Why Should I Submit to My Husband?
(Ephesians 5:22-24)
- It's God's Command . (Eph 5:22)
John 6:38 - For I have come down from heaven, not to do my own will but the will of him who sent me.
Colossians 3:18 - Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
1 Peter 3:1 - Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives...
- It's God's Design . (Eph 5:23)
Genesis 3:16 - Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.
- It's God's Display . (Eph 5:24)
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Pastor Jeff:
00:38-00:52
Open up your Bibles with me, please, to Ephesians 5, a sermon series by popular demand called Personal Family Business.
Pastor Jeff:
00:54-00:58
All right, so for the next four weeks, we have four different preachers.
Pastor Jeff:
01:00-01:03
We're going to be talking about marriage and parenting.
Pastor Jeff:
01:05-01:15
And I'm starting with a message to wives as we talk about the business of submission.
Pastor Jeff:
01:16-01:23
You're like, "Wow, Pastor Jeff, you really drew the short straw on this one, didn't you?" Well, there was a method to the madness here.
Pastor Jeff:
01:23-01:25
You see, I realized that I'm going to preach this message.
Pastor Jeff:
01:26-01:29
And then there's gonna be three other guys after me.
Pastor Jeff:
01:30-01:42
So by the time I'm back up here, a lot of you will forgotten But I hope that you don't forget, because this is the word of God, and we take it very seriously here, right?
Pastor Jeff:
01:43-02:01
So in preparing for this, I thought, you know, I could get online and look for people's opinions about, you know, what the Bible says when it says, "Wives, submit to your own husbands." I could get opinions online.
Pastor Jeff:
02:01-02:06
I thought, but wouldn't it be cool if we got local opinions, right?
Pastor Jeff:
02:06-02:08
Like people that lived in our community.
Pastor Jeff:
02:09-02:12
So we went, we asked local women.
Pastor Jeff:
02:13-02:20
We went down to McCandless Crossing actually, and we asked them, you know, the Bible says wives should submit to their husbands.
Pastor Jeff:
02:20-02:22
We said, what do you think about that?
Pastor Jeff:
02:23-02:27
And we asked, would you submit to your husband if you were married?
Pastor Jeff:
02:27-02:30
I thought it was gonna be this fun, like Jay Leno, Jay walking thing.
Pastor Jeff:
02:31-02:34
And then I, it wasn't.
Pastor Jeff:
02:38-02:39
I can only compare it to this.
Pastor Jeff:
02:39-02:48
Have you ever heard of those, there's like tribes of people that live in different places in the world that think like if you take their picture, like the camera captures their soul.
Pastor Jeff:
02:49-02:51
It was like that kind of a reaction we got from people.
Pastor Jeff:
02:52-02:59
So we got permission to audio record answers, but we did not get permission to video record.
Pastor Jeff:
02:59-03:03
So we're going to share the audio with you, all right?
Pastor Jeff:
03:03-03:05
So turn your attention to the screen.
Pastor Jeff:
03:05-03:10
But we asked some questions, and this is what we got from some local ladies.
Pastor Jeff:
03:12-03:17
Now, the Bible says that a wife is to submit to her own husband.
Pastor Jeff:
03:18-03:20
And I want to ask what you think about that.
Speaker 2:
03:20-03:21
Did you see the fire in my eyes?
Pastor Jeff:
03:22-03:23
What do you think about that?
Pastor Jeff:
03:23-03:24
Just honestly.
Speaker 2:
03:24-03:28
I think it's, the Bible was written in different times.
Speaker 2:
03:28-03:31
And I think as we progress, we've learned a lot.
Speaker 2:
03:32-03:34
So I think it has changed.
Speaker 2:
03:34-03:35
I don't believe in it.
Pastor Jeff:
03:35-03:36
Okay.
Pastor Jeff:
03:36-03:37
One more question.
Pastor Jeff:
03:37-03:37
It's yes or no.
Pastor Jeff:
03:38-03:39
I'm not going to ask if you're married.
Pastor Jeff:
03:40-03:42
But if you were, would you submit to your husband?
Speaker 2:
03:43-03:44
No.
Pastor Jeff:
03:44-03:46
All I want to know is this.
Pastor Jeff:
03:46-03:49
The Bible says that a wife should submit to her husband.
Pastor Jeff:
03:50-03:52
And I just want to know what you think about that, your honest opinion.
Speaker 2:
03:53-03:54
Equality all around.
Speaker 2:
03:54-03:55
There's no submission.
Speaker 2:
03:56-03:56
Okay.
Pastor Jeff:
03:57-03:58
Follow-up question for you.
Pastor Jeff:
03:58-03:58
This is yes or no.
Pastor Jeff:
03:58-03:59
I know.
Speaker 3:
03:59-04:00
You're making me nervous.
Speaker 3:
04:00-04:00
I don't know.
Pastor Jeff:
04:00-04:01
No, this isn't entrapment.
Pastor Jeff:
04:01-04:02
I just want your honest opinion.
Pastor Jeff:
04:03-04:06
Follow-up question is, and I'm not going to ask if you're married, but if you were, would you submit to your husband?
Speaker 3:
04:07-04:07
No.
Pastor Jeff:
04:07-04:08
Okay.
Pastor Jeff:
04:08-04:09
Thank you.
Speaker 4:
04:10-04:10
I agree.
Speaker 4:
04:11-04:14
I think that a man and wife should be equal.
Pastor Jeff:
04:14-04:15
Okay.
Speaker 3:
04:15-04:17
So I wouldn't say that a woman would submit.
Speaker 3:
04:17-04:18
I mean...
Pastor Jeff:
04:18-04:20
And if you were married, would you submit to your husband?
Speaker 4:
04:20-04:21
No.
Pastor Jeff:
04:21-04:21
Okay.
Pastor Jeff:
04:22-04:23
Same question for you.
Pastor Jeff:
04:23-04:25
The Bible says a wife should submit to her husband.
Pastor Jeff:
04:27-04:27
What do you think about that?
Speaker 5:
04:28-04:32
I think that the Bible should be interpreted differently for the times.
Speaker 5:
04:32-04:35
I think when it was written is differently interpreted now.
Pastor Jeff:
04:35-04:38
Okay, and if you were married, would you submit to your husband?
Speaker 5:
04:38-04:38
No.
Pastor Jeff:
04:38-04:39
Okay.
Pastor Jeff:
04:39-04:41
The question is just simply this.
Pastor Jeff:
04:41-04:45
The Bible says that wives should submit to their own husbands.
Pastor Jeff:
04:46-04:48
And all I want to know is what you think about that.
Speaker 6:
04:48-04:51
I feel like you should submit if you're given reason to.
Speaker 6:
04:51-04:53
I don't think you should just submit to a man because he's your husband.
Speaker 6:
04:54-04:58
If your man is making sure everything is taken care of, you're taking care of, then submit.
Speaker 6:
04:58-05:00
But not just because you're the husband, free reign.
Pastor Jeff:
05:01-05:02
Great.
Pastor Jeff:
05:02-05:03
One more question.
Pastor Jeff:
05:03-05:04
I'm not going to ask if you're married.
Pastor Jeff:
05:04-05:07
I just want to know, if you were married, would you submit to your husband yes or no?
Speaker 7:
05:09-05:10
If I'm taking care of, yes.
Pastor Jeff:
05:11-05:13
The Bible says wives submit to your own husbands.
Pastor Jeff:
05:14-05:15
What do you think about that?
Speaker 8:
05:15-05:16
I think no.
Speaker 8:
05:17-05:18
I am very independent.
Speaker 8:
05:19-05:20
And I carry my own.
Speaker 8:
05:20-05:21
I make my own money.
Speaker 8:
05:21-05:23
I kind of am my own boss.
Speaker 8:
05:24-05:31
have to learn to deal with me. I'm not gonna. Yeah, you just have to learn to deal with me. I'm not gonna submit. No. Okay.
Speaker 8:
05:31-05:32
Not gonna submit.
Pastor Jeff:
05:32-05:33
Okay, I guess..
Speaker 8:
05:33-05:36
the pants. I'm controlling. I have control problems.
Pastor Jeff:
05:38-05:47
Very self-aware apparently. So I guess the follow-up question is kind of mood at this point, but if I'm not gonna ask you if you're married, but if you are, would you submit to your husband?
Speaker 8:
05:48-05:56
Engaged. Yeah, I don't know.
Pastor Jeff:
06:02-06:11
Hindsight's always 20/20, but we also went out to film and record Election Day, and that probably wasn't the best time to do that either.
Pastor Jeff:
06:12-06:13
(congregation laughing)
Pastor Jeff:
06:17-06:20
But did you see a theme there?
Pastor Jeff:
06:25-06:29
So the question is, what is the role of a wife?
Pastor Jeff:
06:31-06:31
What is the role?
Pastor Jeff:
06:32-06:46
Well, I did a little more digging since apparently we didn't get great answers from the fine folks at McCandless Crossing.
Pastor Jeff:
06:46-07:01
They didn't seem too amiable about this whole submission concept, but I did find an article called "The Good Wife's Guide" from Housekeeping Monthly.
Pastor Jeff:
07:01-07:06
Now I should probably preface this by saying This was published in 1955.
Pastor Jeff:
07:07-07:08
(congregation laughing)
Pastor Jeff:
07:10-07:12
And there are 18, I'm not gonna read all 18.
Pastor Jeff:
07:12-07:14
All right, I'll send you the link if you want it.
Pastor Jeff:
07:14-07:15
You can probably Google it, whatever.
Pastor Jeff:
07:16-07:23
But there were 18 tips on how a wife can best be a partner to her husband and a mother to her children.
Pastor Jeff:
07:24-07:33
And all of these tips seem to, they seem to circle around the idea of how you treat your husband when he gets home from work.
Pastor Jeff:
07:33-07:36
That was like all 18 things on the list.
Pastor Jeff:
07:36-07:43
All right, like I said, I'm not gonna read all of them, but I think we would greatly benefit from hearing some of these, don't you, Justin?
Pastor Jeff:
07:44-07:45
Yeah, all right.
Pastor Jeff:
07:46-07:51
So first couple's like have dinner ready and they're about food and stuff like that, and I'm on board with that.
Pastor Jeff:
07:52-07:55
I love this, number three was prepare yourself.
Pastor Jeff:
07:56-07:59
Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives.
Pastor Jeff:
08:00-08:04
Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking.
Pastor Jeff:
08:06-08:08
He has just been with a lot of work weary people.
Pastor Jeff:
08:09-08:17
I don't know how things work in your house, but I don't know anybody that's getting refreshed in 15 minutes.
Pastor Jeff:
08:20-08:21
That's gonna take a lot more than that.
Pastor Jeff:
08:22-08:28
But ladies, again, okay, this isn't from the Bible, I'm just clarifying, but ladies, put a ribbon in your hair, please.
Pastor Jeff:
08:31-08:33
Apparently your husbands will appreciate that.
Pastor Jeff:
08:34-08:44
Number four on the list says, "Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him." I just love how that's worded.
Pastor Jeff:
08:46-08:50
I come home, I'm like, "Aaron, what did you do today?" And she's like, "You know what I found out?
Pastor Jeff:
08:50-08:52
"We were out of almond milk, so I had to..."
08:53-08:53
(Aaron screams)
08:53-08:54
I'm
Pastor Jeff:
08:54-08:55
gonna need you to be a little more interesting.
08:57-08:58
(congregation laughs)
08:59-08:59
How
Pastor Jeff:
08:59-09:00
would that play in your house?
Pastor Jeff:
09:02-09:07
(audience laughing) His boring day may need a lift, and one of your duties is to provide it.
Pastor Jeff:
09:07-09:14
All right, so ladies, please, in the name of all that is decent and holy, can you be a little more interesting?
Pastor Jeff:
09:15-09:19
All right, skipping down a few, number 10.
Pastor Jeff:
09:19-09:22
I asked security to be on standby really close, all right?
Pastor Jeff:
09:22-09:23
So we do have a security team here.
Pastor Jeff:
09:24-09:25
Ladies, I'm just letting you know.
Pastor Jeff:
09:27-09:36
And I didn't write this, but number 10 says, You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time.
Pastor Jeff:
09:38-09:39
Let him talk first.
Pastor Jeff:
09:39-09:44
Remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Pastor Jeff:
09:47-09:48
Oh, snap!
Pastor Jeff:
09:52-09:54
Moving right along, number 14.
Pastor Jeff:
09:56-09:59
Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night.
Pastor Jeff:
10:00-10:01
(congregation laughing)
Pastor Jeff:
10:04-10:06
Sounds like some of you aren't on board with that.
Pastor Jeff:
10:06-10:07
(congregation laughing)
Pastor Jeff:
10:09-10:13
Count this as minor compared to what he might have had to go on through that day.
Pastor Jeff:
10:14-10:16
Like, listen, honey, the printer at work clogged.
Pastor Jeff:
10:18-10:19
That's why I didn't come home.
Pastor Jeff:
10:20-10:21
Like, okay, sweetie.
Pastor Jeff:
10:23-10:25
After that would not fly in my house at all.
Pastor Jeff:
10:27-10:28
Y'all be planning my funeral.
Pastor Jeff:
10:28-10:29
(congregation laughing)
Pastor Jeff:
10:32-10:33
Number 16, I love this one.
Pastor Jeff:
10:34-10:36
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes.
Pastor Jeff:
10:36-10:41
(congregation laughing) But you don't just do that all willy nilly.
Pastor Jeff:
10:42-10:44
You have to speak in a low, soothing,
Pastor Jeff:
10:45-10:45
(laughing)
Pastor Jeff:
10:46-10:47
and pleasant voice.
Pastor Jeff:
10:51-10:54
Show of hands, men, do any of you have your wives do this for you?
Pastor Jeff:
10:54-10:55
Anybody here at all?
Pastor Jeff:
10:57-10:58
Not one person.
Pastor Jeff:
11:00-11:05
If you're watching this stream, would you please email me, man, if you have a wife that does this.
Pastor Jeff:
11:07-11:07
Wow.
Pastor Jeff:
11:09-11:16
Number 17 says, "Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment of integrity.
Pastor Jeff:
11:17-11:28
Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness." What are you married to Superman?
Pastor Jeff:
11:28-11:29
Like, what is that?
Pastor Jeff:
11:31-11:31
I love this.
Pastor Jeff:
11:32-11:33
You have no right to question him.
Pastor Jeff:
11:38-11:40
Welcome to North Korea.
Pastor Jeff:
11:42-11:43
Come on, man.
Pastor Jeff:
11:44-11:45
What is that all about?
Pastor Jeff:
11:47-11:51
And number 18, I think kind of, you know, really sums it up, doesn't it?
Pastor Jeff:
11:52-11:54
A good wife always knows her place.
Pastor Jeff:
11:55-12:05
So, all right, you know, I'm just gonna go ahead and pretend that we never did that.
Pastor Jeff:
12:07-12:09
So what is the role of a wife?
Pastor Jeff:
12:09-12:11
And you're like, I don't know, but it's not that.
Pastor Jeff:
12:13-12:21
Well, Ephesians 5.22 says, "Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord." So what is the role of a wife?
Pastor Jeff:
12:21-12:23
And you're like, I don't know, but it's not that either.
Pastor Jeff:
12:24-12:28
And it is, it absolutely is.
Pastor Jeff:
12:28-12:44
And the reason the hair stands up on the back of people's necks and people get their claws out when this is mentioned is just simply because it's so misunderstood.
Pastor Jeff:
12:46-12:58
So many wives miss the blessing because they don't understand what this means And because they don't understand it, they can't apply it.
Pastor Jeff:
13:01-13:06
So in the spirit of persuasion on your outline today, why should I submit to my husband?
Pastor Jeff:
13:07-13:13
So if you're a married woman today here, I'm talking to you, right?
Pastor Jeff:
13:14-13:18
And I certainly hope that your husbands are listening 'cause I have a few things to say to them too.
Pastor Jeff:
13:19-13:20
So why should I submit to my husband?
Pastor Jeff:
13:21-13:24
Number one, write this down, it's God's command.
Pastor Jeff:
13:26-13:26
It's God's command.
Pastor Jeff:
13:26-13:27
Look at verse 22 again.
Pastor Jeff:
13:28-13:32
All right, again, I didn't write this.
Pastor Jeff:
13:32-13:34
The elders did not come up with this.
Pastor Jeff:
13:34-13:37
This didn't come from some denomination somewhere.
Pastor Jeff:
13:38-13:39
This is from God.
Pastor Jeff:
13:40-13:47
It says, "Wives, submit to your own husbands "as to the Lord." Like what is submission?
Pastor Jeff:
13:47-13:51
Well, in a very generic sense, is humbling yourself to someone else.
Pastor Jeff:
13:52-13:58
But in the context of the home, specifically, it's coming under the authority and leadership of your husband.
Pastor Jeff:
14:01-14:05
You know, it's funny though, we talk about submission, right?
Pastor Jeff:
14:06-14:16
Because in our lives, just our daily living, we submit to so many different people in so many arenas, right?
Pastor Jeff:
14:16-14:20
We submit to the government, We submit to the police.
Pastor Jeff:
14:21-14:25
If you work outside your home, you have a boss that you submit to.
Pastor Jeff:
14:27-14:29
Submit to the leadership in the church.
Pastor Jeff:
14:30-14:43
Actually, it says in Ephesians 5.21, church context, that we should be submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Pastor Jeff:
14:43-14:55
Okay, so we live these lives where we're constantly in submission and all these arenas, but as soon as we mention this one, wives submit to your husbands, it's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
Pastor Jeff:
14:59-15:06
One of the reasons people react like that is because they think that submission is weakness, right?
Pastor Jeff:
15:06-15:12
It's this idea that submission is weakness, and it's not.
Pastor Jeff:
15:14-15:18
Who was the strongest person to ever walk the planet?
Pastor Jeff:
15:19-15:19
Who was it?
Pastor Jeff:
15:20-15:24
You're like, "Samson." No, no, there was somebody much stronger than Samson.
Pastor Jeff:
15:24-15:26
You're like, "Lupherig." No, no.
Pastor Jeff:
15:28-15:29
Who was the strongest person?
Pastor Jeff:
15:29-15:31
Shout out the answer if you're confident you know it.
Pastor Jeff:
15:32-15:38
Jesus, yeah, God in the flesh by far, the most powerful person to ever walk the planet.
Pastor Jeff:
15:38-15:47
And do you realize, Jesus was also the most submissive person to ever walk the planet.
Pastor Jeff:
15:49-15:51
He said it, John 6:38.
Pastor Jeff:
15:52-16:07
Jesus said, "For I've come down from heaven, "not to do my will, but the will of Him who sent me." Do you realize every second of Jesus' earthly ministry was in perfect submission to His Father's
16:07-16:08
will.
16:08-16:11
He never did anything of His own will.
16:11-16:24
He's like, "Everything I do is in complete submission to my Father." So if you think submission is weakness, I would encourage you to take a look at Jesus Christ.
16:25-16:26
Submission is strength.
16:30-16:34
Submission is saying, "God, I trust you.
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Therefore, I am going to
Pastor Jeff:
16:37-16:41
trust the authorities that you placed in my life.
Pastor Jeff:
16:43-16:45
That takes strength to do that.
Pastor Jeff:
16:49-16:50
We gotta clarify some things here, right?
Pastor Jeff:
16:50-16:51
We gotta be really specific.
Pastor Jeff:
16:52-16:55
You're gonna wanna jot some things down as we talk about submission.
Pastor Jeff:
16:56-17:02
Submission does not mean, submission does not mean, first of all, inferiority.
Pastor Jeff:
17:05-17:07
Submission has nothing to do with equality.
Pastor Jeff:
17:07-17:09
See, people get caught up on that.
Pastor Jeff:
17:09-17:11
Has nothing to do with that.
Pastor Jeff:
17:13-17:15
Jesus submitted to the Father, right?
Pastor Jeff:
17:16-17:18
Was Jesus inferior to the Father?
Pastor Jeff:
17:19-17:25
No, in fact, Hebrews 1, spoiler alert, God the Father calls God the Son, God.
Pastor Jeff:
17:25-17:26
Did you know that?
Pastor Jeff:
17:26-17:29
God the Father calls Jesus, God.
Pastor Jeff:
17:29-17:30
He's like, you're my God.
Pastor Jeff:
17:31-17:34
There's not inferiority, there's total equality.
Pastor Jeff:
17:35-17:43
And listen, men and women, husbands and wives, you can be equal and have different roles, right?
Pastor Jeff:
17:46-17:54
Like think of a thousand dollar drum kit or a thousand dollar guitar.
Pastor Jeff:
17:56-17:58
They both have the same value, don't they?
Pastor Jeff:
17:58-17:59
They're both a thousand dollars.
Pastor Jeff:
18:00-18:01
Do they have the same role?
Pastor Jeff:
18:02-18:04
No, they don't have the same role.
Pastor Jeff:
18:06-18:09
So submission is not a matter of inferiority, right?
Pastor Jeff:
18:10-18:12
Submission is not a matter of slavery.
Pastor Jeff:
18:13-18:16
Secondly, they rightly did away with slavery.
Pastor Jeff:
18:16-18:16
Did you hear?
Pastor Jeff:
18:18-18:19
Did you hear about that?
Pastor Jeff:
18:21-18:23
They did away with slavery.
Pastor Jeff:
18:25-18:26
Some of you are looking at me like, what?
Pastor Jeff:
18:28-18:29
They did away with slavery.
Pastor Jeff:
18:31-18:32
Oh my goodness.
Pastor Jeff:
18:32-18:33
I gotta back up here.
Pastor Jeff:
18:34-18:35
Abraham Lincoln.
Pastor Jeff:
18:40-18:42
How far back do I have to start over?
Pastor Jeff:
18:44-18:45
They did away with slavery.
Pastor Jeff:
18:46-18:47
Submission isn't slavery.
Pastor Jeff:
18:49-18:51
Right, we'll circle back to that one later.
Pastor Jeff:
18:52-18:57
Submission also, ladies, submission doesn't mean you're called to submit to all men.
Pastor Jeff:
18:58-19:03
Notice the passage says to your own husbands, to your own husbands, submit to your own husbands.
Pastor Jeff:
19:04-19:09
It's not this idea that all men are authorities over all women who are submissive.
Pastor Jeff:
19:09-19:11
That's not it either.
Pastor Jeff:
19:12-19:16
Next, a submission does not mean that you submit to sin.
Pastor Jeff:
19:17-19:28
In other words, if your husband would ask you to do something that's sinful, you don't do it because you're appealing to the higher authority, which is God.
Pastor Jeff:
19:28-19:37
Colossians 3:18 says, "Wives, submit to your husbands "as is fitting in the Lord." As is fitting, right?
Pastor Jeff:
19:39-19:42
If your husband asks you to sin, wives, no, no.
Pastor Jeff:
19:43-19:44
We don't sin.
Pastor Jeff:
19:49-19:53
And submission does not mean that your opinion is disregarded, okay?
Pastor Jeff:
19:53-19:54
This is another big one.
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Submission doesn't mean, wives, that you can't speak up.
Pastor Jeff:
19:59-20:02
It doesn't mean that you're not allowed to disagree.
Pastor Jeff:
20:04-20:09
It doesn't mean that you're not allowed to, hey, let's talk about things before we make a final decision.
Pastor Jeff:
20:09-20:11
Submission doesn't mean that you're not allowed to have an opinion.
Pastor Jeff:
20:12-20:20
It's okay, not only to have an opinion, which I can't believe I have to say that out loud, but somebody needs to hear that.
Pastor Jeff:
20:23-20:26
Another thing you need to hear though is this, husbands, it's okay to defer some things to your wife.
Pastor Jeff:
20:28-20:28
That's okay.
Pastor Jeff:
20:32-20:36
In our house, Aaron and I make decisions together.
Pastor Jeff:
20:36-20:38
We make like every decision together.
Pastor Jeff:
20:38-20:43
And I don't mean like what brand of orange juice to buy.
Pastor Jeff:
20:44-20:45
Let's have a family meeting.
Pastor Jeff:
20:45-20:46
I don't mean that.
Pastor Jeff:
20:48-20:51
I mean the big decisions, right?
Pastor Jeff:
20:51-20:52
The direction of our family.
Pastor Jeff:
20:54-21:00
Things we're planning for the kids, like schooling, vacation, financial decisions.
Pastor Jeff:
21:00-21:02
You know my wife works in finance.
Pastor Jeff:
21:03-21:11
And how idiotic would it be of me to try to make decisions for our family without saying, "Hey, Aaron, help me figure this out.
Pastor Jeff:
21:11-21:18
"What should we do here?" It should be a team effort.
Pastor Jeff:
21:21-21:26
Now, God said the husband is the authority in the home.
Pastor Jeff:
21:27-21:30
And you're like, well, what does that, what does authority mean?
Pastor Jeff:
21:30-21:31
Here's what authority means.
Pastor Jeff:
21:31-21:36
You're gonna wanna write this down because Rich is gonna talk about this next week.
Pastor Jeff:
21:40-21:42
This gets so skewed.
Pastor Jeff:
21:43-21:44
This is what authority means.
Pastor Jeff:
21:45-21:49
I have to make choices to bless and protect those that have been entrusted to me.
Pastor Jeff:
21:50-21:51
That's what authority means.
Pastor Jeff:
21:52-21:55
Some people think authority means, I'm the boss, I get my way.
Pastor Jeff:
21:56-21:58
You do what, that's not what it means at all.
Pastor Jeff:
21:59-22:04
Authority means God has called me to make decisions to bless and protect those that he's entrusted to me.
Pastor Jeff:
22:06-22:08
That's what authority in the church means.
Pastor Jeff:
22:09-22:12
Our elders are trying to make decisions to bless and protect all of you.
Pastor Jeff:
22:12-22:14
That has to translate into home.
Pastor Jeff:
22:14-22:18
I have to make decisions that are gonna be what's best for my family.
Pastor Jeff:
22:21-22:26
And wives, submission is empowering your husband to be the leader that God calls him to be.
Pastor Jeff:
22:27-22:28
That's what submission is.
Pastor Jeff:
22:30-22:33
And there's no way around it, it's a command.
Pastor Jeff:
22:35-22:53
And this is the part where the preacher's gonna try to soften the blow or put a little sugar on it or try to redefine some terms, but look, this church was founded on the belief that the word of God does the work of God and we proclaim the authority of God's word without apology.
Pastor Jeff:
22:55-22:56
This is a command.
Pastor Jeff:
22:57-23:05
Notice it says, "Wives, submit to your husbands." Look at this last phrase, "As to the Lord." Do you see that?
Pastor Jeff:
23:07-23:10
It's as if you were responding to Jesus himself.
Pastor Jeff:
23:14-23:21
"Wives, submitting to your husband is part of your submitting to Jesus." That's God's will for you.
Pastor Jeff:
23:23-23:24
Your room just got a lot more tense.
Pastor Jeff:
23:28-23:31
You're like, yeah, can you read some more of those funny things from 1955?
Pastor Jeff:
23:35-23:37
Because this is where it gets uncomfortable.
Pastor Jeff:
23:38-24:02
But the biggest reason that wives submit to your husbands gets so, so protested and so resisted, The number one reason that we have such a hard time with this concept is because husbands are not loving and leading their wives the way they're supposed to.
Pastor Jeff:
24:03-24:04
That's why.
Pastor Jeff:
24:08-24:10
Again, Rich is gonna talk about that next week.
Pastor Jeff:
24:10-24:11
You cannot miss next week.
Pastor Jeff:
24:12-24:19
If we show up here next week and you're not here, we are sending a bus to pick you up because you can't miss it.
Pastor Jeff:
24:22-24:27
That's why submission is such a struggle, because there's two sides of this coin.
Pastor Jeff:
24:29-24:46
Husbands and wives both have their roles to fill out, and when a husband isn't loving his wife the way Christ loved the church, oh, spoiler alert, when a husband's not doing that, it's a lot harder to embrace this idea of submission.
24:50-24:50
(sniffling)
24:52-24:52
To
Pastor Jeff:
24:52-25:01
make it worse, too many men have abused their authority and they've twisted this verse to mean something that it does not mean.
Pastor Jeff:
25:03-25:05
And that's why we get all these objections from wives.
Pastor Jeff:
25:06-25:08
You know, like, "Well, what if my husband's not a Christian?
Pastor Jeff:
25:09-25:16
"What if my husband's not a Christian?" Well, actually that gives you an extra motivation to be submissive to him.
Pastor Jeff:
25:17-25:33
according to Peter, because Peter says in 1 Peter 3, 1, "Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives." You see that?
Pastor Jeff:
25:35-25:39
You can win your husband by your godly conduct.
Pastor Jeff:
25:41-25:53
You're like, "Well, what if my husband isn't a good leader?" Are there times that we are called to submit to those who are not good leaders?
Pastor Jeff:
25:55-25:57
Has it ever happened like with our government?
Pastor Jeff:
26:00-26:00
Ever?
Pastor Jeff:
26:02-26:05
I mean, I have to ask because apparently you didn't hear about Abraham Lincoln and that whole thing.
Pastor Jeff:
26:10-26:13
We're called to submit even when it's bad.
Pastor Jeff:
26:14-26:17
Did you ever have a rotten boss?
Pastor Jeff:
26:19-26:20
Did you ever have a really bad boss?
Pastor Jeff:
26:21-26:22
Jillian, you're not allowed to raise your hand.
Pastor Jeff:
26:24-26:26
Did you ever have a really bad boss?
Pastor Jeff:
26:27-26:30
We're called to submit even when the leadership isn't great.
Pastor Jeff:
26:32-26:38
You're like, "Well, what if my husband is abusive?" Hey, submission does not mean that you're allowed to be abused.
Pastor Jeff:
26:39-26:40
It does not mean that.
Pastor Jeff:
26:41-26:45
And if you're in a situation where you are, you need to come and see me as soon as possible.
Pastor Jeff:
26:45-26:48
Reach out to me and we will get you out of that situation.
Pastor Jeff:
26:51-26:55
But submission doesn't mean that I just have to take abuse.
Pastor Jeff:
26:57-26:58
That's not it.
Pastor Jeff:
26:58-27:00
We wanna protect you and your kids.
Pastor Jeff:
27:01-27:12
Otherwise, ladies, wives specifically, you're commanded to seek the Lord in how to submit to your own husband.
Pastor Jeff:
27:13-27:18
And ultimately, look, ultimately it's a faith issue.
Pastor Jeff:
27:18-27:19
It just is.
Pastor Jeff:
27:21-27:32
Just as you demonstrate your love for Christ by obedience, you demonstrate trust in God's sovereignty by submitting to your husband's leadership.
Pastor Jeff:
27:33-27:34
It's ultimately a faith issue.
Pastor Jeff:
27:34-27:37
You trust God or you don't, right?
Pastor Jeff:
27:37-27:39
But why should I submit to my husband?
Pastor Jeff:
27:39-27:40
Because it's God's command.
Pastor Jeff:
27:42-27:45
Secondly, number two, why should I submit to my husband?
Pastor Jeff:
27:45-27:46
It's God's design.
Pastor Jeff:
27:47-27:47
Look at verse 23.
Pastor Jeff:
27:49-28:04
It says, "For the husband is the head of the wife, "even as Christ is the head of the church, "his body, and is himself its savior." See, it's God's design.
Pastor Jeff:
28:04-28:09
And here's where the motivation comes in because it's commanded, and that should be motivation enough.
Pastor Jeff:
28:10-28:11
I agree.
Pastor Jeff:
28:11-28:13
but understand it's so much more.
Pastor Jeff:
28:13-28:15
It's not some arbitrary command.
Pastor Jeff:
28:16-28:18
It's God's design since creation.
Pastor Jeff:
28:20-28:30
Creation, in creation, God designed the husband to be the loving authority in the home and the wife to be the submissive helper in the home.
Pastor Jeff:
28:32-28:36
You're like, okay, well, if that's God's design, then why is it so hard to live out?
Pastor Jeff:
28:40-28:44
because of Genesis 3.16, that's why.
Pastor Jeff:
28:46-28:57
Realize in the Garden of Eden, we've preached in this so many times, but man brought sin into the world and by transgressing the one law that God gave.
Pastor Jeff:
28:58-29:01
And in Genesis 3, God gives the consequences of sin.
Pastor Jeff:
29:02-29:12
And in Genesis 3.16, one of the consequences of being fallen people, living in a fallen earth, One of the consequences is going to be the breakdown of the marriage relationship.
Pastor Jeff:
29:13-29:22
And that's where God says to Eve, "Your desire shall be contrary to your husband." That's a figure of speech.
Pastor Jeff:
29:22-29:27
Your desire is to rule over your husband is literally what that means.
Pastor Jeff:
29:27-29:30
You're going to have this desire to be the authority.
Pastor Jeff:
29:31-29:42
The second part of that says, "But he shall rule over you." And in the Hebrew, we've talked about this before, that phrase, a rule over, it's a very harsh term, okay?
Pastor Jeff:
29:42-29:46
It's not a polite concept at all.
Pastor Jeff:
29:47-29:57
It's your husband's not gonna treat you the way that you deserve, and you're going to have this desire to be the authority in the home.
Pastor Jeff:
29:58-30:03
It's the conflict in the marriage relationship as a result of the fall.
Pastor Jeff:
30:07-30:16
And then, you know, we have these weddings and, you know, all the chapel bells are ringing and all that stuff.
Pastor Jeff:
30:18-30:22
And really what we're doing is we're putting two sinners together in the same home.
Pastor Jeff:
30:23-30:25
And there's gonna be conflict.
Pastor Jeff:
30:25-30:33
And our only hope, our only hope, is God's power by His Holy Spirit and God's wisdom by His word.
Pastor Jeff:
30:33-30:36
That's our only hope for making any marriage work.
Pastor Jeff:
30:40-30:44
But from the beginning, submission is the wife's role in God's design.
Pastor Jeff:
30:44-30:45
It's pre-fall.
Pastor Jeff:
30:45-30:47
It's the role that God always intended.
Pastor Jeff:
30:51-30:58
And because God is the designer, going with His design is the only way that it's going to work.
Pastor Jeff:
31:02-31:07
So wives, you need to get before the Lord.
Pastor Jeff:
31:08-31:11
Am I submitting to my husband in a way that honors you?
Pastor Jeff:
31:13-31:17
Because God, I see you commanded it, and it's been your design from the beginning.
Pastor Jeff:
31:18-31:26
And wives, I gotta tell you, you're not being submissive when you're more loyal to other people than you are your own husband.
Pastor Jeff:
31:27-31:30
And you talk to anybody that's come to me for premarital counseling.
Pastor Jeff:
31:30-31:33
I talk about these things with every couple.
Pastor Jeff:
31:35-31:40
When you demonstrate to your husband that you're more loyal to other people than to him, that's not submission.
Pastor Jeff:
31:43-31:48
Wives, when you argue or pout when you don't get your way, that's not submission.
Pastor Jeff:
31:51-32:00
When you manipulate with tears, with nagging, with deceit, That's not submission.
Pastor Jeff:
32:02-32:06
When you publicly belittle your husband, that's not submission.
Pastor Jeff:
32:09-32:12
I've seen wives, it's okay to have, we have fun with each other, right?
Pastor Jeff:
32:12-32:13
All families do.
Pastor Jeff:
32:14-32:22
But I've seen wives just like belittle and berate their husbands publicly and I just see their wives, or their husbands just standing there like so embarrassed.
Pastor Jeff:
32:23-32:25
Like, "Let me tell you what the big idiot did.
Pastor Jeff:
32:25-32:28
What a moron, and just running him down in front of people.
Pastor Jeff:
32:35-32:40
Like I said, I like to joke and have fun, and we play around and stuff, but why was you gonna watch that?
Pastor Jeff:
32:42-32:46
You're not being submissive when you make decisions without talking to your husband.
Pastor Jeff:
32:47-32:49
Like I said, Erin and I make all of our decisions together.
Pastor Jeff:
32:50-32:50
She'll tell you.
Pastor Jeff:
32:52-32:53
We make every decision together.
Pastor Jeff:
32:54-33:11
We never make a major decision without lots of talking, praying, thinking about it, but you know, I'm never gonna come home from work someday and find an escalator in our driveway.
Pastor Jeff:
33:11-33:15
And they're just like, "Hey, check out what I decided to buy today." It's not gonna happen.
Pastor Jeff:
33:15-33:16
And she knows the same.
Pastor Jeff:
33:17-33:18
We decide on everything together.
Pastor Jeff:
33:22-33:25
I just thought I'd kind of drop that hint in the sermon.
Pastor Jeff:
33:26-33:28
Maybe we can talk about that later, Aaron.
Pastor Jeff:
33:32-33:34
It's God's design.
Pastor Jeff:
33:34-33:37
God wants to bless and protect you, wives.
Pastor Jeff:
33:37-33:47
God wants to bless and protect you, and he's done that by establishing authority and not being submissive, as putting yourself outside of God's design.
Pastor Jeff:
33:52-33:55
and to be blunt with you.
Pastor Jeff:
33:57-34:03
If you can read this and hear this and study this and say, yeah, I see what the Bible says, but I ain't submitting to no man.
Pastor Jeff:
34:03-34:06
What you're saying is I know better than God.
Pastor Jeff:
34:08-34:11
I've come up with a way that makes more sense than the way God's come up with.
Pastor Jeff:
34:14-34:20
And I say this as your friend, but that's a very arrogant place to be, thinking you know better.
Pastor Jeff:
34:22-34:26
And you're putting yourself outside of the blessing and protection of God.
Pastor Jeff:
34:26-34:27
God's design is best.
Pastor Jeff:
34:28-34:29
God's design is best.
Pastor Jeff:
34:31-34:38
And I think this is a great place to remind you that God's ways always seem counterintuitive.
Pastor Jeff:
34:39-34:40
Every time, right?
Pastor Jeff:
34:44-34:44
You want money?
Pastor Jeff:
34:45-34:46
How does God say to get money?
Pastor Jeff:
34:48-34:48
It's counterintuitive.
Pastor Jeff:
34:48-34:50
Give, right, I heard somebody say give.
Pastor Jeff:
34:50-34:51
That's how you get money.
Pastor Jeff:
34:51-34:53
God says, "You give and I'll give back to you.
Pastor Jeff:
34:54-34:57
You give to my purposes, I'll give you more." It's counterintuitive.
Pastor Jeff:
34:57-35:00
Like who came up with the idea that I give my money away to get more money?
Pastor Jeff:
35:01-35:01
That doesn't make sense.
Pastor Jeff:
35:02-35:06
God says, "That's exactly how it works." It's counterintuitive.
Pastor Jeff:
35:07-35:08
And how do you handle your enemies?
Pastor Jeff:
35:09-35:10
We crush them, right?
Pastor Jeff:
35:11-35:12
How do we handle our enemies?
Pastor Jeff:
35:13-35:14
It's counterintuitive.
Pastor Jeff:
35:14-35:15
What do we do?
Pastor Jeff:
35:15-35:21
Bless them, pray for them, seek to do good to them, That's counterintuitive.
Pastor Jeff:
35:23-35:24
God says, that's how you win them.
Pastor Jeff:
35:27-35:36
And then we get to the home and we're like, wives, how do you get fulfillment?
Pastor Jeff:
35:36-35:38
How do you get satisfaction?
Pastor Jeff:
35:38-35:47
How do you get this feeling of you're in this role and you're living the purpose for which God gave you as a wife?
Pastor Jeff:
35:47-35:48
How do you do it?
Pastor Jeff:
35:50-35:51
The best path is submission.
Pastor Jeff:
35:53-35:55
It's counterintuitive, yes.
Pastor Jeff:
35:59-36:03
It seems like everything God calls us to do is.
Pastor Jeff:
36:05-36:06
It's God's design.
Pastor Jeff:
36:06-36:10
Finally, number three, it's God's display.
Pastor Jeff:
36:11-36:12
It's God's display.
Pastor Jeff:
36:13-36:25
Verse 24 says, "Now as the church submits to Christ, So also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
36:29-36:30
Wow.
36:32-36:33
Why,
Pastor Jeff:
36:33-36:34
why do we submit?
Pastor Jeff:
36:34-36:35
Look at it again.
Pastor Jeff:
36:35-36:43
Now, as the church admits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Pastor Jeff:
36:44-36:45
Why should we submit?
Pastor Jeff:
36:45-36:47
Wives, why should we submit to our husbands?
Pastor Jeff:
36:47-36:55
wives because marriage is designed to be a picture of Christ and his bride, the church.
Pastor Jeff:
36:56-37:08
Okay, so God's goal for everything, God's goal for literally everything is to put his glory on display, right?
Pastor Jeff:
37:10-37:15
Let me ask you, what is God's goal for your marriage?
Pastor Jeff:
37:17-37:20
It's the same goal, to put his glory on display.
Pastor Jeff:
37:21-37:24
That's the reason God designed marriage.
Pastor Jeff:
37:25-37:28
That's why this whole idea of husband and wife, that's the purpose behind it.
Pastor Jeff:
37:29-37:33
God wants to put his glory on display, and how does that happen?
Pastor Jeff:
37:37-37:42
It's when you husbands and wives are a display.
Pastor Jeff:
37:43-37:49
You are a picture to the world of the relationship that Jesus Christ has with his church.
Pastor Jeff:
37:51-37:51
That's the picture.
Pastor Jeff:
37:52-38:01
See, the world should look at you, husbands and wives, look at how you interact with one another, and they should see this is the relationship that Jesus Christ has with his church.
Pastor Jeff:
38:01-38:03
There it is right there, I see it.
Pastor Jeff:
38:03-38:07
The husband, again, spoiler alert, sorry, Rich.
Pastor Jeff:
38:08-38:10
I'm not stealing all your thunder from next week, are you?
Pastor Jeff:
38:10-38:11
Or am I?
Pastor Jeff:
38:11-38:11
I am?
Pastor Jeff:
38:12-38:14
All right, you'll get the week off then.
Pastor Jeff:
38:16-38:20
But the husband is to represent Christ in the marriage relationship.
Pastor Jeff:
38:21-38:23
A servant leader who loves his bride even to death.
Pastor Jeff:
38:24-38:29
And will do everything to provide everything that the wife needs.
Pastor Jeff:
38:31-38:32
Isn't that what Christ did?
Pastor Jeff:
38:33-38:36
I will die so that you can have everything.
Pastor Jeff:
38:40-38:41
Men, that's what you're called to.
Pastor Jeff:
38:43-38:46
That's what you are to do with your authority.
Pastor Jeff:
38:47-38:55
And the wife is to represent the church who loves her Lord and submits to his leadership and follows his lead.
Pastor Jeff:
38:55-38:57
That's what the church does for Jesus.
Pastor Jeff:
38:57-39:03
Wives, that's how you should submit to Jesus.
Pastor Jeff:
39:03-39:05
to your husbands according to verse 24.
Pastor Jeff:
39:08-39:11
Boy, this sure speaks to the conditional submission, doesn't it?
Pastor Jeff:
39:12-39:16
We saw that in one of the opening video, man on the street things, right?
Pastor Jeff:
39:16-39:20
The girl said something like, I'll only submit if.
Pastor Jeff:
39:22-39:25
I'll only submit if my husband does this, or...
Pastor Jeff:
39:27-39:28
Is that how it works in the church?
Pastor Jeff:
39:30-39:38
Like Jesus, Harvest Bible Chapel, we are yours and we will do whatever you call us to do as long as it's not one of these three things.
Pastor Jeff:
39:39-39:40
Other than that, Jesus, we're all yours.
Pastor Jeff:
39:40-39:41
Is that how the church works?
Pastor Jeff:
39:45-39:50
No, we submit even if we don't want to, right?
Pastor Jeff:
39:52-39:53
Even if we don't understand.
Pastor Jeff:
39:57-40:00
Does Jesus sometimes make decisions that we don't like?
Pastor Jeff:
40:02-40:03
Does he?
Pastor Jeff:
40:04-40:05
Oh, come on, we can be honest.
Pastor Jeff:
40:05-40:06
He already knows.
Pastor Jeff:
40:07-40:07
Yeah.
Pastor Jeff:
40:08-40:14
Sometimes, listen, sometimes Jesus makes decisions that I'm not on board with at first.
Pastor Jeff:
40:14-40:19
I catch up, don't get me wrong, but sometimes I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, Jesus.
Pastor Jeff:
40:19-40:20
This is what has to happen.
Pastor Jeff:
40:21-40:22
This person needs healed.
Pastor Jeff:
40:22-40:26
No, no, no, Jesus, this is what the church needs.
Pastor Jeff:
40:26-40:34
This is, and I think I have it all figured out, and sometimes Jesus makes decisions that, frankly, I just don't understand.
Pastor Jeff:
40:34-40:36
Like, why would you do this?
Pastor Jeff:
40:39-40:53
But submission comes when we as a church say, you know what, I don't, maybe I don't agree with what he's doing, maybe I don't understand what he's doing, but I know, ultimately, blessing is going to come our way when we follow Jesus Christ.
Pastor Jeff:
40:54-40:55
That's why I follow him.
Pastor Jeff:
40:55-40:57
even if I don't like it or agree with it.
Pastor Jeff:
41:00-41:03
I know that following Him is the path to blessing.
Pastor Jeff:
41:05-41:08
And wives, it's the same.
Pastor Jeff:
41:11-41:22
Blessing is always on the path of submission because you're putting the relationship of Jesus and His church on display.
Pastor Jeff:
41:24-41:36
And I know at this point, actually I was gonna say at this point, but probably some of you a half hour ago said, oh yeah, I hear you Pastor Jeff, but all of this is so easy for you to say 'cause you ain't a wife.
Pastor Jeff:
41:39-41:39
Guilty.
Pastor Jeff:
41:40-41:41
I'm not a wife.
Pastor Jeff:
41:44-41:53
I cannot speak to the blessings of submission based on my own personal experience.
Pastor Jeff:
41:55-41:57
But I have some good friends who can.
Pastor Jeff:
41:58-42:00
I'd ask you to turn your attention to the screen.
Shelly:
42:02-42:06
Hi, my name is Shelly. I've been married to my husband, Roberto, for 23 years.
Shelly:
42:07-42:13
Being submissive to your husband is something God calls us as wives to do.
Shelly:
42:14-42:16
And He does bless you when you are obedient.
Shelly:
42:17-42:23
And He has blessed our marriage in that we have a strong relationship with each other that grows daily.
Shelly:
42:25-42:37
I also believe that being submissive to your husband is a practice to being submissive to God because that's what he wants every man and woman to do, is to submit our lives and our hearts to him.
Bethany:
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Hi, my name is Bethany Sprunk and I've been married to my husband, Rich, for 36 wonderful years.
Bethany:
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Submitting to Rich has meant accepting God's good order for my life, just as Rich submits himself to God and accepts God's good order for his life. Some ways that I've done this over the years include encouraging Rich, not shutting him out, and not making major decisions independently.
Bethany:
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We communicate and we're in this together. There have been challenges over the years, but through them I've learned the best way to live is in obedience to God, and that includes submitting to my husband. I've been blessed with a strong, joyful, loving marriage, and we pray every day that our marriage will reflect and honor our Savior and our God.
Jane:
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My name is Jane Saber and I have been married to Don for over 50 years now.
Jane:
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When I think of the word submission, I think of coming under the mission that God designed back in Genesis when he created woman to be a helper for man.
Jane:
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I see it as Don and I walking hand in hand and side by side down this path of life, Him leading the way, submitting to God's leadership has helped us to avoid some pitfalls and rocky places that He has always looked out for.
Jane:
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It has given us a sense of peace and less controversy in our marriage.
Jane:
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It has given us a real sense of oneness and a respecter for each other's opinions.
Jane:
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I would encourage women to know that it is always good and right to do things God's way.
Jane:
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Pray for your husbands, that they are sensitive to God's direction in leading you down the path of life, and that you become the helper that God intended you to be.
Jane:
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Come under the mission.
Pastor Jeff:
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You know, maybe I should have just led with that.
Pastor Jeff:
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That's how it works.
Pastor Jeff:
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we have people that can testify to that.
Pastor Jeff:
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Like our elders to come forward who are going to serve communion as our worship team makes their way back up, we're going to close our time here together around the Lord's table.
Pastor Jeff:
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Communion reminds us of so much.
Pastor Jeff:
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It reminds us of the price that was paid to redeem us.
Pastor Jeff:
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It reminds us of the love of God to save us from his wrath.
Pastor Jeff:
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But it also graphically displays the ultimate example of submission.
Pastor Jeff:
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So if there's anyone here that maybe is still, in some way, shape or form protesting this idea.
Pastor Jeff:
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I want you to consider the body and the blood of Jesus Christ.
Pastor Jeff:
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As we're reminded, submission isn't weakness.
Pastor Jeff:
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Submission is strength.
Pastor Jeff:
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And it's the path to blessing.
Pastor Jeff:
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What a glorious picture.
Pastor Jeff:
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of the strength of submission.
Pastor Jeff:
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The Bible tells us on the night that Jesus was betrayed, he took bread and he broke it and he gave thanks. And he said, "This is my body which is given for you. Eat this in remembrance of me." me.
Pastor Jeff:
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After the meal, Jesus took the cup and he said, "This is the blood of the new covenant which is poured out for the forgiveness of sin. Drink this in remembrance of me." you
Small Group Discussion
Read Ephesians 5:22-24
What was your big take-away from this passage / message?
Why do you think this topic (wives submitting to their husbands) gets such an emotional reaction?
What do you think is the biggest motivator for wives to submit to their husbands? Why?
List some specific blessings that come to wives when they submit to their husbands.
Breakout
Pray for one another!