Unified and Purified

Should Pastors Be Paid?

Introduction:

5 Reasons Pastors Should Be Paid: (1 Corinthians 9:1-14)

  1. It's COMMON Sense. (1 Cor 9:7)

  2. It's a CONCERN in the Law. (1 Cor 9:8-11)

    1 Timothy 5:17-18 - Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching. For the Scripture says, “You shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain,” and, “The laborer deserves his wages.”

  3. It's CLAIMED By Others. (1 Cor 9:12)

  4. It's a CUSTOM from the Old Testament. (1 Cor 9:13)

  5. It's COMMANDED By Jesus. (1 Cor 9:14)

    Luke 10:7for the laborer deserves his wages.

    Matthew 10:10 - the laborer deserves his food.

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    Open up those Bibles to 1 Corinthians 9.

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    The title of today's message is, "Should Pastors Be Paid?" Yeah.

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    I'd like to invite the worship team to come back up as we close.

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    If you want to worship through giving, the offering.

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    You're like, "You better earn that pay." Fair, fair.

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    You know, I was associate pastor for 11 years.

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    And one of the things that I did was run the Wednesday night program.

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    It was pioneer clubs like Awana's.

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    But I'll never forget one girl who was lifelong member of the church from forever.

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    She the one little girl came up.

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    She goes, "Pastor Jeff, where do you work?" And I'm not gonna say her name 'cause she's an adult now and might be watching this, but I said, "Well, you know where I work.

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    "I'm one of the pastors here at the church." She just rolled her eyes.

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    She goes, "I know that, but I mean, where do you work?

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    "Like, what's your job?

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    "Like, what do you do to get paid?" I'm like, "You know, just when you start "to feel pretty good about yourself." Along comes some kid to bring you right back down to earth, right?

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    Where do you work?

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    Many people hold that opinion, right?

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    I mean, being a pastor isn't really work.

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    You know, my favorite, you only work for one hour a week.

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    And you know what?

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    I've heard that so many times.

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    I'm quick to correct people on that.

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    I'm like, "No.

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    I don't work the whole hour.

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    My part's only like 35 minutes.

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    I work 35 minutes a week." So should pastors be paid?

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    When you bring it up, people get weird.

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    People get weird.

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    Everybody's evaluating the pastor's car.

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    Everybody's evaluating the pastor's house.

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    Everybody's evaluating the pastor's clothes.

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    How much is he making?

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    You know nobody does that for other professions, right?

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    Like for example, if somebody here is a nurse and you pull up to church driving a Boxter, what are people gonna say?

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    "Good for her, good for her.

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    Wow, I am so happy for her.

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    If I drove up driving a Porsche, what are people gonna say?

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    How much is he making?

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    I've heard a lot of things over the years, statements people have made, their little evaluations on how pastors should be paid.

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    I just want to share a couple with you.

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    Just this is, these amuse me.

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    But one person told me this regarding how a pastor should be paid.

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    He said, "A pastor shouldn't make more "than the lowest paid congregant." So we should find out who in the church makes the least and that should determine the pastor's salary.

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    Because after all, the pastor shouldn't make more than anybody else in the church.

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    I had one guy tell me this.

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    He goes, "I have a real problem "with preachers getting paid by the church." And I said, "What's the issue with that?" He goes, "Think about it this way.

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    "You teach tithing, right?

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    "10%." I'm like, "I'm following you." He goes, "Okay, so if 10 people give 10%, "now automatically the pastor's making "more than everybody in the church." And I'm like, you're gonna have to back up here 'cause you lost me somewhere on that math.

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    I mean, does that math work out?

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    Should pastors be paid?

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    Awkward.

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    Right, it's an awkward subject.

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    Can we just get that under, it's an awkward subject to stand up and preach about.

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    You're like, well then why are you?

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    Because we're going through the book of 1 Corinthians and guess what the subject is of this next section that we are going in?

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    "Should pastors be paid?" Yeah, it's going to be awkward to talk about, but you don't be more awkward than that, skipping it.

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    Right?

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    Because didn't God put it in His Word for a reason?

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    And we don't skip anything here.

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    So we're going after it.

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    We're just going to go after it.

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    Should pastors be paid?

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    The Bible is clear, yes.

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    But some ministers, you know, they live lavishly, and they demand that the church pay for the their extravagant lifestyle, and that is wrong.

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    But we can't just disregard what the Bible says just because some people have abused the privilege.

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    This section here, we're in 1 Corinthians, it's about liberty.

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    You're like, "Well, what is liberty?" It's this, you know, to be saved means that you have to turn from your sin and receive Jesus Christ.

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    And when you receive Him, you believe that Jesus died for your sin, when you believe that Jesus resurrected from the dead, when you believe that, the Bible says you are adopted as a child of God.

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    And nothing can change that.

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    Nothing can separate you from the love of God in Jesus Christ.

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    Nothing.

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    When you are saved, you are saved as a gift of God's grace.

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    Nothing can change that.

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    So understand your salvation is not performance-based.

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    So that means there's nothing you can do.

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    If you're saved, there's nothing you can do that would disqualify you from being a child of God.

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    It's not performance-based.

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    So the extreme view of that is, well, if it's not performance-based, I'm free to do whatever I want.

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    And that's what we're looking at in this section.

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    Am I free to do whatever I want?

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    Their particular issue, we talked about this last week, was they were, some of the more mature Christians were eating meat that was sacrificed to idols, and they were like, "A burger's a burger." But it bothered some of the weaker Christians who came out of the pagan background and said, You don't want to touch meat that was used in pagan worship.

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    And Paul says, "Love says, 'I will give up my rights if it keeps a brother from stumbling.'" I'll give up my rights.

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    So understand here in this section that we're looking at today, Paul is saying, "Corinthians, I'm not asking you to do anything that I'm not willing to do.

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    Paul is saying here in this section we're looking at, I am laying down a freedom that I have.

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    I have the freedom to get paid by the church.

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    And Paul says, I laid that freedom down.

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    We're going to talk more about that part of it next week, but why would Paul lay that freedom down?

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    He knew it would bring offense.

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    You see, he knew that there were going to be some people that thought, "Oh, look at this guy.

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    There's this new religion and he's using it to cash in.

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    He's using it just to make money.

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    He's trying to rip you off." So Paul got a job making tents.

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    So he's like, "I'm not going to be a financial burden to anybody because I don't want anybody to think that I have an ulterior motive in preaching the gospel." So chapter 9, the section we're looking at today illustrates this whole giving up my liberty issue. I have the freedom to not use my freedom.

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    All right, let's bow. I'm going to ask you to pray for me to be faithful to communicate God's Word, and I will pray for you to have a heart open to receive it, and then we'll go right after it. Let's just take a moment and pray.

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    by your name and your word, Father.

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    We ask you in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior forever.

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    And all of God's people said, amen.

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    All right, so the Corinthians are like, hey, we are free in Christ to do what we want.

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    Look at chapter nine, verse one.

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    Paul says, am I not free?

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    Am I not an apostle?

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    Paul's like, "I'm free.

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    "I'm free to, you know about your freedom?

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    "I'm free too." And Paul says, "By the way, I'm not just a pew sitter." Okay, he's like, "I'm an apostle." And as always, when the issue comes up, you're going to have a group of people that were like, "Are you, Paul?

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    "Are you really an apostle?

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    "Are you really?" Oh, look at what he says.

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    "Have I not seen Jesus our Lord?

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    "Are not you my workmanship in the Lord?" Paul was always defending himself.

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    And right here he goes, "Yeah, I am an apostle.

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    "I'll give you two proofs.

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    "One is the big one.

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    "To be an apostle, you had to have seen "the resurrected Jesus Christ." And Paul's like, "I've seen him." Like, did Paul see Jesus?

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    Yeah, at least three times.

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    Oh, by the way, one of those times was actually in Corinth.

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    What's that, Acts chapter 18?

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    Paul says, "I have another proof." He goes, "You want another proof of my apostleship?" He goes, "You, you are my proof." What do you mean by that?

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    Look at verses two and three.

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    He says, "If to others I am not an apostle, "at least I am to you, "for you are the seal of my apostleship in the Lord.

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    "This is my defense to those who would examine me." Paul says, "Some might not believe that I'm apostle, but you cannot deny the way that the Lord has worked through me to you." He says, "You're my seal." See, in those days, if somebody wanted to authenticate a letter, they would put a wax seal with the signet ring.

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    That was to say, "This is genuine.

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    This is real." Paul goes, "You want to know that I'm real?

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    Do you want to know that I'm authentic?" He goes, "You're my proof, because God has ministered the gospel through me to you." These are the evidences that I'm an apostle.

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    So, verse 4, do we not have the right to eat and drink?

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    That's obviously sarcasm.

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    I was like, "Yeah, I'm an apostle and God has used me, so I'm not allowed to eat?" Is that what you're saying?

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    I've been faithful to your souls, I've been faithful to the Lord, but I don't get to eat?

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    He's saying, "I don't get to… are you saying that I don't get to earn a living from the work that I do in the Lord?" Look at verse 5.

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    He says, "Do we not have the right to take along a believing wife, as do the other apostles and the brothers of the Lord and Cephas?

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    Or is it only Barnabas and I who have no right to refrain from working for a living?

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    Paul's like, "Other ministers are supported." So much so that other ministers actually take their wives along with them.

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    So you support them.

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    What about me?

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    Do I have the right to be supported by the church?

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    See what Paul's doing here.

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    in this little introduction, he's setting this all up.

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    He goes, "This freedom that I am laying down, is it actually a freedom that I have?" As we look at verses 7-14, Paul here is establishing that this is a right.

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    This is legitimate.

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    Ministers have the right to be supported by the church.

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    He's proving that in this section.

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    And in Paul's day, as in ours, there are people that are going to doubt the premise.

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    Like, really, should ministers be paid?

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    Really?

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    Not sure about that.

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    Should they, is it really work?

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    35 minutes, rather, 35 minutes a week, is that really work?

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    Should we be paying you for that?

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    Well, Paul gives five reasons why you should pay the pastor.

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    All right?

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    "Jot these down.

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    By the way, you're paying me overtime this week 'cause I spent some extra time making sure these were alliterated.

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    I don't always do that, but when I do, I charge extra.

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    And I charge by the word, that's why the sermons are so long." So five reasons a pastor should be paid.

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    Number one, I love this.

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    He just knocks this one right out.

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    It's common sense.

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    It's common sense.

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    Look at verse 7.

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    Paul says, "Who serves as a soldier at his own expense?

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    Who plants a vineyard without eating any of its fruit?

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    Or who tends a flock without getting some of the milk?" Obvious point, right?

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    A man earns his living by his work.

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    And he gives three examples.

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    A soldier, a farmer, and a shepherd.

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    Imagine as Paul calls us to here, imagine doing those jobs at your own expense.

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    Imagine that.

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    That's ludicrous, right?

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    Like what do you do?

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    I work at Target.

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    Why do you work at Target?

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    "Well, just trying to pay the bills so in my free time I can be in the army." Like what?

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    Paul's like, "Who does that?

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    That's called a hobby if you're doing it without being compensated.

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    Their families are fed from the work that they do." So it should be true for pastors.

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    It's common sense.

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    should earn from the work that they do.

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    And I have to add, church, that this is also extremely practical when you think about it.

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    The church benefits from a focused pastor.

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    You're going to get your best work from the pastor if he's not distracted.

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    I mean, think about it.

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    If the pastor has to provide for his family by working another job, how much gas is left tank to be a pastor. And you're like, "Eh, doesn't look that hard." Well, I want you to think about your job, whatever you do. You're nine to five, whether you work in a bank, work in HVAC, community, you know, some kind of like social service function, think Think of what you do.

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    When your shift ends, do you feel like you would be able to effectively pastor a church on top of that?

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    Again, I don't care if you're with the police, a computer programmer.

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    Imagine working all day doing that, and then you get home and now you've got to write a sermon.

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    Oh, and you have two counseling appointments.

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    And make sure you squeeze time in.

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    you've got to follow up with these new people at church, oh, and then you have a ministry team meeting on top of that.

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    Are you really going to do all of that on top of your nine to five?

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    It's common sense.

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    You see, if a pastor has to work another job, it's easy for him to phone it in when it comes to the church work, right?

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    Well, I've got to work at Target so that I can pay my bills.

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    the church stuff is just going to have to wait.

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    I sure hope they're not expecting a decent sermon this week.

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    It's just common sense.

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    People should get wages.

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    People should benefit from their workplace.

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    That's where he starts.

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    It's common sense.

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    Number two, five reasons pastors should be paid.

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    Five reasons Paul says this is a right for pastors to be paid.

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    Number two is it's a concern in the law.

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    It's a concern in the law.

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    Like, what do you mean?

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    Well, look at verse eight.

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    Paul says, "Do I say these things on human authority?" Like, you think I'm making this up?

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    He says, "Does not the law say the same?

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    "For it is written in the law of Moses, "you shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain." That's Deuteronomy 25 verse 4.

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    Like, what do you mean an ox treading out the grain?

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    It was actually an Egyptian trick that Israel adopted.

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    They would tie a big round flat stone to an ox, and they would have the ox drag the stone over the wheat to crush it to remove the husk.

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    Okay, so you have this ox helping you prepare food, doing this hard work of dragging a stone.

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    Now how cruel would it be to put a muzzle on the ox while he's doing that?

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    Like you have to drag the stone, but you're not allowed to eat.

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    Oh, you're going to stand on top of food all day, but you're not allowed to take a bite.

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    That's inhumane.

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    That's the point.

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    Look at verse 9, second part.

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    He says, "Is it for oxen that God is concerned?" Does He not speak entirely for our sake?

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    It was written for our sake, because the plowman should plow in hope, and the thresher thresh in hope of sharing in the crop." See Paul's point, you know, the whole don't muzzle an ox while it's treading out the grain.

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    Paul's like, "You think God's concerned about the ox?" Look, I don't think God has anything against ox, oxen, oxes, oxen, oxen.

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    Thank you, Randy.

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    Oxen.

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    I don't think God's against oxen.

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    He created them.

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    I think God loves oxen.

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    Paul's like, "Do you think he wrote that in the law for the oxen who are going to be reading the law?" Like, "Hey, wait a second.

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    You're not supposed to muzzle me while I'm working." I think he didn't write that for the oxen.

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    But don't do it now.

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    You can do it later.

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    You get some time, turn back to that reference in Deuteronomy.

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    And you're going to see that section of Deuteronomy has nothing to do with animals.

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    Nothing to do with how to treat the livestock.

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    It has nothing to do with that.

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    It has everything to do with people.

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    And how you treat people.

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    You see, it's a figure of speech.

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    We use animals in figures of speech all the time, don't we?

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    Don't look a gift horse in the mouth, two birds with one stone, all of that.

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    It was a figure of speech.

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    And Paul reminds us here, look, when God wrote that through Moses, He wasn't really concerned about the oxen, He was concerned about man.

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    And the point of that expression is the worker deserves to benefit from his work, obviously, right?

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    Luke 11, he says, "If we have sown spiritual things among you, is it too much if we reap material things from you?" Sown spiritual things.

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    That's all I'm trying to do for this church.

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    There are many people in this church that I have led to Christ.

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    There's many people in this church that I've not only taught the Bible, but I've taught how to teach the Bible.

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    There are people in this church that I have counseled out of disaster, comforted you and your family at funerals.

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    I married a lot of people here.

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    I've come along leaders to try to encourage them in their particular ministries.

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    None of this is meant to be boastful or "Hey, look at me." I'm just saying objectively, this is what I'm striving to do among you.

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    So is it out of line to support me in doing those things?

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    Am I asking too much?

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    Or do you see no value in anything that I do?

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    Now look, I am so thankful.

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    This church has always supported me and my family.

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    And I am so thankful to God for you and your support.

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    It would absolutely grieve me though if you thought that I wasn't worth it.

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    Like, yeah, we'll support him, but I mean, does he really bring something to the table?

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    Some churches, well, they do justify no pay or meager pay for the pastors.

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    Some churches justify that.

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    You can't pay the pastor very much.

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    Why?

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    Gotta keep 'em humble, right Pastor Taylor?

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    Gotta keep 'em humble.

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    Pastor Taylor gets paid two Kit Kats a week, that's all he gets from the church.

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    Because we're gonna keep 'em humble.

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    We don't want 'em to get swollen head.

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    So we gotta keep 'em humble.

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    Listen, that is an unbiblical mindset, completely backwards to what the Bible says about the way you treat your pastor.

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    Right?

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    1 Timothy 5, look what Paul told Timothy.

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    He says, "Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching." You know what he means by double honor?

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    He doesn't mean like, thank you, thank you.

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    Great job, great job.

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    That's not what he means at all.

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    You look at the context, he's talking about pay.

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    He's saying you should double my pay.

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    You get the point there, right?

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    Not keep them humble.

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    He's like, those who preach the word of God deserve double honor.

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    He says, for the scripture says, you shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain.

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    and the laborer deserves his wages.

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    And right now some Bible scholar is like, oh, okay, don't muzzle the ox.

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    Okay, Pastor Jeff, that's Old Testament.

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    We don't live under the Old Testament.

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    Well, we abide under the principles of the law, especially when they're repeated in the New Testament.

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    All right?

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    The five reasons pastors should be paid.

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    Paul says it's common sense.

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    It's a concern in the law.

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    Number three, write this down, it's claimed by others.

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    It's claimed by others.

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    Verse 12, he says, "If others share this rightful claim on you, do not we even more?" Paul's like, "Oh, by the way, it's not weird or unusual.

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    In fact, there's precedent for it.

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    Right?

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    Many of you do support others.

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    And you should, but there's many people here that you're like, I support certain missionaries or I support world vision, or I support Samaritan's Purse.

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    I support all these people.

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    And Paul here is just simply saying, hey, what about the shepherd who has devoted his life to caring for you?

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    What about that guy?

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    Should he be paid?

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    Should he be supported?

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    And my whole life revolves around caring for you, praying for you, discipling you.

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    And some people are like, "Well, you know, I listen to such and such preacher on the Facebooks or the YouTubes or whatever.

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    I listen to Jack Hibbs, so my tithe goes to Jack Hibbs." Okay.

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    But when you need counseling, do you think Jack Hibbs is going to come and counsel you?

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    You know, if you have a tragedy, do you think Jack Hibbs is going to be at your house to pray for you, pray with you?

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    Does Jack Hibbs even know who you are?

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    That's Paul's point here.

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    Paul's like, "Others share the rightful claim.

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    "You support others." Paul's like, "How can you not support the one who loves you?" He goes on in verse 12, he goes, "Nevertheless, we have not made use of this right, "but we endure anything rather than put an obstacle "in the way of the gospel of Christ." That's the whole point of broaching the subject.

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    We have the freedom to get paid, but Paul says, "I laid that freedom down." Just as I'm telling you to do about eating the meat sacrifice to the idols, it's okay.

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    It's okay to lay your freedom down sometimes.

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    We're going to get into that more next week.

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    This week though, he's giving us five reasons a preacher should be paid.

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    And here's number four, it's a custom from the Old Testament.

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    It's common sense, it's a concern in the law, it's claimed by others, and it's a custom from the Old Testament.

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    Look at verse 13.

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    He says, "Do you not know that those who are employed in the temple service get their food from the temple, and those who serve at the altar share in the sacrificial offerings.

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    Do a little study sometime, Old Testament law.

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    In the Old Testament, priests were supported for their work by their work.

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    All of the sacrifices that were given under Old Testament law realized the priest received a portion of what was offered in some way, shape, or form.

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    That's what Paul's talking about here.

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    And I was studying this this week, and I'm like, why did he sort of, he kind of said that in verse seven, right?

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    The same thing.

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    So why did he bring this up again?

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    And then it hit me.

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    Verse seven, he gave secular examples.

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    You know, the soldier, the farmer, the shepherd.

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    He gave secular examples.

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    And there are some in the church that would say, "Okay, Paul, you're using secular reasoning and you're trying to apply it to the spiritual realm." And I think what Paul's doing here is saying, "Look, yes, this principle, you should be supported for the work that you do, by your work." It's true in the secular world and it's true in the sacred world too.

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    So Paul's like, "Don't act like this is a new thing.

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    supporting the spiritual leaders, because it's a custom that goes way back to the Old Testament.

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    Number five, five reasons pastors should be paid.

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    It's common sense, it's a concern in the law, it's claimed by others, it's a custom from the Old Testament.

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    Last and probably most important, I would say, I think that's why it's last, it's commanded by Jesus.

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    It's commanded by Jesus.

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    Look at verse 14, "In the same way, the Lord commanded that those who proclaim the gospel should get their living by the gospel." Wait a minute, when did Jesus say that?

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    Well, He said that a couple of times.

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    In Luke chapter 10, Jesus was sending out the 72 and He was talking about, you can look this up later, the people that believe you should be the ones that feed you.

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    So Jesus in sending them out said, "For the laborer deserves his wages." What's the context of that?

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    And again in Matthew 10, verse 10, Jesus was sending out the twelve, and He says, "The people that believe you should be the people who support you." And that's why He said, "The laborer deserves his food." In both cases, Jesus was saying those who preach the gospel must be supported by those who believe the gospel.

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    In other words, believers, we could say church members, should financially support their leaders.

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    If you're a guest here today, I want you to understand you're under no obligation to give.

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    Don't feel guilty or like, "Well, I probably should." If you're a guest, be our guest.

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    There's zero obligation.

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    is something that we are to share as a church family.

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    All right?

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    But nevertheless, the Lord commanded it.

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    Those who proclaim the gospel should get their living by the gospel.

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    So Paul, in this whole section, is saying as a minister of the gospel, I have every right to expect you to support me, but I laid that right down.

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    I thought it might be an obstacle to the work, so because I love you, I didn't take financial support from you." Paul's like, "I'm trying to show you something, that when you love, you're willing to lay down your rights.

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    When you love, you're willing to lay down your freedoms." Paul is just simply saying, as we'll see next week, "Follow my example." Right now you're like, "Okay, pay the pastor, fine." Well my hope is not that you reluctantly get on board with giving, but I want you to see the bigger picture of why you give.

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    Yes, giving primarily is an act of worship.

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    We've had a whole sermon series about that.

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    Giving is an act of worship.

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    But also I want you to think about the tangible effects of giving.

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    When you give, my family is supported.

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    And that frees me from trying to do ministry on top of a nine to five job.

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    It lets me stay focused on caring for you.

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    Understand that when you give, look at the big picture, you're freeing me up so that I can care for everybody in this church to the best of my ability.

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    Everyone benefits.

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    When you give, other staff are paid.

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    That allows us to worship in excellent music.

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    It helps us disciple your children and young adults to minister on a personal level through the oversight of our entire small group ministry and so many more things that are able to happen that couldn't happen if you weren't financially supporting the leadership of the church.

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    Oh, oh, oh, and when you give, understand that you're supporting a whole network of ministers in Thailand.

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    Do you know in northern Thailand and beyond, we have 23 churches, we have four children's homes, we have a Bible institute, and do you know how many people stateside support them?

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    Just this church.

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    You, when you give, you are allowing the work of evangelism happen all over that area of the world through our network of churches.

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    Disciples are made all over Northern Thailand and beyond.

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    When you give, that is your way of actively partnering with me in advancing the kingdom of Jesus Christ.

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    I'd like you to bow your heads as the worship team makes their way up.

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    Father in heaven, it felt awkward to have to give a message like this, but God, it's your word.

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    We don't skip anything.

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    We just want to go after what you said.

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    Father, I thank you for the way that this church has always sought to support me and my family.

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    Financially sure, but so many other ways this church has sought to bless and protect my family.

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    God, I thank you so much for these people.

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    This is from you, God, and I thank you for that.

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    I just pray, Father, that looking at a passage like this, you would give us sort of a bigger picture of the way your economy works and why you have called us to certain things that you've called us to.

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    God, we believe that all things are yours, and we believe, God, that you have called us to be faithful stewards with everything that you give us.

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    We thank you for the privilege and all the ways that you've called us to partner with you in the work of the ministry.

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    Thank You, Father, for the spirit of generosity that You have stirred among Your people here.

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    And as King David prayed in preparation for the temple, might that spirit always be found in Your people.

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    We pray in Jesus' name, amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 9:1-14

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Explain why Paul broaches the subject of paying the pastor in the first place. What does that have to do with their question about Christian liberty?

  3. What are some practical benefits that come when a pastor doesn't have to work outside the church?

  4. How would you respond to someone who says, “Pastors should have a job like everyone else! It's not fair that the pastor has money when some people in the congregation are struggling financially.”

Breakout

Pray for one another.

Am I Free to Do Whatever I Want?

Introduction:

Three Valid Reasons for Liberty (that Don't Work When You Have a Weaker Brother). (1 Corinthians 8:1-13)

  1. I Have KNOWLEDGE. (1 Cor 8:1-3)

    Philippians 1:9And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment

  2. I Have WISDOM. (1 Cor 8:4-7)

  3. I Have GOOD THEOLOGY. (1 Cor 8:8-13)

    Matthew 18:6 - whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.

    Matthew 25:40 - Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.

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  • 00:36-00:39

    Open up those Bibles to 1 Corinthians 8.

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    Oh, that sweet, sweet, quiet lull of early service on Daylight Saving Sunday.

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    So tranquil.

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    Let's kick that up, shall we?

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    Let's have a fight.

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    Amen, somebody came ready to rumble.

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    Not like a fist fight.

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    Let's just have a good old fashioned argument.

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    All right, that'll get the blood boiling.

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    All in favor of having an argument?

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    Some of you.

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    (congregation laughing)

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    Little too eager.

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    All right, here we go.

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    Is a hot dog a sandwich?

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    Oh, did you hear that Pastor Taylor?

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    Apparently we struck a nerve.

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    Show of hands, how many people say that a hot dog is a sandwich?

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    Okay.

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    Some of you, okay, how many people insist that it's not?

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    Whoa.

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    Whoa, you might wanna pump the brakes on that.

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    I mean, what, it's like meat and condiments in bread, right?

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    Isn't that the very definition of a sandwich?

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    And you're like, well, but it's shaped different.

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    Well, I'm shaped different.

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    Does that mean I'm not a human?

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    Like, come on, what's that?

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    Some of you are a little too emotional about that.

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    It's silly though, right?

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    We're not really going to fight about that.

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    But when we get to this next section in 1 Corinthians, believe it or not, and you will, it was a food controversy.

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    That's what's going on.

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    They had a food controversy, but it wasn't about hot dogs.

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    It was about something that was much bigger problem for the church.

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    All right, let's just stop for a minute.

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    This is a challenging text, but we are going to get through it together.

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    I'm gonna ask you to pray for me, and I will pray for you.

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    Let's see what the Lord has to teach us today in His Word.

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    All right, let's just take a moment and pray.

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    Father, fire us up to receive your Word.

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    We don't wanna go into a lull because we lost an hour of sleep or whatever.

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    God, this is your Word, and we should be excited to see what it is that you have told us in your Word.

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    and we should be looking to see how we can reflect the truth of your word in our lives.

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    So God, give us the faith to really believe what you said to the point that it takes root, to the point that it's manifest in our hearts, in our minds, in our attitudes, and ultimately in our conduct.

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    We pray all of this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, and all of God's people said, Amen, amen.

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    In this section in 1 Corinthians, it's kind of like a big Q&A session, right?

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    And look at chapter eight, verse one.

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    Do you see the first two words in your Bible?

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    He says, in this chapter, he says, "Now concerning." We talked about that, right?

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    It seems to be like, okay, next subject, right?

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    That's his clue that we're moving on to a new subject.

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    And the next topic that again is going to span next three chapters is Christian liberty. Just in case we didn't offend anybody with the last part of it, let's talk about liberty, shall we? Am I free to do whatever I want? I'm free in Christ! I can do whatever I want to do, right? Right?

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    Right?

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    Right?

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    Oh, legalism versus liberty.

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    It's the issue literally as old as the church herself.

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    Legalism.

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    That's one side.

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    Legalism.

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    The people that are legalists say to be accepted by God, here's some things you can't do.

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    Here's your list of things that you cannot do.

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    And if you keep the list, you're accepted by God.

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    That's the legalist likes the rules.

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    But on the other hand, you have the liberty people.

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    The liberty people say, "Hey, I'm saved by grace.

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    My performance doesn't matter.

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    Nothing can change the fact that I'm saved by grace and I can do whatever I want to do.

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    Nothing will separate me from the love of Christ.

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    I am free to do whatever I want to do." Well their particular liberty issue that became a problem for the church is what Paul is addressing in chapter 8, 9, and through 10.

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    Here's their issue.

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    Look again, chapter 8, verse 1.

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    He said, "Now concerning food offered to idols." That's meat that was sacrificed to a pagan God.

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    Like what in the world is going on here?

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    Understand in the Greek culture, they had gods for everything.

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    It was part of every aspect of life.

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    There was a God for literally everything.

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    And when a pagan worshiper would offer a sacrifice to a God, that sacrifice was divided into three parts.

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    Part was burned for the pagan God, part went home with the worshiper, but then the third part went with the priest.

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    The pagan priest, right?

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    How much pot roast can you eat?

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    Okay, so you can imagine, these priests, they had an abundance.

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    So they would take the extra down and sell it at the market.

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    There was other pagan meat at the market as well, because in the Greek culture, they believed that an evil spirit could enter you through what you ate.

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    So they believed that an evil spirit could get in the meat.

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    And when you ate the meat, now you had the evil spirit inside you.

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    So they would sacrifice to a God who would make sure that there were no evil spirits in the meat.

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    And on top of that, because it was such a pagan culture, the temple was sort of the community center, meaning weddings and parties were commonly held at the temple.

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    You're gonna see that come up here in this text.

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    And here's the point, my friends, Almost all the meat in this culture was used for pagan worship somehow.

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    Almost all of it.

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    So maybe you begin to see the problem.

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    For the church, for the Christians, for the Jesus followers, there was division.

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    For some, they were like, "Should we eat the pagan meat?" Absolutely not.

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    I'm not touching that.

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    They use that meat in pagan worship.

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    I'm not touching that with a 10 foot pole.

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    No way am I touching that.

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    And then there were more mature believers that were like, a hamburger is a hamburger, bro.

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    The boogeyman doesn't live in the hamburger.

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    Just eat it.

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    Come on.

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    Can you see why that would be a problem in the church?

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    People saying, "Eat the meat." People saying, "Absolutely, you shouldn't go near it." So in chapter eight here, and we're gonna be looking at the whole chapter, Paul is addressing the mature Christians who insisted on their liberty.

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    These mature Christians who said, "Hey, it bothers some of the weaker Christians that we eat the meat, but look, I'm free in Christ.

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    It's not haunted meat.

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    Am I not free to eat the meat if I want to eat the meat?

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    I'm gonna go way out on a limb here and guess that this probably isn't an issue for this church.

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    Right?

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    I don't imagine you've had to sit down at the table debate whether or not the boogeyman was in the steak, if you should eat it or not.

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    But you know there's always been issues of legalism and liberty in the church.

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    Always. Always. Okay so we're not arguing about the pagan meat, but I mean look at look at church history. We have this, even very recently, we are constantly At odds trying to figure out some things.

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    Issues of legalism versus liberty.

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    Like things like playing cards.

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    I know young people that might be hard to believe, but there was a time that that was a big issue in the church.

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    Should you be allowed to play cards?

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    Things like dancing, movies, hairstyle, dress.

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    Yes.

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    Things you can do on Sunday.

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    You can't go to a restaurant 'cause you're making people work.

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    You can't wash your car on Sunday.

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    That's considered work.

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    And you're breaking the Sabbath and there's so much wrong with that thinking.

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    But it's an issue.

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    It's an issue.

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    Things like yoga.

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    Last and certainly my favorite, Trick or treat.

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    I hate Halloween.

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    Not because you dress up like Spider-Man and get a Kit Kat.

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    I think that's kind of cool.

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    But just what it does in the church, because you have people that are like, it's fun, let's let them dress up and get candy and see the neighbors.

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    And then you have people that are like, it's demonic.

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    And like, I don't know what to do.

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    That's kind of the flavor of what we're getting here.

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    See, all these things are gray areas.

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    There's nothing explicit in the Bible that we can point to where the Bible says, do not do this, do not go trick or treating, do not dance.

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    Yet we can't find verses in the Bible that explicitly say.

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    So what do we do with these gray areas?

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    And the liberty person would say, I'm free to do whatever I want to do.

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    'Cause I'm free in Christ.

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    I'm free in Christ, man.

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    I can do whatever I want, right?

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    No.

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    No, not if doing one of these gray area things could cause a brother to sin.

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    So Paul addressing their issue with the meat gives us principles that apply for all times even until today. I want you to think about this scenario as we go through this passage because here's a real-life scenario that could happen to you where you need to apply these principles, this could happen to you this week. Just imagine the issue of alcohol. First of all, are you free to drink alcohol? Well, the Bible warns about drunkenness, but yes, the Bible does not say, "Thou shalt not ever touch alcohol." Okay? So yes, technically you are free, you are free to drink alcohol.

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    If you're of age and avoid drunkenness and all that, sure, sure, sure.

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    Okay, but imagine this scenario, a man who recently comes to harvest decides he wants to go to your small group.

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    But this man is coming out of an addicted background.

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    He had a really bad problem with alcohol, he went to rehab.

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    And this man ends up coming to know Christ.

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    He's born again.

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    He received Jesus as his Lord and Savior.

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    He's been transformed.

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    And now this man hates how alcohol has wrecked his life.

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    And this man sees alcohol a whole lot different than you or I might look at alcohol.

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    All right, so that guy says, "Pastor Taylor, I want to get involved in one of your small groups." And Pastor Taylor gets the guy coming to your small group.

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    And this week, you're having a barbecue at your small group because the weather is oh so great as it has been.

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    And as a small group leader, you're wondering, "Well, can I have beer at our small group barbecue?

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    Can I?

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    We have alcohol at a church event?" And you're like, "Okay, well this guy's coming and Pastor Taylor sort of told me this man's background and I know that if we have alcohol at our barbecue, it's going to bother that guy. I know that, but I'm free. I'm free to drink it. Why is his problem my problem? Should I still have it even though this guy's coming? I mean, I can have it, so let's just go ahead and have it and he can figure that out, right? Well, that was the Corinthian dilemma. Some mature believers were eating the meat regardless of how it affected the weaker believers.

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    And I'm glad you're sitting down because you're going to be shocked that this resulted in more disunity problems for Corinth.

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    Those people fought about everything.

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    And here's another issue.

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    So on your outline, listen very closely to this next sentence because you have to understand the angle at which Paul's going after them.

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    Paul, in 1 Corinthians 8, is going after the three reasons that the mature believers were using to justify eating the pagan meat.

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    It's okay for us to eat it, and here's why it's okay for us to eat it.

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    Paul goes after those reasons, and they're the same reasons we use today.

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    And interestingly enough, Paul agrees with them, but he shows them why their reasons for eating the meat, their reasons for liberty, do not apply in light of how it's going to affect a weaker believer.

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    All right?

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    That's why the heading on your outline, it's a big one.

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    Three valid reasons for liberty that don't work when you have a weaker brother.

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    All of these are legit reasons for liberty, but they do not work when you have a weaker brother.

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    Y'all with me?

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    I can start over.

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    It's a hot dog and sandwich.

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    Three valid reasons for liberty that do not work when you have a weaker brother.

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    Here's the first one, number one, write this down.

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    I have knowledge.

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    I have knowledge.

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    I know some stuff.

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    I know, okay.

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    Back to verse one.

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    "Now concerning food offered to idols, we know that all of us possess knowledge." Stop there.

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    You see, they were saying, Look, I know I can eat the meat sacrificed to the...

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    I can do that because I know, I know.

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    I know what the Bible says about food, okay?

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    And Peter had that vision, Acts 10, the sheath, everything's clean.

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    I know about that, I know, I know, I know.

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    And look, meat is meat, I know.

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    We do the same thing, by the way, with alcohol, right?

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    We know, we know some stuff.

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    Okay, small group leader thinking about having beer at your barbecue.

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    I know, I know, I know what the Bible says, okay?

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    And in fact, you know, back in biblical times, they didn't have refrigerators.

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    So their grape juice fermented, and it was really only like a 3% alcohol on some things.

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    And it was, but some of the drinks was only 1% alcohol.

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    And (mimics barking) Look, knowledge is great.

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    Actually, God's word exalts knowledge, knowing God's truth.

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    But here's the thing, knowledge isn't everything.

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    Okay?

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    Knowledge isn't everything because look at the rest of verse one.

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    He says, "This knowledge puffs up, but love builds up." Just having knowledge puffs up.

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    Knowledge makes people proud.

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    That's what he's saying.

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    Knowledge makes people proud.

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    Have you ever been around that guy?

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    You know that guy?

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    The actually guy?

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    You know that guy?

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    That's like actually.

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    You know, you've been around that guy?

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    If you are that guy, I hope you repent.

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    But you know that guy.

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    You're like, man, it was like 80 degrees today.

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    Actually, it was 77 degrees.

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    (sniffling)

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    You got me.

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    I'm a big fat liar.

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    Or you're like, strawberries are my favorite fruit.

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    Actually, a strawberry is not a fruit.

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    It is a member of the rose family.

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    Actually, a banana actually is a berry.

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    Actually.

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    Knowledge puffs up.

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    The guy that's just knowledge, obnoxious.

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    He says, "But love, love builds up." You see, knowledge is about me, but love is about you.

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    Love is about building you up.

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    And that's why you gotta have love with your knowledge.

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    That's Paul's point here.

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    Actually, he said the same thing, Philippians 1:9.

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    "And it is my prayer that your love may abound and more with knowledge. You see that? Love with knowledge and all discernment.

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    All your Bible knowledge does you no good if you aren't operating from a position of love.

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    So look at verse 2. He says, "If anyone imagines that he knows something, he does not yet know as he ought to know." Knowledge is a funny thing, isn't it?

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    You think you know something, and you don't.

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    The guy that's walking around thinking he's the expert and he knows everything, usually doesn't really know near as much as he thinks he knows.

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    You mature people, Paul says, you mature people insisting on your liberty.

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    You think you're so smart, but you don't know as much as you think you do.

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    because you're missing what the Christian life is all about and it is love. Biblical knowledge should move you to love. You're like, "Wait, wait, hang on.

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    How does that work? How does knowledge and love, how does that How does that work together exactly?

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    And Paul's like, "Like your relationship with God Himself." Look at verse 3.

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    He says, "But if anyone loves God, he is known by God." There it is.

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    Knowledge and love working together in your relationship with God.

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    Both of them have to be present.

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    So you can know about God without loving Him.

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    But you don't really know God without loving Him.

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    So what's he saying?

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    Here's the bottom line, alright?

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    Here's the CliffsNotes version of this chunk.

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    He says, "Your knowledge means nothing without love." That's what he's saying.

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    Your knowledge means nothing without love.

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    God doesn't care that you know stuff if you don't love your weaker brother.

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    That's the point.

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    So again, you're thinking about having beer at your small group barbecue.

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    Listen, and that guy's coming that's had the struggle in the past.

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    Look, that guy that's coming, he doesn't need your list of alcohol facts.

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    Okay?

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    What he needs is you to love him enough that you care more about him growing in Christ then you do you having your beer.

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    So if you're insisting on your liberty on the basis of, I know some Bible verses, you missed the big picture.

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    All right, I have knowledge.

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    Great, great.

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    Doesn't matter in the face of a weaker brother, you gotta love him.

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    I love 'em.

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    Number two, jot this one down.

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    I have wisdom.

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    I have wisdom.

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    There's a difference, right?

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    Knowledge, you know the facts.

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    Wisdom is like knowing how to apply the facts, knowing how knowledge works together.

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    Look at verses four through six with me.

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    He says, "Therefore, as to the eating of food offered to idols, we know that an idol has no real existence, and that there is no God but One.

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    For although there may be so-called gods in heaven or on earth, as indeed there are many gods and many lords. Yet for us, there is one God the Father, from whom are all things and for whom we exist, and one Lord Jesus Christ, through whom are all things and through whom we exist." Wow. I could do like a whole series just on like the end of verse 6 there.

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    That is such an awesome verse.

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    You should highlight that in your Bible.

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    That's the gospel right there in verse 6.

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    This is the gospel.

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    God came to us in Christ, and we go to God in Christ.

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    That's awesome.

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    Regarding the issue at hand, Paul's here saying, "Look, right on, right on.

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    Hey, I'm with you.

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    The idol is just a trinket.

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    There's no boogeyman in the meat.

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    You have wisdom.

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    You understand the world in light of the truth of God's Word." Awesome.

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    Verse 7, "However, not all possess this knowledge." See that?

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    Paul's agreeing with him.

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    Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get it.

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    I get it.

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    The idol's a trinket.

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    Right.

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    The meat's not haunted, I get it.

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    You're right.

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    However, however, look, God in his word has told us everything he wants us to know about him.

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    But we are all at different levels of understanding.

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    Some of us are just a little further down the road on our journey than others in maturing with Christ.

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    That's just the way things work.

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    We learn, we grow, we mature.

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    Some of us are more mature than others.

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    That's just reality.

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    And that's what Paul's saying here.

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    He's, "Look, good for you.

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    You know some things.

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    You know some things about the idols.

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    Guess what?

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    Not everyone understands.

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    Not everyone's where you are.

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    Not everyone gets it.

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    Look at the rest of verse 7, he goes, "But some," talking about the weaker brothers here, "but some, through former association with idols, eat food as really offered to an idol, and their conscience being weak is defiled." Your conscience, he says, "These weaker brothers having a problem with their..." What is the conscience?

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    We talked about this way and through the book of Hebrews.

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    Your conscience, what is your conscience?

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    The conscience is the part of your mind that approves or condemns what you do, based on how you understand right and wrong.

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    That's your conscience.

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    And some, Paul says, have a weak conscience, meaning it's immature.

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    not fully understanding yet. And if a weaker brother eats the pagan meat, they go against their conscience and Paul says, "They are defiled." That word "defiled" actually means "guilty." They feel guilty for doing it. They went against their conscience.

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    Have you ever believed something for so long that even when you learn the truth, it's hard to let go of that old belief that you held onto for so long?

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    I think we've all been guilty of that.

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    You know, here's one for me.

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    When I was a kid, I've always been an excellent singer.

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    (congregation laughing)

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    What is going on here?

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    Learning to have grace with the weaker brothers.

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    (congregation laughing)

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    Pastor Taylor, you are absolutely right.

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    That statement was sarcastic, you are right.

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    He is absolutely right.

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    He's not the weaker brother, he's right.

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    But I have always been a great singer.

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    But anyways, when I was little, I would sing at the dinner table, 'cause I'm always singing, I'm singing, doing everything, but I'd come to the dinner table and I'd sing.

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    And do you know what my mom told me?

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    She says, "You can't sing at the table because it," anybody know?

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    She made this up.

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    My mom said, she says, "You can't sing at the table "because it makes the angels cry."

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    (congregation laughing)

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    I am dead serious.

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    Now I found, I just this minute realized she just made that up.

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    'Cause I was expecting somebody to shout that out.

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    Nope.

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    So I grew up like, don't sing, when I get to the table, I'm like, don't sing, why?

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    because all the angels in heaven are like, "Oh, please." At first I thought it was just like anybody singing, but I think mom meant my singing.

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    My singing offended the holy angels.

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    But so I was like, "Don't sing at the table "because the angels, it just made the angels cry." And you're like, "That's silly." It is, admittedly.

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    But I gotta tell you, to this day, if I'm eating somewhere and I hear somebody singing, do you know what the first thing is that I think of?

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    You're making the angels cry.

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    Way to go.

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    Do you know what I mean?

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    I know that's not true, but I do cringe when I hear somebody sing at the table because it was just so ingrained in me my whole life growing up.

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    Don't sing at the table, don't sing at the table.

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    Angels are weeping.

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    Like...

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    And it was true in this culture that Paul's dealing with here.

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    Imagine the person that got saved out of idolatry.

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    That's a huge change.

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    You know, all this time, for all these years, the evil spirits live in the meat, got to sacrifice to the gods, you get the spirits out of the meat, the evil spirits live in the meat, and then they come to Christ, They get the truth of the gospel, and they're like, "That's not true.

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    There's no evil spirits in the meat.

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    It's not true at all." It's totally safe to eat, right?

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    I mean, it is safe, right?

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    But, I mean, it is pagan meat.

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    eat. I mean, I guess it's okay to eat it. I mean, gosh, I just don't feel right about eating it. You see the dilemma? I know, but I...

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    See, mature believers, mature believers, maybe you understand the real truth about the idols and the mate.

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    Paul's like, "But your weaker brother, he's not there yet." And love says, "I will forego something that might bother the weaker brother." That's what love says.

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    Look, spiritual maturity is deeper than right and wrong.

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    The mature believer says, "How does what I do affect the baby Christians?" And you see with the whole alcohol, with the small group barbecue thing, it's the same principle in play.

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    If the weaker brother is coming to the barbecue, the loving choice is to not have any alcohol there at all.

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    Not being legalistic, being loving.

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    I don't want this to be a problem for you, so we're just going to take it off the table.

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    We'll have a Dr. Pepper.

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    Look, if you're insisting on your liberty on the basis of, "I have wisdom, I know the ways of the world and how it works," you've just missed the whole picture.

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    One more.

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    Three valid reasons for liberty that don't work when you have a weaker brother.

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    "I have knowledge." That doesn't work when there's a weaker brother.

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    "I have wisdom." That doesn't work.

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    When you have a weaker brother, number three, here's one that we often use, I have good theology.

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    And see, these all do kind of bleed together, obviously.

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    But I have good theology.

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    Look at verse eight.

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    He says, "Food will not commend us to God.

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    "We are no worse off if we do not eat "and no better off if we do." Interestingly, that word commend is literally draw us near to.

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    What you eat is not going to draw you closer to God.

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    And that's what he's saying.

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    Eating doesn't make you holy, nor does eating make you a sinner.

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    That's good theology, right?

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    It's good theology.

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    What you eat will not draw you near to God.

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    There's only one way to draw near to God, and that's Jesus Christ.

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    He provided access to God through his death, through his resurrection.

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    That's the only basis you have of coming to God.

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    The only way you can draw near is through Jesus Christ.

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    But it certainly isn't in what you eat.

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    That's great theology, right?

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    So God doesn't care what we eat, But, but God does care about his weaker children and the way we love them.

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    He cares about that.

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    Look at verses nine and 10.

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    He says, "But take care that this right of yours "does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak.

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    "For if anyone sees you who have knowledge "eating in an idol's temple, Will he not be encouraged, if his conscience is weak, to eat food offered to idols?

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    Stumbling block, stumbling block.

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    That's something that makes you sin, right?

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    That's a stumbling block.

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    And Paul here says, you're insisting on your freedom can make the weaker brother sin.

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    What do you mean?

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    Just simply this, if their conscience says, don't eat the pagan meat, and they see you eating, they're going to feel pressured to go against their conscience and eat, and that will make them miserable.

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    They're gonna feel the pressure, they're gonna eat, and then they're gonna immediately, I shouldn't have eaten that.

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    But you know, he makes me feel guilty if I don't join in and eat, but then I do eat, and now I feel guilty that I did.

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    You see an obvious application, right?

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    You decide you're gonna go ahead and have alcohol with your little small group barbecue, volleyball extravaganza thing.

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    And you're like, I'm still gonna have alcohol there.

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    And that recovering addict shows up.

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    And he's like, yeah, I don't drink anymore.

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    It ruined my life.

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    But everybody else is drinking.

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    Man, I kind of feel like the odd man out here.

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    Maybe I should, I mean, these are new friends and I should try to fit in, right?

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    So, I don't want to look like a weirdo.

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    And then he drinks.

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    How does he feel about himself afterwards?

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    I can't believe I did that.

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    Listen, never ever violate your conscience.

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    I have people come to me for counseling all the time and it can be a gray area matter and they'll say, "I just have this conviction about this.

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    "Is that right?" I tell them the same thing, ask anybody that's come.

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    I'm like, I will never tell you to violate your conscience.

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    If you have a conviction and it's different than mine, and it's a non-biblical issue, I am not going to tell you to violate your conscience on that.

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    And at the same time, do not ever ask someone else to violate theirs.

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    With your conscience, yes, understand, seek to understand why you feel how you do.

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    Evaluate if it is from God, but never violate your conscience.

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    Look, you're going to mature in Christ.

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    Your understanding of God's word is going to mature, but don't force it.

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    Let the growth happen naturally for you and for the weaker brother.

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    And I know at this point in the message, there's still somebody, somebody's inwardly protesting all this, saying, "Why should I care what my choices "have to do with somebody else's conscience?

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    "Like, why is that any of their business?" Well, look at verse 11.

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    Paul says, "And so by your knowledge, this weak person is destroyed, the brother for whom Christ died.

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    Why should you care?

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    Because Jesus does.

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    How much does Jesus care about this weaker brother, really?

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    How much does Jesus care?

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    Jesus died for him.

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    That is how Jesus regards this man.

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    That is how Jesus so loves this man that Jesus was willing to die for him.

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    And that's why you should love him too.

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    Verse 12, he says, "Thus, sitting against your brothers and wounding their conscience when it is weak, you sin against Christ." Wow.

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    Paul ratchets it up.

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    This is the top of the mountain here.

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    He goes, "Do you need a reason to not offend the weaker brother?

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    Do you need a reason for that?" He goes, "Here's your reason.

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    Here's number one.

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    Jesus takes any mistreatment of his people very seriously.

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    You sit against that weaker brother, you're sitting against Jesus himself." And Jesus takes this very seriously.

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    Look, if you pressure my son into doing something he doesn't wanna do, we are having words.

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    Jesus has a much stronger stance on this than I do, actually.

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    Matthew 18.6, "Whoever causes," these are the words of Jesus, "Whoever causes one of these little ones "who believe in me to sin, "it would be better for him to have a great millstone "fastened around his neck "and be drowned in the depths of the sea." You sin against a weaker brother, you're sinning against Jesus.

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    He takes that pretty seriously.

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    And again, Matthew 25, verse 40, Jesus said, "Truly I say to you, "As you did it to one of the least of these, my brothers, "you did it to me." Serious business.

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    And finally, verse 13.

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    Paul says, "Therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, "I will never eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble." Paul's like, "Look, run the risk of sinning against Jesus?

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    Nuh-uh, uh-uh.

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    I'm not going to insist on my liberty, my rights." Paul says, "I will become a vegan before I cause a brother to stumble, because loving Loving my weaker brother is more important than having a burger.

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    And loving my weaker brother is more important than having a beer.

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    So if you're insisting on your liberty on the basis of, "Well, I have good theology," you missed the big picture.

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    All right.

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    That was the introduction.

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    Here's the sermon.

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    Your liberty goes only as far as love.

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    Like the Corinthians, you can say, "Well, I know the Bible and I understand spiritual truths.

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    My theology is on point.

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    I am free in Christ to do whatever I want!" No, you aren't.

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    You must be willing to lay down your rights if it means protecting your weaker brother.

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    For communion servers would come up, our worship team.

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    I'll give you one more reason why we should lay down our rights out of love.

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    And it's because we have a great example.

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    You know, the Bible says Jesus did not consider equality with God a thing to be grasped.

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    Wrap your head around that.

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    Jesus had the right to insist on all of the privileges that come with being God.

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    And he humbled himself to give them up.

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    The question I have for you this morning is, will you follow Jesus in that?

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    Are you willing to lay down your rights, your freedoms, out of love?

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    I want you to stand.

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    And when you're ready to receive the Lord's Supper, by the way, if you're a born again believer in Christ, this is for you.

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    You don't have to be a member of Harvest Bible Chapel, but you do have to be a born again believer in Christ.

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    And if you are, he invites you.

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    Come down the center aisle, receive the elements, and I'm gonna ask that you take them back to your seat by going to the outside aisle.

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    And when everyone has the elements, we will receive the Lord's Supper together as an act of church unity.

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    All right, please come.

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    Why should I choose to lay down my rights?

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    because I have a great example in my Lord.

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    The Bible tells us the night Jesus was betrayed, He took bread and He broke it.

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    He gave thanks and He said, "This is my body which is given for you. Eat this in remembrance of me." After the meal, Jesus took the cup He said, "This cup is the blood of the new covenant, which is poured out for the forgiveness of sin.

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    Drink this in remembrance of Me."

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 8:1-13

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Do you tend to lean more on the side of “legalism” or “libertine”? Why?

  3. What exactly is meant by “stumbling block” (1 Cor 8:9)? How could you be responsible for someone else sinning (1 Cor 8:12)?

  4. Besides alcohol, what are some examples of gray areas today that we need to be careful to “not make a weaker brother stumble”?

Breakout

Pray for one another.

What About Us Single People?

Introduction:

Three Advantages of Being Single: (1 Corinthians 7:25-40)

  1. You're Saved from CERTAIN TROUBLES. (1 Cor 7:26-28)

  2. You're Saved from DISTRACTION. (1 Cor 7:29-38)

    Matthew 22:30For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.

    Colossians 3:2Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.

  3. You’re Saved from OBLIGATION. (1 Cor 7:39-40)

    Matthew 19:10The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”

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    Open up those Bibles to 1 Corinthians and chapter 7.

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    And while we do, I'm just going to ask that you would just pause with me here.

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    You pray for me, that I will communicate God's word as I should, clearly and accurately and straightforwardly.

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    I will pray for you, that your heart would be open to receive what God wants to teach us today.

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    All right, so let's just take a moment and pray.

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    Father, be glorified through the proclamation of Your Word, through receiving Your Word and being doers of Your Word.

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    Be glorified in all things, we pray in Jesus' name.

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    And all of God's people said, "Amen." Several years ago, a friend of mine told me about this single friend that he has who was sitting home one day and got a phone call.

    01:42-02:10

    The phone rang, he picked it up, and he's like, "Hello?" And the voice on the other end said, "Hi, would you be interested in meeting a lot of exciting available singles in your area?" And the man said, "I got enough problems." It's funny, but that's really the heart of this passage that we're looking at today.

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    See, in 1 Corinthians 7, we've seen that marriage is a gift, and God has given married people a wedding present that they are to use appropriately.

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    And we've seen that for some people, being single is a gift.

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    But each one brings their own set of issues.

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    And the Corinthians were writing to Paul, asking for counsel, and Paul was writing this letter back to them, giving them counsel.

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    Look at verse 25.

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    Paul says, "Now concerning the betrothed, I have no command from the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy." You see, he says, "Now concerning." We saw that again back in chapter 7 verse 1.

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    It seems that Paul was going through a list of things that they brought up.

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    He goes, "Okay, let me tell you about this.

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    Okay, now let me tell you about this issue you brought up." It's kind of a Q&A format, and he says the next subject here is the betrothed.

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    Some translations say virgins.

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    He's talking to the singles.

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    All the single ladies.

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    that song? Get your hand up. I studied that dance this week and I was going to do it for you, but I looked at myself in the mirror and I do not dance like Beyonce. So maybe Maybe some other time.

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    But last week we saw Pastor Taylor talked about commitment.

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    That was in the previous passage, commitment.

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    Trust God where He has you, right?

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    Bloom where you are planted.

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    And I was thinking about that through the context of the whole passage.

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    Paul's talking about marriage and sexuality and singles issues, and then he talks about contentment, and then in this passage he's addressing the singles. Like why that flow? Why did he insert contentment right in the middle of that? And I think it's because there are certain aspects of being single that make it hard to be content. And here's what I mean by that. I think especially in the church there difficulties in being single.

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    Because I mean, think about it, in church, marriage is exalted.

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    In church, you see many godly marriages.

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    You sit and you watch infant dedications, and I think for singles there's a real sense of FOMO, right?

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    So this passage we're looking at today, mostly, is for the single people.

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    And if you're tempted to be like, "Oh, this ain't for me, I'm tuning out." I would say, "You are forbidden to tune out of this message." We expect our single people to sit through series on marriage, series on parenting.

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    We're like, "You need to listen to this, you need to listen to this, you know married people, so you should listen to this." You know single people, all right?

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    And maybe the Lord will open a door for you to be able to encourage them with some things in here.

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    All right?

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    So if I see you tuning out, I'm gonna throw a Bible at you.

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    All right?

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    So Paul says here, don't worry, it'll be a soft cover, not like a MacArthur study Bible or anything.

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    But Paul says here, I have no command for the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy.

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    We talked about this before.

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    All Paul is saying here is the Lord, Jesus Christ, did not specifically address these singles issues during His earthly ministry.

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    It wasn't...being single is not a moral issue.

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    Jesus didn't really go into depth in addressing this.

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    Right?

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    He says, "I don't have a quote for you from Jesus." When it comes to divorce, Paul said, "I got quotes for you from Jesus about divorce." Jesus was crystal on that, but I don't have a quote from Jesus really about these aspects of being single.

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    But Paul's like, "Hey, you can trust me." Right?

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    And he goes on in this passage to say, "It's good to be single." Actually, he says it's in many ways better to be single.

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    It's wiser to be single.

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    Right now the singles among us might have heard that last statement and thought, "What's so great about being single?

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    What's so great about it?

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    What is it, the loneliness?

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    Is that what's so great about it?

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    Is it the stigma that people put on you, like, "Oh, you're single.

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    What's wrong with you?" Is that the great part of being single, Pastor Jeff?

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    Is it going to the soda shop, Pastor Jeff, and eating the wet walnut sundae by yourself?

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    Is it all the people that try to play Cupid?

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    Is that the great part?

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    You know, I got this co-worker, it'd be great for you.

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    Both of his teeth are really clean," and whatever.

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    I can't wait to meet him.

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    Is that the great part, Pastor Jeff?

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    Is it the FOMO, Pastor Jeff?

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    Is it?

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    What's the great part, Pastor Jeff?

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    What's the great part?

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    Well, this is what the Lord said, okay?

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    This isn't Jeff's opinion, this is God's opinion.

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    So on your outline, I want you to jot some things down.

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    Here's three advantages of being single.

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    All right, three advantages of being single.

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    Oh, right, sorry.

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    I beg your pardon.

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    I have a disclaimer.

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    I have been happily married since 2002.

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    Despite what Paul says about singleness, I am very thankful for my beautiful, talented, and intelligent wife.

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    I acknowledge that I married up.

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    Her presence daily enhances my life in every way.

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    And then it says at the bottom, you better read this and sound convincing, love Aaron.

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    (congregation laughing)

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    I am thankful to be married.

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    That was what God had for me, but God might not have that for you.

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    All right, he gives different gifts to different people.

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    So if you're single, here's three advantages of being single.

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    Number one, write this down, you're saved from certain troubles.

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    You're saved from certain troubles.

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    And here's the point, I'm gonna give you the heads up and we're gonna see it in the text.

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    What Paul's saying here is there are troubles married people have that single people do not have, okay?

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    That's why the word certain is in there.

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    Not, save from all troubles, everybody's got troubles, okay?

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    Everybody's got troubles.

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    But there are certain troubles that married people have that single people have the luxury of not having, all right?

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    And he gives them in two categories, and the first one is present distress.

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    You can write that down on your outline underneath number one, distress.

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    Look at verse 26.

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    Paul says, "I think that in view of the present distress, It is good for a person to remain as he is, obviously, or as she is.

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    Okay, what's the distress?

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    What's the distress?

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    Well, some translations translate that violence.

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    Violence.

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    It's just simply hardships of living in a violent world.

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    And Paul's like, "Hey, hey, the world's a violent place, so it's probably better, single that you're not married for that reason.

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    See for the Corinthians, about 15 years after they would have received this letter, they endured horrible persecution that lasted for 200 years.

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    And I think Paul knew that.

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    Like, the world's a violent place.

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    But see, this principle isn't just for them.

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    I mean, isn't the world a violent and evil place today?

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    I mean, do I really have to sell you on that?

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    I mean, look at all the school shootings and sex trafficking, all the wars.

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    I wrote this before the events of yesterday, the events of yesterday happened.

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    The wars.

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    The war for your kids, all the gay and transgender stuff pushed in schools, the persecution for simply believing the Bible, Charlie Kirk, remember him?

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    So I would ask you, church, when Paul talks about violence to the Corinthians in our day, are we getting better or are we getting worse?

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    Which is it?

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    Can you really turn on the news and be like, oh yeah, there was violence back in that day, but I think things are pretty safe now, right?

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    Could you say that?

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    Of course not.

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    And I was thinking about this a lot this past week.

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    What era of human history was perfectly safe?

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    To have a wife and kids.

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    Is there any?

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    Can you point to an era and be like, "Yeah, this was the sweet spot right here in human history that it was…everything was safe." You see, such violence has extra implications if you have a spouse.

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    If you have a spouse, many times you also eventually have children.

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    Such violence has implications for spouse and kids, right?

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    What I mean is, look, I'm not afraid of being attacked personally.

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    I'm not.

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    Like, whatever.

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    I mean, somebody doesn't like the sermon and they slip past security and come up and shoot me or whatever.

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    Okay, whatever.

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    See you in heaven.

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    But I've got a wife and kids, and the thought of them being in danger is terrifying to me.

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    To think that they're in danger and I can't protect them and I can't be there.

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    That's what Paul's talking about here.

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    You see, if I suffer, whatever, but if they suffer, that is way more painful than any suffering that I can endure.

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    That's why Paul says there in verse 26, he says, "Remain as he is." That's better.

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    "Remain as he is." He clarifies that though.

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    Look, he clarifies.

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    Look at verse 27.

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    He says, "Are you bound to a wife?

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    Do not seek to be free.

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    Are you free from a wife?

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    Do not seek a wife." He says, "Married, stay married.

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    Single stay single.

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    Did you get a divorce?

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    Stay as you are.

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    He's saying singles might be wise to pump the brakes on getting married in view of just how violent the world is.

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    You see that?

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    There's a second category of trouble.

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    We saw the presence of stress.

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    The next one is that worldly troubles.

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    Look at verse 28.

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    This is a little different though.

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    Verse 28, he says, "But if you do marry, you have not sinned.

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    And if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned.

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    Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that." Stop there.

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    There's worldly troubles.

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    I mean, he says, "A marriage isn't sin, obviously." He goes, "But it brings trouble." There's conflict within marriage, right?

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    He already addressed there's conflict that comes from outside, but there's also conflict that comes from the inside.

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    What I mean is, you know, I have to deal with my own sin issues.

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    I am incredibly selfish.

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    I can be incredibly prideful, and I can be horribly irritable.

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    I got those issues going on.

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    Now, I get married and I got to deal with my wife's sin issues.

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    I mean, not my wife.

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    I mean, but you see the point.

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    You got your sin issues, whoever you marry is going to have sin issues.

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    The potential for misery in marriage is worse than for singles.

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    Like yeah, singles are going to deal with their own sin, married people, the amount of sin just doubled in the home.

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    people get married thinking it's going to fix everything, right?

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    People get married thinking, you know, "I have these physical urges, and if I just get married, all those urges are going to be fixed." It's not always true, right?

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    Or people are like, "I'm incredibly lonely.

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    I'm just so lonely, and if I get married, I won't be lonely." That's not always true either.

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    Sometimes these things just get worse, right?

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    Desire for intimacy gets worse when you have a spouse you want to be with but is unresponsive.

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    Loneliness gets worse when you live with someone who resents you.

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    So if you're single and you're on the fence, "Should I get married?

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    Maybe I'll wait till the end of the sermon to decide.

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    What should I do?" If you're single, "Oh, I wish I had a string.

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    My previous church, I had a string of marriage counseling sessions I was going through, and I so wish, single people, that I could take you into these marriage counseling sessions and have you sit in the corner and just watch." That would make up your mind for you because you would walk out of there going, "I am so thankful that I don't got to deal with that." Potential for misery in marriage is worse than the potential for misery in singles.

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    That's what Paul's saying.

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    I mean even if conflict isn't the big issue, I mean there's plenty of other worldly troubles, right?

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    like sickness, for example.

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    I mean, I remember back when I was single, and that was a difficult season in my life.

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    But do you know what's harder than being single?

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    You know what's harder is watching a sick wife suffer.

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    That's harder.

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    You know what's harder than being single is watching a sick child that you've prayed for for decades not get better.

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    That's harder than being single.

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    Now this is Paul's whole point here.

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    Look, life is hard.

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    Life is hard for everyone.

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    I mean, the Bible is crystal on that.

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    Life is hard for everyone, but getting married invites other elements of trouble.

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    The world is violent, my wife is violent.

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    Single people are saved from that.

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    I guess that's number one.

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    Number two, three advantages of being single, you're safe from certain troubles.

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    Number two, you're safe from distraction.

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    You're safe from distraction.

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    Marriage brings distraction, and he gives two ways that it does.

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    First of all, you lose your perspective on priorities, and second of all, you get distracted by the duty of taking care of a family, right?

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    So let's talk about these.

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    Let's break them down.

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    One distraction, losing perspective on priorities.

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    Look at verse 29, he says, "This is what I mean, brothers.

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    The appointed time has grown very short.

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    From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none." You've got to read it in its context.

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    If you pull that verse out of its context, you're thinking it says something way different than it does, okay?

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    So you've got to listen to the rest of us.

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    He is not saying…He is not saying…everybody say, "Not saying." He is not saying, "Detach from your wife." He's not saying that at all.

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    The context makes it clear what He is saying.

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    Look, verse 30, He goes, "And those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it.

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    For the present form of this world is passing away." See, what's he saying?

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    Look at the context.

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    Mourning, rejoicing, stuff, doing business, that's all earth stuff.

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    Right?

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    That is all stuff for here and now.

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    Paul's saying, "Don't live as if this is all there is." You realize so many people live as if they are going to be here forever, and you're not.

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    None of us are.

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    That's what Paul's talking about here.

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    You're mourning, you're going through a hard time, it's temporary.

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    You're not going to be mourning in heaven over that.

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    Oh, and you're rejoicing, you had the greatest day of your life?

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    Okay, that's not going to mean anything in heaven.

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    Right?

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    Oh, you're worried about your stuff?

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    He ain't taking it with you.

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    Earthly dealings, you're not going to be doing that in heaven.

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    It's all earth stuff.

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    And then he says, "Life as we know it on earth, it's all passing away, including marriage." I mean, all of these things in his list, he's saying these things all look different in light of eternity.

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    And don't let these things distract you from the big picture.

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    Do you know what the big picture is?

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    The big picture is you were created by God to spend a certain amount of time on this earth.

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    But you were born with a sinful nature we inherited from the first man.

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    You were born with a nature to rebel against your Creator.

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    Not to do what He wants you to do, but to do whatever you want to do.

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    You're selfish too, just like me.

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    And someday you're going to stand before that God who created you.

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    That God that you've rebelled against, someday you're going to stand before Him.

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    He just sang about what kind of God He is.

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    Holy forever.

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    You rebellious sinner are going to stand before the holy God that you rebelled against.

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    You deserve the worst that He could give you, which is hell, eternal separation from Him.

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    But because He loves you so much, He sent His Son to die on the cross on your behalf, to take your sin penalty on Himself.

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    When Jesus was on the cross, God was pouring out His wrath on Jesus, the wrath that I deserve and the wrath that you deserve.

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    Then Jesus rose from the dead so that we too can have the promise of eternal life.

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    That is the big picture.

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    So whether you buy or sell, you had a great day, a horrible day.

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    you get married or not, you're going to stand before a God who is going to judge you.

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    But if you are in Christ, there is no condemnation.

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    You are not guilty.

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    You are forgiven.

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    No sin will ever be held against you.

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    That is the big picture.

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    And Paul is saying, "Do not let the stuff of the earth, including marriage, distract you from that." He's just simply putting things into perspective.

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    Right?

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    Even marriage is not eternal.

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    Jesus said this in Matthew 22.

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    He says, "For in the resurrection, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven." Marriage is a "for now on earth" thing.

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    Right?

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    not for heaven.

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    We have it for now on earth.

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    Why?

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    For partnership, right?

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    For pleasure, for procreation.

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    All the purposes that marriage fulfill, those purposes aren't going to exist in heaven.

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    We're not going to need them fulfilled the way that they're fulfilled on earth.

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    I was thinking about this this week and I thought back to my days in elementary school.

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    I remember there were kids that would go skiing over the weekend and then they'd come to school on Monday.

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    Some of you remember this?

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    They'd come to school on Monday with their winter jacket on.

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    Remember what they still had hanging on their winter jacket?

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    Your lift pass, remember that?

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    They'd walk in.

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    (groans)

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    What'd you do over the weekend, Joey?

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    It was such a badge of honor.

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    You're like, why are you making fun of him?

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    Because I was so jealous.

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    That's why.

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    It was such a badge of honor, wasn't it, to walk into school.

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    You're not laughing because you were those kids, weren't you?

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    You were those ski lift tag kids.

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    I kind of laugh because you know what?

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    That lift tag was very useful for a time, wasn't it?

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    I mean, when you're skiing, that thing is super useful.

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    It has great purpose.

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    "Oh, you're skiing, it has great purpose." But then when you show up at school, what is it?

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    It's just a piece of garbage hanging from your coat.

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    It doesn't mean anything.

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    Like, dude, you don't need that.

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    You don't need to ride the lift to the cafeteria.

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    You don't need the ski tag.

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    And that's really, same thing with marriage.

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    Like, hey, married, I got a beautiful wife, she's awesome.

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    It's like, yes, but you're not going to need a wife in heaven, because every relationship is going to be perfect.

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    Paul's saying what he says in Colossians 3 too, right?

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    Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.

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    Don't let marriage distract you from your spiritual life.

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    Don't let marriage make you lose perspective on your priorities? Because it does. There are people, there are some people here that work more on their marriage than they do on their personal walk with Jesus Christ. That's a problem. That's backwards. If you worked more on your personal walk with Jesus Christ, things in your marriage would get a whole lot better. But marriage distracts us from focusing on eternity because marriage, as God's Word tells us, divides our interests.

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    Look at verse 32.

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    Paul says, "I want you to be free from anxieties.

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    The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord." How to please the Lord.

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    But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife.

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    And his interests are divided.

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    And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit.

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    But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.

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    Any single people can serve Jesus undistracted because the single person only has one set of cares.

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    The married person is divided.

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    That's what he's saying.

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    The married person says, "I really do want to serve Christ.

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    I really do want to give everything to Jesus, but I also have this God-given responsibility to take care of my family.

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    My interests are divided." So, singles better.

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    You're like, "Man, that sounds legalistic." Look at verse 35.

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    Paul says, "I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord." See that's exactly what Paul is saying here, he says, "I'm not being legalistic." He says, "This is for your benefit." But don't think that married people are second-class citizens.

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    Right?

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    Verse 36, he says, "If anyone thinks he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes.

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    Let them marry, it is no sin.

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    But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity, but having his desires under control and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well. So then he who marries his betrothed does well, and he who refrains from marriage will do even better." You're like, "What is he talking about here?" This would have made way more sense to the original audience of this letter. Understand here, Paul is talking specifically here to fathers of unmarried daughters. The fathers had decision-making power in the matter of marriage for their daughters. Like, well that sounds very weird. Not really. Even today, I mean, isn't there the custom of when you want to get married to a woman, don't you go to her father and ask for her hand in marriage? Where do you think that comes from. Right? Same principle. But understand, Paul's just, once again, even in that, he's laying out the same thing he's been saying through this whole chapter, specifically through this whole passage. He goes, "If they get married, great. And if they remain single," He's like, "That's even better.

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    It's even better." Paul says here in this section that when it comes to serving Jesus, single people have an advantage.

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    Now, understand, single people, single people understand before you go out and get your ski tag, understand he's not saying single people are more spiritual than married people.

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    He is not saying that.

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    Single people are not automatically more devoted to Jesus than married people.

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    He is not saying that.

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    You're like, "Well, what is he saying?" He's saying single people have the greater potential in their service to Jesus Christ.

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    All right?

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    people, consider how much of your resources goes to just taking care of your family, right? How much time does your family require? How much money do you spend on your family? How much energy does your family get? And the answer is Because they get all of all the above, right?

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    And Paul here is simply saying, "Single people, you have tremendous opportunity, capacity, and potential to serve Christ because you're saved from the distractions that come from having to take care of a family." Right?

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    Single people?

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    Single people?

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    You want to spend extra time in prayer and the Word today?

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    You can do that without a bunch of little people running up to you going...and you're like, "I fed you yesterday." Well, you've got to feed them today too.

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    Single people don't got to worry about that.

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    Single people, you want to go on a mission trip?

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    You know what, this Vision Appalachia thing, I'm about that, I'm gone.

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    I'm going to talk to Bob Brown, I'm gone.

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    Single people can do that, like at the drop of a hat.

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    Or hey, next trip to Thailand, I am there.

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    No problem.

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    Single people can do that because you don't have to factor in the schedules of several other people.

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    Right?

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    Single people, you're like, "Oh, it's a prayer service tonight at church." You don't have to worry if you're going to miss it because your spouse is working late or Joey has yet another lacrosse tournament.

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    That's like the fifth one today.

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    Single people don't got to worry about that.

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    That's all Paul's saying here.

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    Oh, and P.S., history is full of single people that God has used mightily.

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    I read about a whole bunch of them this past week.

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    I don't have time to get into all of them, but I will mention one.

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    How about Paul, right?

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    Paul himself being single allowed Paul the opportunity to evangelize the Roman world and write holy Spirit-inspired letters that guide, encourage, and bless the churches even until today." So I guess Paul being single adds quite a bit of credibility to this Spirit-inspired truth that he wrote.

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    He says, "Hey, are you single?

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    You're saved from a lot of distractions." All right, three advantages of being single.

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    You're saved from certain troubles.

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    You're safe from distraction.

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    Number three, you're safe from obligation.

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    One more, you're safe from obligation.

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    Paul says a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives.

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    But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.

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    Yet in my judgment, she is happier if she remains as she is.

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    And I think that I too have the Spirit of God.

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    I love that last statement.

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    Paul's like, 'cause you know that people are gonna be reading this and hearing this like, "Oh, come on, Paul, that's just your opinion." And he's like, "Yeah, I think I have the Holy Spirit too." So you're saved from obligation.

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    Paul says, "If your spouse dies, You can marry another believer.

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    Paul says, "Yet you'll be happier to stay single." But, Paul says, "Once you marry, you are bound as long as your spouse lives." He's talking about the obligation to the marriage.

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    The most important choice you will ever make for however long you have on the earth, the The most important choice is whether or not you are going to turn from your sin and turn to Jesus Christ and receive Him as your Lord and Savior.

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    That is the most important choice you will ever make.

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    Do you know what the second most important choice is that you will ever make?

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    Is the person that you decide to marry.

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    Because there's no going back.

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    At least not in God's eyes.

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    There's no going back.

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    It's more important than choosing a college major.

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    It's more important than choosing a career.

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    It's more important than choosing a tattoo.

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    More important than all these, who you marry, because it's a covenant before God.

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    It's a sacred thing in the eyes of God.

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    In the eyes of God, you're bound for life, and Paul's reminding, hey, when you're bound to a spouse, there is no more liberty that comes with being single.

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    You know, in Matthew chapter 19, Jesus was talking about marriage and divorce and adultery.

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    He was being challenged, and we've talked about that passage even very recently.

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    And Jesus gave his teaching on what it means to be married and defining divorce and adultery and all of that.

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    Well, the disciples heard all this, and this was their response to Jesus.

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    After hearing the Lord teach about marriage, this is what the disciples said in response to Jesus.

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    The disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of a man with his wife, it's better not to marry." Go back and read that whole passage, and you'll see they got it.

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    They were not rebuked for this statement.

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    Jesus is like, "Yeah, but not everybody can receive that, but yeah, they got it." Marriage is not for everyone, but there is a special wisdom and dedication that single people are gifted, right?

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    Our worship team would make their way back up front.

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    Single people, do you have the gift of being single?

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    Do you have that gift?

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    You're like, "You know, I really think this might be God's gift for me, being single." Is that you?

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    Well, I want to say something to you.

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    On the authority of the Word of God, it is not inferior to being married.

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    In fact, God says very clearly, in a lot of ways, it is better.

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    But for those of you who are single and you're struggling to know, "Do I have the gift?

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    I'm not sure if I have the gift.

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    What does God have for me?" Today I just want you to consider the benefits that the Word of God laid out, that there are troubles, distractions, and obligations that you're going to be saved from.

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    Let's pray.

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    in heaven, we thank you for your Word. And I know this can be a touchy and emotional subject, but I thank you. I thank you for the tone in which you inspired Paul to communicate this, that it wasn't some hard-nosed, snarky, legalistic thing at all, but just an objective look at reality.

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    God, You give gifts.

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    Your Word is so clear.

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    You give gifts to each one of us, and for some, Father, You've given the gift of singleness, and I pray a special blessing on those that You have so set aside for specific types of ministry that married people are unable to do.

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    Father, for the single people here maybe who are struggling, not sure if it's their gift, I just ask, Father, that you would maybe use this message to give them direction on what it is exactly you do have for them.

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    For the rest of us, Father, show us how we can love and encourage our single brothers and sisters without making them feel like they're on a second tier path because according to your word, it's kind of the opposite.

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    Give us wisdom, Father, in all these things we ask in Jesus' name, amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 7:25-40

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Give some examples of “troubles” that come in marriage (internal and external) that single people are spared.

  3. How exactly are single people able to serve Jesus without “divided interests” (1 Cor 7:33)?

  4. What are some ways the church can reach single people for discipleship (without allowing it to become just a “match-making ministry”)?

Breakout

Pray for one another.

What If I'm Not Content?

Introduction:

What Should I Do If I’m Not Content? (1 Corinthians 7:17-24)

  1. I should recognize THAT MY CALLING IS A GIFT. (1 Cor 7:17)

    1 Timothy 6:6 - But godliness with contentment is great gain,

  2. I should resolve to OBEY NO MATTER WHAT. (1 Cor 7:18-19)

    John 14:23-24 - Jesus answered him, “If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. Whoever does not love me does not keep my words. And the word that you hear is not mine but the Father’s who sent me.

    1 John 5:3 - For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome.

  3. I should remember WHO I AM IN CHRIST. (1 Cor 7:20-23)

    Philippians 4:11-13 - Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned, in whatever situation I am, to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

  4. I should rejoice THAT GOD IS WITH ME. (1 Cor 7:24)

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  • 00:36-00:40

    Please open your Bibles to 1 Corinthians chapter 7, verses 17 through 24.

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    1 Corinthians chapter 7, verses 17 through 24.

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    Have you ever stopped to consider how much of your life is beyond your control?

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    And some of you are thinking, no, because that sounds very depressing.

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    It doesn't sound very fun at all.

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    And I get that, but just go with me for a second.

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    Did you have any control over when you came into this world?

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    You had no say on who your parents were, how much money they had, what hospital you were born at, what doctors delivered you.

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    Did you have any control over your genetic makeup and DNA?

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    You had zero input into what you would look like, what inherent talents you would possess, and what natural personality you would receive.

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    Are you able to control the weather?

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    Are you able to keep snow storms and frigid temperatures away?

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    If you're able to do that, you have failed us these past two months.

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    What have you been doing if you're able to control those things?

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    Where were you last night?

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    Are you able to control every single situation that pops up in your life?

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    Are you able to keep all forms of pain and suffering away?

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    I assume not because if you're able to do that, you'd be a billionaire right now because you sold your secret methods to others.

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    So much of your life is beyond your control.

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    Discontentment comes when you fail to acknowledge and submit to this basic truth.

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    And at its core, dissatisfaction, discontentment, is you not being happy with what God has given to you.

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    you being dissatisfied with who the Lord is and the life he has entrusted to you.

    02:36-02:41

    So many of your problems come from trying to control the uncontrollable.

    02:42-02:50

    Guys in the room like me who are under six feet tall, I'm sorry, those exercises, those stretches will not add any inches to your height.

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    Those height-boosting shoes aren't fooling anybody.

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    We're just gonna have to enjoy the view from down here.

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    So many of your frustrations find their root in trying to stop the inevitable.

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    Ladies, I'm sorry to say it, please don't pelt me with tomatoes and other produce.

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    You're going to get older, and there is going to be signs of aging.

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    Okay, good. (laughs) No produce, phew.

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    It's impossible to avoid.

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    Instead of resisting this, accept that your meaning is not bound up what you look like on the outside.

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    What truly matters is what you look like on the inside.

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    So many of your disappointments come from an unwillingness to accept your limitations.

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    And I'm sorry to burst your bubble, I'm sorry to ruin all the lessons you learned from Disney movies growing up, but you cannot be whoever you wanna be and do whatever you wanna do.

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    I see some of you not agreeing with me internally.

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    I'm sorry, but it's not every boy's future athlete. It's not in every girl's future to be a famous celebrity or singer. There are things that you are good at and you should work on honing those natural talents and abilities. But there are other things that you stink at and no matter how hard you try you'll never rise above mediocrity when it comes to those activities. At this point you may be thinking, "Taylor, this is my favorite sermon so far. Are you saying that I have no control over my life at all? I'm actually not saying that. You do have some control over your life, but you do not have as much control as you would like. You cannot control the life you receive from the Lord, but you can't control what you do with the life you receive from the Lord. You cannot control the calling that you are given from the hand of God, but you can control if you are discontent or content with the calling you have received from the hand of God. Which best describes you in this season of life? Discontent or content? Dissatisfied or satisfied? Unfulfilled or or fulfilled.

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    I don't think it would take much introspection for some of you to realize that you are not content right now.

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    That you lack true joy.

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    That you wake up with a sense of dread that you have to be you.

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    And that you have to deal with what's in front of you.

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    You feel like your life is stuck in limbo.

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    You feel like things will never get better.

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    feel like things will never improve.

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    You may be wondering, what should I do if I'm not content?

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    What should I do if I'm not content?

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    We're towards the beginning of the Q and A section of 1 Corinthians and that is the exact question that the Apostle Paul answers for us in 1 Corinthians chapter seven, verses 17 through 24.

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    And just like the Corinthians, you need to be reminded that true contentment is not found in your circumstances, which are always changing, true contentment is found in Jesus Christ, who never changes.

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    Let's go to the Lord in prayer and ask for His help.

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    Please pray for me, that I'll faithfully proclaim God's word, and I will pray for you, that you will faithfully receive God's word.

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    Father, we thank you for yet another opportunity to worship you together, sit under your word together as your people.

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    Lord, this is a subject that touches every single one of us.

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    There isn't a single person in this room who isn't struggling with a sense of discontentment on some level.

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    I pray you'd use your word to comfort us.

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    You would use your word to challenge us.

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    You would use your word to point us to Christ.

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    We ask all these things in Jesus' name, amen.

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    The first Corinthians 7 is mainly about marriage and singleness.

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    Two weeks ago, Pastor Jeff preached on two gifts, the gift of sex and marriage and the gift of contentment and singleness.

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    And last week, you heard four sermons for the price of one.

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    If you are single and you want to stay single and remain single.

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    If you are single and do not want to remain single, get married.

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    If you are a Christian couple, stay married.

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    If you are married to an unbeliever while you are a believer, stay in that marriage.

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    Do not cut and run once you become a Christian.

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    God may use you to save your unbelieving spouse.

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    You can only control yourself in that situation.

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    You can control if you stay.

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    If that unbelieving spouse chooses to leave you, that is on him or her.

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    You cannot control what they do.

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    You can only control what you do.

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    And this kind of marital situation is hard.

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    I don't wanna sugarcoat it.

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    It's not easy or simple on any level.

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    It's painful, but according to this text, that will be used by God for his purposes.

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    No matter your relational status, it is not your job to figure out what God is up to.

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    It's your job to submit to the life that God has given to you.

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    It's your job to play the cards you've been dealt instead of throwing them down and walking away from the table.

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    This principle for marriage and singleness applies to every other area of life as well.

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    your social status, your family, your finances, your career, and the list goes on and on.

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    In verses 17 through 24, Paul jumps off the main highway of marriage and singleness to explore a much needed detour.

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    So let's return to our main question for this morning that sums up this detour.

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    What should I do if I'm not content?

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    What should I do if I'm not content?

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    Firstly, I should recognize that my calling is a gift.

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    I should recognize that my calling is a gift.

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    Let's read chapter seven, verse 17.

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    The apostle Paul writes, "Only let each person lead the life "the Lord has assigned to him "and to which God has called him.

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    "This is my rule in all the churches." Do you have house rules in your family?

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    Do you have expectations that are to be followed?

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    No Nerf gun bullets to the face, no running with scissors, bedtime is at 8 p.m. sharp, only kind and respectful words will be spoken in this family.

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    In this verse, the Apostle Paul makes it crystal clear that he has a house rule for the Corinthian church and every other church as well.

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    He establishes an expectation as for each person in all the churches.

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    Are you a person in the church?

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    Then this verse applies to you.

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    Paul gives no wiggle room, he gives you no excuse, he gives you no hall pass.

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    If you were a Christian, you were expected to obey what the apostle Paul has to say.

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    And what does he have to say?

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    Be faithful where God has placed you.

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    Be faithful where God has placed you.

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    Instead of constantly daydreaming about what's next, focus on what's in front of you.

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    Is that hard for anybody else besides me?

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    It's so tempting for life to become a series of what's next.

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    You and I can think, oh man, this current season of life stinks.

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    I can't wait for the next thing 'cause it's gonna be so much better.

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    When you're in middle school, what are you looking forward to?

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    High school, you're excited to get out of those years of early puberty and Axe body spray.

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    You can't wait.

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    When you're in high school, what are you anxious for?

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    Getting out of high school and going to the workforce or college.

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    Once you're in the workforce or college, what are you looking forward to?

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    Meeting that special someone?

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    And then once you meet that special someone, what are you anxious for?

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    Marriage and children.

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    And then once you're married and you have kids, or one kid, two kids, three kids, four kids, five kids for even some of you, when you're in the midst of the hardship of parenting, what are you anxious for?

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    Getting them out of the house.

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    Thank you, Andrew.

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    You're very excited to say that.

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    For your kids to mature, to get older, and to get out of the house, as Andrew Colburn would say.

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    You're excited for the house to be quiet.

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    But once the house is quiet, what are you anxious for?

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    For the loud noises to come back in the form of grandkids, to finally reach that retirement you've been working so hard for.

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    You don't want to set your alarm anymore.

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    But then once you're retired, you're thinking, What's next?

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    What is going to be my final chapter?

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    So much of my life can be spent on wishing it away.

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    And so much of your life can be spent on wishing it away.

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    Instead of being present in the moment, you and I can be fixated, I'm pressing the fast forward button so we can just get on with it already.

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    Because satisfaction must come when you climb that next ladder.

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    But then it doesn't.

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    So you keep climbing and you keep being disappointed.

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    The grass must be greener once you ascend that next hill, but then it isn't.

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    You keep walking up and down each hill, hoping for what won't be there.

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    The next thing has to be more fulfilling than this current season of life.

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    It won't be, because if you're not content with what you have right now, you will not be content with what you have then.

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    It's never been more challenging in the history of the world to be fully present than it is in 2026.

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    You and I have a device in our pockets that are gateways to discontentment and thanklessness.

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    You're constantly bombarded with videos and images of people's lives that seem better than your own.

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    "Oh, if only I could have that SUV or that minivan.

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    If only I could have a house that nice.

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    If only I could have that remodeled kitchen or bathroom.

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    If only I could afford that dream vacation.

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    If only my husband was as handy as that guy on that reel.

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    If only my wife was as supportive as that woman on that account.

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    If only my kids were that well behaved.

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    If only I didn't live in a place that was gray and overcast and snowy for what seems six months of the year.

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    If only, if only, if only, if only.

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    If only is a thief of joy.

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    If only is a recipe for discontentment.

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    If only obscures the reality that your life and the calling given to you from God are precious gifts.

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    To be clear, I'm not saying that it's wrong to consider the future, that it's wrong to plan ahead.

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    It's wise to think over, pray over, and make career moves.

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    It's a good thing to save for retirement and wanna leave something for your kids and grandkids.

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    It's not a bad thing to move or want a bigger space for your family.

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    Godly ambition can be a good thing, but there is a very thin line between godly ambition and ungodly discontentment.

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    Godly ambition and ungodly discontentment.

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    What's the difference?

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    Godly ambition looks like this.

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    God, thank you for all the good gifts that you've given to me.

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    Help me to invest my talents, my resources, my efforts into your kingdom for the sake of my family and for the sake of your glory.

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    Well, ungodly discontentment looks like this.

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    God, what you've given me is not good enough.

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    I need more.

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    Godly ambition is a life of open-handedness to the Lord.

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    Everything that you have belongs to Him, and everything you do is for His sake.

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    While ungodly discontentment is a life of pointing the finger of blame at God.

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    Everything that you have is yours, and everything you do is for your sake.

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    Do you see the difference?

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    In this verse, Paul is telling you enough of ungodly discontentment, enough of bitterness and resentment, enough of being thankless.

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    Stop being faithless and start being faithful.

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    No matter your circumstance, no matter your station in life, you can honor Christ.

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    What life has the Lord assigned to you?

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    What calling has God given you in this season of life?

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    Are you a teenager or a college student who's tired of taking tests, writing papers, and sitting in a classroom?

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    Recognize that your calling as a student is a gift from God.

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    Give your studies 100% of your effort because you are not working for your parents, you're not working for your teachers or your professors.

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    Who are you working for?

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    You are working for Christ.

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    You're working for the Lord himself.

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    Are you a mom whose life feels like Groundhog's Day?

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    Every single day feels the exact same, it's just the same thing over and over and over again.

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    Recognize that your calling as a mother is a gift from God.

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    Be faithful and pour into your children, point them to Jesus Christ every single chance that you get.

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    you'll never be able to press the rewind button and see your kids at the age they are now, even though you'll desperately want to.

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    Be faithful with this opportunity that God has given to you.

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    Are you in a job that you hate?

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    Are you in a job that is thankless and unfulfilling?

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    Recognize that that calling is a gift from God, even when it seems like a curse.

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    Don't be lazy, don't just skate by.

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    Outwork every single person at work, at the office, until that next opportunity arises.

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    Share the gospel, be faithful in showing your coworkers who Jesus Christ is.

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    I wish I had the time and ability to address all of your specific circumstances, but I don't really need to, because this principle from Paul applies to every single one of you.

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    Whatever you do and wherever you are, recognize your calling is a gift from God.

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    Be content, be thankful, be faithful.

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    Because Paul says elsewhere, godliness with contentment is great gain.

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    Discontentment always leads to loss, while contentment always leads to gain.

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    What should I do if I'm not content?

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    Secondly, I should resolve to obey no matter what.

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    I should resolve to obey no matter what.

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    After Paul commands the Corinthians to be faithful and content, he provides a real life example of what it looks like to be faithful and content.

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    Let's read verse 18.

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    Was anyone at the time of his call circumcised?

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    Let him not seek to remove the marks of circumcision.

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    Was anyone at the time of his call uncircumcised?

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    Let him not seek circumcision.

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    I know what you're thinking.

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    Oh dear, this is not the direction I expected this passage to take.

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    How is Pastor Taylor gonna apply this to my life?

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    How is he gonna explain this?

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    Well, I'm gonna take a page out of Pastor Jeff's book and not be explicit, but be straightforward.

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    In Paul's day, circumcision was not a medical issue.

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    It was a societal and religious issue.

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    Under the old covenant, the Israelites were commanded to circumcise their baby boys on the eighth day.

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    And circumcision was an outward sign that these boys were to be set apart for God and different than the pagan nations surrounding them.

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    And this outward sign is no longer needed.

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    this side of the cross and the empty tomb and the new covenant, we are not expected or commanded to carry out circumcision.

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    In this verse, Paul is addressing two sets of men in Corinth, those who are already circumcised and those who are not circumcised.

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    He has a very similar message for both groups.

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    If you're circumcised, don't try to remove the marks of your circumcision to blend in with the Gentiles.

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    I have no desire to get into the details of what that exactly means.

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    Let me just say that 2,000 years ago, Jewish Christian men had the option to have a surgery to undo what was done to them as infants.

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    And you may be thinking, why in the world would they wanna do that?

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    That sounds horrible.

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    We have to remember that Corinth was a Roman city.

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    It was filled with anti-Semitism, with hatred of Jews.

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    So Christian men would be tempted to make this change to blend in.

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    To use a modern day example, this would be like moving to Cleveland and to add insult to injury, you trade in all of your Steeler stuff for Cleveland Browns memorabilia.

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    Why do you do that?

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    'Cause you don't wanna be ridiculed.

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    You don't wanna be made fun of.

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    You wanna blend in in this new place that you live.

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    You make an external change to please other people.

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    And that was the temptation for Jewish Christians in Corinth.

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    On the other hand, Paul calls those who were uncircumcised to not seek circumcision because that would be pointless.

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    Back then there was a group called the Judaizers who believed that you had to be circumcised as a man to be saved.

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    But that totally goes against the message of Paul and the other apostles.

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    Paul is saying in this verse, if you were a Jewish Christian, Don't try to be like a Gentile Christian.

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    If you're a Gentile Christian, don't try to be Jewish.

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    That's a waste of time because you're both on equal footing.

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    You're both one in Christ.

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    And Paul explains this in even more detail in verse 19.

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    He says, "For neither circumcision counts for anything "nor uncircumcision, but keeping the commandments of God." that you're faithful.

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    An uncircumcision does not prove that you're unfaithful.

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    What matters, according to this text, heartfelt obedience to the Lord's commands.

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    God isn't after external religious rituals that cannot change you.

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    He is after an inward change that leads to an outward change.

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    God doesn't want you just to look the part and pretend that you have true faith.

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    He wants you to act the part and live out your faith.

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    And the test of true faith is that you are willing to obey God no matter what.

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    You are willing to obey Him even when life is hard, even when life isn't going the way you want it to, even when the world is telling you to do the exact opposite.

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    The Roman world pressured Jewish Christians to blend in while God commanded them to stand out.

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    The Judaizers pressured Gentile Christians to follow the ceremonial law that they could blend in with them while God called them to a deeper level of obedience and submission. Who should the Jewish Christians obey? The Romans and Corinth or God? God. Who should the Gentile Christians obey? The Judaizers or God?

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    You guys can do a lot better.

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    I'm giving you one more chance for this third one.

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    Who should you obey, this sinful culture or God?

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    Much better.

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    Here's the thing.

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    It's so challenging to obey God and his word when you are discontent.

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    Why is that?

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    When you are discontent, you can believe that God isn't holding up his end of the bargain, so why should you?

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    You can view your relationship with God as an exchange of goods and services.

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    God gives you material wealth, he gives you good health, he gives you easy weeks with the least amount of road bumps possible, and in exchange, you obey him with joy in your heart and a smile on your face.

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    But when your health takes a bad turn, when you get a pay decrease, when you receive a pink slip, when you experience the hardest week of your life, you feel betrayed by the Lord, and you no longer wanna give Him what He has owed.

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    You feel like Charlie Brown, when he went to kick the football at the last minute, it's pulled away by Lucy, and he has a somersault into his back.

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    You just feel totally dejected, totally betrayed.

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    You just want to take your ball and go home.

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    But friends, it is in those moments when you come face to face with the real motivation for your obedience to the Lord.

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    Do you obey Him because of who He is?

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    Or do you obey Him for what you can get from Him?

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    Do you listen to Him because you desire to twist His arm into giving you what you want?

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    Or do you listen to Him no matter what.

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    Do you follow his instructions because you love him?

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    Or do you follow his instructions to use him?

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    The Lord sees right through your exterior.

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    He sees right through the polished outside you can have, and he sees your motivations.

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    Like the Corinthians, you can focus on the wrong thing.

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    You can focus on the outside instead of the heart, instead of the obedience that God is calling you to.

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    You can come to church, you can participate in small group but still live in blatant disobedience behind closed doors.

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    You can say the right things but not do the right things.

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    You can talk the talk but not walk the walk.

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    Is that you today?

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    Am I describing you at all?

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    If I am, it's time to stop faking.

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    It's time to own up to your sin.

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    It's time to come to grips with your discontentment and your warped rationale for obeying or disobeying the Lord.

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    It's time to keep God's commandments no matter what, no matter what life throws your way.

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    This isn't my opinion.

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    This is God's authoritative word.

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    Listen to what Jesus says about this in John 14, 23 through 24.

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    He says, "If anyone loves me, he will keep my word.

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    Whoever does not love me does not keep my word." Could it be any clearer than that?

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    The apostle John ups the ante in 1 John 5, 3, "For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments, and his commandments are not burdensome." Your love for God is not proven by checking all the Christian boxes.

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    Your love for God is not proven by having all the correct theological answers.

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    Your love for God is not proven by your feelings.

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    Your love for God is proven by your obedience.

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    It's an objective test.

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    And obedience, no matter what, is hard, but it's rewarding.

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    Obedience no matter what will take everything that you have, but it will give you more than you could possibly imagine.

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    Obedience no matter what is costly, but it's not impossible.

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    What should I do if I'm not content?

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    Number three, I should remember who I am in Christ.

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    I should remember who I am in Christ.

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    So, Paul gives another practical example of faithfulness and contentment in action.

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    He moves on from a controversial and uncomfortable topic to an even more controversial and uncomfortable topic, slavery.

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    Let's read verses 20 through 21.

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    Each one should remain in the condition in which he was called.

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    Were you a bond servant when called?

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    Don't be concerned about it.

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    But if you gain your freedom, avail yourself of the opportunity.

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    I could spend half this sermon talking to you about how slavery 2,000 years ago looked a lot different than it did in America, and how it looks across the world today.

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    I could deliver a long and boring lecture about indentured servitude, which is the truth that in the first century, many people willingly sold themselves into slavery to pay off debts, to manage households, to have a successful business.

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    I can tell you that 50% of the Roman Empire were slaves, and most of the time manual labor was not a part of the deal.

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    I keep going and going and going, but I'm not going to preach my homework because it doesn't affect the meaning of this text.

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    Paul is in no way trying to celebrate or endorse slavery in this passage or anywhere else in his letters at all.

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    Paul is not a fan of slavery on any level.

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    Is that clear to everyone?

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    Okay, good.

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    In fact, Paul even says, if you have an opportunity to gain your freedom, take it.

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    Grab a hold of it.

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    Enjoy your freedom.

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    But he also offers a very blunt reality to those Corinthian Christians who are slaves but will not receive their freedom anytime soon.

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    He says, don't worry about it.

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    Don't be concerned about it.

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    Remain where you are.

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    How could Paul say something like that?

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    It sounds so cold and unfeeling.

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    Well, not really.

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    Paul was never willing to call people to something that he wasn't willing to do himself.

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    Sure, Paul wasn't a slave, but he was a prisoner for a decent chunk of his life.

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    Did Paul resist that God-given assignment?

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    Did he waste his time complaining and hatching elaborate escape plans?

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    No, he remained in the position that God called him to with humility and contentment.

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    I'll prove it to you.

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    Listen to Philippians 4, 11 through 13, the most out of context taken passage in the history of the Bible.

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    And most people totally do not understand.

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    Paul wrote this while he was a prisoner.

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    I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.

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    I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound in any and every circumstance.

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    I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance, and need.

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    What's the secret, Paul?

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    I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

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    I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

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    Paul practiced what he preached.

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    He led by example.

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    He learned through experience that Jesus was all he needed because there were many times when Jesus was all that he had.

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    If that doesn't convince you, check out Paul's rationale for remaining as a slave.

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    In verses 22 through 23, he says, "For he who was called to the Lord as a bondservant is a freed man of the Lord.

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    Likewise, he who was free when called a bondservant of Christ. You were bought with a price. Do not become bondservants of men. So what's Paul's rationale here for remaining as a slave? If you are a Christian slave, remember that you are free in Christ. Because of Christ's death on the cross, this victorious resurrection, you have been forgiven, you have been redeemed, you have been ransomed from the slave market of sin, you've been set free from the power and penalty of sin.

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    Your sinful debt has been paid in full and you owe nothing.

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    And if you're a Christian who is not enslaved to an earthly master, don't look down on your Christian brother or sister who is enslaved to an earthly master.

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    Because even though you may not have a earthly master in this life, you have a heavenly master that you are enslaved to.

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    You are enslaved to Jesus Christ.

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    Your life is to be in service of him and what he has called you to do.

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    So don't be high and mighty because you are a slave.

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    He says to both groups, you were bought with a price.

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    You were bought with the precious blood of Jesus.

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    You have immense value because God says that you do.

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    God would not spend the most valuable resource in existence on that which is worthless in his eyes.

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    Again, you have worth because God says that you do.

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    In light of this, Paul commands the Corinthians to not become bondservants of men.

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    What does that mean?

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    Don't become enshackled to the thoughts and opinions of others.

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    How other people view you has no bearing on how God views you.

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    Your man-given identity in the world does not affect your God-given identity in Christ.

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    The opinion of others matters very little in comparison to the authoritative opinion of the creator of the universe.

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    Maybe you feel down about yourself right now.

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    You feel like your contribution to this church is negligible.

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    You're envious of those who seem to have a lot of talents 'cause you don't think you're good at anything.

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    You're envious of those who have a lot of confidence because you have no confidence.

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    You're embarrassed to tell people what you do for a living.

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    You're even embarrassed to invite people over to your small house.

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    Or maybe you're on the other side of the spectrum.

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    You have a very high view of yourself.

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    You feed on the praise and affirmation of others.

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    You're buying into your own press.

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    Do you know who can both lift you up and bring you back down to earth at the same time?

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    Dogs.

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    Some of you were surprised by that.

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    Brian thought something different I was gonna say.

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    If you have a dog, you know exactly what I mean.

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    My dog Murdoch has no regard for my appearance.

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    He couldn't care less if I'm skinny or overweight.

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    He couldn't care less if I'm up 20 pounds or down 30 pounds.

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    Murdoch has no regard for the money in my account.

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    If I were to list my many successes to him, he wouldn't be impressed at all.

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    If I were to list my many, many, many more failures, he wouldn't judge me or look down on me.

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    Whether this sermon tanks or succeeds, Murdoch will treat me the same exact way when I get home.

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    He'll run up to me with that goofy grin on his face, with his tail wagging and pawing at me for attention.

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    Murdoch's love for me has not changed from day to day.

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    His love is firm and fixed.

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    Murdoch shows no partiality or preferential treatment.

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    Do you know who else doesn't show partiality or preferential treatment?

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    The Lord.

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    God does not play favorites with his children.

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    He loves low-status Christians just as much as believers who are viewed as successful and accomplished.

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    He cherishes women who cannot have biological children just as much as women who can.

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    God's view of you does not depend upon your status and popularity, God's view of you depends upon His Son and what He has done for you.

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    If you don't feel content right now, stop looking at your circumstances.

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    Start looking at the cross of Christ where God's love for you was displayed in the most graphic and conclusive way possible.

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    Stop thinking about who you are in the eyes of the world.

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    Think about who you are in the eyes of God.

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    Consider who you are in Christ, loved, cherished, adopted, free from the power of sin forever and bound to Jesus Christ forever.

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    What should I do if I'm not content?

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    Finally, I should rejoice that God is with me.

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    I should rejoice that God is with me.

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    Paul makes one final appeal, to be faithful where God has placed you.

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    Let's read verse 24.

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    So brothers, in whatever condition each was called, there, let him remain with God.

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    What's the motivation for remaining where you are?

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    What's the motivation for being faithful where God has placed you?

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    That same God is with you wherever you go.

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    No matter what job you have, God is with you.

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    No matter your financial struggles, God is with you.

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    No matter your relational status, God is with you there.

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    And he will never leave you or forsake you.

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    Have you ever had to go on a walk with a fast walker?

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    Or go on a hike with someone that you cannot keep up with?

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    No matter how hard you try, no matter how much you lengthen your stride, there is always way ahead of you and you are lagging so far behind.

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    So often that's how we feel when it comes to our relationship with the Lord.

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    Like he's an infinite amount of steps in front of us and we'll never be able to catch up.

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    It just feels hopeless.

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    He's always gonna feel so distant.

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    He's always gonna feel so far away.

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    Is that actually true?

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    God is in step with you the entire time.

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    He is right there with you, comforting you, encouraging you, calling you to keep it up instead of giving up.

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    Do you feel discontent?

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    Do you feel alone?

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    Do you feel like no one cares about you?

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    No one sees the struggles that you're going through?

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    It's my hope this morning that you will believe in God's nearness like never before.

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    It is my prayer that you will believe in God's presence even when he feels far away.

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    You may be discontent this morning because the content of your life is so shallow.

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    You are discontent because you do not know Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord.

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    You are trusting in the provision of this world, which never satisfies, instead the provision of Christ, which eternally satisfies.

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    You will never experience true and lasting fulfillment until you turn from your sin and and you turn to Jesus Christ, who will satisfy you both now and forever.

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    He won't give you all that you want, but he will give you all that you need.

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    On the other hand, you may know Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord, but you're still discontent.

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    And why is that?

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    Because you were expecting what God never promised in the first place.

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    You're forgetting that Jesus Christ didn't come to this earth to suffer, die, and rise again to give you more of the stuff of this world that will just be taken away from you when you die.

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    Jesus Christ came and did all those things to give you that which can never be taken away from you, to give you that which will be even more satisfying and enjoyable when you stand in his presence.

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    Until that day, be faithful, no matter your location, no matter your calling, no matter your limitations, live the life that God has assigned to you.

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    Enjoy every single moment he gives you as a precious gift.

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    God didn't save you from your sins so you could lead a successful life in the eyes of the world.

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    God saved you so that you would faithfully do what he's called you to do in every single season of life.

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    Let's pray.

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    Father, we come to you as your people and we admit that we can be discontent, that we grumble, we complain both internally and externally, we grumble in our minds and we grumble with our mouths.

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    Lord, help us to remember how truly blessed we are in Christ that we have been forgiven, we have been redeemed, we have been adopted into your family and we are bound for heaven.

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    And when life is hard, help us to remember that it's through many tribulations we must enter the kingdom of heaven.

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    It shouldn't be a surprising thing that we go through fiery trials.

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    Lord, it should be a constant reminder of how much we need you.

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    It should be a constant reminder that we can't live this life on our own.

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    I'll lift up those who do not know you this morning.

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    May they not be able to leave this room until they place their faith and trust in Jesus Christ alone for salvation.

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    And for those of us who do know and love you, but are struggling with discontentment, Father, help us not to leave this room until we talk to someone else about this.

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    Until we ask someone else for prayer, we ask someone else for encouragement.

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    Help us to be the body of Christ this morning, not just individuals coming and then leaving, but a family who is here for one another.

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    We ask all these things in Jesus' name, amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 7:17-24

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. What is the difference between godly ambition and ungodly discontentment?

  3. What are you the most discontent with right now? How can you take steps to address this dissatisfaction in your heart?

  4. What is your calling and assignment from the Lord in this season of life? How can you be faithful where He has placed you?

Breakout

Pray for one another.

What If I'm Not in a Biblical Marriage?

Introduction:

Matters of Marriage: A Word for Each of You. (1 Corinthians 7:8-16)

  1. Singles: Enjoy the GIFT of SINGLENESS or GET MARRIED. (1 Cor 7:8-9)

    Single & Want to Get Married? 3 Don'ts:

    1. Don't SETTLE.

    2. Don't Look for the RIGHT PERSON.

    3. Don't Seek MARRIAGE – Seek LOVE.

  2. Married Christians: STAY MARRIED. (1 Cor 7:10-11)

  3. Married to a NonChristian (Who Wants to Stay Married): STAY MARRIED. (1 Cor 7:12-14)

  4. Married to a NonChristian (Who Wants to Leave): LET THEM GO. (1 Cor 7:15-16)

    Romans 7:2For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage.

    Matthew 19:8He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce...”

    Matthew 19:9 - “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”

Sermon Notes (PDF): BLANK
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  • 00:36-00:39

    Open up those Bibles, 1 Corinthians chapter 7.

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    Chapter 7.

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    We're in the third section of 1 Corinthians.

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    Chapters 1 through 4 is about unity.

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    Like church, get it together.

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    Chapters 5 and 6 are about purity.

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    And then when we get to chapter 7 verse 1, you see that Paul is addressing some questions that they had.

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    And the first subject of this Q&A session is marriage.

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    So that's where we are.

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    We go where the text takes us.

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    I'm going to ask that you would please just quiet your heart before the Lord for a moment and pray for me to be faithful to communicate God's Word.

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    This is a passage that is going to get a reaction, and it's not about really my opinion or your opinion, it's what did God actually say?

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    That's what we're going after, right?

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    So pray for me to be faithful to clearly communicate what God said.

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    I will pray for you to have a heart open to receive what it is that God said.

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    All right, let's just take a moment and pray.

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    Our Father in heaven, I know that many times in my life I've had strong opinions about things that have had to change because of what your Word says.

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    Because at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter what any of us think, Father, It only matters what you think.

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    So I just pray that you would give us wisdom, that you would eliminate any distractions in our hearts and minds so we can just lock into what your Word has to say here.

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    It's for the glory of your name.

    02:46-03:00

    We pray in Jesus' name, and all of God's people said, "Amen." If you've been with us at all through our series in 1 Corinthians, we've seen that everything was a mess, right?

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    So now Paul's talking about marriage and no surprise, marriage was a mess.

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    We talked about this last week.

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    There were people strong on the single side and there were people strong on the marriage side.

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    Which one is good?

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    And the answer is both of them are good.

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    Marriage was a mess in Corinth, and if we're going to be honest, we're not doing so hot here today either.

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    As I was preparing this, I get an email that has just short news articles in it and updates and things like that.

    03:39-03:42

    And I just read this on Friday, I wanted to share part of this article with you.

    03:43-03:50

    This is the newest craze, I haven't heard of this one, maybe you have, but the newest craze is divorce rings.

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    Have you heard of divorce rings?

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    Raise your hand if you've heard of divorce rings.

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    Okay, a couple of you have, all right.

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    This is new as far as this article told us, but I just want to read part of it.

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    It says, "The diamond ring Alex Weinstein," that's a female, "wears every day is a reminder that once upon a time she said, "I do," these days she happily says she does not.

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    Weinstein got divorced last March and tossed her engagement ring in a drawer for a few months. Then the Tampa, Florida-based content creator decided to make herself a divorce ring. She reset a radiant three-carat stone from her ex- husband into gold, turning it east to west in a bezel." I should have looked up what that meant.

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    Anybody know what a bezel is?

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    Okay, nobody?

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    All right, I shouldn't have said anything, huh?

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    I was safe until I just said that.

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    All right, noted.

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    That helps me for the second service.

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    The shame and stigma, the article goes on, "The shame and stigma of divorce has been replaced for some women with empowerment and celebration.

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    While diamond rings have long been a cultural signifier of marriage, some women are also choosing to mark the end of their matrimonies with a little bling.

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    Weinstein says, "I'm not proud of getting divorced, but I am proud of putting myself first.

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    Why shouldn't I celebrate this chapter of my life?" Why am I sharing this article with you?

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    Because I think if anything sort of personifies how far we have drifted as a culture from God's ideal, I think this kind of nails it.

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    We are celebrating divorce.

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    We are celebrating it!

    06:00-06:04

    You know, we look at Corinth and we're like, "Man, those people were messed up." Us people are messed up.

    06:08-06:20

    Back to Corinth, though, some would say...some in Corinth had said, "Excuse me." Some said, "You know, being single is actually being more devoted to God." And they actually had married people get a divorce.

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    Like, "Hey, you'll be more devoted to God if you get the divorce." And then there were some that said, "Look, if you want to be devoted to God, you can't have intimate relations with a woman.

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    So if you want to stay married, just don't have any intimacy." Those were some of the thoughts they had in Corinth, and both of those are wrong.

    06:50-06:54

    In the previous passage, again, Paul said, "Staying single is good.

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    Marriage is good.

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    And intimacy in marriage should be a regular thing.

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    But what if I'm not in a biblical marriage?

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    What I mean is, what if I'm not married to a Christian?

    07:13-07:29

    I mean, you could go through the last couple of messages and say, "Oh, that's well and good for two people who love Jesus Christ, have the Word of God as their authority, and Oh yeah, like easy for them.

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    But what about me, Paul?

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    My spouse isn't a believer, so what am I supposed to do?

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    Should I just get a divorce?

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    What should I do?

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    Well, in this section we're looking at today, Paul clarifies matters of marriage addressing everyone in the church. Literally everyone in the church and everyone in this church. So this is kind of a good news/bad news thing. We're not having one sermon today. You're like, "All right, we are having four sermons today. All right, four sermons." Because each of these are very specifically addressed to a different group. So first up, matters of marriage, a word for each of you. You can take notes on the other ones if you like, but pay attention into the category you fall. Number one, singles. Singles, a word for you, here it is. Enjoy the gift of singleness or get married. Enjoy the gift of singleness or get married. All right, so if you're here and you're single, if you're streaming and you're single, if for you. All right? If you're single, enjoy that if it's a gift or get married. Look at verse 8. Paul says, "To the unmarried and the widows, I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am." Unmarried for any reason, right? Paul, once again, this is a We're going to go through this quickly.

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    We talked all about this last week.

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    Paul said being single is good.

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    Right?

    09:23-09:24

    Being single is good.

    09:24-09:26

    Why is he circling back to that?

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    Because there were Jews in Corinth that said, "You couldn't be holy unless you were married." That was a common Jewish mindset in that day.

    09:35-09:36

    You couldn't be holy unless you were married.

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    Paul's like, "That's not true." All right?

    09:41-09:43

    It's a gift for some people.

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    And Paul listed himself as one of those people.

    09:48-09:50

    Paul here very clearly says that he was single.

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    Like what happened to Paul?

    09:52-09:52

    Did he get a divorce?

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    Did his wife leave him?

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    Is he a widower?

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    We have no idea.

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    We don't know the details, but we know from this verse that he was single.

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    Okay, so single people, listen.

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    not denying that there are pressures to being single that married couples do not have. Things like loneliness, things like trying to manage a household yourself.

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    There are pressures that single people experience that married people don't.

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    But Paul is reminding the single people again, it is not wrong.

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    You don't have to feel like you're a second-rate Christian because you're not married.

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    It is not wrong.

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    And we're going to see later in this chapter, there are actually some advantages to being single.

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    All right, but look at verse 9.

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    He says, "But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry.

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    For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." So Paul's like, "Okay, you're single, but you have those urges.

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    You can't control yourself.

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    You like want to be with a person so badly.

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    Like you found that being single really isn't for you.

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    What should I do?

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    Paul's like, get married.

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    Get married.

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    He says it's better to marry than to burn.

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    Again, we talked about this last week.

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    If you have the gift of singleness, you aren't burning.

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    But if you have those desires, God gave the right context to use them.

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    That's why he says get married.

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    Get married.

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    You have the passion, you have the desire, get married.

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    I've got to say a couple of things about that, unless somebody runs out of here today, runs right across the street to Pantera Bread, and is like, "Look, Pastor Jeff said to get married.

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    Are you single?" No, okay, "Are you single?" "No, I'm going to find somebody.

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    Pastor Jeff said to get married.

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    It's right in the Bible.

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    I've got to find somebody today." Let's pump the brakes for a second.

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    All right?

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    If you're single and you want to get married, I'm going to give you three don'ts here, all right?

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    He says to get married, yes, but I want to caution you on a couple of things here.

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    Three don'ts.

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    Letter A, don't settle.

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    Don't settle.

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    I know being single can be hard.

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    Do you know what's harder than being single?

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    Being married to the wrong person.

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    Rushing into a marriage, not really knowing somebody, not understanding they don't really love you, they don't really love the Lord as they should.

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    It is absolutely heartbreaking how many times I've seen that.

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    Somebody wanting marriage so badly that the first single person that comes along that looks eligible and there's some kind of interest, we're rushing right into it, and oh, the regret that comes from that.

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    I've made a huge mistake.

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    What do I do now?

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    settle. Letter B, don't look for the right person. Don't look for the right person.

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    Like, wait a minute, you just said it was bad to be married to the wrong person, now you're telling me not to look for the right person? Yeah, don't look for the right person. You need to focus on trying to be the right person, all right? Try to to be the right person. In the early days of this church when we were really teeny tiny we had a single guy that came to me. He came up to me, he goes, "Pastor Jeff, I think I'm going to go to another church." I'm like, "Oh, why? What's the matter?" He goes, "I love this church so much, but I really want to meet somebody and I just really want to get married." Not a lot of single people in that tiny church. And I said, "That's a terrible way to pick a church. You know, who's got the best single scene? I said, "That's a terrible way to pick a church." I said, "You need to find a church where God is feeding you and where God is using you. You find a church where that's happening, you trust God to do the rest." He's like, "You're right." He goes, "You're right." And it wasn't long after that he did find a single lady, even in her teeny tiny church, and they're married. They since moved away and they have like, I I don't know, 20 or 25 kids, I don't know.

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    But the point was he was willing to trust God and seeking God first and seeking to be the person worth marrying, not just trying to find the right person for him.

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    So try to be the right person for somebody else.

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    Letter C, I read this great advice from a pastor this past week.

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    He said, "Don't seek marriage, seek love." Don't seek marriage, seek love.

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    Because ultimately, you're going to marry the person that you fall in love with.

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    All right?

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    So when Paul here says, "Look, if you have the desire," he goes, "Don't burn with passion." He goes, "Go get married.

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    Go get married." But again, let's temper that with, let's not rush into anything.

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    It's going to bring regret.

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    God has called you, God has called all of us to be content and thankful in every chapter of life we find ourselves.

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    So singles, this sermon's for you.

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    Enjoy the gift of singleness or get married.

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    All right?

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    All right, next sermon.

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    This is for married Christians.

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    Are you and your spouse both Christians?

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    a word for you. Stay married. Very simple. Very simple. Look at verse 10. Paul says, "To the married I give this charge, not I, but the Lord. The wife should not separate from her husband." Not separate, obviously, he's talking about divorce. So he's talking here specifically to Christian couples.

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    We know this because he talks about mixed couples in verse 12.

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    And by the way, let's get this out of the way.

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    When we talk about mixed couples, or we talk about intermarrying, that has nothing to do with race.

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    There's only one race, there's the human race.

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    So as long as you're marrying another human of the opposite sex, oh, the things I didn't think I'd have to say.

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    Race doesn't matter.

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    Okay?

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    So when we talk about mixed marriages, biblically there is no such thing except for mixed faith.

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    That's what the Bible forbids, mixed faith marriages.

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    He talks about them in a second, all right?

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    I felt like I had to say that.

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    So Christian couples, Paul says, "I get a word for you," he goes, "not I, but the Lord." Meaning Paul's like, "Look, what I'm about to tell you came straight from the mouth of Jesus Christ Himself." This is the Lord's charge, all right?

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    The Lord's charge is, Christian couples, no divorce.

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    Divorce isn't an option.

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    Divorce isn't a word that's said in your home.

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    Jesus talked about this so many times, Matthew 5, Matthew 19, Mark 10, Luke 16.

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    Jesus taught over and over that marriage is meant to be lifelong.

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    All right?

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    So we're going to try you out for a year or two, if it's not going to work, we have our exit strategy. That's not how marriage is designed according to our Lord. Marriage is meant to be lifelong. And remember, there were some Corinthians that thought, "Yeah, but if you really want to be devoted to God, you've got to get a divorce." And Paul here is just saying, "You know, God's not on board with that." I mean, just imagine for a second.

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    for a second if that sentiment was legitimate. Let's just pretend for a second that you could be more devoted to God, you could be more devoted to Jesus if you got a divorce. Do you see what would happen? Everyone that's looking for an out would just use that excuse.

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    They'd be like, "You know what, sweetheart?

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    I think we should get a divorce because I just want to love Jesus more." Right?

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    It'd start a new phrase.

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    It would be, "It's not you, it's Him." Right?

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    But that was the mindset they had.

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    And Paul's like, "No, no, no, no.

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    The words of our Lord are quite clear.

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    Don't get a divorce." But then you have the person that's like, "Oh, Paul, I wish you would have wrote this letter two weeks ago, because I did buy it.

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    You know what?

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    Yeah, we are both believers, but I bought into the idea that getting a divorce would benefit my walk.

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    So what do you do if you are both Christians and you did get a divorce?

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    What do you do about that?" Well, look at verse 11.

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    He says, "But if she does get a divorce, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband.

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    And the husband should not divorce his wife." Okay, so if you're like, "You know what?

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    I did get the divorce, and now looking back, we are both believers.

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    I shouldn't have done that." Paul goes, "Okay, well now you have two choices.

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    You're either unmarried the rest of your life, or go back to your husband and get back on track." Like, "I'm not sure that's possible." Well, if you're both Christians, forgiveness and healing and reconciliation should not be foreign concepts to you.

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    So if you and your spouse are both Christians, stay married.

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    All right?

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    And as we saw last week, verse 3, married Christian couples, pay your debt.

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    All right?

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    I know that's the sermon that always gets applied.

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    I know the nursery is going to be restocked in about nine months.

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    I know.

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    So married Christians.

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    All right.

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    This is where things get even more difficult.

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    This is addressed to those of you who are married to a non-Christian.

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    And I know there are some people in this church that are married to a non-Christian.

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    But this non-Christian wants to stay married.

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    Okay, you're like, "Yeah, my husband's not a believer, or my wife's not a believer, and Like, she's okay with me being a believer, and she's okay with me going to church, and she wants to stay married, so what do I do?

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    What do I do here?

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    God says, "Stay married." Stay married.

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    You know, back in, look at the, back in chapter 6 verse 15, we talked about this a couple of weeks ago.

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    Paul says, talking about those who were being sexually immoral with the cult prostitutes, he says, "Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ?

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    Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute?

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    Never." You see, there would have been some that heard this principle like, "Okay, so me physically being with a prostitute is like defiling for me, so what about me physically being with a non-Christian spouse?

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    Well, me being intimate, I mean, isn't it the same principle that I am defiling my body because I'm in this mixed marriage?

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    We have different faiths?

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    That's the question on the table.

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    Regarding mixed marriages, meaning one's a believer and one's not, you're like, "What do you do?" Well, first of all, it's forbidden, single people.

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    Second Corinthians 6.14, if you're single, listen, if you're single, you are not to get married to a non-Christian.

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    Corinthians 6.14.

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    You are not to get married to a non-Christian if you're single.

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    If you can prevent this, you should prevent this.

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    That people think, "Well, I'm going to get married to the person and I'll save them, and I'm going to be such a good influence on them," and it usually works the other way.

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    So if you're single, you are not to marry a non-Christian.

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    So all right, now with that out of the way, the question is, "Well, what if we were married as non-Christians and I got saved and he didn't get saved?" Or vice versa, man.

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    You're like, "Well, I got saved and my wife didn't get saved.

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    What do we do?" Well, look at verse 12.

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    He says, "To the rest I say, 'I, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her." By the way, when he says here, "I, not the Lord," you know what some people do with that, right?

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    They're like, "Oh, well, this is just Paul's opinion." So we can sort of disregard this section because Paul here, I mean, he's saying that this is just his opinion, and that's not what he's saying at all.

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    Back in verse 10, he was saying, "I'm quoting Jesus here." Now in verse 12, he's saying, "This is also from the Lord, but this isn't a direct quote from Jesus, do you see?" He's not saying this is uninspired.

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    He's just saying, "Before I was directly quoting from the ministry of Jesus, and now this is new revelation from God. That's all he's saying. So what if I'm married to a non-Christian and he wants to stay married? Paul says, "You don't get a divorce, you stay married. That's what you do." Like, really? Verse 13, "If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him." Oh yeah, that question, being with this non-Christian make me unholy?

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    Like isn't it the same principle as being with the prostitutes?

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    No, not at all.

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    Because look at verse 14.

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    For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband.

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    You see, when one of you is saved and your spouse is not, it's not that the Christian is made unholy in the eyes of God, it's the unsaved person is made holy.

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    I want to be clear here.

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    That does not mean that the unbelieving spouse is saved because they're spouses.

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    That is not what that means.

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    The Bible is crystal clear on salvation.

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    Salvation is an individual transaction.

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    You can't get saved because of somebody else.

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    Biblically, you have to make the choice to turn from your sin.

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    You have to make the choice to repent.

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    You have to make the choice that you are going to receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.

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    It doesn't matter how good of a Christian your grandmama was, or your mama, or your spouse.

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    It doesn't matter.

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    You're not saved.

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    It's not like group raid here, all right?

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    You're saved by you making the choice.

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    You're like, all right, so what's he talking about here?

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    Well, it's a big fancy theological term that's known as matrimonial sanctification.

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    Impress your friends, drop that in conversation this week.

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    Do you have a water cooler at your workplace?

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    Drop that.

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    Yes, we were talking about matrimonial sanctification at church.

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    And they're like, "Oh, what is that?" And you'll tell them.

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    Well, in God's eyes, if one spouse is saved, there's blessing for everyone in the house.

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    I mean, think about it this way.

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    Think about it this way.

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    Imagine this married couple, you have this married couple, and the wife's parents die, and they leave her an inheritance.

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    They leave her a speedboat.

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    Now husbands, are you going to benefit from this inheritance?

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    No?

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    All right, let me try something else.

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    Her parents left her a Harley Davidson.

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    Husbands, are you going to benefit from this inheritance?

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    Yeah, some of you.

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    All right, let me try this again.

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    Her parents left her a monster truck.

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    Husbands, are you going to benefit from this inheritance?

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    Okay, this is really going to help for the second service.

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    Do you see the point?

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    You got the inheritance.

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    You know, you're driving grave digger down the road, but you had nothing to do with that, right?

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    You were blessed just because your wife received an inheritance.

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    It's the same principle at play here.

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    You're blessed by association.

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    In the same way, in marriage, two become one, and when God blesses one, the other gets blessed.

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    I mean, it's not salvation, but it's better than two pagans being married to each other.

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    Right?

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    Think of the blessing that comes to the non-Christian spouse when the Christian spouse is exhibiting the fruit of the Holy Spirit, when the Christian spouse is showing humility and love and service and selflessness.

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    And how could you not be blessed being in a house like that?

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    That's what he's talking about.

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    Oh, and regarding the salvation piece, look, nobody can deny the influence the believing spouse has.

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    I've heard the story so many times of people getting saved because of the witness that their Christian spouse has had.

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    So if you're in this situation, if your spouse is unsaved, God wants to reach them through you.

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    So let him see Christ in you.

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    And you're like, "Well, that's well and good, but what if we have kids, right?

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    I mean, I'm saved, he's not.

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    Does that make our kids like half pagan?" No, no, it really doesn't.

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    Look at the rest of verse 14.

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    Paul says, "Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy." See, even if you have kids with a non-Christian, your kids are also made holy through that.

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    Same principle.

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    Your kids are also blessed through that because God sees your marriage as holy, so He's going to see your kids as holy.

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    So if you're married to a non-Christian who wants to stay married, God's going to bless the family.

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    Stay married if they want to stay.

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    All right, one more.

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    One more group we didn't cover, and that's the last one here.

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    Let's say someone is married to a non-Christian, and that non-Christian is like, "I want out.

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    Like look, I didn't sign up for all this Jesus stuff, all this Bible study stuff.

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    I didn't sign up for all this church stuff.

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    I'm not interested.

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    I'm not a religious person.

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    I want out." So what do you do when you're married to a non-Christian who wants to leave?

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    The answer is, let them go.

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    Let them go.

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    Look at verse 15.

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    He says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates," that's divorce, look what he says, "let it be so." If the non-Christian spouse initiates a divorce, Paul says they can go.

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    And I know the reaction.

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    You're like, "Wait, wait.

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    Well, that means I'm stuck.

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    You know, I wanted to save this marriage, and they divorced me, and now I can never get remarried again because they left me.

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    So I'm stuck, right?" Paul doesn't say that.

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    Paul doesn't say that.

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    Paul was clear on situations where you had to be remaining unmarried.

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    We saw that in verse 11.

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    He was clear in those situations, and he could have said that here, but he didn't.

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    You can remarry.

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    If you are married to a non-Christian that abandons you, initiates a divorce, and leaves you, you can remarry.

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    Look at the rest of verse 15.

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    He says, "In such cases, the brother or sister is not enslaved." God has called you to peace.

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    Not enslaved.

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    Like, not enslaved to what?

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    He's talking about free from being bound to the marriage.

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    That's what he's talking about.

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    See Romans 7, 2 says, "For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives." That's what he's talking about here in 1 Corinthians 7.

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    That's the bound to the marriage.

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    He goes, "You're not enslaved.

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    You're not bound anymore.

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    You're no longer bound to the marriage." Now look, I know some sermons are easier to preach than others, and divorce is a very touchy subjects.

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    It's always painful.

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    It always brings regret and hurt.

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    I know that.

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    So I want to take a moment and I want to be clear on my best understanding on the subject biblically.

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    All right?

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    I don't want there to be any ambiguity.

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    I want to be clear.

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    I believe that there is only one cause for divorce biblically, and that is hardness of heart.

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    Like, why do I think that?

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    Well, Jesus was asked about divorce in Matthew 19, eight.

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    This is what he said.

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    He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart, Moses allowed you to divorce." Jesus said divorce was allowed through Moses, through the law, because of hardness of heart.

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    Again divorce is allowed, not commanded.

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    Right?

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    Allowed not commanded.

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    But the question is, how do you know when someone is hard hearted?

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    Towards their spouse or towards their marriage, right?

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    Kind of a hard thing to gauge, isn't it?

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    Well Jesus said, "I can divorce you if you're hard-hearted." Well you seem hard-hearted to me, I'm getting divorced.

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    How do you know?

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    Well biblically there are two ways that hard-heartedness manifests, and both begin with the letter A. It's affair and abandonment.

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    Jesus spoke on a fair.

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    Matthew 19, 9, Jesus says, "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife except for sexual immorality and marries another commits adultery." Now again, divorce is allowed, but not commanded.

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    Understand this, when this happens in a marriage, that doesn't mean you are required to get a divorce.

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    I can tell you so many stories of marriages where this did happen.

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    And there was much repentance and seeking the Lord, and marriages are on track better than they were on their honeymoon.

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    But when someone is committed to having relations with people outside the marriage, Jesus says that's evidence of hard-heartedness.

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    Moses allowed for divorce for that.

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    Here, Paul is addressing the other manifestation of hard-heartedness, and that's abandonment.

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    That if your non-Christian spouse divorces you, abandons you, you are free.

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    That's how you know your spouse is hard-hearted.

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    When they are willing to engage in relations with someone else, they're hard-hearted towards you.

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    Or when they're like, "I'm fine to just walk away from this marriage.

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    I'm fine to walk away from our vows.

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    I'm fine to walk away from that." Those are evidences of hard-heartedness.

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    And Jesus says abandonment is like adultery.

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    I'm sorry, Paul says abandonment here is like adultery.

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    You are called to peace.

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    You are not called to fighting a non-Christian to stay in a marriage that they are committed to getting out of.

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    One more verse.

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    Paul says, "For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband?

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    Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?" You know, people are really divided on what this verse means.

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    Some people think this verse means, "Well, you don't know if you're going to save your spouse, so let them go.

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    I mean, you have no guarantees, just let them go.

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    There's no promises are going to come to Christ, if they say let them go." That's what some people think, but other people think this means, "No, no, no, you might be the one that God uses to save them, so you should try to save your marriage at any cost.

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    I lean towards the latter.

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    There's no guarantees either way.

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    You don't know.

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    You don't know what God's doing.

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    So you better be sure that you did all you could to save the marriage.

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    I personally believe that this verse pumps the brakes.

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    This verse, as one person I read this past week said, this verse tempers any tendency that just easily give up on the marriage.

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    Because some people are just so quick to run to divorce as like option one.

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    Again, if things are hard now, how do you know that God isn't using you to reach your spouse?

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    Our worship team would make their way back up front.

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    Paul continues, and I think he's doubling down on some of these things because some of it's hard to accept and some of it's hard to hear.

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    But again, Paul reminds us that singleness is God's gift for some.

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    Marriage is God's gift for the rest.

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    One of these four sermons applies to you.

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    So whichever it is, go after it with the reverence and with the sacredness that God has called you to.

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    Let's pray.

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    Father in heaven, we're asking today, Father, that your Holy Spirit be at work in our hearts.

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    When we talk about singleness and divorce and all these things, it's such an emotional subject because there are people here that have been deeply wounded by these things.

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    And we by no means, Father, wanna kick someone when they're down or rub salt on the wound.

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    We just, we wanna take an honest look at what your word has to say.

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    Father, we thank you for your grace.

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    We thank you that you are the God of miracles.

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    We thank you, God, that no matter how badly things might have gotten in marriage, whether it was able to be saved or not, God, there's always hope with you.

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    There's always healing with you.

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    That's why we come to you.

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    Father, I pray for all of us that we would take a hard look at the place you have us right now, because there's something in here for each one of us.

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    And that we would go after it, trusting you to always do what you promised.

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    We pray in Jesus' name, amen.

Small Group Discussion
Read
1 Corinthians 7:8-16

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Explain 1 Cor 7:14. How is the nonChristian spouse made holy because of a Christian spouse? What does that mean?

  3. If you are married to a nonChristian who wants out of the marriage (1 Cor 7:15), how do you know when to grant their divorce (when to stop trying to save the marriage, asking for counseling, etc)?

  4. Why should you allow a nonChristian to divorce and leave a Christian (v15)? Is the believing spouse free to remarry? Why or why not?

Breakout

Pray for one another.