Knowing Jesus - Knowing His Healing

Introduction:

Do You Want to Be Healed?
5 Things You Need to Do to Get Better :
(John 5:1-18)

  1. You have to Want to. (John 5:6)
  2. Stop Blaming others for your problems. (John 5:7)
  3. Stop doing things Your way. (John 5:7)
  4. Do what Jesus says to do. (John 5:8)
    1. Get up
    2. Take up your bed
    3. Walk
  5. Live in Gratitude to Jesus. (John 5:14)

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  • 01:11-01:11

    John 5.

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    Every message through John, we're looking at one thing.

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    And that's what does Jesus want us to know about Him.

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    So that we might know Him in a greater way.

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    That's our theme this year, "Knowing Jesus." John 5. Pick up in verse 1.

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    It says, "After this, there was a feast of the Jews, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem.

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    Now there is in Jerusalem by the Sheep Gate a pool, an Aramaic called Bethesda, which has five rooted colonnades.

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    And these lay a multitude of invalids, blind, lame, and paralyzed." Okay, so John takes us to the scene.

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    There's a feast, one of the three annual feasts of the Jews, and Jesus, like every Jewish man, went to Jerusalem for the feast.

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    And it says there was this pool that was by the sheep gate.

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    Do you know what the sheep gate was for?

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    Sheep, OK.

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    That's right.

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    You've studied this?

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    Yeah, the sheep gate was for the sheep.

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    But this pool, think of it in terms sort of as a public pool.

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    It was used for water.

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    It was used for cooling off.

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    It was used for bathing.

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    But this was a large one.

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    We know it's large because it had five porches.

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    And it says that this is a place where many invalids hung out.

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    Well, why did they hang out there?

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    Well, does your Bible have a verse 4 in it?

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    Look down at your Bible.

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    Is there a verse 4 in your Bible?

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    No.

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    Wait a second.

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    I got a defective-- I know I shouldn't have bought my Bible at Ollie's.

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    No, your verse 4 might actually be in the footnote.

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    That's where it is in mine.

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    It says, "Some manuscripts," insert, holy or impart, "Waiting for the moving of the water, for an angel of the Lord went down at certain seasons into the pool and stirred the water.

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    Whoever stepped in first after the stirring of the water was healed of whatever disease he had." Like, why isn't that up with the regular text?

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    The reason that's not up with the regular text is it doesn't belong in the text. That's why.

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    This was actually a superstition, okay?

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    It wasn't true.

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    What happened was in the early manuscripts, that wasn't in there at all, and somebody later, when the manuscripts were being copied, knew of this superstition and said, "We're going to insert that in there." But that didn't really happen.

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    Like, how in the world, Pastor Jeff, do you know that that didn't happen?

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    I want you to think about it.

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    Where else in God's Word have you ever seen anything like that?

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    I was thinking about it a lot this week.

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    You know, that's an extremely cruel thought when you think about it.

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    I mean, just, who do the angels work for?

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    God, right? And they work for God perfectly, right?

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    They do whatever God says to do.

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    So you're telling me that under God's sovereignty and under God's direction, this angel, every so often, has a race for invalence.

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    And says, "I'll tell you what, I'm going to sneak down and I'm going to splash the water, and whoever gets into the pool first gets healed, and the rest of you, sorry about your luck.

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    Does that sound like God at all to you?

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    To have some sort of an impromptu race for handicapped people?

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    I mean, that sounds horribly cruel to me.

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    And I just don't buy it.

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    I just don't buy that that was actually a thing.

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    I think it was a superstition.

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    Like, oh, they were so silly back then, weren't they, Pastor Jeff?

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    I look up the Popovich Miracle Water, right?

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    Right, Darren Keller?

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    Sally sent me a video one time with Peter Popovich with his miracle water.

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    That you get this little packet of water in the mail, and these people are like, I got a check for $7,000 thanks to the miracle water.

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    Some people believe anything.

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    And that's exactly what was happening here.

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    The pool was probably fed by some underground spring, and every so often it bubbled up.

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    And the people were like, "Oh, the angels are taking a bath!

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    Now's the time to jump in and get healed." Well, that's what was going on there.

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    The Invalids laid around there because a lot of them believed the superstition.

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    Verse 5 though, let's focus on one of them in particular.

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    It says, "One man was there who had been an Invalid for 38 years." Just stop there for a second.

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    Let's try to conceptualize that.

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    Some of you haven't yet lived 38 years.

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    So just for you, it's like your entire life plus, right?

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    I was trying to conceptualize it for me.

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    That would mean for me that I would have become an invalid in sixth grade, or I'm sorry, when I was six years old.

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    Sorry, six years old, that's first grade.

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    I wasn't six years old in sixth grade.

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    First grade, from my first grade year of elementary school until this very day, I would have been an invalid.

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    It's a long time.

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    That's this man's story.

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    Invalid 38 years.

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    It says when Jesus saw him lying there and knew that he'd already been there a long time, he said to him, "Do you want to be healed?" I'm going to stop there for a second because I'm going to be honest with you.

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    I don't mean this to sound irreverent whatsoever.

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    I'm just being honest with you.

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    When I first read this, I thought that was a really dumb question.

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    Now I'm conflicted here because I know Jesus doesn't ask dumb questions.

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    When I first read this, I'm thinking, wait a minute, here's a guy that's been, almost four decades, he's been unable to walk.

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    Okay, and then Jesus shows up and he says, "Do you want to be healed?" And I just imagine the smart-alecky side of me, and no, I don't want to be healed, actually.

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    I was thinking about maybe laying here another 38 years, you know, sort of even out the tan.

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    Like, do I want to be healed?

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    Like, what kind of a question is that?

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    I'm like, you know, the more I thought about that, you're going to see it.

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    There's something extremely profound and wise in that question.

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    We're going to get to that in a second.

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    But as we go through the text, I want you to see the question isn't near as surprising as the answer.

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    You would think that the guy would be like, yes, I want to be healed.

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    Yes!

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    Look at his answer.

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    Verse 7.

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    It says, "The sick man answered him, 'Sir, I have no one to put me in the pool when the water's stirred up.

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    And while I'm going, another steps down before me.'" He sort of gives his canned complaints, "Life's not fair, I'm such a victim, let me give you all the reasons I can't get well." You notice the guy didn't even really answer the question.

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    Why didn't he just say yes?

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    Well, truth be told, he had no idea who he was speaking to, okay?

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    We're going to see that very clearly later in the text.

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    He didn't know this was Jesus, he didn't know what Jesus was capable of, he just thought this was just some random stranger walk up like do you want to be healed like he didn't know it was Jesus but would it have mattered if he did know because 38 years is a long time to settle into the comforts of being an invalid to always have the excuse ready and if we're honest being well well that holds a lot more responsibilities. Maybe Jesus' question wasn't so crazy. Do you want to be healed? Maybe your Bible says, "Do you want to be made well?" Well, that means I'm gonna have to do more than just lay here. That means I'm not going to get people's donations, and I'm not going to get people's pity, and I'm not going to get people's attention. Maybe it's not such a crazy question. Think about it in in terms of our day, of somebody who has some sort of a physical issue going on, and they've learned to live off of SSI.

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    Imagine going to that person and asking them, "Would you like to get healed and get off of SSI?" For some people, the answer would be no.

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    Look, this is how I live.

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    This is what I'm used to.

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    And I can't imagine what life would be any different than it is.

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    So he gives Jesus his excuses.

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    verses 8 and 9, Jesus said to him, "Get up, take up your bed and walk." And at once the man was healed and he took up his bed and he walked. Now, that day was the Sabbath.

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    And that last statement tells us the problems that are going to be coming, you're going to see again in the text, the problems that are going to be coming with the Jews. Jesus did this healing on the Sabbath. You know, the guy was an invalid for 38 years. Jesus a day sooner, or he could have waited a day later.

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    Jesus very specifically and intentionally did this on the Sabbath.

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    And to the Jews, what this man did was a violation of the Sabbath.

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    To carry your bed as Jesus commanded him to do, this man broke the Sabbath.

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    And that was a huge no-no.

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    And you're like, "Wait, wait, wait.

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    Isn't breaking the Sabbath, isn't that like in the Old Testament?" No.

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    It's really not.

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    If you study your Old Testament, the only prohibition regarding the Sabbath is don't work.

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    What's the heart behind that?

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    The heart behind that is men would just keep working 24/7, 365, never stop, never take a break, never focus on worship, ever.

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    Never spend time with their family, ever.

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    Never rest.

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    Sabbath was a gift from God to man to say, you need to take time away from your work to rest and to worship.

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    So the Jews made up hundreds of man-made rules that they believed would help them keep the Sabbath.

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    Rules like.

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    You're not allowed to carry your bed on the Sabbath.

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    This man clearly violated that.

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    First, hence, the Jews said to the man who had been healed, "It is a Sabbath and it is not lawful for you to take up your bed." But he answered them, "The man who healed me..." See, he didn't know it was Jesus, okay?

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    He says, "The man who healed me, that man said to me, 'Take up your bed and walk.'" They asked him, "Who is the man who said to you, 'Take up your bed and walk'?" We just have to pause here and note the true insanity of this passage, But the Jews didn't care that a man who was crippled for four decades is walking around.

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    Don't care. Do you know what they cared about?

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    "You're breaking our rules, pal." "What?" Verse 13, "Now the man who had been healed did not know who it was, for Jesus had withdrawn as there was a crowd in the place." I've got to stop here.

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    I love this verse because this verse lets me cut the guy some slack.

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    You know, I read so many preachers and commentators and scholars this week.

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    And do you know what I saw over and over and over and over in my studies?

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    So many of the preachers were like, "This guy was such an ingrate.

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    Like Jesus healed him and he never said thank you." According to verse 13, does it look like the guy had a chance to know or to thank Jesus?

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    It sounds like Jesus, according to verse 13, it sounds like Jesus just sort of flew by the pool, healed the guy and just kept going.

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    It says Jesus had withdrawn before the guy was even like, "Whoa, who was that guy?" But Jesus is going to make sure that they meet again.

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    Verse 14, "Afterward, Jesus found him in the temple and said to him, 'See, you are well.

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    Sin no more that nothing worse may happen to you.'" So Jesus finds him in the crowd.

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    I don't think that was an accident.

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    Well, what's the point?

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    Well, Jesus wanted to tell him the point of the miracle.

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    You realize when Jesus did these miracles, it wasn't just a matter of dazzling people or showing off.

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    There was always a point behind the miracle.

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    I could do a whole sermon on this, but here's the short version.

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    You ready?

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    Jesus said to the man, "Look, I gave you a new lease on life.

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    Now go live like it.

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    Because the results of sin are a lot worse than the results of illness.

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    In 38 years in invalid's bed, eternity in hell apart from God.

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    In other words, don't take grace for granted.

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    We're going to talk more about that in a couple of minutes.

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    Verse 15 says, "The man went away and told the Jews that it was Jesus who had healed him." So he uses his brand new legs to run to the Jews and tell them it was Jesus.

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    Why?

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    Again, a lot of people that I read this week, that was sort of the whole gist of their sermon, was like the guy was an ingrate and he was ratting Jesus out.

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    And I just got to tell you, I can't say that.

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    I would say maybe, but look, the text doesn't give his motives.

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    It just doesn't.

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    And perhaps, perhaps the guy was just innocent.

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    Perhaps he was like, "Hey, I found out who that was.

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    Hey guys, guys, I found out who that was. It was Jesus." I mean, we don't know that it was malicious.

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    I don't know.

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    It doesn't matter, because that's not the point anyways.

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    The point is verse 16. Here's the point.

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    This is why John tells us this whole story, to get to this point.

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    He says, "And this is why the Jews were persecuting Jesus, because He was doing these things on the Sabbath." John's like, "This is the whole point." Okay, so let's not split hairs over motives or gratefulness or anything like that.

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    The point is they were mad at Jesus because He was doing these things on the Sabbath.

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    Well, Jesus knows everything and He knew their attitudes, so He responds to these Jews.

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    Verse 17, "But Jesus answered them, 'My Father is working until now, and I am working.'" Jesus' response to them is simply, "My Father and I are at work." You Sabbath police people, your work is enforcing your little man-made laws, But my work is my Father's work.

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    That's to love people.

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    That's to minister to suffering people.

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    Verse 18 shows us that Jesus' statement to them just doubled their reasons to hate Him.

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    This was why the Jews were seeking all the more to kill Him, because not only was He breaking the Sabbath, but He was even calling God His own Father, look at this, making Himself equal with God.

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    they at least rightly understood what Jesus was saying.

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    He was equal with God.

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    And this event is a turning point in the Gospel of John, because this event really fires up the hatred of the Jews, specifically the Jewish leaders, against Jesus.

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    But for a few moments this morning, I just want to focus on one question.

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    Again, I thought when I first read this that it was kind of a silly question.

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    The more I've thought about this passage and meditated on it and studied it in its context and examined my own life, I think there's something profound here for you and for me.

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    Jesus said, "Do you want to be made well?" Do you want to be made well?

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    He confronted this man with that question, and He confronts you and I with that question today.

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    "Oh, maybe you haven't been an invalid for 38 years, But you have something going on in your life that's been debilitating to you.

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    And Jesus comes to you and He says to you, "Do you want to be made well?" What area is it for you?

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    Because the Bible says Jesus knew what was going on with this guy.

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    He knows what's going on with you.

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    He knows the thing that's been even metaphorically crippling you.

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    It's been hurting your walk.

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    It's had a stranglehold.

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    It's kept you in bondage.

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    And imagine Jesus walking in today.

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    He just cuts right through the chase.

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    He goes, I know what's going on in your life.

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    Do you want to get better?

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    Are you content to just lay there?

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    Do you want to be made well?

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    That addiction, that addiction, you just can't seem to get behind you.

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    Do you want to be made well?

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    You know that addiction to pornography that's brought you such shame and damaged your relationships.

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    to you, Jesus says, do you want to be made well?

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    That marriage that has been miserable, Jesus comes to you and he says, do you want to be made well?

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    That unforgiveness in a relationship that went bad years ago that you've just been so sour towards that person, you've had such hatred towards that person, and you know that's not God's intention, you know forgiven people forgive.

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    And Jesus says, "Do you want to be made well?

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    Or maybe it's bad money management, right?

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    You've so poorly mishandled God's money in your life that it just seems to hinder everything in your life.

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    You just can't seem to get ahead or get a grip on anything in life because this financial thing is hanging over you." And Jesus comes to you and He says, "Do you want to be made well?" Well, I want you to jot some things down in your outline.

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    Do you want to be healed?

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    Do you want to be made well?

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    Write from the text.

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    Here's five things you need to do to get better.

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    Five things you need to do to get better.

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    And number one, you have to want to.

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    It starts here.

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    You have to want to.

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    You have to want to.

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    It all starts with How you answer the question, "Do you want to be made well?" I mean, like, honestly answering the question.

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    In other words, are you comfortable in your place?

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    Have you excused your inability to change?

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    Have you settled for less?

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    Have you gotten to the point with whatever your thing is - you know what it is - have you gotten to the point in your life that you're like, "Well, there's just really nothing more to life.

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    This is it.

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    Nothing's ever really going to change for me." and you just have this attitude of defeat that you're carrying around, like, "This is it. It's not going to get better for me. This is it.

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    I'm just resolving myself that it's going to stink from here until the grave.

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    It's just not going to get any different or any better for me." And I would suggest to you, if that's your attitude, you're just like this guy at first, when Jesus says, "Do you want to be made well?"

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    (mumbling)

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    Like, what?

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    How about yes?

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    How about that?

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    Maybe you've never really considered that God has something better for you.

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    God has something more for you.

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    And if you wanna get to a better place, you have to start here.

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    You have to say, this is not what I want for my life, because this is not what Jesus wants for my life.

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    This sin that I'm in bondage to, this debt, this whatever it is.

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    It's not okay.

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    It's not okay to live like this.

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    And if Jesus is asking me if I want to be made well, He's not taunting me.

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    If He's asking me, that means He's willing to get me there.

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    But look, all I can tell you is it starts with this truly profound question.

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    Do you want to be made well?

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    You have to want to.

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    And with all due respect, if your answer is no, then go back to doodle on your bulletin or something.

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    Or maybe there's a magazine in the seat back you can read, but the rest of the sermon is not really going to apply to you if you don't want to experience everything that God wants for you.

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    That's where it starts.

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    You have to want to.

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    Number two - five things you need to do to get better.

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    is you've got to stop blaming others for your problems.

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    You have to stop blaming others for your problems.

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    You notice the man's response in verse 7?

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    His response was in two parts, and both of them involved blaming other people.

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    Did you catch that?

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    Jesus says, "Do you want to be made well?" He's like, "Well, Jesus, I'm going to give you a sermon right now." Two points. Point number one, "No one helps me." Okay, point number two, and I'm concluding.

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    Everyone cuts in front of me.

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    Blaming others for your problems.

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    What this man did was settle into an identity that people love to embrace today, and it's victim mentality.

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    I'm a victim, I'm a victim, I've been wronged.

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    I've been wronged by somebody somewhere, somehow, somebody said something that I don't prefer, or somebody did something that wouldn't have been my choice, and now I'm a victim.

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    And we just thrive on that stuff.

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    And that was this guy.

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    Here, God is standing in front of him, saying, do you want to be made well?

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    Nobody helps me.

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    Everyone cuts in front of me.

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    All right, thanks for that update, Eeyore.

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    Now listen, I'm not saying that other people's actions don't have a direct impact on our situation sometimes.

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    Can we stop explaining to God that the reason we haven't let Him have control of our lives is because other people have control of our lives?

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    Can we stop reasoning that out with God?

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    Like, yeah, I see what you say in your word, God, but you don't understand what my co-worker's like.

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    And our Lord is like, "Well, they must be a pretty important person.

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    "If they have more of an impact on your life, than you're allowing me to have in your life.

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    My work would be so much better.

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    I'd be a better employee, but my co-workers have nothing to do with that.

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    Or let's hit a little closer to home for some of you.

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    My marriage would be so much better, but my wife is such a-- or my husband, you don't understand, I could be the best wife in the world, that my husband is such...

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    How about this?

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    God, if I'm going to get better, you're going to be the reason, regardless of what anyone is doing or not doing.

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    For some of you, you need today.

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    So you know what, I'm done.

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    I'm done laying around like this guy, pointing to everybody else as being my problem while God's asking me if I want to get to a better place.

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    I'm done with that.

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    Number three, stop doing things your way.

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    Stop doing things your way.

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    Do you wanna get better?

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    Stop doing things your way.

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    This guy, this guy had one plan to get better.

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    What was his plan?

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    He goes, I can't move.

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    Been like this almost four decades.

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    I'm gonna get better.

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    What was his plan?

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    His plan was the magic angel bubbles, right?

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    That was his plan.

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    And you see, he pushed all his chips into that.

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    He's like, I'm pushing all my chips into this.

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    This is my plan to get better.

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    When the angel comes splashing around, I'm going to get in that water.

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    And then you're going to see, I'm going to skip out of here.

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    And at this point, the question was, yeah, how's that plan working out for you?

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    38 years later, how's that working for you?

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    And I love the fact that Jesus didn't offer to help him with his plan.

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    Did you catch that?

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    Jesus is like, do you want to be made well?

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    And the guy's like, yeah, yeah, I've got to get in the magic angel bubbles.

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    And Jesus is like, that's a great idea.

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    I'll tell you what, buddy, I'll stay right here with you.

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    And when the angels start splashing around, we'll beat the pants off these other people.

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    It's not even going to be close.

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    I'm going to scoop you up, and I'm going to throw you in cannonball, and you're going to come out an Olympian.

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    It's going to be awesome.

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    Jesus didn't go with this guy's plan, did he?

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    Jesus said, OK, you're going to get better, but you're going to get better my way.

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    Do you want to be made well?

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    Well, obviously, if your plan isn't working, maybe you're going about it in the wrong way.

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    They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over and expecting a different result.

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    And if we're honest, that's a truth that hits a little too close to home for some of us.

    26:44-26:57

    Like, you know, Pastor Jeff, you mentioned earlier, the whole pornography thing. I've had this shame in my life, And I just can't seem to break that bondage.

    26:57-26:58

    Well, what has your plan been?

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    Has it worked for you?

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    I want to get out of debt.

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    I want to be in a better place financially.

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    Well, how has your plan to date worked?

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    And I would suggest to you that maybe you need a new way.

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    It hasn't worked yet.

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    Maybe you need a new way.

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    Well, what way is that?

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    Well, that's number four.

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    Do what Jesus says to do.

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    That's the new way.

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    This man did have a choice, right?

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    He could trust and do what Jesus told him to do or he could just lay there.

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    But he obeyed.

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    And I would ask you, do you want to be made better?

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    Do you want to be healed?

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    What is God's Spirit, through God's Word, telling you your next step is.

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    For you. For your situation.

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    For the thing that's crippling you.

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    What is God's Spirit through God's Word telling you?

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    Hey, here's your next step.

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    I have a feeling, for those of you who walk with the Lord, you know what the next step is.

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    You know exactly what the next step is.

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    You know what you should do.

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    You just haven't done it.

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    And if you're sitting here today and you're like, Pastor Jeff, I have no idea what the next step is for me, I would ask you, are you even seeking the Lord on this?

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    Are you even listening to what Jesus is telling you to do to get out of the place you're in?

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    Are you looking for that from Him?

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    Or are you just laying there making your excuses and pointing fingers?

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    You have to do what Jesus tells you to do if you want to experience the life He wants you to experience.

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    That's why in verse 8 he gives a three-part command.

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    And I love this because it's so simple, and it's progressive, and it's transforming.

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    Here's Jesus' three-part plan.

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    He's like, "Okay, your thing isn't working.

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    Here's what you're going to do instead.

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    You're going to get up, you're going to take up your bed, and you're going to walk." And you know those three things?

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    Those are the three things he's calling you to do today, too.

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    You're like, "But I'm... my legs are fine, I'm not a..." Look, it's the same three principles, the exact same three principles.

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    Drop these down.

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    Letter A, the first thing Jesus is telling you to do is get up.

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    Get up.

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    That's not in your power.

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    What that meant for this man and what this means for you is you need to trust His power.

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    Jesus didn't tell this guy to get up in his strength.

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    He said, "Get up in My strength that I'm giving you." Jesus provides His power through His Holy Spirit for everyone who will trust Him.

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    So you've got to start trusting the power of Christ in your life, and stop trying to trust your own power that's left you laying there for 38 years.

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    Get up in the power of the Lord.

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    Letter B, "Take up your bed." What does that mean?

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    That means make no provision to come back here.

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    Make no provision to go back to your old ways.

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    That's why Jesus told him to take his bed.

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    It wasn't like, "You're going to do better for a while, but leave the bed here.

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    Just in case this being well thing isn't working out so good for you, you can come back and lay by the pool." No, He was saying, "Take it. You're not going to need it here anymore." That's what the New Testament refers to as making no provision for the flesh.

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    That means you might have to cut off that relationship you know you shouldn't be in.

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    It means you need to stop going back to that place that keeps getting you into trouble.

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    It's no looking back, burn the bridges, this chapter of your life is over, you're not coming back.

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    So get up in the power of the Holy Spirit.

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    Take up your bed, make no provision for the flesh.

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    And what did Jesus tell them to do third?

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    He said, "Walk." Walk. That's moving forward, expecting continued success.

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    In other words, you're a forgiven, transformed, born again child of God.

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    So walk like it.

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    Stop walking like somebody that doesn't know the Lord, or His power, or His Word, or His goodness, or His wisdom, limping through life.

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    Walk like a child who has received the power and gift of God.

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    to walk confidently yet humbly before the Lord.

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    Walk like it.

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    That's what the New Testament refers to as walking worthy of the Gospel.

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    So do what Jesus says to do.

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    And then finally, number five, live in gratitude to Jesus.

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    Live in gratitude to Jesus. I love verse 14.

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    Jesus finds the guy again in the temple.

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    Did you see the first thing Jesus says to him?

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    Kind of cracks me up.

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    He's like, "See, you were well." The guy's like, "I am! Wow! You know, I forgot.

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    You know, those five minutes of walking kind of blocked out the last 38 years of laying, so thanks for the reminder that I'm still well." Like, did the guy really need reminded?

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    I mean, come on, come on. Did the guy really need reminded?

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    And the answer is yes, he did, because we all do.

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    I don't know about you, but I see very blatantly in my life that I have this tendency to experience God's grace and immediately go back to old attitudes and habits, forgetting what He's done for me.

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    How about you?

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    God shows up in a profound way and does something that only He can do, and we are so blessed at the presence and work of the Lord, and then we go about our business and we just forget.

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    We just forget.

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    you know we're back to laying by the pool complaining about everybody.

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    Living in gratitude keeps us from living in sin.

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    Living in gratitude keeps us from living in sin.

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    So live in gratitude to Jesus.

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    Do you want to be made well?

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    You can get to a better place.

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    You don't have to settle for where you are.

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    You don't have to hope that someday your way of doing things that have always ultimately failed are just going to magically bring about a different result because it won't.

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    God supplies the grace, the power, the wisdom, and the continued success of a transformed life and all you need to supply is the one thing that to this point maybe you haven't. That's your will. Do you want to be made well? Let's pray.

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    Father in heaven, we thank you for the simple yet profound nature of your Word.

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    Boy, we saw some things in here that just baffled my mind, that hits a little close to home when I really stop and think about it. Father, I pray for my brothers and sisters here, and I pray for my brothers and sisters who are listening to this online, whether they're sick and couldn't join us today or They're listening on the other side of the world.

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    Father, so many of us can identify with that guy by the pool.

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    Something in our lives has crippled us, and we've been so content to just lay around and make excuses and blame everybody else for our problems.

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    Today, Father, I pray with fresh eyes we would see Christ showing up, asking us if we want to get to a better place, if we want to be made well, if we're willing to abandon what we've been doing and what we've known for what He has for us instead.

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    Father, I pray specifically that You would, by Your Spirit, change our heart and give us the will.

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    Father, I pray that we would leave here today no longer willing to be content, to settle, but instead, Father, our hearts are wide open to receive whatever it is You have for us.

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    Give us the faith to get up and to pick up our mat and to walk.

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    Through the incomparable name of your son, Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray.

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    Amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read John 5:1-18

  1. What was your big takeaway from this passage / message?

  2. Why do you think some people do NOT want to be made well? (John 5:6)

  3. Why do you think we naturally tend to point fingers and blame others for our troubles? (John 5:7)

  4. How does living in gratitude keep us from living in sin? (John 5:14)
    What specifically has God done for YOU that you could use reminded of?

Breakout
With which of the “5 things needed to get better” do you struggle the most with? Why? Pray for one another.

Living in Exile

Introduction:

Daniel 1

5 Responsibilities While We Are Away From Home:

  1. Maintain Perspective. (Dan 1:1-4)
    1. Heaven is our Home. (Dan 1:1)
    2. God is in Control. (Dan 1:2)
  2. Live as Undefiled. (Dan 1:5-8)

    Colossians 3:5-10

  3. Pray . (Dan 1:9, 2:17-18, 6:10)
    1. Pray for Wisdom
    2. Pray for Provision
    3. Pray for Leaders

Jeremiah 29:7 - But seek the welfare of the city where I have sent you into exile, and pray to the Lord on its behalf, for in its welfare you will find your welfare.

  1. Test your Faith . (Dan 1:10-16)
  2. Do your Job . (Dan 1:17-21)

    Micah 6:8 | 1 Timothy 5:8 | Titus 3:1-2

  • 01:10-01:12

    There have been a lot of things said about home.

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    Home is where the heart is.

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    Home sweet home.

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    There's no place like home.

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    A man travels the world over in search of what he needs and returns home to find it.

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    Home is where one starts from.

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    Or the more cynical out there say, "Home is the place where when you have to go there, they have to take you in." or as my coworker's Skype message says, home is where the Wi-Fi connects automatically.

    01:39-01:45

    Whatever your definition of home, I think that most of us see home as a place where we wanna be.

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    And when we are away from our home, especially when we don't wanna be, we can get anxious or irritated.

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    Webster defines exile as the state of forced or voluntary absence from your home.

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    And there are many reasons that people go into exile.

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    Sometimes it's a form of punishment, like Napoleon.

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    He was exiled from France because he kept taking over Europe, which is frowned upon.

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    And Dante Alighieri, think like Dante's Inferno, he was exiled from Florence, Italy because he wouldn't support the current Pope.

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    And Nelson Mandela was exiled from the mainland of South Africa because he wouldn't accept the injustice of apartheid and he wouldn't keep his mouth shut.

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    So sometimes it's a form of punishment, Other times it's to flee punishment, like Benedict Arnold, who realized that America was not going to welcome him back, and so he went into self-exile.

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    Or how the Rolling Stones told England that you can't always get what you want, like nearly a decade of back taxes that they owed.

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    Sometimes people go into exile to avoid danger, like Albert Einstein went into exile from Germany because the Nazi form of Jewish science was not something that he wanted to be a part of.

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    And the current Dalai Lama is an exile from Tibet because China doesn't share power very well.

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    Sometimes it's to avoid danger, but other times the danger is unavoidable.

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    Like Louis Zamperini from The Unbroken Story, which is an amazing story of heroism.

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    But he was the Olympian-turned-Army air bomber who was taken captive as a Japanese prisoner during World War II the Pacific Ocean. Or you go into exile because of unavoidable danger like the heroes in our story here in Daniel chapter 1. Today we are going to look at this example of how to live well while in exile. So our story begins as Judah, the southern kingdom of ancient Israel, falls into captivity at the hands of the Babylonians. And to orient us in time, we're looking at the last days of the earthly Jewish kings around 600 years before Christ.

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    And I selected this text at least in part because our main characters are some of my most favorite people recorded in the Bible.

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    First, we see Daniel, of whom I am a namesake, and his friends.

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    These boys were likely only teenagers when they were captured and yet we still talk about them today as incredible examples of faith.

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    Second, we get King Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon.

    04:26-04:31

    I have decided that he is the first non-family person that I plan to find when I get to heaven.

    04:32-04:38

    I just find him very entertaining in the whole book of Daniel, but here in our story today, he doesn't really do all that much exciting.

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    But Nebuchadnezzar does kickstart our story.

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    So let me read verses one through four.

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    "In the third year of the reign of Jehoiakim, "king of Judah, Nebuchadnezzar, king of Babylon, came to Jerusalem and besieged it.

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    And the Lord gave Jehoiakim king of Judah into his hand.

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    And with some of the vessels of the house of God, he brought them to the land of Shinar, to the house of his God, and placed the vessels in the treasury of his God.

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    Then the king commanded Ashpenaz, the chief eunuch, to bring some of the people of Israel, both of the royal family and of the nobility, youths without blemish, of good appearance, and skillful in all wisdom, endowed with knowledge, understanding, learning, and competent to stay in the king's palace and to teach them literature and the language of the Chaldean.

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    When Nebuchadnezzar captured Jerusalem, he took the best prize of the stuff and he took the smartest and brightest youth from Jerusalem.

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    This is how Daniel and his friends and many others were taken into exile to Babylon.

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    So you might rightly ask, "Why do we need to learn how to live in exile?" I think it's very reasonable for you to maintain some healthy skepticism of how I'm going to make the concept of exile applicable to our lives.

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    I mean, in our modern age, what kind of exile could we possibly face?

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    Well, I would like to suggest to you that there are several types of exile that we do actually face.

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    First, on a cosmic scale, as Christians, while we live on this earth, we are away from our true home, which is in heaven.

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    Having been born in a foreign land, we await a day when we will first arrive in our true country.

    06:18-06:23

    This is macro-level exile that affects all who profess Christ as Lord and Savior.

    06:24-06:33

    And second, on a personal level, any one of us may find ourselves, whether at work or at school or even in our own families, as the only believer in sight.

    06:34-06:42

    In this micro-sense, we are in exile in the foreign world around us of people unwilling or unable to understand our desire to serve Christ.

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    Lastly, there is a mid-level exile that specifically applies to us as American Christians.

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    We find ourselves in a country that is becoming increasingly foreign to us, and not in a xenophobic sense, but in a way where we see the fundamental principles and values of our country's founding eroding away with each generation.

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    This type of exile leaves us as strangers in a strange land.

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    So as we look at Daniel, Think of whatever form of exile to which you can most relate.

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    The Apostle Paul reminds us all that we are ambassadors for Christ.

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    And with that in mind, it is my hope that you will learn from Daniel's example of how to live well while in exile.

    07:24-07:37

    This past fall, I spent two weeks in Thailand, and two weeks is the longest I had ever been away from Alicia in our marriage, and the longest I had ever been away from any of my girls since they had been alive.

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    But when you go to a foreign country, there are certain responsibilities that you have.

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    Like, I had to have my passport with me anywhere that I went.

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    Or I had to check in regularly with my family to see how they were doing and to get up to speed on what was going on.

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    Or this one, which I failed, which was to not bring my work phone to Hong Kong.

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    Oops.

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    But wherever you go, there's always certain responsibilities that you have to do while you're away from home.

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    So today we are going to look at five responsibilities while we are away from home in exile.

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    And there's definitely some overlap with these points.

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    This isn't so much as a five-step plan, but as tools for us to consider as ambassadors for Christ.

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    So our first responsibility in our exile is to maintain perspective.

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    Maintain perspective.

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    Look, let's face it, exile sounds pretty bleak.

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    was really only a boy when he was taken from his holy homeland by pagan oppressors, taken from everyone and everything that he ever knew. He had no real hope of ever returning home and as far as we know he never did. Similarly, it would be easy for us in our exile to say to hell with this world, get me to heaven now, forget about everything else going on.

    08:55-09:03

    We could look at our godless work environment, keep our head down, put our nose to the grindstone and just collect our paychecks, ignoring those around us.

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    Or we could pine about the good old days in our country and cynically fantasize about moving to Australia or something, depending on the results of the next election.

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    But Daniel reminds us that we have a higher calling.

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    We must maintain perspective of at least two things.

    09:19-09:24

    We must remember A, that heaven is our home, and B, God is in control.

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    Well, how did Daniel do this?

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    Look back at verses one and two.

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    As the author of this book, Daniel includes two important details.

    09:34-09:39

    In verse one, he reminds himself and informs us that he is from Jerusalem.

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    No matter where he goes, no matter what happens to him, he is from Jerusalem.

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    We too need to be regularly reminded that our true home is in heaven.

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    Wherever we currently spend our time, whatever goes on around us, heaven is our home.

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    This is a great comfort, but we don't need to wait for heaven to live as if we are already there.

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    Jesus told us, "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand." The perspective that heaven is our home gives us hope for the future, yes, but it also gives us great purpose for right now.

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    The other detail that Daniel included is in verse 2.

    10:18-10:22

    He recorded for us that God is in control in the midst of what looked like chaos.

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    Daniel makes it very clear that it was the Lord's hand that gave Jehoiakim and Nebuchadnezzar's hand.

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    Remarkably, God was in control during this Babylonian captivity.

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    With this fact understood, Daniel can move past the doubtful question of why is this happening, Lord, to the faithful response that says, "Behold, I am a servant of the Lord.

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    "Let it be to me according to your word." If we want to live well in our exile, we have to see God's hand in every situation which we find ourselves. We must know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. We must trust him with all of our circumstances, even those beyond our ability to control or understand. Our perspective about God makes all the difference, right? Small God, big problems. Big God, and our problems get small. So our first responsibility in exile is to maintain perspective. Secondly, in exile we are to live as undefiled. Let's read verses 5 through 8. The king assigned them a daily portion of the food that the king ate and of the wine that he drank. They were to be educated for three years and at the end of time they were to stand before the king. Among these were Daniel, Hananiah, Meshach, Azariah of the tribe of Judah. And the chief of the eunuchs gave them names. Daniel he called Belteshazzar, Hananiah he called Shadrach, Meshach he called Meshach, and Azariah he called Abednego. But Daniel resolved that he would not defile himself with the king's food or with the wine that he drank. Therefore, he asked the chief of eunuchs to allow him not to defile himself." This is the part where I had this whole thing planned out for Justin or Jeff, but neither of them are here.

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    So I'll just skip past that and get on to the real part of the situation.

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    Because we spent our time in Thailand, there were long stretches where we spoke only in puns, so I'll save you from those terrible dad jokes.

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    But let's recap Daniel's situation.

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    Daniel and his friends are taken into captivity.

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    They're renamed with Babylonian equivalents of their names.

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    And over the next three years, they were to be educated and indoctrinated in Babylonian culture.

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    Nebuchadnezzar was no dummy.

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    He took the best and brightest from each of the very different tribes that he ruled, and he would take care of all their needs and make them as smart as possible, all for the low price of Babylonian conformity.

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    The king very effectively consolidated the collective genius of the lands that he conquered and repackaged it in his image.

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    Political genius.

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    Daniel understood this political strategy or not, he resolved to not defile himself with the king's food or wine. So what's the big deal with this food and wine? Well, for these Jewish boys, there were at least two problems. First, with all the cleanliness laws and dietary restrictions, it was almost certain that this food was unclean and would inherently be not permitted by Mosaic law. Now that they were 500 miles away from the temple, which is the only place that they could get clean, they had a strong incentive to avoid unnecessary unrighteous acts.

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    The other problem is that this food and drink was likely devoted to idols.

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    In Exodus, before they entered the promised land, God had specifically warned his people that eating this food and engaging in idolatry would result in the people getting kicked out of the promised land, which is exactly what is being passed on to Daniel and his friends right here.

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    Daniel and his friends determined that this was the line that they would not cross.

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    With this stance on food, these boys were going to maintain their identity as God's holy people and their commitment to him.

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    See, compromise in and of itself is not wrong.

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    'Cause other than this food thing, these guys were pretty agreeable with the demands of captivity.

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    In his commentary on the book of Daniel, David Gozick points out that Daniel did not object to the name given to him because he knew who he was and people could call him what they wanted.

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    He did not object to Babylonian education because he knew what he believed.

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    But Daniel did object to the food from the king's table because eating it was a direct disobedience to God's word.

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    Each of us needs to decide before God and in accordance with his word, how are we going to keep ourselves from being defiled by the broken world in which we live?

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    What boundaries are we going to place upon ourselves to keep us from sin?

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    God commands us be holy because he is holy.

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    Holiness sounds complicated, but it can be simple enough to understand.

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    To be holy means to be set apart for a purpose.

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    And the Aero students already know where I'm going with this because my favorite example of holiness is a toothbrush.

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    And a toothbrush can do lots of things, right?

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    Like it can rub crayon marks off your walls, it can massage your cuticles, and it can scrub the tile grout on your bathroom floor.

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    And of course it can clean your teeth.

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    However, there is a very holy assignment to my toothbrush.

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    It can only be used to clean my mouth.

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    And if it were ever used for one of these less holy purposes, it would be unable to serve its primary duty any longer.

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    In fact, most people consider their personal toothbrush so holy that it must be thrown away if another person were to use it, or even if a stink bug were to land on it.

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    So our toothbrush can teach us about holiness because it is set apart for a very exclusive purpose.

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    In the same way, we are called to be holy, set apart to be God's ambassadors in this world. It is his desire that our lives would reflect his word in our actions, words, and thoughts. This is a very high calling, but thanks be to our gracious God that he has cleansed us from all our defiling deeds, past, present, and future. The blood of Christ is able to wash us white as snow to go from being an object that should be thrown away to the holy vessel which is set apart to do its holy job. The washing comes from God. That's his part. That's his job. Our job is once clean to stay clean. And even when we do defile ourselves with sin, to quickly repent and act like what we really are as God's undefiled servants. The Bible talks about this everywhere. But I'll just bring up Colossians 3 which says, "Put to death therefore whatever belongs to your earthly nature, sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires, and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming. You used to walk in these ways in the life you once lived, but now you must also rid yourselves of such things as these.

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    Anger, rage, malice, slander, filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in the knowledge and the image of its Creator. Put off and put to death the old, put on the new. We must stop defiling ourselves by acting like the sinful world around us. We must flee from the things and places that we know will distract and degrade our holy calling.

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    This is critical in our state of exile. If we look the same as everyone else, how will they see our God? If we go along with the current of this world, we will be swept out to the sea of hell. Or even if we are saved, when we go with the flow we are in no position to save others who are caught in the current.

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    So, our second responsibility is to live as undefiled. Number three, we must pray.

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    Look at verse 9, "And God gave Daniel favor and compassion in the sight of the chief of eunuchs. So at this point you should rightly call me out for cheating, because at no point in this passage does it say anything about prayer, and that is very true and we should never read anything into the text that's not there. However, Daniel lived in exile for a very long time, and I only have this one sermon to preach these points, so if you bear with my spygate of future chapters of Daniel, I think this point will make itself. If you read through the book of Daniel, which we're not gonna do today, you will very clearly see that Daniel is a man of prayer.

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    In chapter two, Nebuchadnezzar has a dream that he wants interpreted, but he's not willing to share what the dream is, a nearly impossible task.

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    In verses 17 and 18, Daniel gathered his friends together to pray for an answer from God, and their prayers were answered very quickly that night.

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    And Daniel gets the interpretation of the dream.

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    Later on in chapter six, when jealous political rivals sought to disqualify Daniel, the only thing that they could trap him in was that he would not stop praying to God.

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    Prayer is actually what sent him to the lion's den.

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    So knowing how dedicated Daniel was to prayer, I find it very reasonable to claim that Daniel prayed here in chapter one somewhere in verses eight and nine.

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    See, Daniel's resolve not to defile himself came from his relationship with God.

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    For him to have the wisdom and commitment take this stance as one so young, he must have spent some time with God in prayer. And God's answer was to give Daniel favor with his captor, and God gave Daniel favor and compassion in the sight of the chief of eunuchs. This entire situation happened as the result of prayer.

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    For us, we often turn to prayer as a last resort. I guess all we can do is pray, And here at Harvest, we know that that is a terrible thing to say.

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    Instead, we like to say the best thing that we can do is pray.

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    And that's especially true when we are in exile.

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    The only way in which we would be successful in doing any of these other four responsibilities is if we are connected to the source of our strength.

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    We must speak with God openly and often, because our exile is far more spiritual than it is physical.

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    So we must face these spiritual problems with spiritual solutions.

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    And in Ephesians, the Apostle Paul encourages us to put on the spiritual armor of God and to face the spiritual forces of darkness in this world. As he goes through each piece of the armor, he ends by telling us that each one is put on with prayer.

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    So we must pray as we are in our exile, but what should we pray for?

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    Well, the simple answer is everything.

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    But here are some starting points. A, we should ask for wisdom. The book of James tells us that when we ask God for wisdom, he will give it to us generously. He did that for Solomon, he did that for Christ, and he certainly did that here for Daniel and throughout this entire book.

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    We must ask God for how to navigate in this world in a way that honors him. Yes, we have his word, but prayer is the process of applying the principles of the Bible into the individual decisions that we make on a day-to-day basis. So first, ask for wisdom. Second, we need to ask for provision. In the Lord's Prayer, we are to ask, "Give us, Lord, our daily bread." This is daily and it is basic. We have needs and God has unlimited resources to meet them.

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    It is a matter of trusting him every day that he will continue to provide. Right here, Daniel receives literal provision through the vegetarian meal selection.

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    In our exile, we need to ask ourselves if we trust God to provide for us every day.

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    Do we trust God to provide for this world that seems so against him?

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    Do we trust God to provide for our workplace or our school or our family?

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    Do we trust God to provide for our country? Ask for wisdom, ask for provision, and lastly, pray for leaders. Right before the very popular verse, Jeremiah 29 11, in verse 7, God gives an interesting command that I'm not sure I remember reading before. It says, "But seek the welfare of the city where I have sent you into exile and pray to the Lord on its behalf, for in its welfare you will find your welfare." Daniel worked for at least four pagan kings, and most of them thought very highly of Daniel. And this wasn't because he always did or said what they wanted.

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    This was because God gave Daniel favor with these leaders. Through Daniel's prayers, God extended favor to Daniel and to these kings. Well, at least the kings had favor whenever they humbly listened to God's warnings. But when we face the difficulties of our exile, How often are we praying for our bosses or our teachers or our difficult family members?

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    How often are we praying for our president and our government officials, whether they're elected or appointed, whether they're federal or local?

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    Our Harvest Prayer Services are a great opportunity to gather as a community and do exactly that.

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    Because no matter what the situation is that we face, the answer is to pray.

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    So it is our responsibility to pray while we live in exile.

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    Our fourth responsibility in exile is to test your faith.

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    Let's continue reading verses 10 through 16.

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    And the chief of the eunuchs said to Daniel, "I fear my Lord, the King, "who assigned your food and your drink, "for why should he see that you were in worse condition "than the youths who are of your own age?

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    "So you would endanger my head with the King." Then Daniel said to the steward of whom the chief of the eunuchs had assigned over Daniel, "and I am Mishael and Azariah.

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    "Test your servants for these 10 days.

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    "Let us be given vegetables to eat and water to drink.

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    "Then let our appearance and the appearance "of the youths who eat the king's food "be observed by you and deal with your servants "according to what you see." So he listened to them in this matter and tested them for 10 days.

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    At the end of the 10 days, it was seen that they were better in appearance and fatter in flesh than the youths who ate the king's food.

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    So the steward took away their food and the wine that they were to drink gave them vegetables. Though he does like Daniel, the steward in charge of him also likes his own head. And he's worried that if he lets these four skip out on the normal food, then it will be him that suffers if they fall behind in health. Daniel simply responds with the request to give it a try. In his combined boldness and reasonableness, Daniel is able to convince his caretaker to try his plan. This again reflects Daniel's wisdom and trust in God. For us, there are moments when after we have mentally prepared to maintain the right perspective, we have resolved to stay undefiled, and we have been spiritually nourished through prayer, after we have done all these things, we still need to be willing to put our money where our mouth is. We need to test God at his word. And the Bible is filled with examples of this, but the analogy that I always think of is the levels of faith as shown by a chair. If we look at this chair, we could say, "Will the chair hold my weight?" And the first level of faith is intellectual agreement. I could sit there and say, "Well, the chair looks like it's made out of strong materials. It appears to be holding everyone else in the room in their similar chairs, so it could probably hold my weight." The first level is intellectual agreement. The second level of faith is evidence-based conclusion. This is where we, this is where we measure whether this chair has the strength of materials. I could take tests on the metals and determine, yes, this chair can hold this much weight with it all assembled this way. Or I can look over there and say it's clearly holding Darren, so if it can hold Darren, then it can hold me. This is an evidence-based conclusion. But the third level of faith about whether this chair can hold my weight is what? Sit down in it. And so when I sit in this chair, I show that I really have this action-oriented commitment to my faith that the chair can hold me. And when we live in this third level of faith, we must live in the obedience to God, which includes repentance when we screw up. It is not just enough to know God's word and to commune with Him in prayer. At some point, we must act upon our faith and test God at his word. If we know that this dark world is in desperate need of Christ, will we test that by sharing Christ with others? If we know that love is a more excellent way, will we test that by sacrificially loving those difficult family members, coworkers, or classmates? So as we live in exile, we must test our faith.

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    And very similar to this is the last point.

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    When you live in exile, you must do your job.

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    Let me finish the chapter.

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    As for these four youths, God gave them learning and skill in all literature and wisdom.

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    And Daniel had understanding in all visions and dreams.

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    At the end of the time when the king had commanded that they should be brought in, the chief of the eunuchs brought them before Nebuchadnezzar.

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    And the king spoke with them.

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    And among all of them was none found like Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah.

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    Therefore they stood before the king, and in every matter of wisdom and understanding about which the king inquired of them, he found them ten times better than all the magicians and enchanters that were in all his kingdom.

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    And Daniel was there until the first year of King Cyrus." See God is faithful in Daniel's faithfulness.

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    And the food test proved successful.

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    In fact, the boys looked so much better than the rest that the guard agreed to continue giving them only vegetables and water for the remainder of their three years of training.

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    And while this is a testimony to God's faithfulness, I actually think that these last few verses are an even better testimony.

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    Daniel worked hard for the remainder of his life.

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    God continued to bless Daniel and his friends through God extending grace to them.

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    Daniel lived a pretty amazing life.

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    interpreted crazy dreams. He predicted events hundreds of years into the future with incredible precision. In fact, so much precision that that's what the Book of Daniel is criticized for. It's too accurate. It couldn't have possibly been written before these events happened. And he saw visions of revelation that have yet to come. And for most of his adult life, he served in positions of near supreme authority. And even Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, they stood in the fiery furnace with the pre-incarnate Christ and saw God's faithful deliverance there. These guys did not waste their exile. They served Nebuchadnezzar in spite of his character. A pagan king who ransacked the temple and kidnapped Daniel and his friends and he likely killed members of their family. On top of that he's married to a foreign woman and who knows how faithful he was.

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    Nebuchadnezzar was an emotional powder keg and really used to blast out proclamations from the ancient equivalent of Twitter. He certainly didn't act very kingly.

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    People would say, "He's not my king." Sounds like familiar criticism, right?

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    Yet in all of that, Daniel served him anyway, and he was greatly blessed by his obedience to God and being an approved workman and a good citizen. We cannot take a holier-than-thou position when it comes to engaging in the world we live in. We must do our job like Daniel. And he's not unlike some of the famous exiles that I mentioned at the beginning. During his first exile, Napoleon created a plot to take over Europe again, and for a hundred days it looked like it might actually work. And while in exile, Dante wrote his Divine Comedy, which is his most famous work about Inferno, Purgatory, and Paradiso. Whether it's Albert Einstein, Nelson Mandela, the Rolling Stones, Louis Zamperini, and the Dalai Lama, all these people are famous because of the things that they did during their exile. On this earth, while we remain in exile, God has given us some jobs to do. And just like with Daniel, there is a priority here to ensure that we do these jobs without neglecting the higher priority ones. And in general, God has made us his ambassadors in this dark world. So our job is to represent him well. What does that look like? Well, I think I think Micah 6.8 captures that most succinctly.

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    We need to seek justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with our God.

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    Are you doing this job?

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    In our families, God has called us to be providers.

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    1 Timothy 5.8 says, "But if anyone does not provide "for his relatives, and especially for members "of his household, he is denied the faith "and is worse than an unbeliever." That is a scary verse.

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    What ways are we to provide for our family?

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    Parents are called to provide financially and educationally.

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    Children are called to provide honor and obedience.

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    Husbands are called to provide love and understanding.

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    Wives are called to provide respect and support.

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    Children are called to provide unity and loyalty.

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    Are you doing this job?

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    In our church, he has called us to be disciples.

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    And here at Harvest, we say that a disciple of Christ three things. Worships Christ, walks with Christ, and works for Christ. Are you doing this job? In your workplace or your school, God has called you to be a worker approved by God. This means that we need to work with excellence using the gifts God has given to us. It means that we need to be trustworthy, being honest even if it costs us something. It means we must care for others and not move about our day indifferent to the needs of those God has placed around us.

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    Are you doing this job? In our country, God has called us to be good citizens.

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    This means we need to pay what is due. Honor, duty, taxes, all described in Romans 13. In our country, we have the freedom and the responsibility to vote. I've been saying to people at work, in the primaries our job is to vote for the best candidate, and in the actual election it's our job to vote against the worst, but we cannot sit on the sidelines.

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    Being a good citizen means that we need to speak out against injustice like Esther did.

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    In our world where we value money over meaning, we value convenience over compassion, and we value liberty over life, as a result, injustice abounds, often without a voice on behalf of those who are afflicted.

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    Or even when we do speak up, our approach condemns us as well.

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    Titus 3.1 says, "Remind them to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work, to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle and to show perfect courtesy to all people." Sure doesn't sound like our world.

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    So are you doing this job?

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    We need to model Christ-like behavior in all aspects of our life.

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    We need to do our jobs while we still have breath in our lungs.

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    when we reach heaven, we want to hear, "Well done, good and faithful servant." So whether we like it or not, we are in some form of exile.

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    And everything that I've described so far today describes the exile of a believer in Jesus Christ.

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    However, there is another exile that's far worse, but also it has a more immediate solution.

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    For everyone who does not know Christ, you are in exile of your own making from your creator.

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    Like Adam and Eve when they sinned, hid and ran from God, we too are fleeing from the holy king of this world because of our rebellion to his rule.

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    If you live in exile from God, repent, turn around, come home to your heavenly father who awaits for you to return.

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    Confess your sin and submit to his rule.

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    Renounce the citizenship to your own kingdom and become a citizen of heaven.

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    End your self-exile by falling to the foot of the cross.

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    But for us as believers, because we are away from our true home in heaven, we remain in exile in this world.

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    As a result, we have some responsibilities that we need to own.

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    We must maintain the perspective that heaven is our home and that God is in control.

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    We must live as undefiled, both by avoiding sin and by walking in the reality that we are seen as white as snow in the eyes of God as a result of the cleansing blood of Christ.

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    We must pray because the wisdom and provision and authority to do any of this comes only from God.

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    And we must test our faith to prove to ourselves that obedience to God is the best way.

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    And finally, we must do our jobs in this world, in our home, in our church, in our job or school and in our country.

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    Let us make the most of our exile and finish well.

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    Please pray with me.

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    Father God, we thank you for this opportunity to look at your word.

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    Lord, I thank you for the fact that you provide power for us in our exile.

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    God, you have given us a holy purpose.

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    I pray, Lord, that we would live up to this calling, God, by the power of your word and by the spirit that lives inside of us.

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    Lord, I pray that you would convict us where we need conviction and you would change us to do more to live in exile.

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    God, I pray that we would look to you for our strength and our source of power.

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    All these things we ask for in Jesus' name. Amen.

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Small Group Discussion
Read Daniel 1:1-21

  1. Do you ever feel as though you are in exile? How so?

  2. Of the responsibilities listed, which one encouraged you the most? Which one convicted you the most?

  3. What job are you neglecting? How do you plan to fix this?

Breakout
In what ways are you “defiling" yourself? Pray for repentance there and for the proposed actions above.

Dare to [Not] Compare!

Introduction:

Genesis 3:1-7

1 John 2:16 - For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.

  1. Comparison breeds Discontent . (Gen 3:1)
  2. Comparison encourages Compromise . (Gen 3:2-5)
  3. Comparison causes Disaster . (Gen 3:6-7)

Dare to NOT Compare!

  1. Know the Word . (Gen 3:1)

    Philippians 2:3 | Hebrews 13:5 | Ephesians 5:8 | Galatians 3:26, 4:6 | Ephesians 2:4-6

  2. Take your eyes off the World .

    1 John 2:15-17

  3. Fix your eyes on Jesus .

    2 Peter 1:3

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    You know retailers and advertisers when touting their their why their stuff is better than the other guy's stuff they encourage comparison There to compare that used to be a common phrase in advertising and it might still be Because they say it pays to comparison shop right auto dealers appliance manufacturers service providers And everyone else under the Sun wants us to compare features and prices and quality But sometimes it's tough for instance You go in the hair care aisle at the store. I don't know how women shop for hair care products because there are dozens of shampoo brands and Conditioner brands and then multiple varieties within each brand and even each product promising more shine Repair for damaged hair more volume dandruff relief improved personality You know greater income When you look at the labels, they all kind of have the same ingredients.

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    So how can you compare them?

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    Now guys, guys, we have it a little bit easier.

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    You know, you go up to pick a product off the shelf.

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    Oh, hair wash, conditioner, body wash, car wash, boat wash, engine degreaser.

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    Cool.

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    I'm exaggerating.

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    How about mattresses? Have you ever tried to shop for a mattress? There's now like a bajillion mattresses and you can buy them online and they get shipped to you rolled up in a box. And these mattress stores out there, they want you to compare. They urge you to compare. And they'll tell you if you can find the same mattress for a lower price anywhere else, we'll refund the difference. Or And they know nobody else in the whole world carries the same mattress as they do.

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    Now sure, every store sells Serta and Sealy and Beautyrest, but what the manufacturers do is they put different names and labels on them.

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    So that if you buy a Serta mattress at mattress discounters you can't go across the street to Mattress Warehouse and find the exact same mattress.

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    It is the exact same mattress, but it's got a different name.

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    And they say, "No comparison." You know, our economy thrives on, may even depend on urging people to compare products when there's no real discernible difference.

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    Our manufacturers present us with new choices, bold claims, and shiny packages to foster dissatisfaction with what we already have, to make us buy something else.

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    And pretty soon we have a bathroom drawer full of empty toothpaste tubes and half-used bottles of shampoo.

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    And here's the funny thing, the stuff we want to compare, we cannot.

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    But the things we should not compare, we do.

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    What I mean is there are comparisons we should seek to avoid at all costs.

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    And it's this, we should not compare ourselves or our circumstances with others or their circumstances.

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    Well, Rich, that's easy for you to say.

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    This is all, comparison's unavoidable.

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    Well, perhaps, but perhaps not.

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    I'm gonna make a bold, broad statement.

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    Our inclination to compare is behind all sin.

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    It is the seed of all sin, and it rapidly sprouts and bears the fruit of discontentment.

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    It is we think somewhere, someone, somehow, has something better than us.

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    And generally there are two ways we go with this when we make comparisons.

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    We go into an emotional and spiritual tailspin.

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    Or we begin planning and scheming on ways to get what they've got and then some.

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    Both ways often result in sin and some level of destruction.

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    That is, we're diminished spiritually, morally, physically, and financially.

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    Let's look at some hypotheticals. Take our toddler room.

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    Little Billy Dripnose is back there happily playing with a pile of blocks.

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    When he looks up and across the room he sees little Jimmy Full Drawers.

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    And he's got a shiny truck that makes noise.

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    Or how about teenager Judy Cheergood? She's in love.

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    She's found the love of her life, this is it.

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    She's certain she's going to spend the rest of her life with chumlee buckets.

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    And then she meets Joe Blonde, the three-sport varsity athlete.

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    How about that young couple we know, Bink and Muffy Sweetums, so happy in their economical bungalow, until they see the new housing development going up across town in a prestigious part of the city and that great interest only financing that's being offered.

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    Why, even on their pipsqueak income, this would be the house of their dreams and oh so affordable and the envy of all their friends.

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    And then how about middle-aged executive George Gogetum?

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    He's been mostly happily married to Jane, his wife, for 20 years and she's born him three children, but her figure just isn't what it used to be.

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    And there's a new gal at the office who sent him a LinkedIn invite.

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    Do you notice I didn't have to finish any of those scenarios because you could easily fill in the blanks yourselves.

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    In each case, the comparison inspired thoughts that led to actions that probably led to disaster.

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    So you see, the comparison we're talking about this morning produces discontent, compromise, and disaster.

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    That's our outline for this morning.

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    Comparison that produces discontent, compromise, and disaster.

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    It's comparison that flows from a worldly restlessness in our hearts, and it makes us think there's something better, something more, and if we could just get a hold of it, we would be so much happier, so much better off.

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    It's comparison in what the Apostle John calls all that is in the world, the desires of the flesh, the desires of the eyes, and the pride of life.

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    He says that in 1 John 2.16.

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    And it's these desires, like everything else, that started in the Garden of Eden.

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    Our goal this morning is to learn why we are so prone to compare ourselves what the schemes of Satan are, what he uses to prompt us to compare.

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    And then we're gonna look at some remedies that will help us dare to not compare.

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    So our first point is that comparison breeds discontent.

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    And our text this morning is about the fall.

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    But let's look for a moment what Adam and Eve had before the fall.

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    They were already made in the image of God, sharing some of his characteristics.

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    They were living, thinking, speaking, reasoning beings.

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    They were holy and pure, able to see God face to face and walk with him in the garden in the cool of the day.

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    But they were also limited.

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    Unlike God, they were not all powerful, all knowing, or all seeing.

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    And they were subject to God, made to serve under and with him.

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    They were not really free to do whatever they wanted in the garden.

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    They were given commands to obey.

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    They were given positive commands, that is they were told, "These are the things you are to do." The first of which was be fruitful and multiply.

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    They were to work the garden, to exercise dominion, and rule over creation.

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    There was only one thing they should not do.

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    They were not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

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    Here's the command from Genesis 2, verses 16 and 17.

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    And the Lord God commanded the man saying, "You may surely eat of every tree in the garden, "but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil "you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it, "you shall surely die." Now at some point in the creation narrative, Satan shows up, and he starts talking to Eve.

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    Genesis 3.1 says, "Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, 'Did God actually say you shall not eat of any tree in the garden?'" Now when the scripture says the serpent is more crafty than the other beast, it doesn't mean he spent a lot of time at Hobby Lobby. It means he was devious. He's He's up to no good.

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    The Hebrew word for crafty, or translated crafty, is arum.

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    It can also be translated as astute, which means Satan can study a person, know them, know what buttons to push.

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    And how does he do this with Eve?

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    Well, notice how in that simple sentence, did God actually say, "You shall not eat of any tree in the garden." Satan very cleverly draws Eve's attention one tree?" Her response should have been, "No, no, no. God said we can eat of every tree in the garden." Did God say you can't eat from any tree? We can eat from any tree except that one. Seems like an innocuous question, but what it does is direct her attention to the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. He's insinuating that God is withholding something he plants a thought in Eve's mind that there's something more.

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    Why shouldn't I be able to eat from that tree?

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    Suddenly she's no longer content with all that she and Adam had.

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    Who she was, all that she was able to do, the multitude of trees in the garden that are pleasing to the eye and good for food.

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    No, she's laser locked in on that one thing she does not have.

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    Here's the thing, we frequently reenact the garden every day in the choices we make.

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    We're bombarded by media images, ideas, situations, circumstances that cause us to evaluate and reevaluate ourselves and our lot in life.

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    And we can form ideas that very often come straight from the pit of hell.

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    All those voices are in a way a form of the question, What did God actually say?

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    Because they cause us to lock in on what we're not, what we lack, and so we compare, and we become discontented.

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    We see something, someone says something to us, as a result we begin to wallow in self-pity.

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    Oh, I'm so stupid, I'm a worthless schmuck.

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    Nobody likes me, everybody hates me.

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    I think I'll eat a worm.

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    Or our pride gets bunched up, gets riled up, We think, "You know, I deserve more. I deserve that too. I'm entitled to that." What we as believers in Christ fail to remember is this. In our salvation, we're restored to the pre-fall condition. Our innocence is restored. We're all sons of God. We have eternal life and the Holy Spirit living in us. In short, we are as righteous as Jesus Christ.

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    Jesus tells us that all that belongs to him is ours.

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    Whereas the thief comes to steal and kill and destroy, Jesus came that we may have life and have it abundantly.

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    Yet somehow we find that insufficient.

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    So often we succumb to that little whisper, did God actually say?

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    And the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and the pride of life carry us to the next step.

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    which is that comparison encourages compromise.

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    Let's look at verses two through five.

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    And the woman said to the serpent, we may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said you shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that's in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it lest you die.

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    But the serpent said to the woman, you will not surely die, For God knows that when you eat of it, your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.

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    Notice that instead of reciting the actual command as God gave it, or instead of asking Adam to repeat it, even instead of asking God to repeat the command, Eve says, "I got this." Then she alters and adds to the command.

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    First, she looks down her nose at what God actually granted.

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    A multitude of trees pleasing to the eye and good for food.

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    Granted them to surely eat of every tree of the garden.

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    And she sniffs.

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    We may eat of the fruit of the trees.

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    What does that mean?

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    All the trees?

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    Some trees?

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    Not others?

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    Which trees exactly did God mean again?

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    "Oh, everything seems kind of murky." And then she misstates and she obscures the true prohibition.

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    The problem with the statement, "The tree that is in the midst of the garden," is that there's two trees in the middle of the garden.

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    God only put one of them off limits.

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    She ignores, deliberately overlooks the fact that there are two trees, including the tree of life from which they made.

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    But the third thing she does after obliterating the truth is she adds a rule and appends the death penalty to it.

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    God never said, "Neither shall you touch it." Why is this important?

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    Isn't that a good thing?

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    Look, if you're not touching it, you're not gonna eat it.

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    That's good, right?

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    But just stay away from it.

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    to safeguard.

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    What do people do when they see a sign that says, "Wet paper"?

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    What do people do when they see a sign that says, "Do not touch"?

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    "Stay off the grass"?

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    Eve understands that this is a rule of her own making, and there is no penalty attached to it.

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    And knowing that, knowing that it's a rule without any power over her, creates an inducement to push the envelope, so to speak.

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    Because, oh, if there's no penalty for touching the fruit, oh, see, I can touch it, I'm not dying.

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    Then perhaps the penalty for eating the fruit isn't real either.

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    She has in one thought and action justified herself and rationalized away her sin.

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    Eve considers what she has, which is almost everything, and compares it to what God has, really everything, and suddenly 99% is not good enough anymore.

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    Only 100% will do.

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    100% is what I should have.

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    As we said, Adam and Eve were already like God.

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    They bore God's image, but they realized they were not equal with God.

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    He had knowledge of something they did not.

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    So even though they were already like God, the serpent persuaded Eve that there was something more to gain.

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    And there was no penalty for the pursuit.

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    Eve wants equality, and equality meant having what she didn't need, which was knowing good and evil, just like God.

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    We should compare, or should I say contrast, Eve's disobedience with Jesus' obedience.

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    In Philippians 2, verses five and six we read, have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who even though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped.

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    Whereas Eve mangled the commandment to grasp at the fruit, to grasp at equality with God, Jesus kept God's commands as they are.

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    He did not add to or subtract from.

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    So what happens?

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    What happens is comparison causes disaster.

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    So look at verses six and seven.

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    So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate.

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    And she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate.

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    and the eyes of both were open, and they knew that they were naked.

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    And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths.

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    In the Hebrew, the word for naked is arumim.

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    It sounds very much like the word for crafty, arum.

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    Recall that verse one told us the serpent was the most crafty of all.

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    Now most scholars don't see much more here than a little bit of wordplay.

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    They don't give it much thought other than the words sort of sound alike.

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    But I would offer this.

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    Before the fall, Adam and Eve were arumim, naked and unashamed.

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    They bore the image of God.

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    But after eating the fruit, they were naked and now ashamed.

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    That is to say, crafty.

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    In their guilt, they now bore the image of the serpent.

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    I don't mean they look like snakes.

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    I mean they would henceforth act like Satan and not God.

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    The couple that was supposed to care for the creation is now wrecking it by tearing apart a living fig tree for leaves to cover themselves.

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    The couple that was directed to exercise dominion over the creation are reduced to hiding in it.

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    Everything about them and the creation has been devastating.

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    We don't have time for it, but we know the rest of the story.

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    God comes calling, "Adam, where are you?" And the blame throwing commences.

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    The woman you gave me gave me the fruit.

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    It's her fault.

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    And the rest, as they say, is history.

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    Do we need an extended analysis of the death and destruction that have resulted from that day cataloged in scripture, cataloged in human history?

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    Do you need any analysis of our current world, bombarded as we are from every direction with false ideas and allurements?

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    All a refashioning of, "Did God actually say?" All those things that breed discontent.

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    You need an analysis of media, especially social media that beckons us to compare our lives and our circumstances with someone or something else and find ourselves wanting? No, you don't. Because you know that every act of comparison either leaves us diminished in our own eyes or sets us on a path of grasping for something we do not need. Comparison wrecks our hearts, causes us to lose sight of the Lord who loves us and sooner or later it exacts a heavy price.

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    Remember that I said all the trees in the garden were pleasing to the eye and good for food.

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    That is to say they were all equal in those respects.

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    But to the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, Satan added a point of comparison.

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    He deceived Eve into thinking it was to be desired to make one wise, that is to become become like God, but no one ever becomes more like God by disobeying his command.

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    No one becomes wise through sinning.

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    No one ever gains from making foolish comparisons.

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    I have a story about people who made a comparison.

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    When Bethany and I were first married, we attended a church in Tacoma, Washington.

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    in terms of size, it was about the same size as Harvest.

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    It was a great church.

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    We had retired missionaries, retired pastors, active missionaries, all who were part of the congregation.

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    All ages of people, young people, growing families, wise saints in the Lord.

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    And when we got there, they were going through a building program.

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    They had bought some land, and they were raising funds to build a new building because their old church was like 90 years old.

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    And it was an exciting time to be there.

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    We left in 1990, but the church, they were successful in their fundraising, they built their new facility in the mid-90s, and things were going great.

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    Somewhere along the line in the late 1990s, early 2000s, There was a couple whom I had a great deal of respect for.

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    There was a couple, the husband, he got into a position of leadership in the church.

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    And he said, "You know, why aren't we a mega church like this one down the street?

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    We ought to be a mega church, and Pastor Tom, he's not the guy to get us there." And he started whispering and talking, and he got enough people in the church, Yeah, we ought to be a mega church.

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    We're just stagnant. We're not growing.

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    Well, they confused quantity with quality.

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    Because Pastor Tom was a pastor's pastor.

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    He was a great pastor, great preacher.

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    But somehow he was no longer good enough.

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    So, they got the board, fired Pastor Tom.

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    the door at a time when his wife was struggling with breast cancer.

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    The outcome, church was split, people were hurt, that church didn't last.

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    It shut its doors in the early 2000s.

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    been reopened in the last few years. Different people, different church altogether. But that's what comparison does. 2 Corinthians 10.12 says that when people measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding.

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    So So what about us?

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    Are we without understanding?

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    No, we belong to Christ and there are ways we can dare to not compare.

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    First of all, we must know the Word.

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    The primary stumbling point for Eve was that she didn't know God's command and therefore she could not rely on it for offense or defense.

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    She lost sight of who she was, and she poured contempt on everything she had.

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    Well, let's contrast Jesus again.

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    What did Jesus do when he was in the wilderness at the end of 40 days of fasting?

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    And Satan showed up to tempt him with the desires of the flesh, and the desires of the eyes, and the pride of life.

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    Let's look.

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    He tempted Jesus with the desires of the flesh.

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    If you're the son of God, "Command this stone to become bread." And Jesus answered him, "It is written, "Man shall not live by bread alone." Well then he tempts him with the desires of the eyes.

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    It says the devil took him up and showed him all the kingdoms of the world in a moment of time and said to him, "To you I will give "all this authority and their glory.

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    "For it has been delivered to me "and I will give it to whom I will.

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    "If you then will worship me, it will all be yours." Jesus doesn't say it's already mine.

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    No, he uses the scripture.

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    Jesus answered him, "It is written, "you shall worship the Lord your God, "and him only shall you serve." And then Satan appealed to his pride of life.

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    He took him to Jerusalem and set him on the pinnacle of the temple and said to him, "If you're the son of God, throw yourself down from here.

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    "For it is written, he will command his angels "concerning you to guard you, "and on their hands they will bear you up, "lest you strike your foot against a stone." And Jesus answered him, "It is said, "you shall not put the Lord your God to the test." And Satan fled.

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    Therefore, beloved, we must feed on God's word daily.

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    You have to read it, study it, memorize it, listen to it.

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    If you have trouble memorizing it, look it up.

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    Search diligently for answers.

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    And I want you to listen to what I'm saying and how I'm appealing to Scripture to give us a ready defense and offense.

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    So that when the deceiver appeals to your pride, so that overextending your budget to get stuff seems like a good idea, if he goads you to step on people to get a promotion or to sacrifice children and marriage for the sake of personal accomplishment, you can reply, "It's written I must do nothing "from selfish ambition or conceit, "but in humility count others more significant than myself, "and keep my life free from the love of money "and be content with what I have.

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    "For he has said, I will never leave you nor forsake you." And when Satan reminds you, God actually say you're nothing but a worthless sinner? You can answer with, "You know that's comforting because God chose his love for me in that while I was still a sinner, Christ died for me." Then when Satan, when Satan wants to tell you that you're nothing but a worthless backslider, Didn't God actually say He's angry about your faithless backsliding?

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    He's trying to set you on a path of despair.

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    You can answer, "No, no, in Christ Jesus, I'm a son of God through faith.

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    Because I am a son, God has sent the spirit of His Son into my heart crying, 'Abba, Father.'" When Satan insinuates that, "Oh, you're by nature a child of wrath like the rest of mankind.

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    We rebuke him with, "But God, being rich in mercy, "because of the great love with which he loved me, "even when I was dead in my trespassing, "made me alive together with Christ.

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    "By grace I have been saved.

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    "And he raised me up with him and seated me with him "in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus." So we need to know the word.

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    And the second thing we need to do is take our eyes off the world.

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    Look at a verse that we looked at a part of earlier.

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    1 John 2 15-17.

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    The apostle says, "Do not love the world "or the things in the world.

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    "If anyone loves the world, "the love of the Father is not in him.

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    "For all that is in the world, "the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes "and the pride of life is not from the Father, "but is from the world.

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    "And the world is passing away along with its desires.

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    "But whoever does the will of God abides forever." You see in that verse the reference back to the garden to what Eve was thinking, right?

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    The desires of the flesh, oh, it's good for food.

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    And the desires of the eyes, oh, it's a delight to the eye.

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    And the pride of life is to be desired to make one wise.

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    See that?

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    God reminds us that our bent to compare It's from the world.

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    And what's happening to the world?

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    It's passing away, it's temporary.

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    In the Old Testament, the prophets and the psalmists often in rebuking idolaters, they remarked that those who worship idols became like them.

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    He remarked that idols are lifeless, they're altogether worthless.

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    and everyone who worships them becomes like them.

    30:33-30:34

    Well, what do you want to become?

    30:35-30:40

    You want to become temporary, in love with the world, and then pass away with the rest of it?

    30:41-30:43

    Or do you want to do the will of God and become eternal?

    30:44-30:49

    There is nothing in this world that profits us or improves us.

    30:50-30:55

    On the contrary, comparing ourselves with others and their circumstances only diminishes us.

    30:57-31:01

    We must therefore fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith.

    31:03-31:07

    Fix your eyes on Jesus in whom you have all things.

    31:08-31:13

    If you are in Christ, you are holy, righteous, united with him in his death and resurrection.

    31:13-31:18

    In him you have all you need for life, joy, and contentment.

    31:19-31:26

    You've been restored to the same spiritual status and right relationship with God that Adam and Eve enjoyed before the fall.

    31:27-31:32

    You are, and you can live, innocent and unashamed.

    31:34-31:37

    I want to consider for a moment all things.

    31:38-31:40

    We Jesus, we have all things.

    31:40-31:41

    What are they?

    31:42-31:43

    How did we get them?

    31:44-31:46

    Well, it's not about getting temporary things.

    31:49-31:54

    Not about temporary all things, but rather about life-giving, eternal all things.

    31:55-32:06

    2 Peter 1.3 says that God's divine power is granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness through the knowledge of Jesus who called us to his own glory and excellence.

    32:08-32:10

    How did we get all things?

    32:11-32:21

    Romans 8.32 says that God who did not spare his own son but gave him up for us all, will he not also with him graciously give us all things?

    32:23-32:27

    You see, we receive all things God gave up Jesus for us all.

    32:30-33:02

    I find it curious, interesting, illuminating, that in Genesis 1.26, when God made man, he said, "Let us make man in our image after our likeness." But after the fall, in Genesis 3.22, God says, "Behold, the man has become like one of us "in knowing good and evil." Who is this one of us in the Godhead that knows good and evil?

    33:03-33:10

    I submit to you that the one of us in Genesis 3.22 is the second person of the Trinity, the Lord Jesus Christ.

    33:11-33:23

    And at Calvary, he hung naked and ashamed on the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, burying our sin, burying our shame, and excruciating suffering and death.

    33:25-33:38

    There are a multitude of trees in this world that allure us and call us to make comparison, whether it's something as inconsequential as a bottle of shampoo or as valuable as your soul.

    33:41-33:44

    But we must turn our attention to a single tree.

    33:45-33:54

    And if you have not yet believed in the Lord Jesus Christ, You must lock in on the one thing that you do not have and you need above all else.

    33:56-34:02

    When the Apostle Peter preached the gospel in Acts, he reminded his hearers that they put Jesus to death by hanging him on a tree.

    34:04-34:22

    And he later says, "Jesus alone bore our sins in his body "on the tree that we might die to sin "and live to righteousness." The tree of the knowledge of good and evil in which Jesus died has become, praise God for us, the tree of life through his resurrection from the dead.

    34:23-34:26

    On the tree at Calvary, Jesus crushed the serpent's head.

    34:26-34:29

    Our sin was destroyed and death was put to death.

    34:30-34:36

    Regarding that tree, there is one command that all people in the world are called to obey.

    34:37-34:42

    Acts 17.30, God commands all people everywhere to repent.

    34:43-34:47

    So repent and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and your sins will be forgiven.

    34:48-34:49

    You will have everlasting life.

    34:51-34:54

    What more can anyone possibly need?

    34:56-35:04

    Child of God, you have the incomparable Lord Jesus Christ who died your death, unites you with him in his life.

    35:06-35:11

    He covers you with his garments of righteousness and he graciously gives you all things.

    35:12-35:18

    And beloved, when you have all things in Jesus, there is nothing to compare.

    35:19-35:20

    Let's pray.

    35:23-35:29

    Oh, gracious Father, you have given us all things through Jesus Christ.

    35:31-35:40

    Father, help us to carry your word with us to this day, to this week, into our whole life that remains before us.

    35:42-35:44

    with our eyes fixed on Jesus Christ alone.

    35:46-35:47

    Let us leave off comparison.

    35:48-35:49

    Let us leave the world behind.

    35:50-35:57

    We put off the world we put on Christ, our incomparable Savior.

    35:59-36:00

    And it's in His name we pray.

    36:01-36:01

    Amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read Genesis 3:1-7

  1. What are your big takeaways from the text and/or the message?

  2. Why do you think we are so prone to compare ourselves with others?

  3. Can you think of a time when you compared yourself to another person (besides Jesus) and it produced constructive thoughts and a holy outcome?

  4. Why is knowing Scripture essential to overcoming the urge to compare?

  5. What are some practical ways we can “put off” the world and “put on” Christ?

Breakout
Pray that God will enable you more and more to fix your eyes on Jesus, and to refuse to compare yourself and your circumstances to others.

I Love an Addict… But He Doesn't Want to Change

Introduction:

See: Luke 15:11-32

2 Timothy 2:24-26 - And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.

How Can We Best Love an Addict?

  1. We let them Go .

    Proverbs 22:10 - Drive out a scoffer, and strife will go out...

  2. We Wait .
  3. We Pray .

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  • Pastor Jeff:

    00:01-00:05

    Open up your Bibles with me please to Luke 15.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:07-00:09

    Luke 15, verse 11.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:10-00:14

    And he, Jesus, said, "There was a man who had two sons.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:15-00:24

    And the younger of them said to his father, 'Father, give me the share of the property that is coming to me.' And he divided his property between them.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:25-00:35

    So many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property and reckless living.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:36-00:41

    And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:43-00:49

    So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country who sent him into the fields to feed pigs.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:49-00:53

    And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:54-00:55

    And no one gave Him anything.

    Pastor Jeff:

    00:56-01:03

    But when He came to Himself, He said, "How many of My Father's hired servants had more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger?

    Pastor Jeff:

    01:04-01:10

    I will rise and go to My Father, and I will say to Him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and before You.

    Pastor Jeff:

    01:10-01:12

    I am no longer worthy to be called Your Son.

    Pastor Jeff:

    01:13-01:30

    Treat Me as one of Your hired servants.' And He rose, came to His Father, but while He was still a long way off, His Father saw Him and compassion, and he ran and embraced Him, and kissed Him, and the Son said to him, "Father, I've sinned against Heaven and before you.

    Pastor Jeff:

    01:30-01:39

    I'm no longer worthy to be called your Son." But the Father said to His servants, "Bring quickly the best robe and put it on Him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    01:39-01:44

    And put a ring on His hand and shoes on His feet, and bring the fattened calf and kill it.

    Pastor Jeff:

    01:44-01:56

    And let us eat and celebrate, for My Son was dead and is alive again." He was lost and is found, and they began to celebrate.

    Pastor Jeff:

    01:58-02:00

    Now his older son was in the field.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:01-02:06

    And as he came and drew near to the house, he heard music and dancing.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:06-02:09

    And he called one of the servants and asked what these things meant.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:10-02:12

    And he said to him, your brother is coming.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:12-02:17

    Your father has killed the fattened calf because he's received him back safe and sound.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:17-02:19

    And he was angry and refused to go in.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:20-02:21

    But his father came out and entreated him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:22-02:28

    But he answered his father, "Look, these many years, I have served you and I have never disobeyed your command.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:28-02:32

    And you never gave me a young goat that I may celebrate with my friends.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:32-02:43

    But when this son of yours came, who has devoured your property with prostitutes, you kill a fattened calf for him." And he said to him, "Son, you are always with me.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:43-02:49

    And all that is mine is yours." It was fitting to celebrate and be glad.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:50-02:53

    For this your brother was dead and is alive.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:54-02:56

    He was lost and is found.

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:58-02:59

    Why did Jesus tell this story?

    Pastor Jeff:

    02:59-03:05

    Well actually, you go back to the beginning of Luke chapter 15, it tells us exactly why Jesus told a story.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:06-03:10

    It says that the Pharisees and the scribes were complaining that Jesus hangs out with sinners.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:11-03:12

    Shame on you!

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:13-03:16

    You hang out with the worst people, Jesus.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:17-03:23

    So Jesus in Luke chapter 15 actually tells… it's one story, really.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:23-03:26

    But the story's told in three acts.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:28-03:36

    And each of these three acts, each of these three little mini-stories within a big story, each of these stories have the same exact theme.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:36-03:37

    And here's the theme.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:38-03:43

    People are happy when something that was lost is now found.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:44-03:50

    So you see, here's what's happening in Luke 15, like the Pharisees and the scribes are like, "I can't believe you eat with sinners." And Jesus, I'm gonna tell you a story.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:51-03:54

    And he says, "Okay, so this guy," I'm paraphrasing here, okay?

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:55-03:57

    "But this guy, he has a hundred sheep and he loses one.

    Pastor Jeff:

    03:58-04:04

    "And he goes and finds it and he brings it back "and everybody's happy." And Jesus' audience was like, "Yeah, yeah, that makes sense.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:04-04:07

    "Yeah, sure, yeah." Jesus goes, "Okay, all right, let me tell you another story.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:07-04:10

    "There's this woman, she had 10 coins and she loses one.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:10-04:14

    "And she like tears her house upside down "and then she finds it and she calls her friends.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:14-04:22

    She goes, "I found my lost coin!" And everybody's like, "Yay!" And everybody's like, "That makes sense." Jesus goes, "Okay, I'm not done yet. There's another story.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:22-04:25

    This guy has two sons, and he loses one.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:27-04:30

    And then he finds it. He finds his son.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:30-04:36

    And everybody's happy!" And the Pharisees are like, "Okay, yeah." Jesus goes, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, hey, wait, wait.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:36-04:38

    Not everybody was happy.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:38-04:42

    Because he had a brother who was completely ticked off.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:43-04:50

    Jesus was saying, "By the way guys, that's you." They connected those dots.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:51-04:51

    That's you.

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:53-04:58

    And you're like, "Okay, powerful story, but what in the world does that have to do with this series on addiction?

    Pastor Jeff:

    04:58-05:00

    I mean, I thought we were finishing that today.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:01-05:03

    I mean, what does this have to do with an addict?

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:03-05:11

    What does this story have to do with me dealing with an addict in my family or at my workplace or my neighborhood or whatever?" Well, here it is.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:11-05:22

    In the story of the lost son, what we have, for lack of a better term, is what we would call an extreme sinner.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:23-05:24

    Now here's what Jesus was doing in this story.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:26-05:29

    Jesus was creating the worst possible human being possible.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:29-05:30

    Like just the worst.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:30-05:35

    This is the worst picture of a person that Jesus could possibly paint.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:35-05:45

    This guy completely disrespects his dad, takes his share of the wealth before his dad's dead, And he goes and he blows it on everything, and he ends up living with the pigs and wanting to eat the pig food.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:45-05:50

    It's like the worst possible case scenario that Jesus was painting here.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:51-05:52

    We have this extreme sinner.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:52-05:57

    This extreme sinner insisted life be on his terms.

    Pastor Jeff:

    05:57-06:02

    Again, "Give me the inheritance, Dad." Do you realize how offensive that is?

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:03-06:09

    Basically, he's saying, "Dad, I care more about the stuff that you're going to leave me when you're dead I care about you.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:11-06:13

    Basically saying, Dad, I wish you were dead.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:15-06:15

    Horrible.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:16-06:18

    So we get this extreme sinner, life on his terms.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:20-06:23

    And he viewed his dad as an object, right?

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:23-06:26

    Cared more about the stuff than the relationship.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:26-06:29

    Dad, just give me-- please hear me.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:30-06:34

    This story shows how some addicts treat their loved ones, right?

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:35-06:38

    Just give me something.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:38-06:40

    Provide for me.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:40-06:42

    Give me what I want.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:43-06:44

    I don't care what you want.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:44-06:45

    I don't care what's right.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:46-06:51

    Just give me what I want, using Dad as an object.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:52-06:54

    And there are some principles in this story for us.

    Pastor Jeff:

    06:55-07:00

    Last week, we talked about what do we do with that addict in our family that wants to change?

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:00-07:01

    How do we minister to them?

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:01-07:03

    How do we push them to Christ?

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:04-07:06

    Well, this is a much harder message.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:07-07:10

    Because the question is, what do you do for that addict who doesn't want to change?

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:11-07:17

    I mean, in this parable that Jesus told, the son came to his senses and he repented.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:19-07:19

    What did it?

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:21-07:25

    He realized how loving and caring his father had been to him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:25-07:26

    Remember, that's what woke him up.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:27-07:28

    What am I doing?

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:28-07:33

    I have a dad that cares about me I've completely turned my back on Him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:35-07:39

    So the addict in your life, they have to know that you love them.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:39-07:40

    They have to know that.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:42-07:48

    No matter what happens, no matter what choices I make, no matter how bad I've screwed this up, they have to know that you care about them.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:50-07:52

    But even more than that, they have to know that God loves them.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:54-07:56

    Your sin can't outweigh God's grace.

    Pastor Jeff:

    07:57-08:00

    You can't go too far that God can't rescue you.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:00-08:01

    They have to know that.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:03-08:08

    But as for you, last week and this week, we're addressing you more than we're addressing the addict.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:08-08:13

    You are totally dependent on the grace of God to intervene.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:13-08:25

    Because unless the addict himself or herself, unless the addict truly repents - we talked about that last week - unless the addict truly repents, there is nothing that you can do.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:26-08:28

    There's nothing that you can do.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:30-08:35

    V. 18 shows us in this parable what repentance looks like.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:35-08:36

    Look at it again with me quickly.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:37-08:39

    The son, he says, "I'm going to arise and go to my Father.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:40-08:45

    I'll say to Him, 'Father, I've sinned against Heaven and before You.'" That's what repentance looks like.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:45-08:47

    It's taking responsibility.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:47-08:50

    It's getting to the place that there's no one else to blame.

    Pastor Jeff:

    08:51-09:02

    No more, "Well, this is your fault, Dad, the way you raised me." Or, "It's my friend's fault for introducing me or it's the school system's fault, or it's the government's fault, or it's...

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:02-09:04

    The addict has to get there.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:04-09:08

    Done blaming anything else for the addiction to get to the point...

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:08-09:10

    No, no, no! This is on me!

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:11-09:12

    These are the choices that I made.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:14-09:18

    I'm living with the pigs because I chose to live with the pigs.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:18-09:19

    The addict has to get there.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:20-09:23

    And you saw the attitude change in the son.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:24-09:29

    When he came back to his dad in the parable, He didn't come back cocky with a chip on his shoulder.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:30-09:31

    "Okay, Dad, you know what?

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:31-09:34

    I decided I'm going to stay here anyway.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:34-09:39

    You still got my room for me, and I'm going to stay here." And none of that.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:40-09:41

    It was total humility.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:43-09:49

    And when the addict in your life gets to the point of true repentance, you're going to know it.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:50-09:56

    Because there's going to be a distinct difference in the person that you used to know and the the person that you see now in front of you.

    Pastor Jeff:

    09:57-10:00

    Because now they're willing to do anything to repair the relationship with you.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:00-10:08

    Gone is the selfishness, and the pride, and the anger, and the depression, and all of that that went with the addiction.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:09-10:11

    You're going to see a different person.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:12-10:19

    And in the parable, the father restored the relationship, and so must you if the addict repents.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:21-10:25

    That's why you have to be on your guard You're not like the older son.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:26-10:29

    Scoffing and bitter because it's so easy to fall into that trap.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:30-10:30

    It just is.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:31-10:32

    Oh, you're sorry this time.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:32-10:34

    How many times have we been down this road?

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:34-10:34

    How many times?

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:35-10:36

    Really? And this is the time it's stuck.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:38-10:39

    It's easy to be like the older son.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:41-10:52

    And even if you've managed to wrestle through that issue with the Lord, there's a great chance that you're going to see a lot of self-righteous attitudes somewhere in your family if the addict repents.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:53-10:55

    and family members, they're like, "Oh, you took him back.

    Pastor Jeff:

    10:55-11:00

    Oh, he's really repentant this time, huh?" They need to be reminded of the goodness and the forgiveness of God.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:01-11:08

    To sinners who repent, and like the Father, you need to celebrate their repentance, because repentance is from Christ.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:08-11:10

    God is the one who grants repentance.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:11-11:11

    Did you know that?

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:12-11:14

    Look at 2 Timothy 2.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:15-11:36

    It says, "And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome, but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness." "God may perhaps grant them repentance, leading to a knowledge of the truth, that they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil after being captured by him to do his will." That last couple of phrases doesn't describe addiction.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:37-11:37

    I don't know what does.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:39-11:40

    See, God grants repentance.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:41-11:47

    So the Father in this parable obviously represents God the Father.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:49-11:51

    The dad in the Luke 15 parable He presents God the Father.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:53-11:58

    And there are some things that we can emulate from this picture.

    Pastor Jeff:

    11:59-12:02

    So on your outline, if you're taking notes, I want you to jot down three things here.

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:02-12:05

    How can we best love an addict?

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:06-12:15

    If we're looking at this passage and we're emulating the dad, number one, write this down, we let them go.

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:16-12:31

    The most loving thing for you to do When somebody is in persistent, hard-hearted, rebellious, "I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do," whether you like it or not, the best thing for you to do is to let the addict go.

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:32-12:36

    Ask them to leave, and even make arrangements for them to do so.

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:38-12:41

    This is going to be the hardest thing you ever do in your life.

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:42-12:45

    But the question is, what else can you do?

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:46-12:47

    What's your options here?

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:47-12:50

    and allow the addiction to keep happening.

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:51-12:55

    Allow a hard-hearted, rebellious, self-destructive attitude to be tolerated.

    Pastor Jeff:

    12:56-13:04

    Or say, "No, we're not doing that." And if that's the choice you're making, you have to leave.

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:06-13:12

    Proverbs 22.10 says, "Drive out a scoffer, and strife will go out." You know what a scoffer is?

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:13-13:17

    It's somebody that's made their stand in sin.

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:18-13:23

    Not somebody that's struggling or having a momentary lapse of judgment.

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:24-13:38

    A scoffer is somebody that's like, "I'm doing what I want to do and there's nothing you can do about it." The Proverbs says, "When you've got somebody like that, you drive them out." The parable in Luke 15, the dad let the son leave.

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:38-13:39

    Okay, you want to go?

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:39-13:39

    Go.

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:40-13:41

    He let him leave.

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:41-13:47

    I'm like, "Well, surely not in the church, Pastor Jeff." Just jot this down, you can read this later, 1 Corinthians chapter 5.

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:48-13:49

    Again, I'm paraphrasing.

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:49-13:50

    You know what 1 Corinthians 5 says?

    Pastor Jeff:

    13:51-14:16

    1 Corinthians 5 says if you have somebody in the church that persists in hard-hearted, rebellious, bragging about its sin, completely unrepentant, no godly sorrow whatsoever, just "I'm sinning and I'm proud of it, high five," Paul says, "You've got somebody like that in the church, you know what you do with that guy?" He says, "You grab him by the scruff of his neck, and you grab him by the seat of his pants, and you throw him through a stained glass window.

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:16-14:27

    He is not welcome in the church anymore, until he repents." And look, this wasn't my favorite sermon to prepare, because this isn't very comfortable.

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:29-14:35

    Because there's something about this that sounds, it sounds to our flesh so unloving.

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:36-14:37

    Here's the thing.

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:37-14:40

    It just doesn't matter what our flesh thinks.

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:41-14:43

    What matters is what God thinks.

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:43-14:45

    And God says, "My ways are not your ways.

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:45-14:46

    My thoughts are not your thoughts.

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:47-14:50

    My ways and thoughts are higher than yours." Isaiah 55 stuff, right?

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:51-14:57

    So I'm looking at God's Word, and what's the consistent teaching on somebody that persists in sin?

    Pastor Jeff:

    14:58-15:04

    The consistent teaching in God's Word is you let them go out, not here.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:04-15:05

    You're not doing that here.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:06-15:08

    You're not welcome here if you insist on doing it.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:09-15:11

    This is a whole different thing than the guy that's like, "Please help me.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:11-15:14

    "Can you please help me?" That was last week's sermon.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:14-15:15

    Please help me.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:15-15:16

    That's on the website.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:16-15:17

    Check last week's sermon.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:17-15:19

    We're talking about the guy that says, "I don't know.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:19-15:25

    "No, no, I'm not interested in breaking this addiction "or giving this up or changing my lifestyle.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:26-15:30

    "I'm doing what I'm doing." And your response, biblically, is you're not doing it here.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:32-15:33

    And oh, they're going to try the guilt trip.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:34-15:35

    How can you do this?

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:36-15:39

    You call yourself a Christian and you're not going to help me?

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:41-15:42

    And here's your response.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:43-15:44

    OK, write this down.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:44-15:46

    You can say this verbatim.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:47-15:49

    Here's your response when the guilt trip comes.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:49-15:53

    I will do anything in the world to help you, but you are refusing to get real help.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:54-15:59

    I will help you break from your addiction, but I will not help you in your addiction.

    Pastor Jeff:

    15:59-16:01

    Letting them go means no enabling.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:03-16:05

    No enabling, again, we talked about this last week.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:05-16:07

    No money, no rides, no covering for them.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:08-16:09

    Nothing.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:10-16:11

    You see in the parable that Jesus told?

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:12-16:13

    You see what the Father did not do?

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:13-16:15

    He didn't chase His Son down.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:16-16:17

    He didn't call Him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:17-16:18

    He didn't text Him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:19-16:20

    He didn't email Him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:21-16:23

    He didn't show up and bribe Him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:23-16:26

    "Oh, please come back." He didn't threaten Him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:26-16:29

    "If You don't come back..." What did He do?

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:29-16:30

    The answer is He let Him go.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:32-16:37

    And the relationship ended for a season, That wasn't the father's choice, that was the son's choice.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:39-16:49

    And when the addict makes the choice to refuse help, the only thing that you can do is allow them to reap the fruit of their actions.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:51-16:52

    So how can we best love an addict?

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:52-16:55

    It sounds so contrary to what we would think.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:56-16:57

    Number one, we let them go.

    Pastor Jeff:

    16:58-16:59

    Number two,

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:01-17:02

    (sighs)

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:05-17:06

    We wait.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:08-17:10

    Again, what did the dad do in Jesus' story?

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:11-17:11

    What did he do?

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:12-17:14

    He watched and he waited.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:15-17:16

    What did Tom Petty teach us?

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:18-17:21

    The waiting is the hardest part.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:22-17:24

    I think we need to work on that before we take it on the road.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:26-17:28

    That's what dad did though, didn't he?

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:28-17:31

    And look, again, I'm not saying this stuff is easy, right?

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:31-17:33

    I'm totally with Tom Petty.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:33-17:36

    I think in this particular instance, I think his theology was pretty good.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:37-17:40

    The waiting is the hardest part, but that's what the dad did, he waited.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:42-17:44

    You're like, well, shouldn't I do something to help him?

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:44-17:47

    I mean, if I don't help him, what's gonna happen?

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:48-17:49

    Well, I'm gonna tell you what's gonna happen.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:50-17:53

    If you don't help, I'll tell you exactly right now what's gonna happen.

    Pastor Jeff:

    17:53-18:04

    They're going to squander everything they have because that addict does not have unlimited resources and they're going to blow through what they have quickly.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:05-18:11

    And like the son in the story, the addict in your life might even get to the point where he attaches himself to someone.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:11-18:20

    Whatever it takes to stay afloat, self-first mentality, and when there's no one left to mooch from, the addict's going to be in need.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:22-18:29

    So not only must you cut off the finances, you need to pray that other people get tired of supporting the addict.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:29-18:36

    And you need to tell your family, "Look, do not support him." Okay, he left the house.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:36-18:37

    He doesn't want help.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:38-18:40

    He's going to be calling you for some kind of support.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:40-18:41

    Do not give him anything.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:42-18:43

    You need to tell your family.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:43-18:45

    All points bulletin.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:46-18:47

    We're not helping him.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:48-18:51

    "Pastor Joe, you mean not even feed him?" No.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:52-18:53

    Man, that sounds pretty harsh.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:53-18:57

    Well, look at v. 16 in Luke 15 here.

    Pastor Jeff:

    18:58-19:02

    This kid in this story, he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate.

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:03-19:07

    It says, "And no one gave him anything." He had to get to that point.

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:08-19:14

    Your addicted loved one must be in real need before real change is sought.

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:16-19:23

    They're always going to stay addicted if they never experience any painful consequences as a result from their addiction.

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:24-19:31

    and you have to get to the place in your life where you realize you cannot protect them from their consequences.

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:32-19:33

    Is that what you want?

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:34-19:36

    You want them to never experience pain?

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:36-19:41

    You want them to not get to the point where they realize change absolutely has to happen?

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:42-19:44

    Like, well, what's gonna happen to the addict?

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:44-19:53

    Well, jail, hunger, homelessness, and yeah, it can lead to the ultimate consequence.

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:54-19:54

    It can lead to death.

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:56-19:58

    And you might think that you can prevent the addict's death.

    Pastor Jeff:

    19:59-20:05

    You can't prevent that addict from indulging in his addiction, and you can't prevent that addict from dying from it.

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:05-20:06

    You can't do it.

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:09-20:18

    No matter what systems, safeguards, barriers you set up, he's going to find a way to feed the addiction if that's what he's committed to.

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:18-20:22

    The addict absolutely needs heart surgery from the Lord.

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:24-20:31

    It's also important to note here that there's no specific time frame in this parable between the son leaving and returning.

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:32-20:34

    Like how long did that dad stand there waiting?

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:34-20:35

    Five minutes?

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:35-20:36

    Five years?

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:36-20:36

    I don't know.

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:39-20:41

    But I do know that repentance often does not happen right away.

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:42-20:48

    And you might have to wait for an extended season of your life waiting for that addict to hit bottom and come to himself.

    Pastor Jeff:

    20:50-21:00

    And during that season, I would commend to you times of intense, deep praying, seeking the Lord, not saying your prayers, but on your face, crying out to the Lord.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:01-21:05

    Seasons of fasting while you cry out to the Lord.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:06-21:12

    No distractions, just focusing on my walk with Christ and lifting this addict before the Lord.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:12-21:16

    times in his word, "God, what are you teaching me?

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:17-21:26

    And how can I persevere while I'm doing the hardest thing I've ever done in my life?" By letting this addict go, and not chasing him down and dragging him home by his hair.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:27-21:28

    You have to wait.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:29-21:32

    There's another saying we throw around here when we're not singing Tom Petty.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:32-21:40

    We say, "He is God, and I am not." And this is your friendly reminder that you are not God.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:41-21:44

    which means you are unable to control the situation.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:45-21:58

    So calling or sending money or trying to keep some semblance of a relationship afloat while this time period is happening, it's just not going to work and it's not going to help.

    Pastor Jeff:

    21:59-22:05

    The addict is going to come back if and when he comes to himself.

    Pastor Jeff:

    22:06-22:14

    We have a very special guest with us that I'd like you to give a warm Harvest Pittsburgh North welcome to Jimmy Woods.

    Pastor Jeff:

    22:15-22:16

    [APPLAUSE]

    Pastor Jeff:

    22:25-22:33

    Now, Jimmy, I'm-- like you, please, if you don't know, Jimmy's-- he's got the coolest vehicle parked in the parking lot right now.

    Pastor Jeff:

    22:37-22:47

    And founder of Mission Mahi-- And I asked Jimmy, because of the subject matter of this series, if you just take five minutes and share a bit of your story, what brought you to this point.

    Pastor Jeff:

    22:48-22:57

    And I'd also like you in light of the sermon content this morning, I'd like you to answer one question as you close your time.

    Pastor Jeff:

    22:57-23:04

    What would you say to encourage someone that's sitting here that loves an addict, but that addict doesn't want help?

    Pastor Jeff:

    23:05-23:11

    So what would you say to that person sitting here that's like, hey, I got an addict in my life and they're not playing ball.

    Pastor Jeff:

    23:11-23:12

    What would you say to encourage them?

    Pastor Jeff:

    23:13-23:14

    So, encourage us, brother.

    Jimmy Woods:

    23:14-23:16

    Exactly what you just got done saying.

    Jimmy Woods:

    23:17-23:28

    I'm sitting here with Austin and I'm patting him on the back and we're both smiling as you're telling that story because exactly what you told people to do is what our parents did to us.

    Jimmy Woods:

    23:29-23:30

    And here we both sit.

    Jimmy Woods:

    23:30-23:32

    He's been in recovery working with me.

    Jimmy Woods:

    23:32-24:12

    I met his dad at the Light of Life Rescue Mission serving breakfast and I was on two years of house arrest. I had crawled into Memorial Park Church on January 6, 2013 and I begged for help. I had been in jail 15 times that year in the hospital just as many times. I crawled into that church and I slept and I begged for help and I walked out of that church and I got hit by a car crossing the street and almost killed. I woke up in the hospital and I didn't think my prayers had been answered but they had. I got to that point where I and I got it. Not exactly what I needed, or what I wanted, but what I needed.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:13-24:15

    And I had been cut off. My house was for sale.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:16-24:19

    My bar and restaurant had been taken from me.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:19-24:21

    The police were looking for me.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:22-24:24

    And I found a safe place in that church that night.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:25-24:31

    And when I woke up tied down in that hospital, I didn't think that, I was begging to die, to tell you the truth, at that point.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:32-24:34

    And I knew they knew where I was.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:34-24:35

    I knew I was in a lot of trouble.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:36-24:41

    I was at the end of my rope and I got exactly what I needed from the court system.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:41-24:45

    I got put into a rehab facility or prison, those were my two choices.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:47-24:51

    In that rehab facility I had an experience with God that I can't even put into words and justify.

    Jimmy Woods:

    24:52-25:01

    He came to me in that rehab facility through the most intense, loving light and told me in no words that everything was going to be okay in the worst time of my life.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:03-25:05

    From that moment on, everything made sense in that moment.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:06-25:16

    What I had been looking for in drugs and alcohol, the temporary happiness and the temporary what I was receiving from drugs, alcohol, and I throw women in there too because I used them just like a drug.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:17-25:22

    I got through that loving light and it was a thousand times stronger and it was real.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:23-25:25

    Everything changed in that moment and I knew it had changed.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:26-25:28

    Nothing in my life had changed.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:29-25:31

    I was still facing two years on house arrest.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:31-25:38

    I didn't have a job, I didn't know what I was gonna do, but I knew I needed to do something with what I had just received.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:38-25:40

    I knew it was something special.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:40-25:44

    And I was in the bar business and I was enabling people.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:45-25:53

    I was selling drugs to people, I was allowing them to work for me, with me, as long as they shared their drugs with me, as long as they drank with me and they weren't too drunk, it was okay to work for me.

    Jimmy Woods:

    25:54-26:00

    And in that rehab facility, I met a bunch of young people and they were all scared to go back to work and they all seemed to work for a guy like me.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:01-26:03

    And that's where Mission Mahi was born.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:03-26:06

    I knew I needed to open something and give them a safe place to work.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:07-26:15

    And while Mission Mahi, while I was pulling my life back together through all the surgeries I had from the accident, I was volunteering at the Light of Life.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:15-26:25

    I was just doing things to take up my time and I was meeting some wonderful people and I joined Memorial Park Church and they poured a sidewalk outside for me.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:25-26:31

    And I have a memorial sidewalk in my name in front of Memorial Park Church.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:31-26:49

    An old man came up to me after church one day and he said, "I've been trying to get that sidewalk poured "for years." I said, "I'm glad I could help." But what your pastor just told you is, and go figure, the Bible was right.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:50-26:51

    What a surprise.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:52-26:57

    The Bible is all over the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, which I'm a huge part of now.

    Jimmy Woods:

    26:58-27:00

    I was amazed by it.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:00-27:03

    The very first time I opened up the Bible, I was in a wheelchair.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:04-27:05

    I was in a wheelchair for four months.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:05-27:10

    They were gonna amputate my right leg, my right arm and shoulder sewn on with cadaver ligaments and tendons.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:10-27:13

    I had a head injury so bad I couldn't put a sentence together.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:14-27:19

    I was stacking colored blocks in a brain trauma rehab facility, and here I stand.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:20-27:31

    You know, but it's just been an amazing adventure, and I don't wanna take up too much time, but like the prodigal son, Austin and I were giggling because that was us.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:31-27:34

    And it's not funny, I'm sure, to somebody that's experiencing it.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:34-27:36

    Our parents did the right thing.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:36-27:44

    His parents went to six steps to sanity at Grace Church and learned how to deal with him and threw him out.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:44-27:45

    I had to throw him out once or twice.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:47-27:51

    But just like the prodigal son, I love these kids.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:51-27:52

    I have no children of my own.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:52-27:54

    The kids that work for me are like my kids.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:54-27:56

    Some of them call me dad, like this guy.

    Jimmy Woods:

    27:57-28:09

    And I love it, and we're close, and he always knows, and I tell him this, if you decide to go back up, which he has, I'm always gonna be here for you when you're done, and when you're done, you're welcome to come back.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:10-28:11

    And we've had that happen a couple times.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:11-28:18

    Another kid back that worked on the truck, and he's now, Austin's mentoring him in the kitchen at the restaurant, we have a restaurant up in Cranberry as well.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:19-28:26

    But God gave me the food truck, that's about all I had money to purchase at the point of, in my recovery that I was.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:27-28:29

    I started hiring one person at a time on that food truck.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:30-28:30

    And here we are.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:31-28:34

    God gave us a place up in Cranberry now.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:34-28:36

    And it's like our little chapel.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:37-28:40

    And the whole Victory Worship team came in last night.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:41-28:46

    And I bought most of them dinner for the Christmas show that they put on.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:46-28:46

    I went to it.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:46-28:47

    It was amazing.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:48-28:50

    And they come in after church sometimes.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:50-28:51

    They need to eat at the restaurant.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:51-28:54

    So it's been an amazing adventure.

    Jimmy Woods:

    28:55-29:20

    Like I said, every single thing that your pastor said, which obviously came from the Bible, teachings of the Bible, and we don't always wanna follow those, and I know that, and I know what's right, and I try to follow it, and I wear this cross out all the time to remind myself of who I'm trying to be like, and when I do, I feel better about myself, I'm proud of myself, and I try to teach these kids that too, and thank you for having us.

    Jimmy Woods:

    29:20-29:21

    I hope I said something.

    Jimmy Woods:

    29:22-29:24

    Honestly, I felt like a prop, you know?

    Jimmy Woods:

    29:24-29:30

    I'm listening to him, I'm like, yeah, that and that and that and that, it's like, he nailed it.

    Jimmy Woods:

    29:31-29:41

    Nailed it, everything that he said, the advice that you got today, follow that and your product will stumble from crawling back and just like we did, so thank you.

    Pastor Jeff:

    29:42-29:43

    Amen, thank you so much, Jimmy.

    Pastor Jeff:

    29:52-29:53

    Thank you so much, Jimmy.

    Pastor Jeff:

    29:54-29:57

    The church knows how our family has been affected by addiction.

    Pastor Jeff:

    29:57-30:00

    We lost our 27-year-old nephew.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:01-30:14

    And I just appreciate so much your testimony and the way the Lord had a much different outcome for you and the way the Lord's using you to bring that about in the lives of others.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:14-30:15

    So thank you for sharing today, Jimmy.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:16-30:20

    So what do we do when I love an addict but he doesn't want to change?

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:21-30:26

    So we let them go, and we wait, and then you probably saw this last one coming, number three, we pray.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:27-30:28

    We pray.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:30-30:33

    What do you do when you wanna help the addict more than they want help?

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:34-30:36

    You're like, well, all we can do is pray.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:36-30:37

    Don't you say that.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:38-30:39

    You know how much I hate that phrase.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:39-30:41

    All we can do is pray.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:41-30:46

    Like we have some really lame plan C.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:48-30:49

    What do we say?

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:49-30:52

    Instead of all we can do is pray, what do we say instead?

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:53-30:55

    Prayer is the best thing that you can do.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:55-30:57

    The best thing that I can do is pray.

    Pastor Jeff:

    30:59-31:01

    So we're going to close our service here today.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:02-31:03

    And here's what we're going to do.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:04-31:09

    We're going to hand the addict over to the Lord.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:11-31:17

    Because I really believe that there are probably some people sitting here today that have never actually done that.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:18-31:20

    You see, the Lord already has them.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:22-31:28

    What we're going to do is we're going to let go and we're going to trust.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:29-31:32

    So I would like if our elders would come forward, please.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:32-31:44

    While our elders come forward, you know, oftentimes at this church, like during the worships that we get into these prayer groups, and this is a safe place to pray.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:45-31:58

    We say this all the time, that if you would get into prayer groups of like five or seven, and if you're not comfortable doing that, if you'd like to just sit and pray by yourself, hey, this, like Planet Fitness, we are a no-judgment zone.

    Pastor Jeff:

    31:59-32:02

    You can sit and pray by yourself, that is totally fine.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    So I want you, if you would please, to stand up, take a minute, get into prayer groups, or station yourself. Go ahead.

    Pastor Jeff:

    32:13-32:16

    If you want to get into prayer groups, this is a safe place to pray.

    Pastor Jeff:

    32:17-32:23

    And I want you, as you're getting in your groups, I want you to have the name of the addict that you want to pray for.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    The name. We're specific when we pray, right?

    Pastor Jeff:

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    We're specific.

    Pastor Jeff:

    32:28-32:30

    When we come to the Lord, He's called us to be specific.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    So we are praying for these addicts by name.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    So first, what we're going to do, we're going to take a few minutes, and I want you to pray for that addict.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    I want you to pray that God would preserve their lives.

    Pastor Jeff:

    32:44-32:46

    I want you to pray that God would grant them repentance.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    I want you to pray that God will put someone in their path who they will listen to.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    I want you to pray that God will bring them to that point of total destitution so that they might come back and truly repent.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    Take time and pray about that now.

    Speaker 3:

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    So

    Unknown:

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    dear Lord, Lord, You heard our prayers, Lord.

    Unknown:

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    You know each of the names that we pray for Lord God. We just cry out to you Lord God. We just Lord at times we don't even always know what to pray for Lord, but we just lift up these people to you Lord We pray that there would be repentant hearts or God We pray that your Holy Spirit would be poured out upon these people Lord that there would be life change Lord God Life change that only happens from you Lord God and change from the inside out. It wouldn't be from It wouldn't be from self-help, Lord God.

    Unknown:

    33:40-33:45

    It would be by repenting and your Holy Spirit being poured out upon them, Lord.

    Unknown:

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    Help fill the void and the bondage and the chains from alcohol, drugs, whatever the addiction might be, Lord God, and that you would fill that void, Lord God.

    Unknown:

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    And so we just lift these people up to you.

    Unknown:

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    We pray your anointing and your Holy Spirit be poured out upon them, Lord.

    Unknown:

    34:02-34:07

    And we ask, Lord, that you would do what only you and you alone can do, Lord God.

    Unknown:

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    In Jesus' name we pray, amen.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    Staying in your groups, not only do we need to pray for the addict, now you're going to pray for yourself.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    You're going to pray for yourself.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    You're going to pray that God would use you to eventually lead that addict to Christ, or to have that addict recommit themselves to Christ, whatever, but that the Lord would use you to minister to that addict when he comes home.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    You're going to pray that your heart would not be hardened toward the attic while you wait.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    And most of all, right now, you need to pray that you would grow in your trust for the Lord.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    That you would really trust God - I mean, really trust God - while you wait, knowing that He's sovereignly in control of this.

    Pastor Jeff:

    34:56-34:58

    Pray for yourselves right now, please, for a few moments.

    Speaker 4:

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    Father, we come before Thee today.

    Speaker 4:

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    God, we ask that You would fill us with Your wisdom, Lord God.

    Speaker 4:

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    Godly wisdom that could lead and guide us.

    Speaker 4:

    35:11-35:13

    For God, that we would be filled with Your Spirit.

    Speaker 4:

    35:13-35:18

    For God, that we would have willingness to be open to those that are in an attic situation in our families.

    Speaker 4:

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    God, we ask that that wisdom would include being slow to speaking, open to hearing.

    Speaker 4:

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    Lord God, most importantly, loving those.

    Speaker 4:

    35:29-35:38

    For God, it is very difficult in our flesh, Lord, that we desire to have worldly sorrow or compassion to want to do something to enable, but Lord God, it is all Your work.

    Speaker 4:

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    Lord God, may that wisdom include the things that may not feel good, but Lord God, knowing that they are biblical principles, Lord.

    Speaker 4:

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    So please fill everybody here, Lord God, with the wisdom, Lord God, and most importantly, the love that You have for those that have an addiction, Lord God.

    Speaker 4:

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    May Your Holy Spirit fill us in that same sense.

    Speaker 4:

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    That's why we just ask in Jesus' name.

    Speaker 4:

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    Amen.

    Pastor Jeff:

    36:03-36:04

    Stay in your groups. One more thing.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    I promise, one more thing.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    We need to pray for - I want you to pray for this church.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    I want you to pray that this church would be a place where addicts would come to know Jesus Christ.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    Pray that this church would be faithful to minister not only to addicts, but to family members and friends and neighbors of addicts.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    Pray for Harvest Bible Chapel to faithfully represent Jesus Christ in a destructively addictive culture.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    for our church for just a few moments.

    Pastor Jeff:

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    If the worship team would come up, Rich is going to close our prayer team and then we're going to close with our worship song.

    Rich Sprunk:

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    Our most gracious Father, O Lord God Almighty, God most high.

    Rich Sprunk:

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    Is there Balm in Gilead?

    Rich Sprunk:

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    Yes, there is.

    Rich Sprunk:

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    And He is Jesus Christ, our Lord.

    Rich Sprunk:

    36:55-37:05

    And we pray, Father, you would make us ambassadors in an embassy for Jesus Christ, to those who are struggling with addiction, and those who are seeking help.

    Rich Sprunk:

    37:06-37:31

    Father, when they reach the bottom of the pit and in desperation, and they come to their senses and they realize, "In my Father's house, there is everything I need." And I pray that you would make Harvest that place of welcome, of comfort, but most of all the gospel of Jesus Christ that transforms.

    Rich Sprunk:

    37:33-37:38

    There is no one else to whom we can go, for he alone has the words of life.

    Rich Sprunk:

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    There is no other name given among men under heaven by which we may be saved.

    Rich Sprunk:

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    I pray, Father, you would make us a congregation of loving, welcoming, helping people to reach the lost, to reach the dead, to faithfully proclaim your gospel.

    Rich Sprunk:

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    And we ask it in his great and glorious name, in the name of Jesus, amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read any of the passages from this week’s message

  1. What was your big “take-away” from the message?

  2. How do you know when an addict truly repents? What are some signs?

  3. When an addict is unrepentant, what specifically do YOU do while you wait?

  4. How do you know what course of “treatment” is best for an addict (residential, group therapy, living with a believer, etc)?

Breakout
Pray for an addicted loved one, by name, that God would grant them repentance, spare their life, and use you and others to minister the Word to them.

I Love an Addict.

Introduction:

Galatians 6:1 - Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.

How to Truly (and Lovingly) Help an Addict:

  1. Get the Facts .
  2. Biblical Confront .

See Proverbs 24:11  |   Matthew 18:15-17

When Confronting the Addict...

DO NOT:

  1. Allow blame-shifting.
  2. Allow a victim mentality.
  3. Put the blame on yourself.
  4. Get emotional.
  5. Be an enabler.
  6. Look for instant change.

Hebrews 3:13 - But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called "today," that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.

DO:

  1. Cry out to the Lord – for the addict and yourself.
  2. Get coaching - from a pastor and the police.
  3. Agree on the terms for helping - and the consequences for the addict not complying.
  4. Look for genuine repentance.

2 Corinthians 7:10 - For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death.

  1. Follow through with "Treatment".

    What should the "treatment" include?

    1. Biblical counseling.
    2. Church and Small Group involvement. - not just attending – but being involved
    3. Constant accountability.

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  • 00:00-00:05

    We were scheduled to have baptism next week.

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    However, we have decided to temporarily postpone that, and we are going to reschedule that for some time in February.

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    Why? Well, we have three people that are planning on being baptized, and two of them are actually out of continent right now.

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    But the other reason, our elders had met this past Tuesday, and the elders had decided that with everything else going on next week, We're going to have Mission Mahi here after service.

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    So that's where we're buying our lunch.

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    We're going to have lunch together as a church family.

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    And the owner of Mission Mahi is going to be sharing his testimony as part of the service.

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    We're going to have a special prayer element for addicts and families of addicts as part of our service.

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    There's a whole lot of just great things happening next week, and the elders really felt like we didn't want baptism to sort of be squeezed in there on top of everything else.

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    it deserves a place of special prominence in the service and attention and to take the time with that. So we decided with everything else going on next week we will be rescheduling baptisms for February. So we'll give you an update on when we get that date nailed down. So that will not be next week but there are plenty of other things happening next week. All right All right, let's turn to God's Word together in our series, "Done with Addiction." Formerly I was associate pastor of North Street Christian Church in Butler, and being a downtown church, a lot of times the local funeral homes would call us since we were downtown and non-denominational.

    01:41-01:47

    They would get somebody who had passed away but did not have a church home, no church affiliation, anything.

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    So they would call us and ask we would be willing to do the funeral.

    01:53-02:00

    And I'm going to be honest with you, those were difficult to walk in and not know a thing about the person, not even their name.

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    And those were hard.

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    And some were much harder than others.

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    I remember one in particular.

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    There was a young girl, she was in her late 20's, I believe she was 28.

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    She was in an accident and died, left behind a child.

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    And typically when I go into these situations, I want to find out some information about the person so that when I get up to share, like we're here to celebrate the life of this person, and I give some just general information, not pretending I knew them or anything, and that's obnoxious, but just some general things that I would actually say, you know, in talking to the family, even though I had not the pleasure of knowing the person, here's some things that I found out.

    02:39-02:52

    And I remember when this girl had died, I sat down with her dad, and I said, "Hey, I'd like to just give some general information." And then we sort of hand things over to the family for the more personal things.

    02:53-03:05

    I said, "What can you tell me about your daughter?" And this dad just sat at the table with me and wouldn't even really look at me, just kind of looked down and shrugged his shoulders a little bit.

    03:05-03:08

    And I don't really know what to say.

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    And I said, "Well, I'd like to share some general information, sir.

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    There's some things you can tell me about her.

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    "What were some of her hobbies?" He said, "Well, I don't know.

    03:22-03:35

    I don't really know about any hobbies." "Well, you've got to give me something to go with you." I didn't say that. I'm thinking, "You've got to give me something here, right?" So I'm like, "Well, was there something that she...

    03:37-03:59

    like some skill she had or something?" And he's like, "No, she didn't really have any talents." I said, "Was there anything at all that she liked to do?" And finally, I will never forget this, he finally looked up at me, looked me right in the eye, and he said, "She liked to do drugs." And I said, "Oh." I instantly saw what was going on here, right?

    03:59-04:05

    And we talked for a little bit more, so I was able to get, certainly you don't share that at the funeral, right?

    04:05-04:07

    But I sort of saw what was happening.

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    And I didn't know the back story.

    04:10-04:17

    I didn't know what led up to me sitting down with this dad, planning this girl's funeral.

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    But I'll say this, if you have a relationship with an addict, you have a responsibility to try to help her.

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    You have a responsibility to do what you can.

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    You have the responsibility.

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    Revelation 6:1 says, "Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness.

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    Keep watching yourself lest you too be tempted." But look, church, just like last week's message wasn't some magic bullet with all the answers to every contingency about every scenario, it's the same thing with this week's message.

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    I'm not going to presume that one sermon is going to cover the dynamics of dealing with every possible addict of every age or either gender or any substance or duration of addiction or just like last week, really this whole series.

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    I just want to point to Jesus Christ and I want to encourage you and ultimately I want to give you hope.

    05:32-05:33

    All right?

    05:33-05:40

    Here's where we're going today. How to truly and lovingly help an addict.

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    Alright? So you find that person in your life you suspect may be addicted to something.

    05:49-05:59

    What do I do? I just want to give you some principles that, again, not exhaustive, but I guarantee will point you in the right direction. And that's what we need, right?

    06:00-06:20

    So number one get the facts Number one is get the facts Now I can point to just a couple of times in my ministry that a few times That somebody has come to me and said pastor. You know, I need help. I have an addiction. I need help I need counseling. Would you please help me that is a very rare occurrence?

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    Because people usually prefer to cover their addictions at all costs. Why do they cover their addictions?

    06:28-06:42

    I think we get this right they want to avoid conflict They have this fear of living without this substance. They're addicted to Here's the bottom line despite all of that. There's a shameful nature of addiction itself, right?

    06:42-06:55

    You remember Adam in the Garden of Eden what happened right after he sinned he hid from God Sin has a way of doing that sin has a way of making us want to stay out of sight I don't want to face God.

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    I don't want to think about...

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    That's sin.

    06:59-07:03

    That addicted person in your life, listen, they're doing the same thing.

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    They are Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden all over again.

    07:07-07:26

    You know, it's funny how we can miss all of the clues that are all over the place, then when we eventually find out that somebody has an addiction, when we find out, however we find out, we're like, "How in the world did I not see that?" So it was a loved one battling a secret addiction, step one, get to facts. You need to look for clues.

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    Okay? And here's some areas to consider. Areas to consider, think about work. Have their work habits changed? Are they bringing less money home? Like, hey, where's all your money going, man? You've been working, but you have nothing to show for it. It's a clue, okay?

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    for younger people school?

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    Are their attendance slipping?

    07:52-07:53

    Are their grades slipping?

    07:55-07:59

    Oftentimes there's a list of excuses why the grades are slipping.

    07:59-08:00

    That teacher just doesn't like me.

    08:00-08:03

    That teacher's had it in for me from the beginning.

    08:03-08:05

    And those are clues, all right?

    08:05-08:06

    What about relationships?

    08:07-08:12

    If you notice that the person suddenly has a new peer group, like, where's all your old friends?

    08:12-08:14

    I don't hang out with any of my old friends anymore.

    08:14-08:15

    I got all these new friends.

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    Clue? Very secretive, right?

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    That's a big clue. Are they secretive?

    08:22-08:24

    Where's your money going? Where's your time going?

    08:24-08:25

    Who have you been with?

    08:26-08:27

    And everything is very secretive.

    08:28-08:29

    Everything is very ambiguous.

    08:31-08:34

    Work, school, relationships, another area to consider is spiritual.

    08:35-08:37

    Have they seemed especially hardened to the truth lately?

    08:37-08:38

    Caught lying.

    08:39-08:41

    Avoiding worship. Avoiding small group.

    08:41-08:43

    Avoiding fellowship.

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    They're in the Garden of Eden again.

    08:51-08:53

    Physical. There's physical signs.

    08:54-08:58

    Notice a sudden, dramatic loss of weight.

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    Unusually tired. Horrible mood swings. Depressed.

    09:03-09:05

    Now these are clues, not signs, okay?

    09:06-09:08

    These are clues, not signs.

    09:09-09:10

    Here's one for your kids.

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    A big clue is if you're dealing with teenagers, kids/young adults, a big clue, parents, you need to pay close attention to, is if your teenager is using legal drugs but underage.

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    This is going to sound so hokey, so square, so out of touch, but I want you to think about it before you throw anything at me.

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    And people talk about marijuana being the gateway drug.

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    Marijuana is not the gateway drug.

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    The real gateway drugs are nicotine and alcohol.

    09:47-09:48

    I want you to think about that.

    09:49-09:51

    Like how is that a gateway drug?

    09:51-10:06

    Because think about from a teenager's perspective, there's like this century in your mind, this guard that once you are willing to bypass that guard and allow for a teenager, that's an illegal substance.

    10:06-10:10

    And once you're willing to allow that illegal substance into your body, why not the next one, right?

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    What difference does it make for a teenager?

    10:13-10:14

    Illegal is illegal, right?

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    Right? Whether it's a cigarette, whether it's marijuana, whether it's meth, whether it's coke, whatever.

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    It's all illegal.

    10:24-10:27

    So that can be the real gateway. Huge sign.

    10:28-10:32

    So before anything else happens, you better be sure, okay?

    10:32-10:37

    And if you are, number two, you need to biblically confront.

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    Biblically confront.

    10:41-10:42

    Nobody enjoys this part.

    10:42-10:43

    Nobody enjoys this part.

    10:43-10:46

    It's easy to sit back and watch.

    10:46-10:47

    It's easy to get angry.

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    It's easy to watch the person kill themselves.

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    Just wish that something would happen.

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    Boy, I sure hope something happens.

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    And then you think, well, maybe I'll just wait for the addict to hit bottom.

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    Well, here's a newsflash for you.

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    An addict never hits bottom, with one exception, death.

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    Other than that, the addict never hits bottom.

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    Losing all money, losing health, losing job, losing everything is not bottom for an addict.

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    They will still find some way to feed the addiction.

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    I told you last week, Aaron and I met this girl who was prostituting herself for drugs because she had nothing else to give except her body.

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    You can't wait for the addict to hit bottom because bottom is not going to come until they die.

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    Proverbs 24 11 speaks to the seriousness of this.

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    Rescue those who are being taken away to death.

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    Hold back those who are stumbling to the slaughter.

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    Does that not sound like a charge from the Lord and intervening in the life of an addict?

    11:51-11:56

    Love does hard things and love gets messy.

    11:56-11:58

    Okay? It gets messy.

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    And because a life is on the line, you just can't wait.

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    You just can't sit back and say, "Let me see if there's a more opportune time for this." You can't do that.

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    Especially if there's a child in danger.

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    You can't wait.

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    You need to call child protection services.

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    If somebody's being physically abusive, you can't wait.

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    You need to get the law and the church involved.

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    We're on that in a minute.

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    If someone's wrecking finances, especially the household finances, you can't wait.

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    Maybe you need to have a trusted friend that all of the money goes to to manage the bills so that the addict isn't draining the account.

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    So biblically confront.

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    The principles for confronting an addict are the same principles.

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    And dealing with someone who sins against you, we call it church discipline.

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    Some of these principles are actually used in a secular way, called an intervention.

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    But these principles here that we're going to look at are really for believers.

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    We've talked about this before.

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    You can take some principles from this and use for people that don't yet know the Lord, but as we talked about before, they have a much bigger problem than their addiction.

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    They need to know Jesus Christ.

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    And they do not have the power of the Holy Spirit or the authority of God's Word conquering the addiction. They need that before they need anything.

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    Alright? Just so we're clear on that.

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    Before that believer, before that professing believer began saying principles, Matthew 18 says, "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault.

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    Between you and him alone.

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    If he listens to you, you've gained your brother.

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    If he does not listen, take one or two others along with you.

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    That every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses.

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    If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church.

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    And if he refuses to listen, even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.

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    Stop right there.

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    Start alone.

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    Go to the person alone and say, listen, I love you.

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    I'm concerned about you.

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    I'm concerned about your walk with Christ.

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    I'm concerned about your health.

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    I'm concerned about your life.

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    And if the person is lying or denying, The next step is you need to bring along one or two others.

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    If they're still lying and denying, says then you get the church involved.

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    And I don't think that means you drag the person on the platform on a Sunday morning at 10, like hold on there and before worship starts, the church has to deal with this guy.

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    I think it's talking about church leaders, representatives, elders, ministry team leaders, small group leaders.

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    In any case, you need to get people who love the person.

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    you have people who have first-hand witnessed specific events that are a result of the addiction, specific effects from the addiction, and you need to create a context where it's as easy as possible to tell the truth. You see, that's why the last step he says, if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. What does that mean? That means we have nothing to do with them. No, that's not what that means. That means we evangelize them. That means they're acting like somebody who doesn't know Jesus Christ. So you have to get with gospel 101 with those people. You need to biblically confront. Patterns laid out here. I want to give you some do's and do nots of confronting, okay? Because nobody likes this part. And it's really easy to do this in a terrible way. So let's do some do's and do nots. First of all, we're We're gonna do some do nots.

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    When you confront the person, first of all, do not allow blame shifting.

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    Do not allow blame shifting.

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    We've talked about this before.

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    The addict is gonna blame everybody else.

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    It's because of the way my father treated me.

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    It's because of my circumstances at school.

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    It's because of this health issue I have.

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    It's because of, it's because, look, you have to take responsibility here.

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    We're talking about your actions.

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    We're not gonna allow blame shifting, right?

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    It was also Adam's tactic in the Garden of Eden, wasn't it?

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    "The woman that you gave me, she..." Wow, Adam just blamed everybody else he knew.

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    Eve and God.

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    Think about it. At that point in history, Adam knew two people.

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    Eve and God, and he blamed both of them for his sin.

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    Don't allow blame shifting.

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    Secondly, letter B, when confronting an addict, do not allow a victim mentality.

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    Along the same lines, addicts love to think They're victims.

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    It takes responsibility off their shoulders.

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    It says, "It's not my fault.

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    "I have a disease." That becomes emotional manipulation.

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    This is the addict's way of trying to get a free pass to avoid confrontation.

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    "How could you?

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    "I have a disease." We're talking about the choices that you're making, right?

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    Letter C.

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    Okay, so don't allow blame shifting.

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    We're not gonna allow victim mentality.

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    This is a huge one.

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    Those of you who love an addict, do not put the blame on yourself.

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    Do not put the blame on yourself.

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    And I've heard this so many times as a pastor.

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    People say, "Oh, if only I was a better parent, she wouldn't have done that." "If only I was a better friend, he wouldn't have done that." "If only I'd stopped him from going to this place." "If only I made him cut off those relationships." And look, it's not your fault.

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    It is not your fault.

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    and nothing productive comes from trying to play what if.

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    All you can deal with is what now?

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    To say to the addict, do you love?

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    To say, look, it doesn't matter how we got here, here we are, and now we focus on moving forward, now we focus on Jesus Christ, now we focus on getting this addiction behind us.

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    Letter D, do not, these are still do nots, do not get emotional.

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    Again, we don't want the addict to emotionally manipulate you.

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    That's why when you confront, you need to be objective and you need to deal with facts.

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    We're not gonna deal with tears and crying.

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    We're not gonna deal with screaming and shouting to try to manipulate you into, like, "Hey, hey, we're gonna talk to each other like adults.

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    "All right, we're gonna deal with facts.

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    "All right, we're not dealing with feelings here, "we're dealing with facts.

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    "Here's what's going on, here's what you're doing, "here's what it's costing, here's the result." And along with that, don't take anything personally, okay?

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    Don't take it personally, because at this point, the addict is thrashing and grabbing at anything to try to emotionally rope you in to get you distracted from the real issue at hand.

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    Don't bite, all right?

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    I mean, don't bite the bait of getting, you know, somebody's going to think I meant don't bite the addict.

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    Don't do that either, all right?

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    unless they really, really deserve it.

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    I don't know.

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    I should have rehearsed this again, Mike.

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    Sometimes things come out, and it just now hit me how somebody could have heard that.

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    Like, "What did you learn at church today?" "Oh, the pastor said if I know somebody that's an addict, I shouldn't bite them." That's some deep theology there.

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    Alright, don't bite the bait.

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    I'm getting emotional.

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    Okay, don't be an enabler.

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    Here's the next do not.

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    Do not be an enabler.

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    I'll talk about this for a couple minutes.

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    This is another very easy trap to fall into.

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    Do not be an enabler.

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    You cannot please the addict unless you are helping feed the addiction in some way.

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    That is called enabling.

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    What is enabling?

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    Enabling includes things like giving money.

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    That's the most common.

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    "You just bought me 20.

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    Hey, can you lend me 50 bucks so I can get my next paycheck?

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    Hey, can you?

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    Look man, I really need you.

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    Can you give me 100 bucks?" Another way of enabling with money is paying their bills.

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    Like, "I'm really strapped for cash.

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    Can you cover my car payment this month and I'll pay you back?" You know, I'd give rides.

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    Enabling includes giving rides, places.

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    Covering for them.

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    You know, I know they're supposed to be at school or work and they were strung out, high, wasted, whatever, and I'm just going to cover for them.

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    That's enabling.

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    by any means that allows the addict to continue to feed the addiction.

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    Because at this point, until the addict is ready to repent, their relationship with you is contingent on how much you help them.

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    Because if the addict views you as an obstacle to feeding their addiction, they're going to manipulate you.

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    Or they'll avoid you.

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    Or they'll lie to you.

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    Or they'll ignore you if they see you as an obstacle.

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    If they see you as an enabler, if they see you as an enabler and they think that they can get something out of you, they will try to get something out of you.

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    I know of an addict who lied to his mother, told his mother he had cancer, and he needed $500 to make trips to Pittsburgh to see the doctor.

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    When a mother hears that her son has cancer, I mean, moms, what do you think?

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    Like, "Oh my gosh, whatever it takes to get you the treatment!" and he never had to. It was just a way of getting money.

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    Horrible. If enabling is such a I mean obviously such a thing, why do people enable addicts? Why would people do that? Well the truth is some enablers like this type of relationship because they want any type of relationship so bad, any form that I can get the relationship. Like look, you know what, I probably shouldn't be giving him You know, cash when he comes, but otherwise he won't come and I won't see him at all.

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    Other enablers like being in control, they think, you know, maybe I have a foot in the door of controlling the person if they keep coming to me for help.

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    But the bottom line, church, enabling is destructive.

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    It allows and it helps the addict's idolatry, and it makes you, as the enabler, it makes you part of the problem.

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    So you need to be ready. If you are unwilling to give, to enable, you need to be ready for a backlash.

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    They're going to blow up. You know, when you refuse to give them money, they'll blow up.

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    "How dare you? Who do you think you are? You're so judgmental. I thought you of all people would..." It's emotional manipulation.

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    Or, they're not gonna blow up, they'll clam up.

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    They'll withdraw, they'll withhold any type of relationship, any type of affection, they'll act sad.

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    It's manipulation.

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    Do not enable.

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    Then do not, do not, letter F, do not look for instant change, okay?

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    Change is a process, not an event.

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    Change isn't a light switch.

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    Now yes, the choice to change happens in a moment, absolutely, but think about embracing a new mindset and cementing new habits.

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    That takes time. It takes time.

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    Hebrews 3.13 says, "But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called today, that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin." It's a daily battle. You have to focus on the day that you're given, one day at a time.

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    We're just going to focus on today.

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    But what's going to happen with this addict next week or next year?

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    I'm not worried about that.

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    Today, today, just thinking about right now, right?

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    Those are some do nots. Let's talk about some do's.

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    Do, do cry out to the Lord for the addict and for yourself.

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    You need the Holy Spirit's help in confronting the addict.

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    You need everything the Holy Spirit brings.

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    Letter B, do get coaching.

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    And I would say get coaching from a pastor and the police.

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    This is so important, because if you find out somebody's an addict, you're like, "I have no idea what to do." I would say, "You need to talk to two people.

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    You need to talk to a pastor and you need to talk to a policeman." Get spiritual and legal help to discuss the best course of treatment when the addict is ready to repent.

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    Now, when I say talk to a policeman, I don't mean I'm going downtown to file a report.

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    I'm like, do you have a friend that's a cop?

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    Go to them for some advice.

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    You don't know someone?

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    I bet you know someone that knows someone that's a cop.

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    I know a lot of police officers, come and see me.

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    I think it's important to get some advice from somebody in that capacity to say, hey, look, man, this is new territory for me.

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    We got cops in this church, right?

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    Like this is new territory for me and I'm not sure what to do.

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    Can you give me some advice?

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    Because the last thing you want to do is somehow be involved in something illegal.

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    Get yourself in trouble.

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    Pastor and police advice. Get a plan together.

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    Once you talk to the pastor, once you talk to the police to say, "Look, I'm trying to help this guy, but I'm going to be honest with you, I don't know the best way to help this guy. Can we put a plan together?" The pastor and the police will be able to help you with that.

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    Letter C.

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    Now this is with the addict that you're confronting.

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    Let's say they're like, "You know what? Okay, I do need help.

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    I do need you, you're right, I need some help, and I don't know where to go.

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    Letter C, agree on the terms for helping.

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    Agree on the terms for helping, I'm gonna help you and here's how it's gonna be.

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    Not, what do you think's gonna happen?

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    It's, here's how it's going to be.

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    And you need to discuss the consequences for the addict not complying.

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    Like, look, I'm going to help you and here's how we're going to help you.

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    Like, well, I don't wanna do it that way.

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    Well, if you're not gonna play ball, here's how it's gonna be.

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    Here are the consequences if you don't do it this way.

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    There's no wiggle room here.

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    That's why I would encourage you to draw up a written contract.

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    To say, look, I'm going to do everything I can to help you, but you, look Ben, you've gotta play ball here.

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    You've gotta play ball.

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    And here are the terms, and you're gonna sign this.

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    That if you violate this, we're done here.

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    You can't be playing around.

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    Written contract, letter D, look for genuine repentance.

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    Look for genuine repentance.

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    Genuine, why?

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    because everything that's valuable has counterfeit.

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    2 Corinthians 7.10 says, "For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret.

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    Whereas worldly grief produces death." This is a whole other sermon series, but here's the short version.

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    There's two types of sorrow.

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    There's worldly sorrow and there's godly sorrow.

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    Worldly sorrow is, "I'm sorry I got caught." Right?

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    "Oh, I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt by that." I'm not sorry that I committed the sin, I'm just sorry that I have to face consequences from people that I'd rather not face right now.

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    This is an inconvenience to me to continue my addiction.

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    And I'm sorry I got caught.

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    That's worldly sorrow.

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    Very clearly, Paul told the Corinthian church, that leads to death.

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    That doesn't go anywhere good, OK?

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    But godly sorrow leads to repentance.

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    What is godly sorrow?

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    You know what, I'm sorry, I offended God.

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    I offended God's people.

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    I want to honor God by turning from my sin and turning to God, not playing games, getting right with Jesus Christ.

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    That's godly sorrow or godly grief.

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    So as you're working with the addict, you need to know the difference, right?

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    The huge difference between regret, remorse, and repent.

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    Regret - we've talked about this before.

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    This part's just for you.

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    Regret is "I'm sorry" in my head.

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    Like, "I made a mistake and I shouldn't have done that." That's regret.

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    Remorse is emotional.

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    Like, "Oh, I should have done that.

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    I can't feel bad that I did that." That's remorse.

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    You know what repentance is?

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    Repentance is the act.

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    Repentance is, "I'm not doing that anymore!

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    I'm doing something different!" That's repentance.

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    And until you get to that place, there's not real repentance.

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    So if they're ready to repent, praise the Lord.

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    And you're going to see if it's real repentance once you begin to implement the strategy you worked out your pastor and police friends. The words and the actions of the addict are going to reflect a very different heart attitude. Three things you need to look for them willing to be responsible, them being grateful, and them being submissive. All three of those have to be there, responsible, grateful, and submissive. That's the heart of a repentant person. Don't expect them to be perfect, to never sin again. That's not going to happen. You need to look for progress you need to look for their words interactions to line up truly seeking to bear fruit in keeping with repentance as the Bible says in Matthew 3 8 and Luke 3 8 bear fruit in keeping with repentance number three let me handle one more are you like I'm done number three follow through with treatment I put treatment in quotes I didn't know a better word anybody get a better word for this treatment strategy for overcoming Addiction anybody got a better word than treatment shout it out soul care. That's a good one mark What did you say tough love should have called you guys before I get up to do this live?

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    All right, we're gonna go with that. We're gonna go with soul care rich. Well follow through with soul care What should the soul care include?

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    What should it include again? No one plan is going to fit every addict every scenario Whether it's your teenage kid, your 20-something year old niece, your co-worker, your peer, your spouse.

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    There's no one-size-fits-all thing here.

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    That's why I said get your coaching from your pastor, the police, small group leader, elder, mature Christian friend, whatever, whatever, whatever.

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    But, all that said, any plan you choose has to have some key elements. I'm going to give you three quickly.

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    Any plan you choose has to have some key elements, and the first one is biblical counseling.

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    The addict needs to meet with a pastor or a biblical counselor regularly to work on the put-on stuff that we talked about.

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    And I would also encourage a local church AA alternative.

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    Many large churches, even in this area, offer some sort of a biblical AA.

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    Our church at this point in our life, we do not offer that, but there are many wonderful churches in this area that do, and the addict needs to be a part of that.

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    If you're like, "Well, what if the addiction is so bad they need to go residential, like go stay someplace for a while?" There are a lot of wonderful Christian Bible-based programs, Teen Challenge, Freedom Farms, His Steps Ministries.

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    There are a lot of great Christian Bible-based residential programs, biblical counseling.

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    Secondly, church and small group involvement.

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    I would say not just attending, being involved in church and in small group, rubbing shoulders with the people that are going to love them and encourage them.

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    And then thirdly, last thing, any course of treatment, soul care, tough love, whatever you call it, it should include constant accountability.

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    Constant accountability.

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    That's why there's one plan that's laid out in a book called Divine Intervention.

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    and if you're interested, I can give you a copy.

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    But the plan is to have the addict live with you for a season.

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    The addict lives with you for three to six months to get all of this constant accountability and care.

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    And you're like, well, that sounds awfully inconvenient.

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    Well, it is.

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    But it models selflessness and it's an extremely effective plan.

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    'Cause you can have daily Bible study, daily prayer.

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    You can daily be discussing what the Lord is teaching, what the Lord is doing.

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    But in any case, for the addict, Everything has to be done in the open.

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    No more secrets.

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    No more money disappearing.

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    No more "you were gone for a couple of days and I had no idea where you were." We are done. We are done with that.

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    If we're going to do it, we're going to do it right.

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    You sit back and look at all this, and you're like, "Man, that seems like a mountain." It is.

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    Enslaving, idolatry that could at any moment that result in a person's death, praying that you don't get that phone call every day, praying you don't get that call.

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    We found this person.

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    It seems like a mountain, and it is.

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    But as Christians, as followers of Christ, we don't rely on self-help.

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    We don't rely on willpower.

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    We don't rely on trying to conjure up some sort of a strength from within.

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    rely on the Holy Spirit.

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    And to truly help an addict, not only does he need the Lord's power and his church, but so do you.

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    Is there anything that she liked?

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    She liked to do drugs.

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    I think about that dad a lot.

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    And I don't know what efforts were made.

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    But I'm sure that not a day goes by that dad didn't wish he did more to try to stop her.

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    I think about that with our own nephew.

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    Constantly, is there something we could have said?

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    Is there something we could have done?

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    This applies to every single person who's ever lost a loved one to an addiction.

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    And while we can't take the responsibility for someone else's struggles, we are responsible for being Christ's ambassador to the addict.

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    "Oh, that's all well and good, Pastor Jim.

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    "Everything you're saying is well and good, "but what if they just don't want help?" next week and I'll tell you.

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    And also next week together as a church we're going to do the absolute best thing that we can do for that addict who isn't ready to get help.

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    All right?

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    Let's pray.

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    Father in heaven, you've given us so many principles in your word and I feel like I barely scratched the surface.

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    I pray today, Father, that we have enough here to at least give us some hope and encouragement, to point us in the right direction, to help us realize, Father, that while addiction is powerful, your Holy Spirit is even more powerful.

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    Your Word is even more powerful.

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    Choices can be made to move from being a slave to a substance to being a slave to righteousness.

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    Father, I pray for everyone here and everyone who's going to be listening to this online.

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    You would give us incredible wisdom in ministering to the addict in our lives.

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    You would give us incredible patience and compassion.

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    Father, you would put the right people on our paths that are going to encourage us in the ways that we need it.

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    But most of all, Father, we thank you for the presence of your Holy Spirit and ask that you would teach us, even while we're encouraging the addict to rely on the power of the Spirit, Father, teach us in a special way what it means to walk in the power of Your Spirit.

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    We pray in Jesus' name, Amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read any of the passages from this week’s message

  1. What was your big “take-away” from the message?

  2. Specifically, what are some clues that someone has an addiction?

  3. How do you know if an addict truly wants to repent? Read 2 Corinthians 7:10. What’s the difference between “godly grief / sorrow” and “worldly grief / sorrow”?

  4. What are some ways that people (unwittingly) enable addicts? Why is that such an easy trap to fall into?

  5. How do you know what course of “treatment” is best for an addict (residential, group therapy, living with a believer, etc)?

Breakout
Pray for one another to be able to recognize, and truly help, an addict that may be in your lives.