesus our Lord?

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    "Are not you my workmanship in the Lord?" Paul was always defending himself.

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    And right here he goes, "Yeah, I am an apostle.

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    "I'll give you two proofs.

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    "One is the big one.

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    "To be an apostle, you had to have seen "the resurrected Jesus Christ." And Paul's like, "I've seen him." Like, did Paul see Jesus?

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    Yeah, at least three times.

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    Oh, by the way, one of those times was actually in Corinth.

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    What's that, Acts chapter 18?

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    Paul says, "I have another proof." He goes, "You want another proof of my apostleship?" He goes, "You, you are my proof." What do you mean by that?

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    Look at verses two and three.

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    He says, "If to others I am not an apostle, "at least I am to you, "for you are the seal of my apostleship in the Lord.

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    "This is my defense to those who would examine me." Paul says, "Some might not believe that I'm apostle, but you cannot deny the way that the Lord has worked through me to you." He says, "You're my seal." See, in those days, if somebody wanted to authenticate a letter, they would put a wax seal with the signet ring.

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    That was to say, "This is genuine.

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    This is real." Paul goes, "You want to know that I'm real?

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    Do you want to know that I'm authentic?" He goes, "You're my proof, because God has ministered the gospel through me to you." These are the evidences that I'm an apostle.

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    So, verse 4, do we not have the right to eat and drink?

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    That's obviously sarcasm.

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    I was like, "Yeah, I'm an apostle and God has used me, so I'm not allowed to eat?" Is that what you're saying?

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    I've been faithful to your souls, I've been faithful to the Lord, but I don't get to eat?

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    He's saying, "I don't get to… are you saying that I don't get to earn a living from the work that I do in the Lord?" Look at verse 5.

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    He says, "Do we not have the right to take along a believing wife, as do the other apostles and the brothers of the Lord and Cephas?

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    Or is it only Barnabas and I who have no right to refrain from working for a living?

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    Paul's like, "Other ministers are supported." So much so that other ministers actually take their wives along with them.

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    So you support them.

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    What about me?

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    Do I have the right to be supported by the church?

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    See what Paul's doing here.

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    in this little introduction, he's setting this all up.

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    He goes, "This freedom that I am laying down, is it actually a freedom that I have?" As we look at verses 7-14, Paul here is establishing that this is a right.

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    This is legitimate.

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    Ministers have the right to be supported by the church.

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    He's proving that in this section.

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    And in Paul's day, as in ours, there are people that are going to doubt the premise.

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    Like, really, should ministers be paid?

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    Really?

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    Not sure about that.

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    Should they, is it really work?

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    35 minutes, rather, 35 minutes a week, is that really work?

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    Should we be paying you for that?

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    Well, Paul gives five reasons why you should pay the pastor.

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    All right?

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    "Jot these down.

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    By the way, you're paying me overtime this week 'cause I spent some extra time making sure these were alliterated.

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    I don't always do that, but when I do, I charge extra.

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    And I charge by the word, that's why the sermons are so long." So five reasons a pastor should be paid.

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    Number one, I love this.

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    He just knocks this one right out.

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    It's common sense.

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    It's common sense.

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    Look at verse 7.

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    Paul says, "Who serves as a soldier at his own expense?

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    Who plants a vineyard without eating any of its fruit?

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    Or who tends a flock without getting some of the milk?" Obvious point, right?

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    A man earns his living by his work.

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    And he gives three examples.

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    A soldier, a farmer, and a shepherd.

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    Imagine as Paul calls us to here, imagine doing those jobs at your own expense.

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    Imagine that.

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    That's ludicrous, right?

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    Like what do you do?

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    I work at Target.

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    Why do you work at Target?

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    "Well, just trying to pay the bills so in my free time I can be in the army." Like what?

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    Paul's like, "Who does that?

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    That's called a hobby if you're doing it without being compensated.

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    Their families are fed from the work that they do." So it should be true for pastors.

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    It's common sense.

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    should earn from the work that they do.

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    And I have to add, church, that this is also extremely practical when you think about it.

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    The church benefits from a focused pastor.

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    You're going to get your best work from the pastor if he's not distracted.

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    I mean, think about it.

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    If the pastor has to provide for his family by working another job, how much gas is left tank to be a pastor. And you're like, "Eh, doesn't look that hard." Well, I want you to think about your job, whatever you do. You're nine to five, whether you work in a bank, work in HVAC, community, you know, some kind of like social service function, think Think of what you do.

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    When your shift ends, do you feel like you would be able to effectively pastor a church on top of that?

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    Again, I don't care if you're with the police, a computer programmer.

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    Imagine working all day doing that, and then you get home and now you've got to write a sermon.

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    Oh, and you have two counseling appointments.

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    And make sure you squeeze time in.

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    you've got to follow up with these new people at church, oh, and then you have a ministry team meeting on top of that.

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    Are you really going to do all of that on top of your nine to five?

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    It's common sense.

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    You see, if a pastor has to work another job, it's easy for him to phone it in when it comes to the church work, right?

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    Well, I've got to work at Target so that I can pay my bills.

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    the church stuff is just going to have to wait.

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    I sure hope they're not expecting a decent sermon this week.

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    It's just common sense.

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    People should get wages.

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    People should benefit from their workplace.

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    That's where he starts.

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    It's common sense.

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    Number two, five reasons pastors should be paid.

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    Five reasons Paul says this is a right for pastors to be paid.

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    Number two is it's a concern in the law.

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    It's a concern in the law.

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    Like, what do you mean?

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    Well, look at verse eight.

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    Paul says, "Do I say these things on human authority?" Like, you think I'm making this up?

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    He says, "Does not the law say the same?

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    "For it is written in the law of Moses, "you shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain." That's Deuteronomy 25 verse 4.

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    Like, what do you mean an ox treading out the grain?

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    It was actually an Egyptian trick that Israel adopted.

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    They would tie a big round flat stone to an ox, and they would have the ox drag the stone over the wheat to crush it to remove the husk.

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    Okay, so you have this ox helping you prepare food, doing this hard work of dragging a stone.

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    Now how cruel would it be to put a muzzle on the ox while he's doing that?

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    Like you have to drag the stone, but you're not allowed to eat.

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    Oh, you're going to stand on top of food all day, but you're not allowed to take a bite.

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    That's inhumane.

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    That's the point.

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    Look at verse 9, second part.

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    He says, "Is it for oxen that God is concerned?" Does He not speak entirely for our sake?

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    It was written for our sake, because the plowman should plow in hope, and the thresher thresh in hope of sharing in the crop." See Paul's point, you know, the whole don't muzzle an ox while it's treading out the grain.

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    Paul's like, "You think God's concerned about the ox?" Look, I don't think God has anything against ox, oxen, oxes, oxen, oxen.

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    Thank you, Randy.

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    Oxen.

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    I don't think God's against oxen.

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    He created them.

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    I think God loves oxen.

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    Paul's like, "Do you think he wrote that in the law for the oxen who are going to be reading the law?" Like, "Hey, wait a second.

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    You're not supposed to muzzle me while I'm working." I think he didn't write that for the oxen.

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    But don't do it now.

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    You can do it later.

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    You get some time, turn back to that reference in Deuteronomy.

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    And you're going to see that section of Deuteronomy has nothing to do with animals.

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    Nothing to do with how to treat the livestock.

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    It has nothing to do with that.

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    It has everything to do with people.

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    And how you treat people.

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    You see, it's a figure of speech.

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    We use animals in figures of speech all the time, don't we?

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    Don't look a gift horse in the mouth, two birds with one stone, all of that.

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    It was a figure of speech.

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    And Paul reminds us here, look, when God wrote that through Moses, He wasn't really concerned about the oxen, He was concerned about man.

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    And the point of that expression is the worker deserves to benefit from his work, obviously, right?

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    Luke 11, he says, "If we have sown spiritual things among you, is it too much if we reap material things from you?" Sown spiritual things.

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    That's all I'm trying to do for this church.

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    There are many people in this church that I have led to Christ.

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    There's many people in this church that I've not only taught the Bible, but I've taught how to teach the Bible.

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    There are people in this church that I have counseled out of disaster, comforted you and your family at funerals.

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    I married a lot of people here.

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    I've come along leaders to try to encourage them in their particular ministries.

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    None of this is meant to be boastful or "Hey, look at me." I'm just saying objectively, this is what I'm striving to do among you.

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    So is it out of line to support me in doing those things?

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    Am I asking too much?

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    Or do you see no value in anything that I do?

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    Now look, I am so thankful.

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    This church has always supported me and my family.

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    And I am so thankful to God for you and your support.

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    It would absolutely grieve me though if you thought that I wasn't worth it.

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    Like, yeah, we'll support him, but I mean, does he really bring something to the table?

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    Some churches, well, they do justify no pay or meager pay for the pastors.

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    Some churches justify that.

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    You can't pay the pastor very much.

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    Why?

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    Gotta keep 'em humble, right Pastor Taylor?

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    Gotta keep 'em humble.

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    Pastor Taylor gets paid two Kit Kats a week, that's all he gets from the church.

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    Because we're gonna keep 'em humble.

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    We don't want 'em to get swollen head.

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    So we gotta keep 'em humble.

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    Listen, that is an unbiblical mindset, completely backwards to what the Bible says about the way you treat your pastor.

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    Right?

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    1 Timothy 5, look what Paul told Timothy.

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    He says, "Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching." You know what he means by double honor?

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    He doesn't mean like, thank you, thank you.

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    Great job, great job.

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    That's not what he means at all.

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    You look at the context, he's talking about pay.

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    He's saying you should double my pay.

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    You get the point there, right?

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    Not keep them humble.

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    He's like, those who preach the word of God deserve double honor.

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    He says, for the scripture says, you shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain.

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    and the laborer deserves his wages.

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    And right now some Bible scholar is like, oh, okay, don't muzzle the ox.

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    Okay, Pastor Jeff, that's Old Testament.

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    We don't live under the Old Testament.

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    Well, we abide under the principles of the law, especially when they're repeated in the New Testament.

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    All right?

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    The five reasons pastors should be paid.

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    Paul says it's common sense.

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    It's a concern in the law.

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    Number three, write this down, it's claimed by others.

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    It's claimed by others.

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    Verse 12, he says, "If others share this rightful claim on you, do not we even more?" Paul's like, "Oh, by the way, it's not weird or unusual.

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    In fact, there's precedent for it.

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    Right?

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    Many of you do support others.

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    And you should, but there's many people here that you're like, I support certain missionaries or I support world vision, or I support Samaritan's Purse.

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    I support all these people.

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    And Paul here is just simply saying, hey, what about the shepherd who has devoted his life to caring for you?

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    What about that guy?

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    Should he be paid?

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    Should he be supported?

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    And my whole life revolves around caring for you, praying for you, discipling you.

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    And some people are like, "Well, you know, I listen to such and such preacher on the Facebooks or the YouTubes or whatever.

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    I listen to Jack Hibbs, so my tithe goes to Jack Hibbs." Okay.

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    But when you need counseling, do you think Jack Hibbs is going to come and counsel you?

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    You know, if you have a tragedy, do you think Jack Hibbs is going to be at your house to pray for you, pray with you?

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    Does Jack Hibbs even know who you are?

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    That's Paul's point here.

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    Paul's like, "Others share the rightful claim.

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    "You support others." Paul's like, "How can you not support the one who loves you?" He goes on in verse 12, he goes, "Nevertheless, we have not made use of this right, "but we endure anything rather than put an obstacle "in the way of the gospel of Christ." That's the whole point of broaching the subject.

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    We have the freedom to get paid, but Paul says, "I laid that freedom down." Just as I'm telling you to do about eating the meat sacrifice to the idols, it's okay.

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    It's okay to lay your freedom down sometimes.

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    We're going to get into that more next week.

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    This week though, he's giving us five reasons a preacher should be paid.

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    And here's number four, it's a custom from the Old Testament.

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    It's common sense, it's a concern in the law, it's claimed by others, and it's a custom from the Old Testament.

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    Look at verse 13.

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    He says, "Do you not know that those who are employed in the temple service get their food from the temple, and those who serve at the altar share in the sacrificial offerings.

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    Do a little study sometime, Old Testament law.

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    In the Old Testament, priests were supported for their work by their work.

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    All of the sacrifices that were given under Old Testament law realized the priest received a portion of what was offered in some way, shape, or form.

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    That's what Paul's talking about here.

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    And I was studying this this week, and I'm like, why did he sort of, he kind of said that in verse seven, right?

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    The same thing.

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    So why did he bring this up again?

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    And then it hit me.

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    Verse seven, he gave secular examples.

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    You know, the soldier, the farmer, the shepherd.

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    He gave secular examples.

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    And there are some in the church that would say, "Okay, Paul, you're using secular reasoning and you're trying to apply it to the spiritual realm." And I think what Paul's doing here is saying, "Look, yes, this principle, you should be supported for the work that you do, by your work." It's true in the secular world and it's true in the sacred world too.

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    So Paul's like, "Don't act like this is a new thing.

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    supporting the spiritual leaders, because it's a custom that goes way back to the Old Testament.

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    Number five, five reasons pastors should be paid.

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    It's common sense, it's a concern in the law, it's claimed by others, it's a custom from the Old Testament.

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    Last and probably most important, I would say, I think that's why it's last, it's commanded by Jesus.

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    It's commanded by Jesus.

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    Look at verse 14, "In the same way, the Lord commanded that those who proclaim the gospel should get their living by the gospel." Wait a minute, when did Jesus say that?

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    Well, He said that a couple of times.

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    In Luke chapter 10, Jesus was sending out the 72 and He was talking about, you can look this up later, the people that believe you should be the ones that feed you.

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    So Jesus in sending them out said, "For the laborer deserves his wages." What's the context of that?

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    And again in Matthew 10, verse 10, Jesus was sending out the twelve, and He says, "The people that believe you should be the people who support you." And that's why He said, "The laborer deserves his food." In both cases, Jesus was saying those who preach the gospel must be supported by those who believe the gospel.

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    In other words, believers, we could say church members, should financially support their leaders.

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    If you're a guest here today, I want you to understand you're under no obligation to give.

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    Don't feel guilty or like, "Well, I probably should." If you're a guest, be our guest.

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    There's zero obligation.

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    is something that we are to share as a church family.

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    All right?

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    But nevertheless, the Lord commanded it.

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    Those who proclaim the gospel should get their living by the gospel.

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    So Paul, in this whole section, is saying as a minister of the gospel, I have every right to expect you to support me, but I laid that right down.

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    I thought it might be an obstacle to the work, so because I love you, I didn't take financial support from you." Paul's like, "I'm trying to show you something, that when you love, you're willing to lay down your rights.

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    When you love, you're willing to lay down your freedoms." Paul is just simply saying, as we'll see next week, "Follow my example." Right now you're like, "Okay, pay the pastor, fine." Well my hope is not that you reluctantly get on board with giving, but I want you to see the bigger picture of why you give.

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    Yes, giving primarily is an act of worship.

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    We've had a whole sermon series about that.

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    Giving is an act of worship.

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    But also I want you to think about the tangible effects of giving.

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    When you give, my family is supported.

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    And that frees me from trying to do ministry on top of a nine to five job.

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    It lets me stay focused on caring for you.

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    Understand that when you give, look at the big picture, you're freeing me up so that I can care for everybody in this church to the best of my ability.

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    Everyone benefits.

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    When you give, other staff are paid.

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    That allows us to worship in excellent music.

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    It helps us disciple your children and young adults to minister on a personal level through the oversight of our entire small group ministry and so many more things that are able to happen that couldn't happen if you weren't financially supporting the leadership of the church.

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    Oh, oh, oh, and when you give, understand that you're supporting a whole network of ministers in Thailand.

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    Do you know in northern Thailand and beyond, we have 23 churches, we have four children's homes, we have a Bible institute, and do you know how many people stateside support them?

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    Just this church.

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    You, when you give, you are allowing the work of evangelism happen all over that area of the world through our network of churches.

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    Disciples are made all over Northern Thailand and beyond.

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    When you give, that is your way of actively partnering with me in advancing the kingdom of Jesus Christ.

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    I'd like you to bow your heads as the worship team makes their way up.

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    Father in heaven, it felt awkward to have to give a message like this, but God, it's your word.

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    We don't skip anything.

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    We just want to go after what you said.

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    Father, I thank you for the way that this church has always sought to support me and my family.

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    Financially sure, but so many other ways this church has sought to bless and protect my family.

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    God, I thank you so much for these people.

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    This is from you, God, and I thank you for that.

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    I just pray, Father, that looking at a passage like this, you would give us sort of a bigger picture of the way your economy works and why you have called us to certain things that you've called us to.

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    God, we believe that all things are yours, and we believe, God, that you have called us to be faithful stewards with everything that you give us.

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    We thank you for the privilege and all the ways that you've called us to partner with you in the work of the ministry.

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    Thank You, Father, for the spirit of generosity that You have stirred among Your people here.

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    And as King David prayed in preparation for the temple, might that spirit always be found in Your people.

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    We pray in Jesus' name, amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 9:1-14

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Explain why Paul broaches the subject of paying the pastor in the first place. What does that have to do with their question about Christian liberty?

  3. What are some practical benefits that come when a pastor doesn't have to work outside the church?

  4. How would you respond to someone who says, “Pastors should have a job like everyone else! It's not fair that the pastor has money when some people in the congregation are struggling financially.”

Breakout

Pray for one another.

Am I Free to Do Whatever I Want?

Introduction:

Three Valid Reasons for Liberty (that Don't Work When You Have a Weaker Brother). (1 Corinthians 8:1-13)

  1. I Have KNOWLEDGE. (1 Cor 8:1-3)

    Philippians 1:9And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment

  2. I Have WISDOM. (1 Cor 8:4-7)

  3. I Have GOOD THEOLOGY. (1 Cor 8:8-13)

    Matthew 18:6 - whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.

    Matthew 25:40 - Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.

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  • 00:36-00:39

    Open up those Bibles to 1 Corinthians 8.

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    Oh, that sweet, sweet, quiet lull of early service on Daylight Saving Sunday.

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    So tranquil.

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    Let's kick that up, shall we?

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    Let's have a fight.

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    Amen, somebody came ready to rumble.

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    Not like a fist fight.

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    Let's just have a good old fashioned argument.

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    All right, that'll get the blood boiling.

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    All in favor of having an argument?

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    Some of you.

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    (congregation laughing)

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    Little too eager.

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    All right, here we go.

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    Is a hot dog a sandwich?

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    Oh, did you hear that Pastor Taylor?

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    Apparently we struck a nerve.

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    Show of hands, how many people say that a hot dog is a sandwich?

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    Okay.

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    Some of you, okay, how many people insist that it's not?

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    Whoa.

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    Whoa, you might wanna pump the brakes on that.

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    I mean, what, it's like meat and condiments in bread, right?

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    Isn't that the very definition of a sandwich?

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    And you're like, well, but it's shaped different.

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    Well, I'm shaped different.

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    Does that mean I'm not a human?

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    Like, come on, what's that?

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    Some of you are a little too emotional about that.

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    It's silly though, right?

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    We're not really going to fight about that.

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    But when we get to this next section in 1 Corinthians, believe it or not, and you will, it was a food controversy.

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    That's what's going on.

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    They had a food controversy, but it wasn't about hot dogs.

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    It was about something that was much bigger problem for the church.

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    All right, let's just stop for a minute.

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    This is a challenging text, but we are going to get through it together.

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    I'm gonna ask you to pray for me, and I will pray for you.

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    Let's see what the Lord has to teach us today in His Word.

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    All right, let's just take a moment and pray.

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    Father, fire us up to receive your Word.

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    We don't wanna go into a lull because we lost an hour of sleep or whatever.

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    God, this is your Word, and we should be excited to see what it is that you have told us in your Word.

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    and we should be looking to see how we can reflect the truth of your word in our lives.

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    So God, give us the faith to really believe what you said to the point that it takes root, to the point that it's manifest in our hearts, in our minds, in our attitudes, and ultimately in our conduct.

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    We pray all of this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, and all of God's people said, Amen, amen.

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    In this section in 1 Corinthians, it's kind of like a big Q&A session, right?

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    And look at chapter eight, verse one.

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    Do you see the first two words in your Bible?

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    He says, in this chapter, he says, "Now concerning." We talked about that, right?

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    It seems to be like, okay, next subject, right?

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    That's his clue that we're moving on to a new subject.

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    And the next topic that again is going to span next three chapters is Christian liberty. Just in case we didn't offend anybody with the last part of it, let's talk about liberty, shall we? Am I free to do whatever I want? I'm free in Christ! I can do whatever I want to do, right? Right?

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    Right?

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    Right?

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    Oh, legalism versus liberty.

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    It's the issue literally as old as the church herself.

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    Legalism.

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    That's one side.

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    Legalism.

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    The people that are legalists say to be accepted by God, here's some things you can't do.

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    Here's your list of things that you cannot do.

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    And if you keep the list, you're accepted by God.

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    That's the legalist likes the rules.

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    But on the other hand, you have the liberty people.

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    The liberty people say, "Hey, I'm saved by grace.

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    My performance doesn't matter.

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    Nothing can change the fact that I'm saved by grace and I can do whatever I want to do.

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    Nothing will separate me from the love of Christ.

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    I am free to do whatever I want to do." Well their particular liberty issue that became a problem for the church is what Paul is addressing in chapter 8, 9, and through 10.

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    Here's their issue.

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    Look again, chapter 8, verse 1.

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    He said, "Now concerning food offered to idols." That's meat that was sacrificed to a pagan God.

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    Like what in the world is going on here?

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    Understand in the Greek culture, they had gods for everything.

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    It was part of every aspect of life.

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    There was a God for literally everything.

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    And when a pagan worshiper would offer a sacrifice to a God, that sacrifice was divided into three parts.

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    Part was burned for the pagan God, part went home with the worshiper, but then the third part went with the priest.

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    The pagan priest, right?

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    How much pot roast can you eat?

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    Okay, so you can imagine, these priests, they had an abundance.

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    So they would take the extra down and sell it at the market.

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    There was other pagan meat at the market as well, because in the Greek culture, they believed that an evil spirit could enter you through what you ate.

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    So they believed that an evil spirit could get in the meat.

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    And when you ate the meat, now you had the evil spirit inside you.

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    So they would sacrifice to a God who would make sure that there were no evil spirits in the meat.

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    And on top of that, because it was such a pagan culture, the temple was sort of the community center, meaning weddings and parties were commonly held at the temple.

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    You're gonna see that come up here in this text.

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    And here's the point, my friends, Almost all the meat in this culture was used for pagan worship somehow.

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    Almost all of it.

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    So maybe you begin to see the problem.

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    For the church, for the Christians, for the Jesus followers, there was division.

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    For some, they were like, "Should we eat the pagan meat?" Absolutely not.

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    I'm not touching that.

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    They use that meat in pagan worship.

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    I'm not touching that with a 10 foot pole.

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    No way am I touching that.

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    And then there were more mature believers that were like, a hamburger is a hamburger, bro.

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    The boogeyman doesn't live in the hamburger.

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    Just eat it.

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    Come on.

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    Can you see why that would be a problem in the church?

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    People saying, "Eat the meat." People saying, "Absolutely, you shouldn't go near it." So in chapter eight here, and we're gonna be looking at the whole chapter, Paul is addressing the mature Christians who insisted on their liberty.

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    These mature Christians who said, "Hey, it bothers some of the weaker Christians that we eat the meat, but look, I'm free in Christ.

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    It's not haunted meat.

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    Am I not free to eat the meat if I want to eat the meat?

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    I'm gonna go way out on a limb here and guess that this probably isn't an issue for this church.

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    Right?

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    I don't imagine you've had to sit down at the table debate whether or not the boogeyman was in the steak, if you should eat it or not.

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    But you know there's always been issues of legalism and liberty in the church.

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    Always. Always. Okay so we're not arguing about the pagan meat, but I mean look at look at church history. We have this, even very recently, we are constantly At odds trying to figure out some things.

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    Issues of legalism versus liberty.

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    Like things like playing cards.

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    I know young people that might be hard to believe, but there was a time that that was a big issue in the church.

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    Should you be allowed to play cards?

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    Things like dancing, movies, hairstyle, dress.

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    Yes.

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    Things you can do on Sunday.

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    You can't go to a restaurant 'cause you're making people work.

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    You can't wash your car on Sunday.

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    That's considered work.

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    And you're breaking the Sabbath and there's so much wrong with that thinking.

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    But it's an issue.

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    It's an issue.

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    Things like yoga.

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    Last and certainly my favorite, Trick or treat.

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    I hate Halloween.

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    Not because you dress up like Spider-Man and get a Kit Kat.

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    I think that's kind of cool.

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    But just what it does in the church, because you have people that are like, it's fun, let's let them dress up and get candy and see the neighbors.

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    And then you have people that are like, it's demonic.

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    And like, I don't know what to do.

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    That's kind of the flavor of what we're getting here.

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    See, all these things are gray areas.

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    There's nothing explicit in the Bible that we can point to where the Bible says, do not do this, do not go trick or treating, do not dance.

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    Yet we can't find verses in the Bible that explicitly say.

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    So what do we do with these gray areas?

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    And the liberty person would say, I'm free to do whatever I want to do.

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    'Cause I'm free in Christ.

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    I'm free in Christ, man.

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    I can do whatever I want, right?

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    No.

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    No, not if doing one of these gray area things could cause a brother to sin.

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    So Paul addressing their issue with the meat gives us principles that apply for all times even until today. I want you to think about this scenario as we go through this passage because here's a real-life scenario that could happen to you where you need to apply these principles, this could happen to you this week. Just imagine the issue of alcohol. First of all, are you free to drink alcohol? Well, the Bible warns about drunkenness, but yes, the Bible does not say, "Thou shalt not ever touch alcohol." Okay? So yes, technically you are free, you are free to drink alcohol.

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    If you're of age and avoid drunkenness and all that, sure, sure, sure.

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    Okay, but imagine this scenario, a man who recently comes to harvest decides he wants to go to your small group.

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    But this man is coming out of an addicted background.

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    He had a really bad problem with alcohol, he went to rehab.

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    And this man ends up coming to know Christ.

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    He's born again.

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    He received Jesus as his Lord and Savior.

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    He's been transformed.

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    And now this man hates how alcohol has wrecked his life.

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    And this man sees alcohol a whole lot different than you or I might look at alcohol.

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    All right, so that guy says, "Pastor Taylor, I want to get involved in one of your small groups." And Pastor Taylor gets the guy coming to your small group.

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    And this week, you're having a barbecue at your small group because the weather is oh so great as it has been.

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    And as a small group leader, you're wondering, "Well, can I have beer at our small group barbecue?

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    Can I?

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    We have alcohol at a church event?" And you're like, "Okay, well this guy's coming and Pastor Taylor sort of told me this man's background and I know that if we have alcohol at our barbecue, it's going to bother that guy. I know that, but I'm free. I'm free to drink it. Why is his problem my problem? Should I still have it even though this guy's coming? I mean, I can have it, so let's just go ahead and have it and he can figure that out, right? Well, that was the Corinthian dilemma. Some mature believers were eating the meat regardless of how it affected the weaker believers.

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    And I'm glad you're sitting down because you're going to be shocked that this resulted in more disunity problems for Corinth.

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    Those people fought about everything.

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    And here's another issue.

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    So on your outline, listen very closely to this next sentence because you have to understand the angle at which Paul's going after them.

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    Paul, in 1 Corinthians 8, is going after the three reasons that the mature believers were using to justify eating the pagan meat.

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    It's okay for us to eat it, and here's why it's okay for us to eat it.

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    Paul goes after those reasons, and they're the same reasons we use today.

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    And interestingly enough, Paul agrees with them, but he shows them why their reasons for eating the meat, their reasons for liberty, do not apply in light of how it's going to affect a weaker believer.

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    All right?

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    That's why the heading on your outline, it's a big one.

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    Three valid reasons for liberty that don't work when you have a weaker brother.

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    All of these are legit reasons for liberty, but they do not work when you have a weaker brother.

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    Y'all with me?

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    I can start over.

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    It's a hot dog and sandwich.

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    Three valid reasons for liberty that do not work when you have a weaker brother.

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    Here's the first one, number one, write this down.

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    I have knowledge.

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    I have knowledge.

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    I know some stuff.

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    I know, okay.

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    Back to verse one.

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    "Now concerning food offered to idols, we know that all of us possess knowledge." Stop there.

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    You see, they were saying, Look, I know I can eat the meat sacrificed to the...

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    I can do that because I know, I know.

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    I know what the Bible says about food, okay?

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    And Peter had that vision, Acts 10, the sheath, everything's clean.

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    I know about that, I know, I know, I know.

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    And look, meat is meat, I know.

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    We do the same thing, by the way, with alcohol, right?

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    We know, we know some stuff.

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    Okay, small group leader thinking about having beer at your barbecue.

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    I know, I know, I know what the Bible says, okay?

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    And in fact, you know, back in biblical times, they didn't have refrigerators.

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    So their grape juice fermented, and it was really only like a 3% alcohol on some things.

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    And it was, but some of the drinks was only 1% alcohol.

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    And (mimics barking) Look, knowledge is great.

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    Actually, God's word exalts knowledge, knowing God's truth.

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    But here's the thing, knowledge isn't everything.

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    Okay?

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    Knowledge isn't everything because look at the rest of verse one.

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    He says, "This knowledge puffs up, but love builds up." Just having knowledge puffs up.

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    Knowledge makes people proud.

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    That's what he's saying.

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    Knowledge makes people proud.

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    Have you ever been around that guy?

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    You know that guy?

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    The actually guy?

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    You know that guy?

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    That's like actually.

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    You know, you've been around that guy?

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    If you are that guy, I hope you repent.

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    But you know that guy.

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    You're like, man, it was like 80 degrees today.

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    Actually, it was 77 degrees.

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    (sniffling)

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    You got me.

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    I'm a big fat liar.

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    Or you're like, strawberries are my favorite fruit.

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    Actually, a strawberry is not a fruit.

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    It is a member of the rose family.

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    Actually, a banana actually is a berry.

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    Actually.

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    Knowledge puffs up.

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    The guy that's just knowledge, obnoxious.

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    He says, "But love, love builds up." You see, knowledge is about me, but love is about you.

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    Love is about building you up.

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    And that's why you gotta have love with your knowledge.

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    That's Paul's point here.

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    Actually, he said the same thing, Philippians 1:9.

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    "And it is my prayer that your love may abound and more with knowledge. You see that? Love with knowledge and all discernment.

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    All your Bible knowledge does you no good if you aren't operating from a position of love.

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    So look at verse 2. He says, "If anyone imagines that he knows something, he does not yet know as he ought to know." Knowledge is a funny thing, isn't it?

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    You think you know something, and you don't.

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    The guy that's walking around thinking he's the expert and he knows everything, usually doesn't really know near as much as he thinks he knows.

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    You mature people, Paul says, you mature people insisting on your liberty.

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    You think you're so smart, but you don't know as much as you think you do.

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    because you're missing what the Christian life is all about and it is love. Biblical knowledge should move you to love. You're like, "Wait, wait, hang on.

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    How does that work? How does knowledge and love, how does that How does that work together exactly?

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    And Paul's like, "Like your relationship with God Himself." Look at verse 3.

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    He says, "But if anyone loves God, he is known by God." There it is.

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    Knowledge and love working together in your relationship with God.

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    Both of them have to be present.

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    So you can know about God without loving Him.

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    But you don't really know God without loving Him.

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    So what's he saying?

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    Here's the bottom line, alright?

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    Here's the CliffsNotes version of this chunk.

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    He says, "Your knowledge means nothing without love." That's what he's saying.

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    Your knowledge means nothing without love.

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    God doesn't care that you know stuff if you don't love your weaker brother.

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    That's the point.

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    So again, you're thinking about having beer at your small group barbecue.

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    Listen, and that guy's coming that's had the struggle in the past.

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    Look, that guy that's coming, he doesn't need your list of alcohol facts.

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    Okay?

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    What he needs is you to love him enough that you care more about him growing in Christ then you do you having your beer.

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    So if you're insisting on your liberty on the basis of, I know some Bible verses, you missed the big picture.

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    All right, I have knowledge.

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    Great, great.

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    Doesn't matter in the face of a weaker brother, you gotta love him.

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    I love 'em.

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    Number two, jot this one down.

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    I have wisdom.

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    I have wisdom.

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    There's a difference, right?

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    Knowledge, you know the facts.

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    Wisdom is like knowing how to apply the facts, knowing how knowledge works together.

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    Look at verses four through six with me.

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    He says, "Therefore, as to the eating of food offered to idols, we know that an idol has no real existence, and that there is no God but One.

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    For although there may be so-called gods in heaven or on earth, as indeed there are many gods and many lords. Yet for us, there is one God the Father, from whom are all things and for whom we exist, and one Lord Jesus Christ, through whom are all things and through whom we exist." Wow. I could do like a whole series just on like the end of verse 6 there.

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    That is such an awesome verse.

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    You should highlight that in your Bible.

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    That's the gospel right there in verse 6.

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    This is the gospel.

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    God came to us in Christ, and we go to God in Christ.

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    That's awesome.

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    Regarding the issue at hand, Paul's here saying, "Look, right on, right on.

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    Hey, I'm with you.

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    The idol is just a trinket.

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    There's no boogeyman in the meat.

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    You have wisdom.

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    You understand the world in light of the truth of God's Word." Awesome.

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    Verse 7, "However, not all possess this knowledge." See that?

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    Paul's agreeing with him.

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    Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get it.

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    I get it.

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    The idol's a trinket.

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    Right.

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    The meat's not haunted, I get it.

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    You're right.

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    However, however, look, God in his word has told us everything he wants us to know about him.

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    But we are all at different levels of understanding.

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    Some of us are just a little further down the road on our journey than others in maturing with Christ.

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    That's just the way things work.

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    We learn, we grow, we mature.

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    Some of us are more mature than others.

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    That's just reality.

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    And that's what Paul's saying here.

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    He's, "Look, good for you.

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    You know some things.

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    You know some things about the idols.

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    Guess what?

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    Not everyone understands.

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    Not everyone's where you are.

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    Not everyone gets it.

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    Look at the rest of verse 7, he goes, "But some," talking about the weaker brothers here, "but some, through former association with idols, eat food as really offered to an idol, and their conscience being weak is defiled." Your conscience, he says, "These weaker brothers having a problem with their..." What is the conscience?

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    We talked about this way and through the book of Hebrews.

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    Your conscience, what is your conscience?

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    The conscience is the part of your mind that approves or condemns what you do, based on how you understand right and wrong.

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    That's your conscience.

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    And some, Paul says, have a weak conscience, meaning it's immature.

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    not fully understanding yet. And if a weaker brother eats the pagan meat, they go against their conscience and Paul says, "They are defiled." That word "defiled" actually means "guilty." They feel guilty for doing it. They went against their conscience.

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    Have you ever believed something for so long that even when you learn the truth, it's hard to let go of that old belief that you held onto for so long?

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    I think we've all been guilty of that.

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    You know, here's one for me.

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    When I was a kid, I've always been an excellent singer.

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    (congregation laughing)

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    What is going on here?

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    Learning to have grace with the weaker brothers.

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    (congregation laughing)

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    Pastor Taylor, you are absolutely right.

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    That statement was sarcastic, you are right.

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    He is absolutely right.

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    He's not the weaker brother, he's right.

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    But I have always been a great singer.

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    But anyways, when I was little, I would sing at the dinner table, 'cause I'm always singing, I'm singing, doing everything, but I'd come to the dinner table and I'd sing.

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    And do you know what my mom told me?

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    She says, "You can't sing at the table because it," anybody know?

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    She made this up.

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    My mom said, she says, "You can't sing at the table "because it makes the angels cry."

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    (congregation laughing)

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    I am dead serious.

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    Now I found, I just this minute realized she just made that up.

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    'Cause I was expecting somebody to shout that out.

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    Nope.

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    So I grew up like, don't sing, when I get to the table, I'm like, don't sing, why?

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    because all the angels in heaven are like, "Oh, please." At first I thought it was just like anybody singing, but I think mom meant my singing.

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    My singing offended the holy angels.

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    But so I was like, "Don't sing at the table "because the angels, it just made the angels cry." And you're like, "That's silly." It is, admittedly.

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    But I gotta tell you, to this day, if I'm eating somewhere and I hear somebody singing, do you know what the first thing is that I think of?

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    You're making the angels cry.

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    Way to go.

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    Do you know what I mean?

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    I know that's not true, but I do cringe when I hear somebody sing at the table because it was just so ingrained in me my whole life growing up.

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    Don't sing at the table, don't sing at the table.

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    Angels are weeping.

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    Like...

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    And it was true in this culture that Paul's dealing with here.

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    Imagine the person that got saved out of idolatry.

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    That's a huge change.

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    You know, all this time, for all these years, the evil spirits live in the meat, got to sacrifice to the gods, you get the spirits out of the meat, the evil spirits live in the meat, and then they come to Christ, They get the truth of the gospel, and they're like, "That's not true.

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    There's no evil spirits in the meat.

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    It's not true at all." It's totally safe to eat, right?

    32:08-32:12

    I mean, it is safe, right?

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    But, I mean, it is pagan meat.

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    eat. I mean, I guess it's okay to eat it. I mean, gosh, I just don't feel right about eating it. You see the dilemma? I know, but I...

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    See, mature believers, mature believers, maybe you understand the real truth about the idols and the mate.

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    Paul's like, "But your weaker brother, he's not there yet." And love says, "I will forego something that might bother the weaker brother." That's what love says.

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    Look, spiritual maturity is deeper than right and wrong.

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    The mature believer says, "How does what I do affect the baby Christians?" And you see with the whole alcohol, with the small group barbecue thing, it's the same principle in play.

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    If the weaker brother is coming to the barbecue, the loving choice is to not have any alcohol there at all.

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    Not being legalistic, being loving.

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    I don't want this to be a problem for you, so we're just going to take it off the table.

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    We'll have a Dr. Pepper.

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    Look, if you're insisting on your liberty on the basis of, "I have wisdom, I know the ways of the world and how it works," you've just missed the whole picture.

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    One more.

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    Three valid reasons for liberty that don't work when you have a weaker brother.

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    "I have knowledge." That doesn't work when there's a weaker brother.

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    "I have wisdom." That doesn't work.

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    When you have a weaker brother, number three, here's one that we often use, I have good theology.

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    And see, these all do kind of bleed together, obviously.

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    But I have good theology.

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    Look at verse eight.

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    He says, "Food will not commend us to God.

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    "We are no worse off if we do not eat "and no better off if we do." Interestingly, that word commend is literally draw us near to.

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    What you eat is not going to draw you closer to God.

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    And that's what he's saying.

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    Eating doesn't make you holy, nor does eating make you a sinner.

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    That's good theology, right?

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    It's good theology.

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    What you eat will not draw you near to God.

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    There's only one way to draw near to God, and that's Jesus Christ.

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    He provided access to God through his death, through his resurrection.

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    That's the only basis you have of coming to God.

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    The only way you can draw near is through Jesus Christ.

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    But it certainly isn't in what you eat.

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    That's great theology, right?

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    So God doesn't care what we eat, But, but God does care about his weaker children and the way we love them.

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    He cares about that.

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    Look at verses nine and 10.

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    He says, "But take care that this right of yours "does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak.

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    "For if anyone sees you who have knowledge "eating in an idol's temple, Will he not be encouraged, if his conscience is weak, to eat food offered to idols?

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    Stumbling block, stumbling block.

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    That's something that makes you sin, right?

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    That's a stumbling block.

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    And Paul here says, you're insisting on your freedom can make the weaker brother sin.

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    What do you mean?

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    Just simply this, if their conscience says, don't eat the pagan meat, and they see you eating, they're going to feel pressured to go against their conscience and eat, and that will make them miserable.

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    They're gonna feel the pressure, they're gonna eat, and then they're gonna immediately, I shouldn't have eaten that.

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    But you know, he makes me feel guilty if I don't join in and eat, but then I do eat, and now I feel guilty that I did.

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    You see an obvious application, right?

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    You decide you're gonna go ahead and have alcohol with your little small group barbecue, volleyball extravaganza thing.

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    And you're like, I'm still gonna have alcohol there.

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    And that recovering addict shows up.

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    And he's like, yeah, I don't drink anymore.

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    It ruined my life.

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    But everybody else is drinking.

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    Man, I kind of feel like the odd man out here.

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    Maybe I should, I mean, these are new friends and I should try to fit in, right?

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    So, I don't want to look like a weirdo.

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    And then he drinks.

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    How does he feel about himself afterwards?

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    I can't believe I did that.

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    Listen, never ever violate your conscience.

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    I have people come to me for counseling all the time and it can be a gray area matter and they'll say, "I just have this conviction about this.

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    "Is that right?" I tell them the same thing, ask anybody that's come.

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    I'm like, I will never tell you to violate your conscience.

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    If you have a conviction and it's different than mine, and it's a non-biblical issue, I am not going to tell you to violate your conscience on that.

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    And at the same time, do not ever ask someone else to violate theirs.

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    With your conscience, yes, understand, seek to understand why you feel how you do.

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    Evaluate if it is from God, but never violate your conscience.

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    Look, you're going to mature in Christ.

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    Your understanding of God's word is going to mature, but don't force it.

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    Let the growth happen naturally for you and for the weaker brother.

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    And I know at this point in the message, there's still somebody, somebody's inwardly protesting all this, saying, "Why should I care what my choices "have to do with somebody else's conscience?

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    "Like, why is that any of their business?" Well, look at verse 11.

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    Paul says, "And so by your knowledge, this weak person is destroyed, the brother for whom Christ died.

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    Why should you care?

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    Because Jesus does.

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    How much does Jesus care about this weaker brother, really?

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    How much does Jesus care?

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    Jesus died for him.

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    That is how Jesus regards this man.

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    That is how Jesus so loves this man that Jesus was willing to die for him.

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    And that's why you should love him too.

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    Verse 12, he says, "Thus, sitting against your brothers and wounding their conscience when it is weak, you sin against Christ." Wow.

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    Paul ratchets it up.

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    This is the top of the mountain here.

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    He goes, "Do you need a reason to not offend the weaker brother?

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    Do you need a reason for that?" He goes, "Here's your reason.

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    Here's number one.

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    Jesus takes any mistreatment of his people very seriously.

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    You sit against that weaker brother, you're sitting against Jesus himself." And Jesus takes this very seriously.

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    Look, if you pressure my son into doing something he doesn't wanna do, we are having words.

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    Jesus has a much stronger stance on this than I do, actually.

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    Matthew 18.6, "Whoever causes," these are the words of Jesus, "Whoever causes one of these little ones "who believe in me to sin, "it would be better for him to have a great millstone "fastened around his neck "and be drowned in the depths of the sea." You sin against a weaker brother, you're sinning against Jesus.

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    He takes that pretty seriously.

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    And again, Matthew 25, verse 40, Jesus said, "Truly I say to you, "As you did it to one of the least of these, my brothers, "you did it to me." Serious business.

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    And finally, verse 13.

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    Paul says, "Therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, "I will never eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble." Paul's like, "Look, run the risk of sinning against Jesus?

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    Nuh-uh, uh-uh.

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    I'm not going to insist on my liberty, my rights." Paul says, "I will become a vegan before I cause a brother to stumble, because loving Loving my weaker brother is more important than having a burger.

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    And loving my weaker brother is more important than having a beer.

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    So if you're insisting on your liberty on the basis of, "Well, I have good theology," you missed the big picture.

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    All right.

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    That was the introduction.

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    Here's the sermon.

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    Your liberty goes only as far as love.

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    Like the Corinthians, you can say, "Well, I know the Bible and I understand spiritual truths.

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    My theology is on point.

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    I am free in Christ to do whatever I want!" No, you aren't.

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    You must be willing to lay down your rights if it means protecting your weaker brother.

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    For communion servers would come up, our worship team.

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    I'll give you one more reason why we should lay down our rights out of love.

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    And it's because we have a great example.

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    You know, the Bible says Jesus did not consider equality with God a thing to be grasped.

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    Wrap your head around that.

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    Jesus had the right to insist on all of the privileges that come with being God.

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    And he humbled himself to give them up.

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    The question I have for you this morning is, will you follow Jesus in that?

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    Are you willing to lay down your rights, your freedoms, out of love?

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    I want you to stand.

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    And when you're ready to receive the Lord's Supper, by the way, if you're a born again believer in Christ, this is for you.

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    You don't have to be a member of Harvest Bible Chapel, but you do have to be a born again believer in Christ.

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    And if you are, he invites you.

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    Come down the center aisle, receive the elements, and I'm gonna ask that you take them back to your seat by going to the outside aisle.

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    And when everyone has the elements, we will receive the Lord's Supper together as an act of church unity.

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    All right, please come.

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    Why should I choose to lay down my rights?

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    because I have a great example in my Lord.

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    The Bible tells us the night Jesus was betrayed, He took bread and He broke it.

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    He gave thanks and He said, "This is my body which is given for you. Eat this in remembrance of me." After the meal, Jesus took the cup He said, "This cup is the blood of the new covenant, which is poured out for the forgiveness of sin.

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    Drink this in remembrance of Me."

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 8:1-13

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Do you tend to lean more on the side of “legalism” or “libertine”? Why?

  3. What exactly is meant by “stumbling block” (1 Cor 8:9)? How could you be responsible for someone else sinning (1 Cor 8:12)?

  4. Besides alcohol, what are some examples of gray areas today that we need to be careful to “not make a weaker brother stumble”?

Breakout

Pray for one another.

What About Us Single People?

Introduction:

Three Advantages of Being Single: (1 Corinthians 7:25-40)

  1. You're Saved from CERTAIN TROUBLES. (1 Cor 7:26-28)

  2. You're Saved from DISTRACTION. (1 Cor 7:29-38)

    Matthew 22:30For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.

    Colossians 3:2Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.

  3. You’re Saved from OBLIGATION. (1 Cor 7:39-40)

    Matthew 19:10The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”

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  • 00:37-00:41

    Open up those Bibles to 1 Corinthians and chapter 7.

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    And while we do, I'm just going to ask that you would just pause with me here.

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    You pray for me, that I will communicate God's word as I should, clearly and accurately and straightforwardly.

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    I will pray for you, that your heart would be open to receive what God wants to teach us today.

    01:03-01:06

    All right, so let's just take a moment and pray.

    01:10-01:19

    Father, be glorified through the proclamation of Your Word, through receiving Your Word and being doers of Your Word.

    01:20-01:23

    Be glorified in all things, we pray in Jesus' name.

    01:24-01:41

    And all of God's people said, "Amen." Several years ago, a friend of mine told me about this single friend that he has who was sitting home one day and got a phone call.

    01:42-02:10

    The phone rang, he picked it up, and he's like, "Hello?" And the voice on the other end said, "Hi, would you be interested in meeting a lot of exciting available singles in your area?" And the man said, "I got enough problems." It's funny, but that's really the heart of this passage that we're looking at today.

    02:14-02:23

    See, in 1 Corinthians 7, we've seen that marriage is a gift, and God has given married people a wedding present that they are to use appropriately.

    02:25-02:29

    And we've seen that for some people, being single is a gift.

    02:32-02:37

    But each one brings their own set of issues.

    02:38-02:47

    And the Corinthians were writing to Paul, asking for counsel, and Paul was writing this letter back to them, giving them counsel.

    02:48-02:50

    Look at verse 25.

    02:52-03:15

    Paul says, "Now concerning the betrothed, I have no command from the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy." You see, he says, "Now concerning." We saw that again back in chapter 7 verse 1.

    03:15-03:20

    It seems that Paul was going through a list of things that they brought up.

    03:20-03:21

    He goes, "Okay, let me tell you about this.

    03:22-03:32

    Okay, now let me tell you about this issue you brought up." It's kind of a Q&A format, and he says the next subject here is the betrothed.

    03:32-03:35

    Some translations say virgins.

    03:35-03:38

    He's talking to the singles.

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    All the single ladies.

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    that song? Get your hand up. I studied that dance this week and I was going to do it for you, but I looked at myself in the mirror and I do not dance like Beyonce. So maybe Maybe some other time.

    04:12-04:17

    But last week we saw Pastor Taylor talked about commitment.

    04:17-04:19

    That was in the previous passage, commitment.

    04:20-04:22

    Trust God where He has you, right?

    04:22-04:24

    Bloom where you are planted.

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    And I was thinking about that through the context of the whole passage.

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    Paul's talking about marriage and sexuality and singles issues, and then he talks about contentment, and then in this passage he's addressing the singles. Like why that flow? Why did he insert contentment right in the middle of that? And I think it's because there are certain aspects of being single that make it hard to be content. And here's what I mean by that. I think especially in the church there difficulties in being single.

    05:09-05:13

    Because I mean, think about it, in church, marriage is exalted.

    05:15-05:19

    In church, you see many godly marriages.

    05:20-05:28

    You sit and you watch infant dedications, and I think for singles there's a real sense of FOMO, right?

    05:30-05:35

    So this passage we're looking at today, mostly, is for the single people.

    05:37-05:53

    And if you're tempted to be like, "Oh, this ain't for me, I'm tuning out." I would say, "You are forbidden to tune out of this message." We expect our single people to sit through series on marriage, series on parenting.

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    We're like, "You need to listen to this, you need to listen to this, you know married people, so you should listen to this." You know single people, all right?

    06:01-06:05

    And maybe the Lord will open a door for you to be able to encourage them with some things in here.

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    All right?

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    So if I see you tuning out, I'm gonna throw a Bible at you.

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    All right?

    06:12-06:18

    So Paul says here, don't worry, it'll be a soft cover, not like a MacArthur study Bible or anything.

    06:19-06:28

    But Paul says here, I have no command for the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy.

    06:28-06:29

    We talked about this before.

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    All Paul is saying here is the Lord, Jesus Christ, did not specifically address these singles issues during His earthly ministry.

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    It wasn't...being single is not a moral issue.

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    Jesus didn't really go into depth in addressing this.

    06:46-06:46

    Right?

    06:48-07:03

    He says, "I don't have a quote for you from Jesus." When it comes to divorce, Paul said, "I got quotes for you from Jesus about divorce." Jesus was crystal on that, but I don't have a quote from Jesus really about these aspects of being single.

    07:03-07:08

    But Paul's like, "Hey, you can trust me." Right?

    07:09-07:24

    And he goes on in this passage to say, "It's good to be single." Actually, he says it's in many ways better to be single.

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    It's wiser to be single.

    07:29-07:37

    Right now the singles among us might have heard that last statement and thought, "What's so great about being single?

    07:39-07:40

    What's so great about it?

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    What is it, the loneliness?

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    Is that what's so great about it?

    07:49-07:54

    Is it the stigma that people put on you, like, "Oh, you're single.

    07:54-07:58

    What's wrong with you?" Is that the great part of being single, Pastor Jeff?

    08:00-08:05

    Is it going to the soda shop, Pastor Jeff, and eating the wet walnut sundae by yourself?

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    Is it all the people that try to play Cupid?

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    Is that the great part?

    08:17-08:21

    You know, I got this co-worker, it'd be great for you.

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    Both of his teeth are really clean," and whatever.

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    I can't wait to meet him.

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    Is that the great part, Pastor Jeff?

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    Is it the FOMO, Pastor Jeff?

    08:36-08:36

    Is it?

    08:36-08:38

    What's the great part, Pastor Jeff?

    08:39-08:40

    What's the great part?

    08:41-08:46

    Well, this is what the Lord said, okay?

    08:46-08:49

    This isn't Jeff's opinion, this is God's opinion.

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    So on your outline, I want you to jot some things down.

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    Here's three advantages of being single.

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    All right, three advantages of being single.

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    Oh, right, sorry.

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    I beg your pardon.

    09:12-09:13

    I have a disclaimer.

    09:17-09:20

    I have been happily married since 2002.

    09:27-09:32

    Despite what Paul says about singleness, I am very thankful for my beautiful, talented, and intelligent wife.

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    I acknowledge that I married up.

    09:36-09:40

    Her presence daily enhances my life in every way.

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    And then it says at the bottom, you better read this and sound convincing, love Aaron.

    09:47-09:48

    (congregation laughing)

    09:57-09:58

    I am thankful to be married.

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    That was what God had for me, but God might not have that for you.

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    All right, he gives different gifts to different people.

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    So if you're single, here's three advantages of being single.

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    Number one, write this down, you're saved from certain troubles.

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    You're saved from certain troubles.

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    And here's the point, I'm gonna give you the heads up and we're gonna see it in the text.

    10:25-10:34

    What Paul's saying here is there are troubles married people have that single people do not have, okay?

    10:34-10:36

    That's why the word certain is in there.

    10:37-10:40

    Not, save from all troubles, everybody's got troubles, okay?

    10:40-10:41

    Everybody's got troubles.

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    But there are certain troubles that married people have that single people have the luxury of not having, all right?

    10:48-10:53

    And he gives them in two categories, and the first one is present distress.

    10:53-10:57

    You can write that down on your outline underneath number one, distress.

    10:57-10:58

    Look at verse 26.

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    Paul says, "I think that in view of the present distress, It is good for a person to remain as he is, obviously, or as she is.

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    Okay, what's the distress?

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    What's the distress?

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    Well, some translations translate that violence.

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    Violence.

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    It's just simply hardships of living in a violent world.

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    And Paul's like, "Hey, hey, the world's a violent place, so it's probably better, single that you're not married for that reason.

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    See for the Corinthians, about 15 years after they would have received this letter, they endured horrible persecution that lasted for 200 years.

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    And I think Paul knew that.

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    Like, the world's a violent place.

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    But see, this principle isn't just for them.

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    I mean, isn't the world a violent and evil place today?

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    I mean, do I really have to sell you on that?

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    I mean, look at all the school shootings and sex trafficking, all the wars.

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    I wrote this before the events of yesterday, the events of yesterday happened.

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    The wars.

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    The war for your kids, all the gay and transgender stuff pushed in schools, the persecution for simply believing the Bible, Charlie Kirk, remember him?

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    So I would ask you, church, when Paul talks about violence to the Corinthians in our day, are we getting better or are we getting worse?

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    Which is it?

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    Can you really turn on the news and be like, oh yeah, there was violence back in that day, but I think things are pretty safe now, right?

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    Could you say that?

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    Of course not.

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    And I was thinking about this a lot this past week.

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    What era of human history was perfectly safe?

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    To have a wife and kids.

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    Is there any?

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    Can you point to an era and be like, "Yeah, this was the sweet spot right here in human history that it was…everything was safe." You see, such violence has extra implications if you have a spouse.

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    If you have a spouse, many times you also eventually have children.

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    Such violence has implications for spouse and kids, right?

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    What I mean is, look, I'm not afraid of being attacked personally.

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    I'm not.

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    Like, whatever.

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    I mean, somebody doesn't like the sermon and they slip past security and come up and shoot me or whatever.

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    Okay, whatever.

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    See you in heaven.

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    But I've got a wife and kids, and the thought of them being in danger is terrifying to me.

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    To think that they're in danger and I can't protect them and I can't be there.

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    That's what Paul's talking about here.

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    You see, if I suffer, whatever, but if they suffer, that is way more painful than any suffering that I can endure.

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    That's why Paul says there in verse 26, he says, "Remain as he is." That's better.

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    "Remain as he is." He clarifies that though.

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    Look, he clarifies.

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    Look at verse 27.

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    He says, "Are you bound to a wife?

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    Do not seek to be free.

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    Are you free from a wife?

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    Do not seek a wife." He says, "Married, stay married.

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    Single stay single.

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    Did you get a divorce?

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    Stay as you are.

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    He's saying singles might be wise to pump the brakes on getting married in view of just how violent the world is.

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    You see that?

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    There's a second category of trouble.

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    We saw the presence of stress.

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    The next one is that worldly troubles.

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    Look at verse 28.

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    This is a little different though.

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    Verse 28, he says, "But if you do marry, you have not sinned.

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    And if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned.

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    Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that." Stop there.

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    There's worldly troubles.

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    I mean, he says, "A marriage isn't sin, obviously." He goes, "But it brings trouble." There's conflict within marriage, right?

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    He already addressed there's conflict that comes from outside, but there's also conflict that comes from the inside.

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    What I mean is, you know, I have to deal with my own sin issues.

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    I am incredibly selfish.

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    I can be incredibly prideful, and I can be horribly irritable.

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    I got those issues going on.

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    Now, I get married and I got to deal with my wife's sin issues.

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    I mean, not my wife.

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    I mean, but you see the point.

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    You got your sin issues, whoever you marry is going to have sin issues.

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    The potential for misery in marriage is worse than for singles.

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    Like yeah, singles are going to deal with their own sin, married people, the amount of sin just doubled in the home.

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    people get married thinking it's going to fix everything, right?

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    People get married thinking, you know, "I have these physical urges, and if I just get married, all those urges are going to be fixed." It's not always true, right?

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    Or people are like, "I'm incredibly lonely.

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    I'm just so lonely, and if I get married, I won't be lonely." That's not always true either.

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    Sometimes these things just get worse, right?

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    Desire for intimacy gets worse when you have a spouse you want to be with but is unresponsive.

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    Loneliness gets worse when you live with someone who resents you.

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    So if you're single and you're on the fence, "Should I get married?

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    Maybe I'll wait till the end of the sermon to decide.

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    What should I do?" If you're single, "Oh, I wish I had a string.

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    My previous church, I had a string of marriage counseling sessions I was going through, and I so wish, single people, that I could take you into these marriage counseling sessions and have you sit in the corner and just watch." That would make up your mind for you because you would walk out of there going, "I am so thankful that I don't got to deal with that." Potential for misery in marriage is worse than the potential for misery in singles.

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    That's what Paul's saying.

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    I mean even if conflict isn't the big issue, I mean there's plenty of other worldly troubles, right?

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    like sickness, for example.

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    I mean, I remember back when I was single, and that was a difficult season in my life.

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    But do you know what's harder than being single?

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    You know what's harder is watching a sick wife suffer.

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    That's harder.

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    You know what's harder than being single is watching a sick child that you've prayed for for decades not get better.

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    That's harder than being single.

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    Now this is Paul's whole point here.

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    Look, life is hard.

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    Life is hard for everyone.

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    I mean, the Bible is crystal on that.

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    Life is hard for everyone, but getting married invites other elements of trouble.

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    The world is violent, my wife is violent.

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    Single people are saved from that.

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    I guess that's number one.

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    Number two, three advantages of being single, you're safe from certain troubles.

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    Number two, you're safe from distraction.

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    You're safe from distraction.

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    Marriage brings distraction, and he gives two ways that it does.

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    First of all, you lose your perspective on priorities, and second of all, you get distracted by the duty of taking care of a family, right?

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    So let's talk about these.

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    Let's break them down.

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    One distraction, losing perspective on priorities.

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    Look at verse 29, he says, "This is what I mean, brothers.

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    The appointed time has grown very short.

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    From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none." You've got to read it in its context.

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    If you pull that verse out of its context, you're thinking it says something way different than it does, okay?

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    So you've got to listen to the rest of us.

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    He is not saying…He is not saying…everybody say, "Not saying." He is not saying, "Detach from your wife." He's not saying that at all.

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    The context makes it clear what He is saying.

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    Look, verse 30, He goes, "And those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it.

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    For the present form of this world is passing away." See, what's he saying?

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    Look at the context.

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    Mourning, rejoicing, stuff, doing business, that's all earth stuff.

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    Right?

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    That is all stuff for here and now.

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    Paul's saying, "Don't live as if this is all there is." You realize so many people live as if they are going to be here forever, and you're not.

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    None of us are.

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    That's what Paul's talking about here.

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    You're mourning, you're going through a hard time, it's temporary.

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    You're not going to be mourning in heaven over that.

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    Oh, and you're rejoicing, you had the greatest day of your life?

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    Okay, that's not going to mean anything in heaven.

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    Right?

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    Oh, you're worried about your stuff?

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    He ain't taking it with you.

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    Earthly dealings, you're not going to be doing that in heaven.

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    It's all earth stuff.

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    And then he says, "Life as we know it on earth, it's all passing away, including marriage." I mean, all of these things in his list, he's saying these things all look different in light of eternity.

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    And don't let these things distract you from the big picture.

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    Do you know what the big picture is?

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    The big picture is you were created by God to spend a certain amount of time on this earth.

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    But you were born with a sinful nature we inherited from the first man.

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    You were born with a nature to rebel against your Creator.

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    Not to do what He wants you to do, but to do whatever you want to do.

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    You're selfish too, just like me.

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    And someday you're going to stand before that God who created you.

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    That God that you've rebelled against, someday you're going to stand before Him.

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    He just sang about what kind of God He is.

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    Holy forever.

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    You rebellious sinner are going to stand before the holy God that you rebelled against.

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    You deserve the worst that He could give you, which is hell, eternal separation from Him.

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    But because He loves you so much, He sent His Son to die on the cross on your behalf, to take your sin penalty on Himself.

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    When Jesus was on the cross, God was pouring out His wrath on Jesus, the wrath that I deserve and the wrath that you deserve.

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    Then Jesus rose from the dead so that we too can have the promise of eternal life.

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    That is the big picture.

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    So whether you buy or sell, you had a great day, a horrible day.

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    you get married or not, you're going to stand before a God who is going to judge you.

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    But if you are in Christ, there is no condemnation.

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    You are not guilty.

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    You are forgiven.

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    No sin will ever be held against you.

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    That is the big picture.

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    And Paul is saying, "Do not let the stuff of the earth, including marriage, distract you from that." He's just simply putting things into perspective.

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    Right?

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    Even marriage is not eternal.

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    Jesus said this in Matthew 22.

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    He says, "For in the resurrection, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven." Marriage is a "for now on earth" thing.

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    Right?

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    not for heaven.

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    We have it for now on earth.

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    Why?

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    For partnership, right?

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    For pleasure, for procreation.

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    All the purposes that marriage fulfill, those purposes aren't going to exist in heaven.

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    We're not going to need them fulfilled the way that they're fulfilled on earth.

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    I was thinking about this this week and I thought back to my days in elementary school.

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    I remember there were kids that would go skiing over the weekend and then they'd come to school on Monday.

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    Some of you remember this?

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    They'd come to school on Monday with their winter jacket on.

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    Remember what they still had hanging on their winter jacket?

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    Your lift pass, remember that?

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    They'd walk in.

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    (groans)

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    What'd you do over the weekend, Joey?

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    It was such a badge of honor.

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    You're like, why are you making fun of him?

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    Because I was so jealous.

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    That's why.

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    It was such a badge of honor, wasn't it, to walk into school.

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    You're not laughing because you were those kids, weren't you?

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    You were those ski lift tag kids.

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    I kind of laugh because you know what?

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    That lift tag was very useful for a time, wasn't it?

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    I mean, when you're skiing, that thing is super useful.

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    It has great purpose.

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    "Oh, you're skiing, it has great purpose." But then when you show up at school, what is it?

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    It's just a piece of garbage hanging from your coat.

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    It doesn't mean anything.

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    Like, dude, you don't need that.

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    You don't need to ride the lift to the cafeteria.

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    You don't need the ski tag.

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    And that's really, same thing with marriage.

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    Like, hey, married, I got a beautiful wife, she's awesome.

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    It's like, yes, but you're not going to need a wife in heaven, because every relationship is going to be perfect.

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    Paul's saying what he says in Colossians 3 too, right?

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    Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.

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    Don't let marriage distract you from your spiritual life.

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    Don't let marriage make you lose perspective on your priorities? Because it does. There are people, there are some people here that work more on their marriage than they do on their personal walk with Jesus Christ. That's a problem. That's backwards. If you worked more on your personal walk with Jesus Christ, things in your marriage would get a whole lot better. But marriage distracts us from focusing on eternity because marriage, as God's Word tells us, divides our interests.

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    Look at verse 32.

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    Paul says, "I want you to be free from anxieties.

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    The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord." How to please the Lord.

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    But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife.

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    And his interests are divided.

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    And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit.

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    But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.

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    Any single people can serve Jesus undistracted because the single person only has one set of cares.

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    The married person is divided.

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    That's what he's saying.

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    The married person says, "I really do want to serve Christ.

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    I really do want to give everything to Jesus, but I also have this God-given responsibility to take care of my family.

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    My interests are divided." So, singles better.

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    You're like, "Man, that sounds legalistic." Look at verse 35.

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    Paul says, "I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord." See that's exactly what Paul is saying here, he says, "I'm not being legalistic." He says, "This is for your benefit." But don't think that married people are second-class citizens.

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    Right?

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    Verse 36, he says, "If anyone thinks he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes.

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    Let them marry, it is no sin.

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    But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity, but having his desires under control and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well. So then he who marries his betrothed does well, and he who refrains from marriage will do even better." You're like, "What is he talking about here?" This would have made way more sense to the original audience of this letter. Understand here, Paul is talking specifically here to fathers of unmarried daughters. The fathers had decision-making power in the matter of marriage for their daughters. Like, well that sounds very weird. Not really. Even today, I mean, isn't there the custom of when you want to get married to a woman, don't you go to her father and ask for her hand in marriage? Where do you think that comes from. Right? Same principle. But understand, Paul's just, once again, even in that, he's laying out the same thing he's been saying through this whole chapter, specifically through this whole passage. He goes, "If they get married, great. And if they remain single," He's like, "That's even better.

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    It's even better." Paul says here in this section that when it comes to serving Jesus, single people have an advantage.

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    Now, understand, single people, single people understand before you go out and get your ski tag, understand he's not saying single people are more spiritual than married people.

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    He is not saying that.

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    Single people are not automatically more devoted to Jesus than married people.

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    He is not saying that.

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    You're like, "Well, what is he saying?" He's saying single people have the greater potential in their service to Jesus Christ.

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    All right?

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    people, consider how much of your resources goes to just taking care of your family, right? How much time does your family require? How much money do you spend on your family? How much energy does your family get? And the answer is Because they get all of all the above, right?

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    And Paul here is simply saying, "Single people, you have tremendous opportunity, capacity, and potential to serve Christ because you're saved from the distractions that come from having to take care of a family." Right?

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    Single people?

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    Single people?

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    You want to spend extra time in prayer and the Word today?

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    You can do that without a bunch of little people running up to you going...and you're like, "I fed you yesterday." Well, you've got to feed them today too.

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    Single people don't got to worry about that.

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    Single people, you want to go on a mission trip?

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    You know what, this Vision Appalachia thing, I'm about that, I'm gone.

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    I'm going to talk to Bob Brown, I'm gone.

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    Single people can do that, like at the drop of a hat.

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    Or hey, next trip to Thailand, I am there.

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    No problem.

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    Single people can do that because you don't have to factor in the schedules of several other people.

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    Right?

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    Single people, you're like, "Oh, it's a prayer service tonight at church." You don't have to worry if you're going to miss it because your spouse is working late or Joey has yet another lacrosse tournament.

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    That's like the fifth one today.

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    Single people don't got to worry about that.

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    That's all Paul's saying here.

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    Oh, and P.S., history is full of single people that God has used mightily.

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    I read about a whole bunch of them this past week.

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    I don't have time to get into all of them, but I will mention one.

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    How about Paul, right?

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    Paul himself being single allowed Paul the opportunity to evangelize the Roman world and write holy Spirit-inspired letters that guide, encourage, and bless the churches even until today." So I guess Paul being single adds quite a bit of credibility to this Spirit-inspired truth that he wrote.

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    He says, "Hey, are you single?

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    You're saved from a lot of distractions." All right, three advantages of being single.

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    You're saved from certain troubles.

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    You're safe from distraction.

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    Number three, you're safe from obligation.

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    One more, you're safe from obligation.

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    Paul says a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives.

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    But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.

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    Yet in my judgment, she is happier if she remains as she is.

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    And I think that I too have the Spirit of God.

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    I love that last statement.

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    Paul's like, 'cause you know that people are gonna be reading this and hearing this like, "Oh, come on, Paul, that's just your opinion." And he's like, "Yeah, I think I have the Holy Spirit too." So you're saved from obligation.

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    Paul says, "If your spouse dies, You can marry another believer.

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    Paul says, "Yet you'll be happier to stay single." But, Paul says, "Once you marry, you are bound as long as your spouse lives." He's talking about the obligation to the marriage.

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    The most important choice you will ever make for however long you have on the earth, the The most important choice is whether or not you are going to turn from your sin and turn to Jesus Christ and receive Him as your Lord and Savior.

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    That is the most important choice you will ever make.

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    Do you know what the second most important choice is that you will ever make?

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    Is the person that you decide to marry.

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    Because there's no going back.

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    At least not in God's eyes.

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    There's no going back.

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    It's more important than choosing a college major.

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    It's more important than choosing a career.

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    It's more important than choosing a tattoo.

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    More important than all these, who you marry, because it's a covenant before God.

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    It's a sacred thing in the eyes of God.

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    In the eyes of God, you're bound for life, and Paul's reminding, hey, when you're bound to a spouse, there is no more liberty that comes with being single.

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    You know, in Matthew chapter 19, Jesus was talking about marriage and divorce and adultery.

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    He was being challenged, and we've talked about that passage even very recently.

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    And Jesus gave his teaching on what it means to be married and defining divorce and adultery and all of that.

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    Well, the disciples heard all this, and this was their response to Jesus.

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    After hearing the Lord teach about marriage, this is what the disciples said in response to Jesus.

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    The disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of a man with his wife, it's better not to marry." Go back and read that whole passage, and you'll see they got it.

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    They were not rebuked for this statement.

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    Jesus is like, "Yeah, but not everybody can receive that, but yeah, they got it." Marriage is not for everyone, but there is a special wisdom and dedication that single people are gifted, right?

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    Our worship team would make their way back up front.

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    Single people, do you have the gift of being single?

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    Do you have that gift?

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    You're like, "You know, I really think this might be God's gift for me, being single." Is that you?

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    Well, I want to say something to you.

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    On the authority of the Word of God, it is not inferior to being married.

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    In fact, God says very clearly, in a lot of ways, it is better.

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    But for those of you who are single and you're struggling to know, "Do I have the gift?

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    I'm not sure if I have the gift.

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    What does God have for me?" Today I just want you to consider the benefits that the Word of God laid out, that there are troubles, distractions, and obligations that you're going to be saved from.

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    Let's pray.

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    in heaven, we thank you for your Word. And I know this can be a touchy and emotional subject, but I thank you. I thank you for the tone in which you inspired Paul to communicate this, that it wasn't some hard-nosed, snarky, legalistic thing at all, but just an objective look at reality.

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    God, You give gifts.

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    Your Word is so clear.

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    You give gifts to each one of us, and for some, Father, You've given the gift of singleness, and I pray a special blessing on those that You have so set aside for specific types of ministry that married people are unable to do.

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    Father, for the single people here maybe who are struggling, not sure if it's their gift, I just ask, Father, that you would maybe use this message to give them direction on what it is exactly you do have for them.

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    For the rest of us, Father, show us how we can love and encourage our single brothers and sisters without making them feel like they're on a second tier path because according to your word, it's kind of the opposite.

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    Give us wisdom, Father, in all these things we ask in Jesus' name, amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 7:25-40

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Give some examples of “troubles” that come in marriage (internal and external) that single people are spared.

  3. How exactly are single people able to serve Jesus without “divided interests” (1 Cor 7:33)?

  4. What are some ways the church can reach single people for discipleship (without allowing it to become just a “match-making ministry”)?

Breakout

Pray for one another.