4 Things Church Members Cannot Say

3 Things About Walking:

  • Walking is a Choice

  • Walking is Action

  • Walking is Progression

  1. “Your kind isn’t Welcome here." (1 Cor 12:12-14)

  2. “I’m not Needed here." (1 Cor 12:15-20)

  3. “You’re not Needed here." (1 Cor 12:21-25)

  4. “I don’t Empathize here." (1 Cor 12:26-27)

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    This is so like I'm four, but I want to show you my boo-boo.

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    Can you see that?

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    Can you see that bad boy?

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    Do you want to know how that happened?

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    I know you're dying to know.

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    We got new furniture.

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    And how many people have ever done the, we got new furniture, but we're not used to it being there and I bang my leg on it?

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    Anybody else other than me?

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    Okay, a few of you have done that.

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    That's what happened to me.

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    We got this new bed frame, and I was sitting in my chair doing some work and had a high sense of urgency.

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    Got up from my chair, turned around, bang!

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    Right into that piece of furniture that wasn't there the day before.

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    And that reminded me of something that the Bible says.

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    The Bible says we need to watch our walk, amen?

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    We need to watch our walk.

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    And actually the New Testament calls the life of a disciple of Jesus Christ, the life of a born again believer, do you know what the New Testament calls that?

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    It calls it a walk.

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    Here's just a few, I printed out a few verses.

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    I actually cut out a lot of them, but just in case you're not convinced, I want you to hear this.

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    Your life as a believer in Jesus Christ is called a walk.

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    Romans 4:12 says we walk in the footsteps of faith.

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    Romans 6, 4, "We too might walk in newness of life." Romans 8, 4, "Walk not according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit." Romans 13, 13, "Let us walk properly as in the daytime." 2 Corinthians 5, 7, "We walk by faith, not by sight." Galatians 5, 25, "If we live by the Spirit, let us also," guess what, "walk by the Spirit.

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    For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand we should walk.

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    Okay, a couple of you are seeing a theme here, let's keep going.

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    Ephesians 4.1, "Walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you've been called." Ephesians 5.2, "Walk in love." Ephesians 5.8, "Walk as children of light." Ephesians 5.15, "Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise. Keep your eyes," this is Philippians 3.17, "Keep your eyes on those who walk according to example you have in us. Colossians 1.10, "So as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord." Colossians 2.6, "Therefore as you receive Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him." Colossians 4.5, "Walk in wisdom towards outsiders." 1 Thessalonians 2.12, "Walk in a manner worthy of the Lord." 1 Thessalonians 4.1, "You ought to walk and to please God just as you are doing that you do so more and more." 1 Thessalonians 4.12, that you may walk properly before outsiders. 1st John 1.7 But if we walk in the light, 1st John 2.6, whoever says he abides in Him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked. 2nd John verse 6, and this is love that we walk according to his commandments. Those are just a few of them. But did you see a theme. So at Harvest Bible Chapel, when we say, "What is a disciple?" A disciple is someone who does three things. And the first one we looked at last week, a disciple what? Worships. A disciple worships Jesus Christ. And today we're going to look at a disciple walks with Christ. A disciple walks with Christ. Why Why did the Holy Spirit inspire that word, "walk"?

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    I've jot these three things down. There's many reasons, but here's three.

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    First of all, walking is a choice.

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    Walking is a choice.

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    Right?

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    You can either sit and do nothing, Or you can make a choice to walk, but walking is a choice.

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    Walking doesn't happen accidentally, no matter what your kids tell you.

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    Walking is a choice.

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    Secondly, walking is action.

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    Walking is action.

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    It's our part in cooperating with what the Holy Spirit is doing in us and through us.

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    Like, what's our part?

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    Our part is to walk in the Spirit.

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    That's our cooperation, but it requires action on our part.

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    We need to cooperate with the Holy Spirit.

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    And thirdly, walking is progression.

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    I'm so glad that the Bible doesn't describe it as a run, because I hate running.

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    Can I get a testimony on that?

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    Anybody else hate running?

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    I know we got people in this church that like, That's what they do, like track and field.

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    And you know what?

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    Yeah, good for you.

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    That's what I did 20 years ago.

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    I don't like to run anymore, but the Bible says it is a walk, it's progression.

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    Progression is we're heading somewhere.

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    We are moving somewhere.

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    And where are we heading?

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    Well, we're heading to heaven ultimately, But God's goal for your life as a believer is what?

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    Romans 8, 29.

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    God wants you conformed into the image of his son.

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    And as his Holy Spirit is working in you and through you and you cooperating with that, that is your Christian walk.

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    And there are two sides of your walk.

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    First of all, there's your personal walk.

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    Those are things like being in the word and worshiping and being in prayer, witnessing to others.

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    and we'll talk about those things down the road, but that's not what I wanna talk about this morning.

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    Specifically this morning, I wanna talk about your community walk, your walk in the community of faith.

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    So last week we looked at what worshipers are convinced of from Psalm 115.

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    Today, worshipers, disciples, those of you who are born again, Here's something else that you need to be convinced of, or many of you already are convinced of, is this truth in your walk.

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    You can't do it on your own.

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    And you were never meant to.

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    This Christian walk was never meant to be done in isolation from other Christians.

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    Never meant to.

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    You're like, "Well, I'm going to need some Bible proof for that." Alright, challenge accepted.

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    Genesis 2.18, God said when he created Adam, "It is not good for the man to be alone." True, and a lot of times that verse properly is taught in the context of marriage.

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    true, but this verse also speaks to the fundamental need to connect with others in the human community. God could have just created Adam and said, "This is how it's going to be." But God says, "It's not good for this personal being that I created to live in isolation. So he made Eve out of Adam. And I want to remind you that that was pre-fall, okay? It wasn't as if Adam sinned and God was like, "Well, I better send somebody to help get him knocked back in line, so I'll create another person to sort of keep him accountable." This was before the fall of man, God said this idea of community, yeah that's my idea, people with people.

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    Like well I'm still not convinced that this there's this importance of being with a group of people to do this walk of faith with. I'm still not convinced of that? Well, let's talk about Jesus. Do you know Jesus had a small group? Did you know that? Actually, he had a group of twelve that he poured into, unlike the multitudes.

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    And even from those twelve, he had three that he poured into even more. You're like, "Well, yeah, you're talking Old Testament and you're talking Jesus.

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    How about a New Testament example?

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    Do you have that?" Actually, turn in your Bibles with me to Acts chapter two.

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    Go ahead, nice and loud, turn there.

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    Acts chapter two.

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    Don't rip the pages.

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    Sounds like somebody just totally ripped one.

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    You did rip the...

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    All right.

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    Do we have scotch tape available at the welcome table, Ken?

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    All right, or a whole new Bible?

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    We definitely have that.

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    Your choice, scotch tape or a new Bible.

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    Acts chapter two, this is the description of the church in the infancy stage, so to speak.

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    And as I read through here, I want you to just kind of make a mental note of the ingredients. Like, what was the church about? We'll pick up in old verse 42. It says, "And they devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and the fellowship and And to the breaking of bread, and the prayers, and awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the Apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common." Now understand that last phrase doesn't mean like they were all Pirates fans. Like, "Well, this is good.

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    We got a lot in common. You know, it'd be kind of rough if we had like some, you know, Cincinnati Reds fans." That's not what that's talking about at all. The next verse helps clarify that. "And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all as any had need." What a sense of fellowship, to say, "What God has entrusted to me isn't really mine, it's God's." And they would just like bring stuff to church. I'm like, "Who needs it? Who needs it?

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    Well, you know what? I really need this. Okay, we have an extra one. Here you go." Or not even extra one, you can have mine. It was, "What's mine is yours, and what's yours is mine." And they would just like share stuff. You find out so-and-so needs something? Okay, let's get it to them. They had all things in common. And just make a note, you know, next week I'd like to take a special offering in addition to the offering we take for the ministry of the church, but we have we have an individual who has really been hit with, through the through the death of a loved one, just some financial burden. And reading through this passage this week, the Lord just really laid it on me.

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    You know, what would the early church have done for that person?

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    What would they have done?

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    Tell us what they need and we'll get it to them.

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    And I want us to do that next week.

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    We'll take an additional offering and all of that is going to go to this person to help their need, okay?

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    But moving along it says, and day by day attending the temple together And look at this last phrase.

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    This is what I want you to hone in on.

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    Breaking bread in their homes.

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    They received their food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people.

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    And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.

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    But notice that the early church met in homes.

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    And at Harvest Bible Chapel, we are not a church with small groups.

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    We are a church of small groups.

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    But I want you to see from the scriptures that it's not a fad.

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    Okay, there've been a lot of fads coming in and out of the church, right?

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    This is not a fad.

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    Like, oh yeah, meeting in people's homes, that's gonna be really cool.

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    and then like, you know, pegging your pants or butterfly collars, we're all going to be looking back in a few years going,

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    (snickers)

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    remember when we like got in each other's homes and we're like praying and stuff, boy, were we lame.

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    That's not gonna happen, okay?

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    That's not gonna happen.

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    Because 2,000 years later, God's word still stands, it is what the church is to do, meeting in homes, the biblical way of doing life.

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    You know, somewhere around 50 times in the Bible, there's the phrase one another, one another, do this for one another.

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    Here's how you treat one another.

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    And the question is, how can we apply these one another versus unless we are in intentional close relationships?

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    The idea of, well, my walk with the Lord consists solely of 10 o'clock to about 11.20 on Sunday morning, in and out, unconnected with others.

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    It's just not biblical. It's just not biblical.

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    How are you fulfilling the one another teachings of the scripture?

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    The answer is you cannot.

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    And let's be honest, in our day, things have really changed, haven't they?

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    Right now, the young people, and by that I mean 25 and under, are going to start the "Pastor Jeff showing his age again" speech, right?

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    But how many people here can remember back in the day, I can, I know Darren can, you remember going to Grandma's house, and Grandma and Mom sitting on the swing, and people would just walk by and stop and talk.

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    Do you remember that?

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    Anybody else remember anything like that?

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    There was a day, back when the dinosaurs roamed the earth, there was a day that people would hang out on their front porch and people would just walk by and they felt totally comfortable to just sit down and talk.

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    "Hey, can I get you something to drink?

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    "Let's talk." And they'd sit and talk about everything and nothing.

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    You didn't need an invitation.

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    Nobody felt like there was an imposition.

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    It wasn't like, oh, Merle's walking down the street again, you know, don't look.

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    It was, hey, no, come and sit.

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    Come and sit with us.

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    What do we do now?

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    We don't sit on the front porch.

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    We build patios behind our house and put a fence around them, hoping that the neighbors can't see if we're outside.

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    And if we do have to go outside, it's like we're staging a prison break or something, like, "Let me get out of here, I hope nobody sees me." There was a day, I'm really showing my age now, there was a day when you wanted to play a board game with someone. You'd actually have to be sitting at the same table with that person and it was literally a board game. You'd take it out of a box and there were pieces and you'd unfold it and you would sit together and play a board.

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    Anybody else do one of these ancient things? Back when we told time with sundials, we played board games together. What do we do now? Words with friends.

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    You It's scrabble, but it's scrabble that I don't have to sit at your table and play with you. It's scrabble that I don't have to look at you, okay? It just shows up on your phone, and when it's my turn I get a notification and I play my turn, and I don't have to sit down with you. I don't have to talk to you. I don't have to find out how your family's doing. You don't need to ask me how I'm doing, just play your word. There's a disconnect today. And then there's draw something.

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    It's like Pictionary, but again it's on these highfalutin tablets and iPhones and droids and all these things, but you can actually play Pictionary on your phone without having to actually show up and be in another human being's presence. Sad. Our small group, we had a picnic. Tom, you remember We had that picnic and we actually played a board game.

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    How fun was that?

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    Seriously, that was a blast.

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    I'm not quite sure who won that, I choose to forget.

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    But Tom and I were sort of a tag team.

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    That was a blast, wasn't it?

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    It seemed like such a Stone Age thing to do.

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    It's at the point now that we text each other while we're sitting in the same room.

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    We've even lost the art of conversation.

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    but understand this, this human disconnect is not biblical.

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    It's just not.

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    And look, I play these goofy games from time to time and I enjoy these things as much as the rest of you, but human disconnect is not biblical.

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    It's just not.

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    So I want you to turn in your Bibles with me to 1 Corinthians 12, and this is the passage we're going to land on for a few moments.

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    1 Corinthians 12, easy carry.

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    Turn there gently.

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    Kate has a children's Bible with really thick pages.

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    We'll see if we can get that for you.

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    1 Corinthians 12.

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    Now we're going to be looking at verses 12 through 27.

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    We could preach probably half a year's worth of sermons this whole chapter, but we're not going to.

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    You can read it ahead, or you can read it later, what's ahead and what's after this passage, I meant to say. But this passage we're going to be looking at is bookended with how the Holy Spirit empowers believers to serve in the church. God's Holy Spirit empowers believers to serve in the church. Those are sort of the bookends of this passage. Go ahead and read that when you get home. What I want to focus on is right in the middle, where the Apostle Paul describes the church, and he uses an extended metaphor here. But he says that the church is like what? He says the The church is like a body.

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    The church is like a body.

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    Now, there are a lot of reasons he used this metaphor.

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    One of them is the body is alive.

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    The body has a head that's Christ.

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    The body moves and functions, but we're going to see his main point here the body, the human body, and the body of Christ, they consist of a lot of different members. I mean, if you just look down at your body, you see that your body is made up of a lot of stuff, inside and outside. Different pieces that all work together, but they all come together as one unit to serve a function. And that's the metaphor Paul's laying out here. He says, "So it goes with the body of Christ. So goes with the church. So in your outline, what we're going to look at, four things that church members cannot say. Not that like you're not allowed to, but the reality is, if you call Harvest your home, if this is the church that you're connected with and if you have a biblical understanding of what that means, these are things that you just can't say. Are you ready? The first one, let's look at verses 12 through 14. Here's something church members can't say. Your kind isn't welcome here. Look at verses 12 through 14.

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    For just as the body, the human body, is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ.

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    For in one Spirit, we were all baptized into one body.

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    He's saying there should be a unity because we've all been baptized by the same spirit.

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    But understand this next statement that he makes, especially in Paul's day, would have been extremely provocative.

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    He says, Jews are Greeks.

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    Slaves are free.

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    And all were made to drink of one spirit, for the body does not consist of one member, but of many.

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    So Paul just comes right out of the gate and hits us with the major dividing lines of the first century, Jews and Greeks in the same body.

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    We're a little, in our culture, we're a little disconnected from that, but understand in Paul's day, that would have been like oil and water.

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    That was part of the mystery of the church that Paul talks about elsewhere in scripture.

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    beautiful plan is to take completely, from an earthly perspective, unrelated, unconnected people and make them one. And Paul says we've been baptized in the same spirit, we're all partakers of the divine nature. So no matter what your ethnic background is, we're all one in Christ. So whether it's a race issue, Jews Jews or Greeks, or whether it's a social demographic issue.

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    That's why he says slave are free.

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    And even in our day, it's still shocking to me that there are people that still wanna keep racism and class distinction alive.

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    I'm like, seriously, why is that still a thing?

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    Seriously.

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    Racial discrimination, class distinction, There are people that are still waving the flag to keep those things alive.

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    I don't get it.

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    Seriously?

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    That's still an issue.

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    That's still an issue in the church sometimes.

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    I've cringed when I've heard people say, well, that's, you know, we're talking about churches in the area, what's this church like?

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    Well, that's a black church.

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    What's that?

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    Or, "Oh, that's a rich people church." What?

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    Seriously?

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    Do they like check you at the door for that?

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    Well, here's a biblical clue, Revelation chapter seven.

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    Do you know what it looks like in heaven?

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    Gasp.

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    John says, "After this, I looked and behold, "a great multitude that no one could number.

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    from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages.

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    Standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed in white robes with palm branches in their hands, and crying out with a loud voice, "Salvation belongs to our God who sits on the throne and to the Lamb." What does worship in heaven look like?

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    All colors, all nations, all languages, all one in Jesus Christ.

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    Unified in worship.

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    So let me ask you, what's this church supposed to look like?

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    Isn't this supposed to be sort of like a preview of heaven when we come together to worship?

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    This is like rehearsal, man.

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    This is preview for heaven.

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    that when we come at this church, all people, all colors, all backgrounds, all financial situations.

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    That's one of the reasons I love to go to Harvest U every year.

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    There are about 75 Harvest Bible chapels all over the world.

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    So like in this one room, It's literally like Americans worshiping with Africans and Asians and people from all over the world coming together to worship Jesus Christ together.

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    And just as much as that to me is a little preview of heaven that's what I want for this church.

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    So are you holding on to some racist views?

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    Not here.

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    I would encourage you to get a biblical clue.

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    Because if you're holding on to racist views, you might be uncomfortable in heaven.

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    So, one thing that we can't say, as a member of the body, is your kind's not welcome here.

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    Well, here's the next one.

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    I'm not needed here.

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    We're talking about community in the church.

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    I'm not needed here.

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    We're talking about connectedness in the church.

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    Here's something else you can't say.

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    I'm not needed here.

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    Look at verses 15 through 20.

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    Paul extends his metaphor here.

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    Body's not one member, the body's many members.

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    verse 15, "If the foot should say, 'because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,' that would not make it any less a part of the body.

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    And if the ear should say, 'because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,' that would not make it any less a part of the body.

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    If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing?

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    If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell?

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    But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as He chose.

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    If all were a single member, where would the body be?

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    As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.

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    Honestly, this section of scripture is pretty kindergarten.

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    And that is not a slam.

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    I love it.

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    I love it.

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    Many different parts all working together.

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    None of the parts with the ability to say, "I'm not needed here." looking at this young church, we have music and children's and finances and hospitality and setup and small group and running the soundboard and on and on.

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    There are many different parts, none of which can look around and honestly say, "You know what? I'm not needed here." And the same goes for you if you happen to be sitting in a red chair this morning. You are not allowed to say, "I'm not needed here. So look at Paul's analogy here. This is kindergarten. I absolutely love it.

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    These body parts like start talking to each other. Did you catch that?

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    I thought it was funny too. If the foot should say, "Because I'm not a hand, I do not belong to the body." Now here's what I wanted to do. I wanted to to go to like one of these Halloween stores and actually get these body parts.

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    But I thought that might scare the kids.

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    So what I did instead was I got pictures of the body parts and I just thought it would be really fun to act this out.

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    Who's with me?

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    All right, two of you, let's do this.

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    Here's what Paul's saying.

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    Okay, first of all, we need a foot, okay?

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    And we need a hand.

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    And here's what Paul's saying.

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    See, you can keep your kids in church.

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    Here's what Paul's saying.

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    How ridiculous would it be if body parts started having conversations and they went like this.

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    I'm not a hand.

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    Wait, was that way?

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    I'm sorry, let me back up.

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    Was that a good foot voice?

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    Deeper.

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    I might need Darren for this one.

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    (clears throat)

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    I'm not a hand.

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    (laughs)

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    And he turned Southern.

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    Which I guess makes sense.

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    I'm not a hand.

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    Look at what the hand can do.

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    That hand can do cool things.

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    I mean, look at that hand.

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    Isn't that hand cool?

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    I'm not cool.

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    I'm just a foot.

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    Nobody even notices me because I usually have a shoe on me.

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    But look at how cool the hand is.

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    After all, there's even sayings about the hand.

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    Nobody ever says, "Talk to the foot." The more I think about it, because I fail to match the coolness factor of the hand, I probably don't deserve to be a part of this body.

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    How senseless is that?

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    Seriously, do you get Paul's point or do I need to keep going?

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    Oh, I do because look, he keeps going.

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    He says, "And if the ear should say, "because I'm not an eye." So I have those.

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    What'd you do in church today?

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    I don't know.

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    (audience laughing)

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    Sesame Street.

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    So here you have this ear.

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    And the ear's looking at the eye, and the ear says, I'm not an eye.

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    Wait a minute.

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    What's a good ear voice?

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    What?

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    (laughing)

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    I'm not an ear. I'm not an eye. Because I'm not an eye, I'm worthless.

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    Is that a good voice? Okay.

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    Nobody ever walks up and says, "My, what pretty ears you have." But everybody walks up and says, "My, what pretty eyes you have! Therefore, I don't belong on this body!" That's what Paul's saying here, right? Like, Pastor Jeff at Sero Elementary. Is that what Paul's saying or not? It's silly. It's silly to entertain that conversation. Why is that?

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    Well, look at what he says in verse 17. Here's the logical conclusion. If the whole body were an eye, where would be, excuse me, the sense of hearing?

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    So if you walked in the church today, and this is all you looked like.

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    First of all, creepy. But if you walked into church today and this is all you look like, and I said, "Good morning, welcome to Harvest," actually Laura would say that, what would you respond? Nothing, because you wouldn't be able to hear her because you're just an eye, right? This is a great thing, but on its own it's pretty useless isn't it? It's pretty useless on its own. And he says, "Or what if your whole body were an ear?" Your answer would be Mike Tyson would try to eat me. He says, "If your whole body looked like this, you wouldn't be able to smell anything thing would you? Because this is only good for one thing. It's great for one thing. You know what a miracle the ear is by the way? God made it. It's an absolute miracle how this thing works. And when it does what it's supposed to do, this is an amazing thing. But if this was all you had, Paul says you wouldn't be able to smell anything. Right? So the point here is you can't walk in here and say I'm not needed. Failure to do your part in the church gets the same result as a body part failing to work. If you woke up this morning and for some reason your left leg just didn't work, would that affect your day? Would that affect your day, your left leg just completely goes limp. There's no explanation. It just doesn't work. Would that affect your day? Of course it would. Well, failure to use your giftedness affects the church. Whether God has called you to be an ear or an eye, or a hand, or even our friend Mr. Foot, whatever God's called you to, you need to fulfill that role. And it would be real easy to look around even a church like this, as small as we are at this point, but with the incredible talent and giftedness that we have at this point, it'd be easy to walk in and say, "Well, they don't need me here." It'd be easy to do that. Look, it's a small church, but there's two people running the soundboard. I mean, maybe they don't need me. I mean, the worship team, they sound phenomenal. Maybe they don't need me.

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    Children's, obviously, it looks like they have some things in place. Maybe they don't need me." Wrong! That's like the ear looking at the eye saying, "I'm really not needed because I'm not as important as another part of the body." That's not humility. It's not humility to say, "Well, they don't need me." That is not humility.

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    That is a lie. If you say, "Well, that church doesn't need me," it's a lie. Why?

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    because you're contradicting the Word of God. So to say, "I'm not needed here," we can't say that, right? Number three, here's something else we can't say, "Body, you're not needed here." Look at verses 21 through 25. "The eye cannot say to the hand, I have no need of you. Nor again, the head to the feet, I have no need of you. On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable." That means you can't do without them? "And on those parts of the body that we think less honorable, we bestow the greater honor. And on our parts, excuse me, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require, but God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. So something else that a church member can't say looking at another church member is, "You're not needed here." So what do we need here? We need an eye and a hand. Right?

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    All right, we need a good voice for the eye.

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    Oh, hand, thanks for showing up, but we don't need you here. As you can see, I have all the see, but I I mean, as you can't see, I have all the seeing covered.

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    I mean, after all, can you see?

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    The answer is no, you cannot.

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    I see, therefore, you're unnecessary.

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    Is that crazy or what?

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    But that's the illustration that Paul's using.

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    He's like, this conversation can't happen.

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    Because the hand's like, oh, you know what?

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    I can't see, but good luck picking up your guitar, Mr. Eyeball, right?

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    Paul's not done and neither are we.

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    Notice the next one, he says, "The head can't say to the feet, I have no need of you." What's a good voice for the head?

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    You get the point.

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    For some reason I had like Sean Connery in mind with this one.

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    Like what?

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    I don't need your foot.

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    [The sound of

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    (crickets chirping)

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    The green light was totally started.

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    You didn't want to record this sermon anyway.

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    Well, we're good for another hour?

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    Oh good, just kidding.

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    God put this body together.

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    That's what he's saying.

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    In the church, all these parts come together and God put the parts there.

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    So your part is just as important as my part.

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    Understanding equal doesn't mean the same, right?

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    just like in marriage, equal doesn't mean the same.

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    We're all equal, but we all carry out different functions.

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    So with the thought of, well, we don't really need him because he just, you know, she's serving here, but that's really not necessary.

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    That's an issue you have to take up with God because he says, "I put this body together." Just as he put your physical body together, he put the body of Christ together.

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    So the last thing you can't say, I don't empathize here.

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    I don't empathize here.

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    What does empathy mean?

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    What does it mean to empathize?

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    That means to understand and share the feelings of another.

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    Look at verses 26 and 27.

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    He says, "If one member suffers, all suffer together.

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    "If one member is honored, all rejoice together.

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    "Now you are the body of Christ "and individually members of it." And we're gonna stop there in the text.

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    We talked about this a couple of weeks ago, so I'm not going to camp here.

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    But it's a truth that when one part of the human body hurts, it seems like the whole body hurts, right?

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    Like I showed you my boo-boo, my whole body was one entire shinbone for like 10 minutes.

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    Ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow.

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    I wasn't thinking about how good my right elbow felt or how great my hair looked or felt.

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    All I was thinking of, that one part hurts, my whole body's hurting.

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    And then when it gets feeling better, there's a sense in which your whole body feels better.

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    You know what I'm talking about?

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    And that's how it is in the church.

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    Whether it's losing a loved one, or a job loss, or a divorce, or an affair.

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    When something happens that causes a part to suffer, when you're part of the body, you're suffering too.

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    It's like your pain is my pain.

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    But the same is true with rejoicing, right?

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    When a baby is born.

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    in the new job, and I'm pointing to the empty seat beside Ken, when the new job is received.

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    Amanda's not here because she's working, allegedly.

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    But we rejoice.

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    We rejoice together.

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    Being a part of the body is more than just attending a church.

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    Being part of the body is more than just, I like those people.

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    It's feeling. It's feeling together.

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    Some people are looking for a church where they can slip in and slip out and stay unconnected with people.

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    I don't get it. I just don't get that.

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    I just want to slip in and slip out and I just, I hope I don't really meet somebody.

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    I don't wanna stay connected, I just wanna do my Sunday thing.

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    What's our mission?

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    Is it up here?

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    What's our mission?

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    To glorify God through the fulfillment of the Great Commission.

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    What's the Great Commission?

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    Is making what?

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    Disciples, right?

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    The mission is, the Great Commission is making disciples.

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    That was Jesus' mission.

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    That was the mission he gave us, that's our mission.

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    So let me ask you, how can you make disciples if it's just slip in and slip out on Sunday, see you next week?

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    How are you fulfilling this?

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    How are you doing that?

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    The answer is you can't.

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    You can't do that.

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    That's why it is so important to understand that being a Christian is being part of a body.

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    a body that God designed, and a body that God has called you to be connected to.

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    Now speaking of empathy, I understand we're gonna talk about small groups here as we close, but I understand the number one thing that people say in our day, "I'm guilty of too. I'm too busy. How many people here this morning are too busy? How many people here, when you look at your life in general, you would say I got more on my plate than I can handle? That's what I say. So listen, this isn't guilt trip at all. We have jobs, families, responsibilities, you know, kids involved in sports, which I think is a great thing.

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    And I'm not saying you should feel guilty about doing these things because they're good things.

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    But what I am saying is this.

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    How have you made a priority being connected to the thing that God's called you to be connected to? How have you made that a priority?

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    Without neglecting your other ones.

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    How have you prioritized the God-ordained priority of making disciples?

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    How have you done that?

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    And if I were to stand at the back door today, and as you went out single file, if I shook every one of your hands and just stopped you and said, "How are you making disciples right now in your life? How are you making disciples?" What would your answer be?

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    And if your answer is, "Well, I'm really not," you know what my next question is.

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    Why not?

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    Was it unclear?

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    It wasn't unclear.

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    Jesus said, "Go make disciples." And I went to Bible college.

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    I studied the text.

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    Do you know what that means?

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    It means go make disciples.

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    Right?

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    Make it a priority.

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    And some will say, "But you know what?

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    "I don't get much family time." And I would say, "Can you think of a better "family activity?

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    "Take your family and go into somebody else's home, "get in God's word and in prayer together.

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    "Can you think of a better family activity than that?" Make that a family night.

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    This is one thing we do as a family.

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    Then go get ice cream afterwards or something.

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    Don't tell Amanda I said that.

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    But make it a family thing.

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    How have you connected with this church?

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    So at this point you're asking, well, how do I get plugged in?

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    How do I get plugged in?

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    How can I fulfill my function in this body?

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    Well, in Harvest Bible Chapel, the way that disciples are made is in small groups.

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    That's the way that disciples are made.

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    We're not offering you eight options to say, here's ways to make disciples pick one.

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    Here's how it happens.

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    It happens in small groups.

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    Now there's different kinds of small groups.

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    As many of you know, Chris Whitcomb has worked with some ladies, and we've been trying to get some things together for men.

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    But the main thing I wanna push for this morning is family small groups.

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    When I say family, it can be single lady, It can be, you know, dinks, remember dinks?

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    Remember that term from the 90s, double income, no kids?

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    You're showing your age again, aren't you, Pastor Jeff?

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    Getting in other people's homes, sharing life together, getting in the Word together, getting in prayer together.

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    That's the way disciples are made in Harvest Bible Chapel.

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    Now I've given you a lot of biblical reasons to get involved in a small group.

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    So now we're going to have open forum.

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    Can you give me some biblical reasons not to?

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    You can just shout them from your seat.

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    Can you show me anywhere in scripture where you would say being part of a small group, being part of an in-home Bible study prayer group is a bad idea and here's why.

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    I've read the Bible. I don't see any reason. I don't see any call to be disconnected. So here's what I want you to do. We're gonna take a couple of minutes as we close, if our worship team would head up. You should have received one of these small group cards when you came in. Did you get one? Everybody get one of these? Candidate, did you get one of these? All right, you should have one of these.

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    hold them up. Currently, these are the small groups that are being offered. We want to continue to grow this ministry. We're working on that. So here are some options. What I want you to do is I want you to make sure you put your name on it and some way to contact you at the bottom. There's a fishbowl at the back of the auditorium. You're gonna drop those off on your way out. But here's the options. Maybe you're someone that's like, "You know what? I would love to host a group of people in my home. I would love to just open up my home and let people come." Check that box. Just write down like what neighborhood you live in. I'll give you a call. We'll get that worked out. Or maybe you're sitting here saying, "Well, you know, I'd like to talk to Pastor Jeff about leading a small group." You don't You don't have to be Ravi Zachariah to lead a small group, okay?

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    But we do want to make sure that you're equipped to be able to get into God's Word and lead that discussion time.

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    So I'd like to talk to you about that. If you feel called to teach, if you'd just like more information on that, go ahead and check that.

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    Currently, here's what's being offered again. We're working on growing this, getting more groups involved. Here's a list of the groups and here's where they're meeting. And speaking on behalf of all of those leaders, you would be welcome at any one of them. I don't know about you, but I love our small group.

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    Like, how many people here are in a small group currently? Raise your hands high I feel like I'm in a small group.

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    Okay, look around.

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    This isn't like a couple of weird people church are doing that.

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    It is a fantastic thing.

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    And I love it.

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    Our group comes over, we usually spend, what, the first 45 minutes sometimes just hanging out and catching up and eating together and laughing together.

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    And then right now we're doing a series through Ecclesiastes so then we spend some time crying together.

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    And then we pray.

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    And then usually people want to stick around afterwards and it's fantastic.

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    It's almost like people don't want to leave. They're having so much fun.

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    And I'm sure that's happening at the other small groups too.

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    So if you're not plugged in, you're the one missing out.

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    And it is my job to make sure that you're not missing out.

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    I want you plugged in.

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    I want to assist you in fulfilling what Jesus Christ has called you to in making disciples.

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    Join a small group.

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    And if you're sitting here today and you're like, "Wow, you know what, I seem I need to, but I'm not even sure where to start with all this." Just put your name and number down and I will be glad to call you and talk with you about it, okay?

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    Let's make disciples.

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    Let's not be a body where the parts are sort of like scattered all over the place.

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    Let's be a body unified and working together.

Small Group Questions (Whole Group):
Read 1 Corinthians 12:12-27

Breakout Questions:
Pray for one another.

5 Things Worshipers Are Convinced Of

  1. God alone is Worthy of worship (Ps 115:1-3)

  2. I Imitate what I worship. (Ps 115:4-8)

  3. My Dependency on God leads me to worship. (Ps 115:9-11)

  4. Worship is expressing my Gratitude. (Ps 115:12-25)

  5. Worship is my Priority. (Ps 115:16-18)

Sermon Notes (PDF): BLANK
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  • 00:00-00:35

    Alright, open up your Bibles with me please. We're actually going to be in Psalms, right in the middle of your Bible. We're going to be in Psalm 115. And on the back of your outline, or back of your bulletin rather, is an outline. And over the next three weeks as we are getting ready to go into the new ministry year, which is when? September 30th, So we have three weeks until then. So I was really praying, "God, what should we talk about over the next three weeks?" We just finished the series on forgiveness and we have three weeks.

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    Well, I thought it would be a great reminder of what a disciple is.

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    So today we're talking about worship.

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    A disciple worships Christ.

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    Quick review, pop quiz, Harvest people we need to know this, Harvest Bible Chapel, what's our mission?

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    And you guys can eat while I'm talking, the only person here that's not allowed to eat during the sermon is me.

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    Okay, so that's going to cause problems.

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    What's our mission statement, do you know?

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    To glorify God through the fulfillment of the Great Commission in the spirit of the Great Commandment.

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    Right.

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    The Great Commission is what?

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    Jesus said, "Go and make disciples, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you." That's our mission.

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    Jesus' last command is our first priority.

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    In the spirit of the Great Commandment, what's the Great Commandment?

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    Jesus said the great commandment is love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind and all your strength.

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    And he said the second is like it, love your neighbor as yourself.

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    So we seek to fulfill the great commission by loving God and by loving people.

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    Harvest Bible Chapel is built on four pillars.

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    Who knows what the four pillars are?

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    What's the first one?

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    Proclaim, proclaiming the authority of God's Word without apology.

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    God is not sorry that he said some things.

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    I'm not sorry to repeat them, right?

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    Anybody sorry?

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    God's not.

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    God's like, I'm the source of truth, here it is.

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    So when we get up and proclaim the Word of God, my job is just the megaphone.

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    I don't make up the message, I just want to broadcast what God has already said in his Word.

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    Proclaiming the authority of God's Word without apology.

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    The second pillar is lifting high the name of Jesus through worship.

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    We're going to talk a lot about that today.

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    So the third pillar is what?

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    Believing firmly in what?

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    The power of prayer.

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    And the fourth pillar, Harvest Bible Chapel?

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    Sharing the good news of Jesus with boldness.

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    So we want to take some time to encourage disciples to be doing what disciples do.

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    That's what God's Word does.

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    So here's what disciples do.

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    Here's some encouragement on what we should be doing as disciples.

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    One of the things a disciple does is a disciple worships Christ.

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    So we talk about worship.

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    What does that look like?

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    What does worship look like?

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    It's corporate adoration in song.

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    When you talk to people about worship, they say, "Well, you know, to me worship is listening to sermons." But you know, worship is also corporate adoration in song, right?

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    Well, to me worship is when I mow my neighbor's lawn.

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    Worship is also corporate adoration in song.

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    To me worship is when I'm out fishing.

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    Well worship is also corporate adoration in song.

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    In fact, pop quiz, since we're throwing these questions out, what's the longest book in the Bible, do you know?

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    Psalms, right?

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    And what's the book of Psalms about?

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    Worship.

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    Do you think worship is important to God when the longest book in His Word, the very center of His Word, is all about what?

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    It's all about worship, right?

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    You're like, "Yeah, that's Old Testament, though." So when we get to the book of Revelation, what's happening in heaven?

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    Worship, right?

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    I don't read in Revelation where preachers are getting up, doing exegetical sermons.

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    I don't see that in Revelation.

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    People are in the presence of the God of all truth.

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    I don't see evangelism in heaven because...

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    Well, why?

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    Everybody there already got it, right?

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    It's not exactly prayer in heaven because you're communing with God in person.

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    Like you're there.

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    But do you know what I do see in heaven?

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    In Revelation?

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    Worship.

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    Worship.

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    It's a big deal to God.

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    It's a big deal to us.

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    And sometimes people come to a church like ours and are part of a worship set and sort to look around and say, "What's everyone so excited about?" My response to that is, "What are you not excited about?" Listen, it's okay to be excited in worship.

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    Is it okay?

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    It's okay to get excited in worship.

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    It's okay in worship to raise your hands.

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    Why do people raise their hands in worship?

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    Like, "Sam, I have a question."

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    (Laughter)

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    No.

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    It's sort of a physical way that we're reaching up saying, "God, I need you.

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    Father, I'm worshipping you and I want to receive whatever you have for me today." It's a physical response of engaging in worship.

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    That's why people raise their hands and sometimes people bow their heads in humility and prayer.

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    people lift up their eyes knowing Christ could come back in any moment.

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    That's the hope and the anticipation.

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    It's OK to get excited in worship.

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    Because I guarantee you one thing.

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    Someday.

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    Believers in Jesus Christ, someday you're going to stand before Jesus Christ, and I promise you, one thing you will not say is I spent too much time worshiping you on the earth.

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    You know, I just got a little too excited about worshipping you while I was on the earth.

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    I really should have toned that down a couple of notches.

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    You're not going to say that, are you?

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    You're going to say that?

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    No, absolutely not.

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    But sometimes in worship, church, you know, I was thinking about this this week when we told our six-year-old, Cade, to pick up his toys.

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    What does Cade say a lot of times when he doesn't want to pick up his toys?

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    He's putting them in the toy box.

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    And as he's doing it, he's saying, I'm not going to pick up my toys.

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    I'm not going to pick up my toys.

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    And I'm just like, you are picking up your toys.

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    But you know what?

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    That's what that's what sometimes we do in worship is we're sort of like I'm going through the motions, but my heart's not in this.

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    I mean, I'm standing here, words are coming out of my mouth and I'm kind of in tune and.

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    But my heart's really not in it.

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    Well let's get our hearts in it, alright?

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    You know when you are trying to explain something to someone, and they already know what you're talking about, what do we call that?

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    You say, "I know that I'm preaching to the choir, right?" That's my goal for Harvest Bible Chapel.

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    When I get up to speak, that's what I want to be doing.

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    I'm preaching to the choir.

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    I'm preaching to a group of passionate worshipers.

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    And well, here it is in your outline, five things worshipers are convinced of.

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    I'm going to share some things with you and some of, if you're a worshiper of Jesus Christ, if you're engaged in passionate worship, this morning you're just going to go, yep, yep, yep.

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    Jeff, you're what?

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    You're preaching to the choir.

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    Yep.

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    Five things worshippers are convinced of from Psalm 115.

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    Here's the first one.

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    God alone is worthy of worship.

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    God alone is worthy of worship.

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    Let's look at the first three verses.

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    Not to us, O Lord, not to us, but to your name give glory.

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    That sounds like that would make a good song.

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    We should sing that sometime.

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    Did Chris Tomlin read this?

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    He seems a little plagiarized.

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    Not to us, O Lord, not to us, but to your name give glory for the sake of your steadfast love and your faithfulness.

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    Let's pause here for a second.

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    What is glory?

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    Glory is praise, honor, distinction.

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    Do you know what the word literally means in the Hebrew, the word for glory?

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    This is interesting.

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    It means weight.

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    W-E-I-G-H-T.

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    That's what glory literally means in the Hebrew.

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    It means weight.

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    We still use it like that, don't we?

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    For example, we say, "You know, Paul here, he carries a lot of weight in this church." Meaning, he's a pretty important guy.

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    It's weight.

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    Or when we use it negatively, we say, "Oh, he's just throwing his weight around.

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    That's all he's doing.

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    He's just throwing his weight around." Meaning he's sort of abusing his authority.

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    Well, that's what the Hebrew word means.

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    It's weight.

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    So when we give glory to God, understand this.

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    We aren't giving Him something He doesn't already have.

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    Did you know that?

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    When we give God glory, it's like, "Here you go, God.

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    are lacking here, so I'm going to give it to you. What you're doing is you're acknowledging what he already has and saying, God, I want you to. Carry the weight in my life, right? God, you carry all the weight of the universe. I want that in me.

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    That's what I want. That's what it means to give glory, acknowledging what he already possesses. He alone is worthy. Do you know? In Isaiah 42, verse eight in Isaiah 48, verse 11, God says, I will not give my glory to another.

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    Did you know that?

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    So when you talk about.

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    The most glorious persons in the universe.

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    There's only one on that list, and that is God.

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    It's not as if there's God and some good saint or some good preacher somewhere that God's like, you know what?

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    He deserves a little glory.

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    God deserves it all. And he says, I'm not going to share it. Why?

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    Because he alone is worthy. He alone. He's in a unique class.

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    I like to trick people with this question, I say, who is more like God, an angel, me or my dog?

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    And the answer is none of the above. There is no one like God. There is no one like God.

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    He is in a class all his own.

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    And he says, "I will not share my glory with another." That's why the psalmist here cries out, "Not to us! Not to us!" And he says it twice.

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    Too often we seek to ascribe that weight to ourselves.

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    People, we can be such glory hounds.

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    "Oh, oh, oh, put the spotlight on me. Oh, oh, oh, look what I did." We can be such glory hounds.

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    Not to us, not to us, but to your name.

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    If you're not convinced that you don't deserve glory, let me ask you a couple of questions.

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    What is inherently awesome about you?

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    Can you tell me?

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    Can you tell me something that is inherently awesome about you?

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    I want to hear it.

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    Here's another question.

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    What do you have that wasn't given to you?

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    For example, Laura can say, here's something, she wouldn't say this, but Laura could say, here's something awesome about me.

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    I have an incredible singing voice.

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    That's great, where'd you get that?

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    Where did you get that?

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    God gave that to her.

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    So who's the awesome one now, Laura?

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    I'm safe.

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    Now, now, let's not change the subject.

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    Related question, what are you that you have made yourself to be?

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    What are you that you have made yourself to be?

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    Every good and perfect gift comes from above. Everything that you are, anything good in you, is from God. Right?

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    It's not as if God was looking down from heaven and saying, You know that Brooke Rodeberger, she's got some great qualities.

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    I'm going after her because I can use some of the things that she has.

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    Anything that's good is from God.

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    That's why the psalmist says not to us, not to us, but to your name.

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    But to your name, give glory for the sake of your steadfast love and your faithfulness.

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    That's why the Bible constantly tells us to humble ourselves.

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    Constantly.

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    Do you notice that in the Bible?

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    Isaiah 57, 15, Matthew 18, 4, Luke 14, 10, Romans 12, 3, Philippians 2, verses 3 through 11, James 4, 10, 1 Peter 5, 5.

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    Over and over and over and over and over.

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    You know, one popular preacher, we were talking about this on the way down to church, one popular preacher says, "You know, the problem is you need to think more of yourself." The problem is I already think too much of myself.

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    But the Bible says, "Humble yourself.

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    Humble yourself.

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    Think less of yourself and think more of God." So not to us, not to us, to your name.

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    In verse 2, "Why should the nations say, 'Where is their God?'" You know, back in Old Testament times, that was the way to insult an Israelite.

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    If you saw a Jewish person and for some reason you wanted to insult them, that was how you did it.

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    "Where's your God? Where's your God now? Where's your God now?" That was the insult. Not much has changed, right?

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    Every hurricane, where was God at?

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    Every school shooting, where's your God at?

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    Every disease outbreak, where's your God?

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    Always the accusation.

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    Have you ever heard that?

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    How do you answer that?

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    I'll give you a hint.

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    It's in verse three.

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    This is one of my most favorite verses in the entire Bible.

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    And it would do you well to memorize this verse.

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    Because when people say, "Where's your God at? Where's your God at now? Where's your God at now?" Because you ask, "Our God is in the heavens. He does all that He pleases." There's your answer. "Where's your God at now?" I'll tell you where He's at. He's on the throne of the universe.

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    Why doesn't your God do something about this?

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    You know what God does?

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    What does God do?

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    He does whatever he wants, right?

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    He does all that he pleases.

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    Isn't that awesome?

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    Here's the awesome thing.

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    God being the only being in the entire universe that this can rightly be said of, the only one in the universe that it can be said, he does everything that he wants.

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    What does he choose to do?

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    Look at verse 1. I have underlined in my Bible love and faithfulness.

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    God could do whatever He wanted.

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    God could say, "Those people rebelled and sinned against me.

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    Just cast them into hell right now.

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    Those people were wayward in their hearts. I'll just let them go." He could, because He can do whatever He wants.

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    Do you know what He wants to do?

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    He wants to love us.

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    Isn't that awesome? He wants to show himself faithful to us.

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    Doesn't that just give you chills?

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    The God who could do whatever he wants.

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    What do you want more than anything, God?

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    I want my name glorified in my people as I'm blessing them, as I'm working through them, as they come to know me and the love and mercy and compassion that I have.

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    Wow.

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    So God alone is worthy of worship.

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    And you're thinking right now, you're preaching to the choir, right?

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    Well, God alone is worthy of worship.

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    Number two, I imitate what I worship.

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    I imitate what I worship.

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    Look at verses four through eight.

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    Getting back to the nations, the people that were insulting the Israelites.

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    He's like, "Well, let's sort of evaluate their God." They're asking where ours is. You know what the difference is between us and them? I see their God.

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    He's made out of balsa wood and foil and sitting on their mantle.

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    Their idols are silver and gold, the work of human hands.

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    Oh, silver and gold. Must be an important God.

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    Well, look at this. They have mouths but do not speak.

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    Our God speaks, doesn't He?

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    Huh, yeah.

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    These little Mickey Mouse idols have mouths, but they don't speak.

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    They have eyes, but do not see.

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    They have ears, but do not hear.

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    Noses, but do not smell.

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    They have hands, but do not feel.

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    Feet, but do not walk.

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    And they do not make a sound in their throats.

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    You know what those gods sound like to me?

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    One word comes to mind.

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    Actually several could be said.

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    useless. Right?

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    They have all these things, but they can't do anything with them. They're dead and useless and worthless. Look at verse 8. "Those who make them become like them.

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    So do all who trust in them." What he's saying is the idols are useless, the idols are worthless, And people that choose to invest their lives in worshipping something other than the living God, they are what?

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    They are as worthless and useless and dead and powerless as that thing sitting on the shelf.

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    They have as much power as that trinket.

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    The people that make them are like that and so are the people that worship them.

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    Idolatry has always been a problem for mankind.

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    Instead of worshipping the unseen creator, man has a tendency to worship something that's seen.

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    As I heard one preacher say one time, "God made man in his own image and man returned the favor." True.

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    You become like what you worship.

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    become like who you worship. For example, if you worship money, as Jesus warned, you can't serve God in money. Some people opt to worship money. Money in and of itself, powerless. People that worship money, think of somebody that's consumed with it.

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    Always thinking in terms of the bottom line. People are just resources. Everything is a a transaction, they worship money and that becomes that becomes the mindset.

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    Because that's what money is like.

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    But as worshippers, Ephesians 5, one says we are to be imitators of God.

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    So when you see Christians.

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    Show grace and compassion and mercy and forgiveness, why are they doing that?

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    Because Christians too imitate what they worship, right?

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    But for the believer in Christ, it's so much more than just imitating who we worship, because the Bible says the one that we worship actually resides within us, that we walk by the Spirit.

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    That's why Christians imitate God.

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    You realize if you're a Christian, again I'm preaching to the choir, right? We established that.

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    Christians can't help but imitate God because God's living through them.

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    So when you see a Christian doing godly things, it's like, "Well, that makes sense." Because God's doing it through them, right?

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    So, I imitate what I worship.

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    Jeff, you're preaching to the choir. I know.

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    Number three, "My dependency on God leads me to worship." Look at verses 9 through 11, "O Israel, trust in the Lord; He is their help and their shield." "O house of Aaron, trust in the Lord; He is their help and their shield." "You who fear the Lord, trust in the Lord. He is their help and their shield." So, notice three times, God is what? He says, "a help and a shield." There's so much to be scared of out there, isn't there?

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    We live in scary times, we really do.

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    There is so much to be scared of.

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    And the psalmist here is reminding us that God is a safe place. God is a safe place.

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    You have no danger in the Lord because He's what? He's our help and He's our shield.

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    You know, we talked earlier about people making accusations against God's people, and specifically it's talking about Christians.

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    Here's one of my favorite sayings that people throw out to insult us Christians.

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    "Christianity is just a crutch." You ever heard somebody say that?

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    "It's just a crutch." How many people have heard somebody say something like that?

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    "Christianity is a crutch." I'm a little offended at that statement because it doesn't really do justice to the truth of what Christianity is.

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    It's not like I had a limp and needed a crutch.

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    It's much more than a crutch.

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    I was dead.

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    A crutch doesn't help a dead person, right?

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    What helps a dead person?

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    Life, right?

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    So, for somebody to say, "Well, Christianity is a crutch." Oh, no, it's much more than that.

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    Pride says, "I don't need God." Reality says, "I am weak, I need help, and I need protection." You know, the Lord has taken me to some absolutely amazing and crazy situations in my life.

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    And this past week, while I was thinking about God being a help and a shield, and how so many people don't want to acknowledge that they need the Lord, you know, I was thinking, I've spent a lot of time in my life around some really tough guys.

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    I mean, like really tough guys.

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    Some of you know I was a professional wrestler for six years.

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    I was in a locker room with a lot of really big, tough guys.

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    I ran a prison ministry for ten years.

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    I was locked in a prison with some really big, tough guys.

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    And I can tell you in both of those scenarios, I could keep you here for the rest of the day, I promise I won't.

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    But I could tell you so many stories of some of these big tough guys weeping.

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    "I'm so weak. I'm so lost." God finally getting at them and breaking the pride down to cry out, "I thought that I didn't need anything, but you know what I need?

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    I need a help and a shield.

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    I got some good news for you.

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    That is who God is." Notice in here, he says, "O Israel, O house of Aaron, you who fear the Lord." Israel referring to the nation, house of Aaron referring to the priesthood.

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    You who fear the Lord refers to Gentile converts.

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    Really this is just a poetic way of saying everybody, isn't it?

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    Whether you're an Israelite, well, what if you're a professional Israelite, like a priest?

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    Yeah, you too.

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    Well, I wasn't born Jewish, I sort of, you know, came to the faith.

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    You too.

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    He's saying everybody.

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    God wants to be a help and a shield for everybody.

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    Whether you're the single mom, whether you work in the mill, whether you work at the Whether you work at the university, whether you work at the airport, no matter who you are or where you've been, God wants to be a help and a shield to you.

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    Have you learned Him to be that?

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    Have you experienced the compassion?

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    Have you experienced the comfort that only God can give?

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    So why do we worship?

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    Here's why.

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    I am completely dependent upon God for everything.

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    I am completely dependent.

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    So when I come to God, "God, I need you.

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    I need you." And that's what we're doing as a congregation.

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    We're crying out, "God, I need you.

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    I need you.

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    God, I need you." Sammy and I have had this conversation so many times over the past year.

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    But do you remember this time last year we were in a situation where we were like, "If God doesn't show up, we don't know what's going to happen." And we really felt so dependent on God to show up, right?

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    Like nothing else is going to cut it.

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    God has to show up and look around at what He's done already.

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    He's just getting started.

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    But so many times, Sam and I had this conversation that we can't ever lose that mindset of dependence.

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    We can't lose that.

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    We can't look around now and say, "Well, look, God gave us this stuff and God gave us some people, so now we don't need God now.

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    We're good.

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    We needed them last year, right, Dave?

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    We needed them last year.

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    This year, we're good.

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    Thanks.

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    See you in heaven, right?" Wrong.

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    Do you realize we are just as dependent upon God now as we were last September?

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    And if the Lord tarries, if we're here in ten years and this church has 50,000 people, wouldn't it be cool?

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    But guess how dependent we're going to be on the Lord then?

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    Just as much as we are now, just as much as we were last year.

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    Always dependent, always dependent.

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    It leads to worship.

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    God, I was in a place where I needed you and you showed up.

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    That's why we worship.

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    Oh, Jeff, you're just preaching to the choir now.

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    Number four, worship is expressing my gratitude.

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    Look at verses 12 through 14.

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    "The Lord has remembered us. He will bless us. He will bless..." Here's the three again.

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    "The house of Israel, He will bless the house of Aaron.

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    He will bless those who fear the Lord, both the small and the great.

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    May the Lord give you increase, you and your children.

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    May you be blessed by the Lord who made heaven and earth." Worship is expressing my gratitude.

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    Do you know there is a connection between faith and gratitude?

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    Did you know that?

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    I actually dropped this reference down, Romans 121.

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    There is a direct connection between faith and gratitude.

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    And here's the connection.

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    Either they're both there or they're both absent.

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    Gratitude always accompanies faith.

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    And where there's lack of faith, there's lack of gratitude.

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    You can switch that.

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    When there's lack of gratitude, that's indicative that there's lack of what?

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    There's lack of faith.

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    They go hand in hand.

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    Now the level of gratitude, this is just a true statement about life, but the level of gratitude is always proportionate to the size of the gift, isn't it?

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    The level of gratitude is always proportionate to the size of the gift, am I right?

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    Some of you aren't convinced, so I'm going to show you.

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    Who wants a piece of gum?

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    Will I knew you were going to raise your hand.

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    Can you have gum, Bob?

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    I knew some of you wouldn't be convinced, so I'm going to show you.

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    Will you throw that away for me?

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    Level of gratitude is always proportionate to the size of the gift.

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    There you go.

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    You grateful?

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    Anybody else want some gum?

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    You're welcome.

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    Here you go.

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    Are you still grateful?

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    No, he's not.

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    Will does not disappoint.

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    He got a piece.

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    Matthew got a pack.

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    The level of gratitude is always proportionate to the size of the gift.

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    Carrie, would you like an iPod?

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    Alright! I thought what? I really would.

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    Are you starting to see it?

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    My car keys are in my bag, but somebody's really going to take that seriously if I give them that.

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    That's a high count. But do you see it now?

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    Your level of gratitude is always proportionate to the size of the gift.

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    So let me ask you, what have you received in Christ?

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    What have you received in Christ?

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    Eternal life, every promise of God, heaven, the promise of comfort, all these things we've been talking about, the promise of protection, the promise of I will never leave you or forsake you, the promise of the indwelling Holy Spirit.

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    We could go on, adoption as sons, complete forgiveness of sins.

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    We could go on and on.

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    Are you grateful for that?

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    Could someone give you a gift that would even come close to matching that?

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    I mean, I want to fall down on my knees in appreciation when somebody gives me a Tic-Tac.

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    The God of the universe has given everything.

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    He's given Himself.

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    And when we come to worship, our worship should just be an overflow of thanksgiving.

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    God, thank you. We weren't worthy. We didn't deserve it. We didn't earn it.

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    But you lavishly gave us the greatest gift of all in giving us your Son, in giving us yourself.

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    And then think of all the blessings on top of that.

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    Did you eat today?

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    Do you have shelter? Do you have clothes? Do you have friends?

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    Worship is expressing my gratitude.

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    What's happening in your life right now that can only be God?

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    It's always a good question to ask yourself.

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    What's happening in your life, or the life of the family, or the life of the church, that can only be God at work?

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    Worship should be thankfulness.

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    You don't have to tell me, Jeff. You're preaching to the choir now, buddy.

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    That's what I'm hoping.

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    One more.

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    Worship is my priority.

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    Worship is my priority.

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    Verse 15, he says, "May you be blessed by the Lord who made heaven and earth." And he's like, "Oh, and speaking of," verse 16, "the heavens are the Lord's heavens, but the earth He has given to the children of man." We are stewards of this earth, but understand, we didn't pay for it, we didn't earn it, God gave it.

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    God gave dominion. It's His, He gave dominion to us, but the earth He has given to the children of man.

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    He says, "The dead do not praise the Lord, nor do any who go down into silence, but we will bless the Lord from this time forth and forevermore. Praise the Lord." One phrase that I'm sure raises some questions, "The dead do not praise the Lord." Now, understand this without getting into a whole dissertation, but there was a bit of a question mark as to what was beyond the grave in Old Testament times.

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    Now, we're blessed to live in this period of history where we have the full written revelation of God.

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    The New Testament gives us more revelation on what happens beyond the grave.

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    In the Old Testament there was still a little bit of a question mark in some people's minds, like what happens?

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    That's why a lot of times in the Old Testament you see the word "sheol".

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    That was the word that just meant "grave".

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    Like people die and then the New Testament completed.

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    We understand now what happens when people die and leave the earth, to be absent from the bodies, to be in the presence of the Lord.

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    Jesus in the New Testament, authors inspired by the Holy Spirit, taught us so much more about what's beyond. But understand this in number five here, "Worship is my priority." He's giving this from a purely earthly perspective. Don't get hung up on that phrase. It's sort of like we say something like, we're still guilty of it, we say things like this, "His life ended." Yeah, "His life, his life ended. No, it didn't. His time on the earth ended, but his life didn't end. See what I mean? So God gave us this earth as a platform to praise him, and my time on this platform will be to praise him. That's what he's saying. God gave us this earth, and we have some time on this earth. The earth is sort of our stage, and we're going to use it to worship God.

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    the Lord I ran into a man a few months ago Dale Lippin you know I'm talking about the traveling evangelist guy who um they'll had some encounters with him too I was doing some yard work and this guy came up was talking to me and we got talking about church he's from a church up north a little bit and he said let me tell you something about the worship at our church he says the worship at our church is great, but the worship is really only just to prepare you for the sermon." And I said, "Well, that's interesting." I said, "At our church it's sort of opposite." I said, "My job as a preacher is to make people better worshipers, right?" Well, I've heard people say things like this over the years, and it's sad. I've heard people say when they come to church, "Well, I'm just here for sermon. I'm just here for the message. Or, I don't really care about the music.

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    Laura reminded us last week at the beginning of service, we don't worship to give the musicians something to do, right? Like, well, we got Darren and Laura and Sammy and Jay. If we don't find something for them to do...

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    Actually, it's our priority.

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    You can listen to sermons anywhere, anytime, and you should.

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    I do.

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    Listen to sermons.

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    You should.

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    You can do that anywhere, anytime, but corporate worship with God's people.

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    As I close, I just want to go back to the beginning where the service started.

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    Sam had quoted John chapter 4.

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    I want to read a verse again.

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    In John chapter 4 verse 23, Jesus told the woman at the well, "But the hour is coming and is now here when the true worshippers will worship the Father in spirit and truth." Understand, you know this little Harvest logo?

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    Have you seen this?

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    You know what that logo means?

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    Spirit and truth.

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    Did you know that?

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    The flame representing spirit, the book representing the Bible, representing truth.

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    The logo is about worship.

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    To say Harvest Bible Chapel, we want to be people who worship God.

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    How?

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    Spirit and truth.

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    Spirit meaning with our whole being, like Sam said earlier.

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    With everything that's in us, we want to worship with our whole being, but in truth, meaning according to God's word.

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    And do you know why we do that?

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    Here's one more reason, it's our priority.

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    Jesus said, "For the Father is seeking such people to worship Him." Jesus said the Father is looking down from heaven and He's looking for something.

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    What's He looking for?

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    What's He looking for?

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    Worshippers.

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    That's what God's looking for.

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    He's looking for worshippers.

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    What kind of worshippers is He looking for?

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    who worship Him in spirit and in truth.

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    So the question is, is He going to find any here?

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    That's what we're going after.

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    This is our priority for gathering.

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    So next week, we're going to go at it again.

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    We're going to passionately worship in spirit and in truth.

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    And I want to take another opportunity to get up and preach to the choir.

Small Group Questions (Whole Group):
Read Psalm 115

Breakout Questions:
Pray for one another.

Forgiven People Forgive, and I Want to Forgive

  1. I want to forgive because I live Debt-free (Phm 1:19)

  2. I want to forgive because it Blesses others. (Phm 1:20-21)

  3. I want to forgive because I will be held Accountable. (Phm 1:22-24)

  4. I want to forgive because that is what Christ. (Phm 1:25)

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    Look at Philemon with me, chapter 1, and we're going to be picking up in verse 19.

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    You were in chapter 2, weren't you?

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    Look at verse 19, Paul says, "I, Paul, write this with my own hand." A lot of times in Paul's letter, he had somebody else write.

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    he would sort of dictate and he'd have somebody else do the writing for him.

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    But Paul here is saying, "Philemon, I'm writing this." And you sense the personal touch here, right?

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    There's a difference between getting a typed form letter in the mail and a handwritten card in the mail, isn't there?

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    Isn't there a difference?

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    That's what Paul's saying here, like, "I'm writing this.

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    I'll write this with my own hand.

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    I will repay it.

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    That piggybacks off of verse 18, a verse that most scholars believe is teaching that it looks as if Onesimus, when he ran away from Philemon, he stole some money.

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    And here Paul is saying, "Does he owe you money?

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    I'll pay you back.

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    Okay?

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    I'll pay you back." To say nothing of your owing me, even your own self.

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    Whoa. To say nothing of your owing me, even your own self.

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    So here's where we're going today.

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    Earlier, you told me you don't want to forgive.

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    And I said, yeah, you do.

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    And here's why.

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    Number one, I want to forgive because I live debt free.

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    Because I live debt free.

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    Verse 19, we see that Onesimus owed Philemon a material debt.

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    And Paul says to Philemon, "You owe me a spiritual debt." Onesimus owed Philemon a temporal debt, and Paul says, "Hey, Philemon, you owe me an eternal debt.

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    You owe me your life.

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    What's he talking about?" Well, Paul, through ministering the gospel, was pouring into Philemon, and Philemon probably came to Christ through Paul's ministry.

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    So Paul says, "If owing somebody something is still the issue on the table, Philemon, I want to remind you of something.

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    You owe me your very life." So if we're playing the you owe me game, you might wanna check yourself on that.

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    By the way, that is the world's way, right?

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    You owe me, you owe me, you owe me.

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    And without getting all political, we have never seen the sense of entitlement in our country that we see today, true or false?

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    true. The sense of entitlement right now is just appalling. That it's at the point that we expect the government to hand over things to us, which by the way, show me biblically where it's the government's job to reward irresponsibility. That's another sermon. But now the people that do work and innovate and earn are looked that as the villains. How dare you? But this sense of entitlement mentality, "You owe me, you owe me, you owe me, I don't need to work, the government will pay my bills, I don't need to pay my student loans, we'll get the government to do that, I don't need to pay for the house that I bought beyond my means, the government will bail me out." Well, this "you owe me" philosophy is not going to work in our country. It's not going to work financially in our country, but it's not going to work spiritually in the church either. And this is what Paul was reminding Philemon of. As Philemon was, you know, as Paul was anticipating the the argument that Philemon would have, "But Onesimus owes me, he owes me, he owes me, he owes me," and Paul's like, "Really? Let's talk about owing people stuff. Do we live that way?" Well, the truth is, church, we live in a culture of debt. I want you to think about that in the church. There's a sense in which you could say you owe something to everyone. To the people who give time and money and talents, there's a sense in which you could say we owe those people. I think of our worship team up here, you know, Sammy and Laura and Darren and Jay, I look at these people up here and say, "You know what? I owe them something." Because they have invested time and money and resources and talent and energy into facilitating a time where I can come and worship the Lord thanks to them. So there's a sense in which I sort of owe them something, and so do you, by the way.

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    To the people that pour into you, the leadership, your small group leader, and If we're gonna start collecting debts, I want you to think of the one that you owe me. So we don't live in a culture of debt, listen church, we live in a culture of grace. We live in a culture of grace, and we do what we do for Jesus Christ, not to repay people. You understand that? We don't do what we do here because I owe I'm gonna do this. Okay, now I owe you one, so I'm gonna do this." We live in a culture of grace. We do what we do because of Jesus Christ, for Jesus Christ, and empowered by Jesus Christ. Amen? So Ken Frederick comes up to me and he says, "You know what, Jeff? I'm going to redo the lobby for you." And my answer is, "No, No you're not.

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    So what, like if I drop over dead this afternoon, Ken's like, "I'm not going to redo the lobby now." You're not doing it for me, you're doing it for Jesus Christ.

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    Or somebody coming to visit today says, "You know what, this seems like a nice thing, Jeff, I'm going to give you some money." No you're not.

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    You're not doing it for me.

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    This is for the work of Christ, and it's because of Christ, and for Christ, and empowered by Christ.

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    We live in a culture of grace.

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    I've invested the Word of God into you, so how could you pay me back for that?

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    Think about that.

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    What do I invest into you?

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    Every week, by God's grace, and under God's authority, by God's authority, I stand up and say, "This is what the God of the universe has said." Do you know what God thinks?

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    Do you know what God's saying to his church?

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    Do you know what God's calling to his people?

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    This is it.

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    How could you pay me back for that?

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    Like I baked you a banana nut loaf because you shared the eternal word of the sovereign holy God with me, but it's really good banana nut loaf.

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    And I just, look, give me some banana bread, but it's not because you owe me anything, right?

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    We don't live in that mentality, and that's what Paul's saying here.

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    We don't live that way, Philemon.

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    You shouldn't live that way.

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    Grace keeps our focus where it needs to be.

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    So I wanna forgive because I live debt-free.

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    I live debt-free.

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    Secondly, I wanna forgive because it blesses others.

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    I wanna forgive because it blesses others.

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    Look at verse 20 and 21 with me.

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    Paul says, "Yes, brother, "I want some benefit from you in the Lord.

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    "Refresh my heart in Christ.

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    "Confident of your obedience, I write to you knowing "that you will do even more than I say." Interestingly, excuse me, this word for benefit, The Greek word for benefit is the same word from which we get the name Onesimus.

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    So that's like twice in the book of Philemon.

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    Paul's doing these little word games here.

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    Quite the wordsmith the apostle Paul, playing games with Onesimus, which means useful.

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    And here he says, "I want to get some benefit from you, some anonymi from you," where we get Onesimus.

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    I thought about that, you know, what did the Apostle Paul have to gain by Philemon forgiving Onesimus?

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    What did he have to gain from that?

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    There's a sense in which you could say, Paul could have said to him, "You can forgive him or not forgive him, that doesn't matter to me.

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    You know what?

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    You forgive Philemon, I'm going to wake up in jail tomorrow again anyways.

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    You don't forgive him, I wake up in jail again tomorrow anyways.

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    It doesn't matter to me.

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    You know what, I'm still going to maybe probably eat tomorrow, the sun's still going to come up.

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    You can forgive him or not forgive him, makes no difference to me, but Paul certainly didn't seem to have that sense, did he?

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    He says, "Refresh my heart in Christ." There's a sense in which the Apostle Paul was going to reap some sort of personal benefit from Philemon forgiving Ernestus?

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    What's that all about?

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    Do you know what that's all about?

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    One time when I was at the gym a few years ago, it wasn't the last time I was at the gym.

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    I know some of you were thinking that.

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    So I'm at the gym and I'm at this machine doing these tricep pulldowns and it was right beside the soda machine, I know, it was a gym that had a soda machine, and there's a TV on top of it so I'm doing these tricep pulldowns and I'm just like me and one of our worship leaders sort of have this in common, when there's a TV on we get very distracted.

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    kind of watching this TV and doing these tricep pulldowns when all of the sudden on my way down the cable snaps. Right? And my hands hit this other bar that was on the machine full force with that cable snapping. Well one finger really took the blow. Which one was it? It was a while ago. I think it was this one. Really turned like green. And as much as I'd hoped that the fingernail was not going to fall off, it did. So I go to the hospital. Well, I was just being Mr. Macho about it. I'm like, "It's fine, it's fine." Meanwhile, it was like the size of a can of Loop. I'm like, "It's fine." Aaron's like, "You're going to the hospital." Fine. So I go the hospital and they admit me into the emergency room and I go in and the nurse goes, "Let me see that." She's like, "Yeah, we're gonna have to put a hole in that nail." And I'm like, true story, is it gonna hurt?

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    Much like it hurt when I fell off the turnip truck. But I'm like, "Is it gonna hurt. She grabs my arm and sort of puts my arm in this headlock thing and she's like yeah it's gonna hurt and pulls out this pen looking thing that has a red hot poker on the end. You medical people, you know I'm talking about? Have you ever seen this thing? How many people know what I'm talking about? This little pen thing that, okay the tip turns orange and she's like and you know Butler Armstrong in Allegheny County heard me yell?

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    Well my point in all of this is simply this.

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    When I mashed my finger on that machine, there was only one thing I could think about.

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    Guess what it was?

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    It was that giant nasty green throbbing finger.

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    I could not think of anything.

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    I wasn't thinking of asthma issues or allergy issues or, oh, I could use a haircut or, you know, do these shorts match this shirt or...

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    I was only thinking about one thing.

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    And even at the time when it happened, I remember being at the Cub's all just walking around like, "Oh, ow, ow, ow, ow." And people would come in and just want to talk to me, "Hey, Jeff, what are you up to?" Like, "Nothing." And they didn't...

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    They had no idea what was going on.

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    They're like, "What do you think about these penguins?

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    Are they going to turn it around?" and I'm like, "I don't know, I don't know, I don't know." I couldn't think about anything else, why?

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    You know the Bible says when one part of the body is suffering, what?

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    The whole body's suffering.

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    When one part rejoices, the whole body rejoices.

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    But the point is this, at that point in my life, my whole body was one giant finger.

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    And there was a sense in which my whole body was hurting through the finger.

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    And so it goes in the church.

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    Honoring Jesus Christ never just blesses the one doing it, or even just the direct recipient.

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    There's a benefit that comes to the whole body.

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    And you know how it is when there are pockets of problems in the church and these people don't like these people and this guy's mad at this guy.

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    It weighs on the leadership.

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    I guarantee you the leadership isn't going home thinking, "Well, that's their problem.

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    Hopefully they'll get it figured out." It weighs.

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    It weighs down on you.

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    So your forgiveness is going to bless the whole church.

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    The whole church is either hurting with your unforgiveness or is being blessed by your forgiveness.

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    Which do you want to do?

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    Like, "I don't want to forgive." Yeah, you do.

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    You want to live debt-free, don't you?

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    You want to bless others, don't you?

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    Well, thirdly, I want to forgive because I will be held accountable.

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    I will be held accountable.

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    Look at verses 22 through 24 here.

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    says, "At the same time, prepare a guest room for me, for I am hoping that through your prayers, I will be graciously given to you. Epaphras, my fellow prisoner in Christ Jesus, sends greetings to you, and so do Mark, Aristarchus, Demas, and Luke, my fellow workers." Here's another reason you want to forgive. I want to forgive because I'll be held accountable. Now forgiveness doesn't mean we don't hold people accountable. We talked about that back in week one. Because forgiving people forgive, that doesn't mean that when somebody sins we don't hold them accountable for that. But that's not what we're talking about here. What we're talking about here is I am accountable to others to forgive. The Apostle Paul Paul was expecting to be released at this point.

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    And do you see what he tells Philemon?

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    He says, "I'm hoping through your prayers I will be graciously given to you." Paul was basically saying, "Pray that I get released." Well Philemon could hardly pray for that if he didn't forgive Onesimus.

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    That's why Paul in verse 22 says, "Prepare a guest room for me." says, "I'm coming." And it's not a threat, but this was a reminder to Philemon. He says, "I'm coming." And you know what Philemon was thinking? If I haven't forgiven Onesimus, guess what Paul's gonna want to talk about? Right? You think that was in his mind? I'm gonna be face-to-face with Paul? Hey Philemon, how's it going? "Hey Paul, how about them penguins? You think they're gonna turn it around? Tell me about Onesimus." "Yeah, you know, we've been just having a lot of weather lately and I just..." "Tell me about Onesimus. Tell me about that relationship." So it was not a threat but a reminder. You're accountable. You're accountable. So is that really any of your business? Well, Hebrews 13, 17 says, obey your leaders and submit to them for they are keeping watch over your souls as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you." That's why sometimes pastors and elders have to have those hard conversations. Believe me, I've been in many situations over the past 15 years where I'm driving thinking I don't want to have this conversation with this guy, but I have to. I know this guy and I have dealt with this issue before, but I got to talk to him about it. Why? Because the Bible says that I'm an overseer of souls, and I take that very seriously. So if there's work that needs done, we need to work on it. So notice it's not just Paul he's held accountable to. He gives the list here, and you know, oftentimes Paul does give a list, but again, I really believe that Philemon, when he read this list, he knew these people. So he's like, "Well, Paul's going to be asking me about the whole Anesimus thing, but who else is going to be asking me about it? How about all these people that said hi. Epaphras, Mark, Aristarchus, Demas, Luke, Philemon's like, "These are other guys that I'm gonna be accountable to." So that's what we do is we watch each other's backs. We watch each other's backs and those of you who are in a small group, and we want everybody involved in a small group, but those of you who are in a small group, and specifically the leaders, don't be afraid to have those hard conversations when you have breakout time. When you sit down and say, "Hey, let's talk about this area, whether it's a blind spot or an area of weakness. We need to pray about this. We need to talk about this." And so often we shy away from that stuff.

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    But we are biblically responsible to watch each other's backs.

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    I want to forgive because I will be held accountable by others.

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    And then finally, I want to forgive because that is what Christ wants.

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    One last verse, but this isn't just like, Paul's like, "Oh, I can't just end with the list thing.

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    I've got to say something nice at the end." Look at what he says, "The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit." The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit.

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    So the last thing here is I want to forgive because that is what Christ wants.

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    Unforgiveness is not possible in the flesh.

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    Actually unforgiveness is an attitude of the flesh.

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    And through this series we've seen a lot of appeals to forgive.

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    It's because you love people, it's because you belong to the fellowship, it's because you want to restore value in a person, you want to remove bitterness, but this is the last and probably the strongest appeal.

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    The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit.

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    You know God has some goals for you.

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    Actually a goal for you.

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    Do you know what God's goal is for you?

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    Romans 8 29 very clearly says what God's goal is for every believer.

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    wants to conform you into the image of his Son. God's Holy Spirit has taken up residence within you to work on this single goal. Every day, more and more, to grow you to become more like Jesus Christ. That's his goal. So God is doing this by the power of His Spirit. And the question for you is, are you willing to yield your will to allow God's Holy Spirit to do what he wants to do in you, because your spirit is going to be restless until you allow him to do the work of grace that he wants to do through you. You can fight against it. You can continue to persistently make hard-hearted choices against what he's calling you to do, but with all the love that I can muster, I want to tell you this, you're gonna lose. He who began a good work in you, what? Is he gonna be faithful to complete it? God doesn't start something he doesn't finish. So listen, loved ones, believers in Christ, if you have this issue of unforgiveness with someone, the Holy Spirit is not going to let you rest until that is resolved. So my encouragement to you is to yield your will. To say, "God, this is clearly what you want for me, and God, I'm sorry that this hasn't been what I've wanted for me." But I realize now, Father, that when it gets down to these matters of my will versus your will, may your will be done.

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    So I don't want to forgive. Yeah, you do. Because I want to live debt-free. I want to bless others. I want people to encourage me to do the right thing, and I want Jesus Christ to have his work accomplished in me.

Small Group Questions (Whole Group):
Read Philemon 1:19-25

Breakout Questions:
Pray for one another.

Forgiven People Forgive, And Here’s What it Looks Like

How do I know I have forgiven?

  1. When I make the Choice (Phm 1:8-9)

  2. When I Value the person again. (Phm 1:10-14)

  3. When I Rejoice that God is working in them. (Phm 1:15-16)

  4. When the offense is a Non-issue to me. (Phm 1:17-18)

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    Open up your Bibles to the book of Philemon. Do you have your Bible?

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    Do you have your Bible? Hold up your Bible. You got your Bible? I hope you brought your Bible. Do you know that's our middle name? Harvest Bible Chapel. That wasn't an accident. Harvest Chapel. Nah, it needs something else. Not an accident. Open your Bible to Philemon. Where's that at? We'll go near the back of your New Testament the book of Hebrews. Take a left, it's the book right before the book of Hebrews. I shared with you a couple weeks ago how shocked I was when I went to get donuts and the people at Dunkin Donuts were like, "Uh, uh, uh, uh, hang on off to see if we have them." I'm like, "You're a donut store!" I was also shocked one time I went to get tires for my car. I went to the tire store and the guy was like, "We don't have them." "You're a tire store, what do you have?" Then he's like, "Well your tires are an unusual size." Like, I drive a Ford Focus. There's like an infinity of them on the road. Seriously? It's a weird size?

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    I expect donuts from the donut store and I expect tires from the tire store because that's their thing. And if you're a Christian, you know what your thing is? Forgiveness. Because what that means is you've come to God whom you've offended by your sin and you've received his gift of salvation in Jesus Christ. And we talked about that, didn't we? That God says your sins, there is now therefore no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus.

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    Your sins are taken away, they're ancient history, they're not an issue because my son died for your sins and he rose from the dead so that you might have life.

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    We If you'll pardon the vernacular, sometimes we are knuckleheads when it comes to forgiving other people, aren't we?

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    Somebody does one or two little things to offend us and I'll never forgive that person.

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    And that's what we've learned from God's Word is that forgiving people, what?

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    Let's try that again.

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    Forgiving people, forgive, right?

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    That's what Jesus said.

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    Forgiving people, forgive.

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    I'm also learning, Mark Bloomingdale taught me, that forgetful people don't need to forgive.

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    At least that's what he keeps telling me.

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    Or something like that, I don't exactly remember how it goes.

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    But, forgiven people forgive, right?

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    When Philemon, just to catch us all up, Philemon was a letter that was written to a man named Philemon, let's try that again.

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    Philemon was a letter written to a man named Philemon.

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    And who wrote that?

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    The apostle Paul, right?

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    And why did he write it?

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    Well, Philemon had a slave named Onesimus.

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    And Onesimus apparently stole some money from his master and ran away.

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    So what's the big deal?

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    Well, a runaway slave was considered a criminal who can be executed.

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    So Onesimus flees to Rome, and he runs into Paul.

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    Was he looking for him?

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    Did he find him by accident?

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    I don't know.

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    The scripture doesn't say.

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    Here's what we do know.

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    He runs into Paul, and Paul shares Christ with him.

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    And Onesimus becomes born again.

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    So now here's Paul with this new Christian Onesimus.

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    And he says, the right thing for you to do is to go back to Philemon.

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    That'd be the right thing to do.

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    But he could kill me.

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    You realize that?

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    Slaves aren't considered people.

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    They're considered property.

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    And he could just kill me, right?

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    And Paul's like, OK, Penn, I'm going to write Philemon a personal letter telling him, in Christ, why he must forgive you.

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    And that's what we see in this really neat little book.

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    And last week, when we started Philemon, we saw that Paul started off reminding Philemon who he is.

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    And we said, "I forgive because it's who I am in Christ." That was the message last week.

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    It's all about your identity.

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    It's all about your identity.

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    If you're sitting here today and you're like, "You know what?

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    I'm not really a Christian," then I don't expect much from you in a way of forgiveness.

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    I don't mean that harshly, but for people that have received Christ and understand who Christ is and what he's done and who I am in Christ, forgiveness is a no brainer.

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    Do you know how many times I've sinned?

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    Take a guess. How many times have I sinned?

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    Three, that was more than 300.

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    That was a good guess.

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    Maybe 300 before I get out of bed this morning.

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    OK, all of the sin that I've ever committed or ever will commit, God said in Christ, forgiven.

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    So when somebody sins against me, how dare I?

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    How dare I say I'm not going to forgive that person?

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    Oh, really? Really?

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    So obviously you didn't understand the forgiveness thing.

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    That's what Paul reminded Philemon, who are you in Christ?

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    That's where it starts.

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    So today, here's what we're going to tackle.

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    Forgiving people, forgiving, here's what it looks like.

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    Now, some might be sitting here as we've been going through the last couple weeks saying, I don't know if I have forgiven.

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    Have you ever wondered that?

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    Let's be honest.

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    This is a school, but this morning it's church.

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    Have you ever wrestled with that?

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    Like, I'm not sure if I really have forgiven that person.

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    I've wrestled with that.

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    Have you?

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    I've wrestled with that.

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    I've had issues with people.

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    I'm like, did I really forgive them?

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    Well, that's exactly what we're going to be looking at here.

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    That's where Paul's going to be confronting Philemon.

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    So here's the question.

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    How do I know I have forgiveness?

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    How do I know?

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    Do you have an outline?

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    Jot these things down.

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    Number one, when I make the choice.

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    Keyword, I.

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    when I make the choice.

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    That's when I'll know that I've forgiven is when I make the choice.

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    Let's look at verses 8 and 9.

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    Paul says, "Accordingly, though I am bold enough in Christ to command you to do what is required, yet for love's sake, I prefer to appeal to you.

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    "I, Paul, an old man, and now a prisoner also for Christ Jesus, I appeal to you for my child Onesimus, whose father I became in my imprisonment." He means spiritual father, right?

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    So you'll know that you've forgiven when it's you that makes that choice.

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    Interestingly, you know, the word forgive is not in Philemon anywhere.

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    Nor do we find long doctrinal teaching.

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    Here's what we find in Philemon.

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    It's an appeal to love.

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    Based on character.

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    And we saw in verse seven, didn't we, that they had a relationship.

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    I mean, Philemon wasn't a stranger. Paul said, "I've derived much joy and comfort from your love, my brother." So they had a good relationship. So Paul here is saying, "I could make you." Did you catch that? He said, "I'm bold enough." Was Paul bold? Yeah, he was pretty bold. He said, "I could command you." That would have been an interesting letter, wouldn't it? Dear Philemon, forgive Onesimus because I said so, period! Exclamation point. Couple more. Love Paul. Because I said so. He said, but I don't want to appeal to you on that level.

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    Verse 9, he says, "For love's sake." It's for love's sake.

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    Do you see the fatherly appeal, the emotional appeal he throws in here?

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    I'm an old man. I'm a prisoner.

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    If you can kind of put yourself in Philemon's place, keep in mind this was before Skype and FaceTime and all these other things, He would have just gotten this letter from Paul.

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    And when he got the letter, Tychicus, remember, was delivering the mail, Philemon would have been right in front of him.

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    So could you imagine here, Onesimus, I'm sorry, would have been right in front of Philemon.

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    So could you see this picture?

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    Here's Onesimus.

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    Is he gonna kill me?

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    And Tychicus is like, here's a letter, Philemon, this is for you, this is from Paul.

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    And you see the emotional appeal here.

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    Paul's like, look, man, I could command you, man, but listen, I'm an old man.

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    I'm a prisoner for Christ, so please hear my heart on this.

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    You need to make the choice, OK?

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    And with every bit of passion and emotion that I can try to convey in my communication, You need to make the choice to forgive Onesimus.

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    We do this with kids all the time, don't we?

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    This authority thing that Paul didn't do.

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    Say you're sorry.

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    How many people have kids?

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    You've gone through that drill.

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    Say you're sorry.

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    Say you're sorry.

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    Say thank you.

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    Say hello.

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    You call him Mr.

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    Bloomingdale, not Mark.

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    You didn't go to high school with them.

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    But we do that all the time with our kids.

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    Look, here's what you have to do.

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    And we're discipling our kids.

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    We're trying to teach them what's right.

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    That's all good.

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    But Paul here is saying, I'm not doing that to you, man.

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    I'm not telling you what you have to do.

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    I'm appealing to you.

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    You do the right thing.

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    People can encourage you to forgive.

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    People can pray with you.

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    People can pray for you.

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    But listen, nobody can make you forgive someone else.

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    That ball is only in your court.

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    Nobody can make you do that.

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    You have to do it.

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    Not-- if you heard these things, maybe you've said them.

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    I'll be nice to him for mom's sake.

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    Confession time-- how many people have said something like that?

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    All right.

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    I'll be nice to him for mom's sake.

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    Or here's another one.

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    I don't know if this is like a cultural thing or if this is a phrase that's used across the board, but I've heard people say this in these situations.

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    I'll be civil.

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    I'll be civil.

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    Have you heard that one?

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    Hey, look, you know, you know Tony's gonna be there, right?

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    Look, come on, I'll be civil.

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    You know what that means.

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    I hate that guy.

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    But so I don't start a riot or end up punching his teeth on his throat, I'm just going to smile.

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    I'm not going to say anything.

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    I'll say hi to him, but I'll be civil.

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    Now, it has to start here.

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    I am making the choice to forgive.

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    Have you done that?

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    I am making the choice to forgive.

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    I'm not doing this for my wife or my mother or the preacher.

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    I have to make the choice to forgive.

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    So here's a question.

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    Can you forgive someone if they are not seeking forgiveness?

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    Oh, what about that?

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    They're not seeking forgiveness.

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    Do I have to forgive them?

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    Here's your answer.

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    In my heart, I have to make the choice that I want forgiveness.

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    The answer to that is yes.

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    Can you forgive someone if they're not seeking forgiveness?

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    In my heart, I have to make the choice that I want forgiveness.

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    You can't make their choice.

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    You can make yours, though.

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    Like, well, do you have a biblical basis for that?

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    Yeah, how about Jesus?

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    Remember Luke chapter 23 and verse 34?

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    What did Jesus cry out to his heavenly Father while he was being crucified?

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    He said, Father-- what?

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    Forgive them for they don't know what they're doing.

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    Now, when Jesus said that, the people that were crucifying him obviously were unrepentant, but you see the heart of Christ in that.

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    He didn't cry out an imprecatory psalm.

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    He said.

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    Father, my cries for forgiveness.

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    You know, someone else did that.

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    Acts chapter 7. Stephen, remember while he was being pelted with rocks, do you remember what Stephen said?

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    "Lord, do not hold this sin against them." And what we see in Jesus and reflected by Stephen is this.

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    My heart is bent towards forgiveness, even if they are not seeking it.

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    That's the direction that the compass of my heart is pointing.

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    But here's the thing, the relationship is not restored until the offender wants forgiveness.

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    I must say that again, the relationship is not restored until the offender wants forgiveness.

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    But you have to choose to do your part.

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    That's what Paul told Philemon, and by authority of God's Word, that's what I'm commending to you.

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    Do your part.

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    So how do I know I'm forgiven?

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    Well, when I make the choice.

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    Secondly, when I value the person again.

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    When I value the person again.

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    Look at verses 10-14 with me.

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    Paul says again, "I appeal to you for my child Anesimus, whose father I became in my imprisonment." And parenthetically, "Formerly he was useless to you, but now he is indeed useful to you and to me." I'm sending him back to you.

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    Sending my very heart.

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    I would have been glad to keep him with me in order that he might serve me on your behalf during my imprisonment for the gospel.

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    But I prefer to do nothing without your consent in order that your goodness might not be by compulsion, but of your own accord.

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    So the second thing is, how do I know I've forgiven someone when I value that person again?

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    Remember, Onesimus came to Christ, born again, repentant.

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    How did we know he was repentant?

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    Because he was going back.

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    Right. That was a sign of repentance.

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    And Onesimus was also fruitful.

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    That's what Paul says.

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    He's useful to me.

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    Actually, verse 11 is a wordplay.

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    Do you know Onesimus means useful?

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    That's what that name means.

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    useful. So Paul's sort of doing this little play on words.

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    He's like, you know, your slave useful.

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    Well, he was kind of useless and you probably still think he is useless, but now he's useful and he's useful to me and he's coming back and he can be useful to you.

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    So Paul's point is what he is useful.

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    I want to remind you again, church-- I know we talked about this a couple of weeks ago, but we've got to keep hammering this home.

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    Here's how we typically handle offenders.

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    We write them off.

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    We avoid them.

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    We don't need them.

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    That's typically-- that's what I've seen.

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    When somebody offends, people are a lot less likely to go to that person and say, Wilson, man, you offended me. How likely is that? That's a lot less likely than I'm just not going to talk to him anymore. Right? Am I right? Is that what you see? That's what I see. I'm just not going to talk to that guy. And we just write them off. And there's this underlying bitterness and tension and my way of dealing with it is not dealing with it and that's just not biblical. It's not. It's not biblical. You are in the wrong if that's how you're dealing with an offense, by just avoiding the person. And what do we do in our culture? I'm mad at someone in the family, I'm not going to call them, I'm not going to see them. In fact, I might even unfriend them on Facebook. That's the ultimate sign by the way. Or what do we do in churches? Somebody offends me in the church? What do we do? Come on tell me. Don't be shy. I'm going to the church down the street. Isn't that what we do? I'm just gonna go to another church. I don't like what the preacher said instead of talking to him about it, sitting down like mature adults and talking about it, I'm just gonna go to the church down the street. I don't like what one of the leaders of the church said or one of the elders of the church or I don't like, I don't like, you know, what Sam said up here. I'm offended. I'm offended at the way, you know, Beth to Beth about that, I'm going to Northway.

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    That's wrong, man. That's wrong. It's just wrong.

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    We're like first-year church plant infancy years, so this probably isn't like in the manual things to say to the church. But listen, if you're here because somebody offended you at another church, and instead of dealing with the offense, your way of escaping is by coming to this church, you should go back to that church.

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    I mean that.

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    God's glory in the kingdom is a lot bigger than what he's doing just in this church or that church.

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    If you're here like, "Man, you know why I'm here?

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    It's because one of the elders at this church offended me." You need to go back and talk to that guy and make things right.

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    Because hiding out in this church isn't going to do you any good.

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    Because the next thing that's going to happen is I'll offend you, and you'll just keep on moving down the street.

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    John Price down at Covenant, he's going to be calling me like, "Hey, did you have this guy in your church?" "Yeah, watch out, because in ten minutes he's going to be mad at you, and he'll be going down to the Episcopalian church." True or false?

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    Is that true?

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    Deal with it.

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    If you have an offense, deal with it.

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    Go to the person, "Hey man, we gotta talk, man. I'm struggling with this." Deal with it.

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    Well, how do I know if we're given?

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    Well, it's when I can honestly say, "He means something to me." That's when you know.

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    It's when no longer in your heart have you written that person off.

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    Which, by the way, remember Jesus said hatred was the same as murder.

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    Do you remember that?

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    Do you know why?

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    It's because in your heart, you might not say it, but you wish that person was dead.

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    You've written them off.

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    You've killed them in your heart.

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    That's unforgiveness.

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    How do I know I'm forgiven?

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    Is when you say, "Well, you know, he means something to me.

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    He means something to me." Here's a hint. When someone offends you and they know that you're upset with them, they are feeling useless to you. They're saying things like, "Well, he hates me.

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    She's never really going to forgive me." So I want to encourage you, if you're at this point of the process, like, look, I'm seeking forgiveness, I'm seeking restoration. How do I make people know they're valued? Here's some real practical things. Jot these things down. How can I make somebody know that they're valuable? First of all, don't be fake about it, okay? You're gonna do the business with God first. God, restore the value of that person to me.

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    That was Paul's whole point to Philemon. Hey, he's not useless. Don't write him off. He's useful. You need to see them like that. Here's how you can make people know their value.

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    Number one, pray with them. Pray with them. When you sit down with them. Mike's like, Jeff, you offended me. And I'm like, man, I'm so sorry. I didn't I didn't realize.

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    And I will you accept my apology.

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    OK, let's pray.

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    That's that's a way of affirming value in a person that we will go to our heavenly father together.

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    So pray with them right on the spot, all in favor of on the spot prayer.

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    OK.

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    Invite them to something.

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    Number two, invite them to something.

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    That's a real practical way to affirm value in someone.

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    (congregation laughing)

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    Wilson might say, "Jeff, I forgive you.

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    Thank you." In the back of my mind, I'm thinking, is he still mad at me?

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    But you know, when Wilson calls up and says, "We're having a barbecue and I'd like you to come." Like, all right, what time is that by the way?

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    (laughing)

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    That's affirming value.

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    Or take them to lunch or coffee.

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    Hey, let's just get together and talk, man.

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    That affirms value.

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    Number three, here's practical stuff.

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    Send them a handwritten card or a letter.

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    Handwritten.

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    What I mean is, okay, text and emails are okay for their purpose.

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    But in these situations, nothing beats just a handwritten card, like, hey man, thanks so much for sitting down and talking with me the other day.

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    It meant a lot to me.

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    Number four, appreciate them, appreciate them.

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    Maybe you're having an issue with someone in the church.

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    Appreciate them.

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    You know, Dan, I'm just, I just want you to know how thankful I am to know every week you got that soundboard taken care of and it'd be rough going if you weren't back there working with Aaron.

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    Thank you for that.

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    And affirmation, another way you give value, one more.

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    The list is infinite.

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    I'm just giving you some practical things.

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    Chew over how to make people know their value.

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    Number five, ask them their opinion on something.

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    Ask them their opinion on something.

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    When you do that, you're automatically communicating to that person, I value you so much that I wanna know what you think about that.

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    I get why are we doing these things?

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    Because the person feels like dirt.

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    I've offended him.

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    And that's your way of saying you're back in the circle of trust, man.

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    Right?

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    I value your opinion.

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    So how do I know I've forgiven?

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    Well, when I make the choice and when I genuinely value the person again, I go from useless to useful in their eyes.

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    Number three, when I rejoice, when I rejoice that God is working in them.

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    When I rejoice that God is working in them.

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    Look at verse 15 and 16.

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    Paul says, for perhaps this is why he was parted from you for a while.

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    that you might have them back forever, no longer as a slave, but more than a slave.

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    As a beloved brother, especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and.

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    In the Lord.

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    So you'll know that you've forgiven someone when you can rejoice that God is working in them, first of all, Paul here points out that God's sovereignty is at work.

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    He uses the word perhaps just so he doesn't in any way communicate presumption.

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    But what he's saying is, you know what?

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    Here was a bad situation.

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    This guy stole money from you and ran away.

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    Bad situation, right?

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    And Paul's like, you know what?

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    Maybe that was the thing that God used Because God was after him.

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    I mean, God uses some pretty crazy things to go after people, doesn't he?

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    Like swallowed by a fish, right?

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    Burning bush, right?

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    God goes after people in pretty unique ways, and that's what Paul's saying.

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    Maybe I'm not excusing what he did, but Paul's saying, you know, when God looks down in his sovereignty, do you believe God's sovereign?

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    I do. Do you believe that God knows and is in control of every single thing in the universe?

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    According to the Bible, that's true.

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    And that's what Paul's saying, maybe this whole thing, a bad situation, God used it for his glory.

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    Perhaps that was why he parted from you for a while.

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    So he could come to Christ and then you could have him forever.

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    Like, not just like master-slave on the earth, but brothers in the Lord on the earth, and like neighbors in heaven.

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    You think maybe that's what God was doing?

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    He's more than a slave now, He's your brother.

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    When we're dealing with unforgiveness though, it's impossible to feel good for the offender, right?

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    It's impossible to feel good for the offender.

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    Think about it.

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    Somebody offends you.

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    I mean, really offended you. Really offended you.

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    You sit down and turn the TV on.

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    They're a contestant on The Price is Right.

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    They just won the showcase. How do you feel?

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    "I can't believe it!

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    I hope their boat rusts."

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    (congregation laughing)

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    I hope when they're tripped to Puerto Vallarta, they drink the water.

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    That's not nice.

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    But it's impossible to feel good for the offender.

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    It's impossible.

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    I just saw this recently where somebody who, I hate to confess this, but there are some people that don't like me.

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    Oh, don't laugh.

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    I'm sure there are people that don't like you either.

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    It's not me, but I'm sure there's someone.

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    But someone who, there was an issue like years ago and I'm like a dealt with that come and gone, but this person is still holding onto some stuff.

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    Well, friends had visited this church.

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    friends of this person visited the church and they said, how was Jeff's church?

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    It's not my church, but that's what they said.

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    How was Jeff's church?

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    And the person that visited said, "Oh, it was really nice, a really nice church." The person went, "Oh." Like so disappointed because God was doing some things.

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    Well, when you see the big picture, what is God's ultimate goal for the offender?

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    What is God's ultimate goal?

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    If somebody offends you, what's God's ultimate goal for them?

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    Actually, it's the same goal that he has for everybody, right?

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    What's God's goal for everyone?

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    He wants to conform you into the image of his son.

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    So how would you feel to find out that God has restored that person to himself?

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    How would you feel?

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    This person offended you and then you found out they became a Christian.

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    How would you feel?

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    How would you feel to know that God was blessing that person?

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    This is so much easier said than done.

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    That's why it's a work that only God can do.

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    If somebody burned your house down intentionally, went to jail for arson, came to Christ in jail, How would you feel about that?

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    How would you feel?

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    "Oh, I bet you that was one of them jailhouse conversions.

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    Oh, I bet you he's not sincere." Could you honestly say, you know, maybe the Lord allowed him to do this and get arrested in order that he would go to jail and receive the gospel?

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    You need to look at people, not according to how they've offended you, look at people according to what they can be in Christ.

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    What they can be in Christ.

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    Offender now, useless now, but you know what, in God's sovereignty, maybe he's getting that person's attention.

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    One more thing.

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    How do I know I've forgiven?

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    How do I know?

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    Well, when I make the choice and when I genuinely value the person again, and when I rejoice that God is working in them, And here's the last thing. How do you know you've forgiven?

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    When the offense is a non-issue to me.

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    When the offense is a non-issue to me.

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    So you thought Paul laid it on thick before. Look at verses 17 and 18.

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    That's what I love about Paul. He's hard to argue with.

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    He's just hard to argue with.

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    Because at this point Philemon might be reading this thinking, "Okay Paul, I hear what you're saying, but he stole from me.

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    He owes me.

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    He owes me the amount of money that he stole, the work that I had to pay to get done because he was gone, and maybe he had this all calculated. He stole from me." Well, you'll know you're forgiven when the offense is no longer an issue.

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    Verse 17, Paul says, "So if you consider me your partner, receive him as you would receive me." Again, do you have a scenario in your mind? Here's Philemon reading this, here's Onesimus.

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    Paul says, "Philemon, are we partners in ministry?" "Yeah, we are, Paul." See this guy standing in front of you.

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    Take him back like it's me standing there.

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    Who?

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    But but but but he stole from me, Paul, verse 18, if he has wronged you at all.

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    Or owes you anything.

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    Charge that to my accounts.

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    Forgiveness is hard because restitution must be made.

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    And really, that's what's happening any time there's an issue of unforgiveness.

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    We feel that we've been robbed.

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    Maybe it is something physically.

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    Somebody stole something physical from us, right?

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    Actually took something that belonged to us.

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    Sometimes.

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    What people stole was a nonphysical thing like your honor.

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    Right, or your dignity.

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    They took that from you. And there's a sense in which you owe me and nothing is right until you make it right. And to combat that path of thinking, that's why Paul says Philemon, put it on my tab. Does he owe you something? I'll pick up the check for that. Put it on my tab. It's hard to have an issue then, isn't it?

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    "But, but he stole from me!" Paul's like, "I'll pay you back." "But, but..." Oh.

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    No longer an issue. So here it is. You know you've forgiven when the offense has vanished from your heart. When the offense has vanished from your heart. How do I know if forgiven? If I'm still dwelling on it, if I'm still thinking about it, if the conversation is still going on and on and on and on in my head, I haven't forgiven yet. Forgiveness says I'm not going to think about it, I'm not going to bring it up, I'm not going to mention it next time we talk, it's gone It's history, it's finished.

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    I commend that to you.

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    Married people, married people, you gotta learn that lesson.

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    Gotta learn that lesson.

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    Whether you've been married for 10 years like Aaron and I, or three weeks like the Fredericks, for four years or however long, married people.

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    You gotta let things vanish from your heart.

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    'Cause you know what we do?

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    We tuck it away in our little filing cabinet in our heart.

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    Next time we get into a fight, oh, oh, you wanna fight, do you?

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    Hang on.

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    Give me just a moment to retrieve your file.

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    Oh yes, yes, yes, yes.

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    I see here, November the 17th, you did this.

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    And then on March the 3rd, you said this.

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    And we bring up all this stuff like, seriously, did that happen?

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    Let it go.

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    Let it go.

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    It's a call to grace.

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    It's a call to grace.

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    Grace is God giving to us what he requires from us.

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    We owed God a debt, we couldn't pay it.

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    God says, "I'll pay it." That's grace.

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    Unless we're perfectly righteous, we can't be in God's presence.

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    Do you have it?

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    Not yourself.

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    God requires it, so God says, "I'm going to give it to you because I require it from you." Holiness?

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    We're commanded to be holy.

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    Do you have holiness in and of yourself?

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    God says, "I require that, so I'm going to give it to you because I require it from you." That's awfully nice.

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    That's grace.

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    That's grace.

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    And see, as we deal with forgiveness, That's what we're saying, like, "Man, you owe me. I'll pay. I'm going to give you what I require from you." So now the offense, whatever it was, it's a non-issue. It's a non-issue.

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    We are most like God when we forgive. Do you know that?

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    Ephesians 5 says to be imitators of God.

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    Do you want to imitate God?

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    Do you want to fulfill that word of Scripture?

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    How many people in favor of that?

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    Be imitators of God.

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    That's what it says.

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    Read it.

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    Ephesians 5.

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    Be imitators of God.

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    How do we do that?

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    I'd suggest to you that we're not any more like God than when we dispense grace.

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    You've forgiven me or you've offended me rather.

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    You've offended me in, you've offended me in a horrible way.

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    It's not an issue anymore.

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    I forgive you.

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    So you're not anymore like God when you forgive, but as I close, we could get ready to worship here and pray.

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    You're not any more like Christ than when you pay someone else's debt on their behalf.

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    What I want you to see here as we close, here's a picture of the gospel.

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    Did you see it?

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    Here's a picture of the gospel.

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    Philemon was offended.

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    He was sinned against.

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    And you could say in this picture Philemon sort of represents God.

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    Here's someone who was sinned against, and Onesimus represents man.

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    Somebody who rebelled and sinned against now owes a debt and is unable to pay the debt.

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    So who does the Apostle Paul represent in this little picture?

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    You see that?

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    It represents Jesus.

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    Because the Apostle Paul stepped in and said, "I don't owe the debt, but I'll pay it on your behalf." That way, the debt is a non-issue.

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    And as we close, I just want to ask you, "Who paid your debt?" Who paid your debt?

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    Because the truth is you have sinned against God.

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    And sin isn't a mistake.

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    It isn't a whoops.

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    My bad.

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    Sin is flagrant rebellion against God.

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    That's what sin is.

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    There is a holy, perfect, sovereign, righteous God who created us to have a relationship with Him, to live in Him, to glorify Him.

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    And what do we do?

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    We run off.

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    We decide that we're going to do whatever we want to do.

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    We've sinned against God.

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    And God would be in His rights if He was just going to dispense justice.

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    The soul that sins shall die.

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    The wages of sin are death.

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    The first time you sin, the first time you say, "Well God, I know what You want me to do, but I'm going to do what I want to do." The first time you sin, God would be justified to say, "Straight to hell.

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    You've rebelled against the Holy One of the Universe.

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    You've spit in the face of God.

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    We deserve His worst." But instead, God gave us His best.

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    That though we've sinned against God and deserve His wrath, God said, "I'm going to pay the Yeah, a debt must be paid. An infinite holy God was sinned against. A debt must be paid.

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    In our ignorance, sometimes we try to pay it. "Well, I'll just go to church and I'll just try to be nice to people and I'll hand out bread at the soup kitchen or something and I'll do all these things and God will look at me and say, 'Okay, yeah, I guess you missed your life, Bob.' But you sort of made up for it by trying to do these good things. The problem with that thinking even though doing those good things, it's good, it's good, good things. The problem with that is the guilt still stands, right?

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    If you were arrested and you appeared before the judge and the judge says, "Oh, okay, I see here that you are guilty of breaking every law that you can break in our country," which by the Of course, if you've broken God's law at any point, you're guilty of the whole law, because rejecting the law is rejecting the lawgiver.

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    So if you stood before the judge, and he said, "Oh, I see that you are guilty of breaking every single law that somebody could break in our country, everything, everything from jaywalking to rape to murder to Grand Theft Auto, your chances of getting off? What are your chances? Oh, but your honor, you're right. You're right, your honor, but here I'll tell you what I'm gonna do. From this day forward, I will get out and work at the Salvation Army every day. And the judge might say, well, you know what, that's very nice of you to think that, but you're still guilty. The price must be paid. Your good works aren't going to bridge the gap. Payment must be made. And that's the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ. God says, "You can't pay it. You can't pay it." But God says, "I'll pay it." And the Bible says God took the form of man. The Word became flesh.

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    Jesus Christ, God in the flesh, came to this earth.

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    And when he died on the cross, don't think that he was some like religious martyr, like, oh, poor guy was out preaching and they didn't like his preaching, so they killed him.

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    The reason he came was to lay down his life as a sacrifice for sin.

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    That was God's plan.

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    That was under God's providence.

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    and it happened under the sovereign watch of God that his son was offered up as a sacrifice so that our sins could be forgiven. Jesus Christ is our substitute.

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    The Bible says that after the third day of being in the tomb, do you know this story?

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    Jesus rose from the dead. That's why we were singing these songs of victory. We're not here to sing about some dead religious figure. We're here to worship a risen victorious king and when he rose from the dead it was to give us life. It was to restore that relationship to God that whenever our time on earth is done we have no fear. We walk with God and serve God while we're here and death is merely being ushered into his presence. Why? Because someone paid your debt on your behalf. Like I shared earlier, it's been an exciting time in our church. But as life goes, there's victory and suffering hand in hand.

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    And this past week, many of you are aware Phil Simons from our church had passed away.

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    He'd been battling leukemia and he him and Debbie used to sit actually right behind where the gates are sitting. But the leukemia was rapidly progressing in his body and.

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    I was with him in the hospital quite a bit Tuesday, and I said, Phil, what kind of what kind of What time frame did they give you?

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    He said, "Imminent." He knew.

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    The only difference between Phil and you was that he had more of an idea of when his time was up.

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    But your time is going to be up too.

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    The question is, what have you done about the guilt of your sin?

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    What have you done with that?

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    My prayer is that like Phil, I mean, he loved the Lord.

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    His tears were for his family, but this man loved the Lord.

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    And he knew that his time on the earth would be to finally be personally in the presence of his Lord and Savior.

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    He was so excited for that.

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    Is Phil having a good day today?

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    Do you think Phil's having a good day?

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    He is.

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    His confidence and his hope was knowing that Jesus Christ paid the price for his sin, and rose from the dead so that he could have eternal life.

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    Are you there?

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    Have you done that?

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    Have you received this gift of eternal life that God has given?

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    We're going to close our service.

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    If you haven't, I'm going to be sticking around.

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    or if you're not sure if you have, come up and talk with me.

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    If there are a few of you, we have some other people here that we'll grab, that'll be glad to sit down and talk with you and pray with you.

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    If you're not sure, have I made that decision?

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    Have I received Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior?

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    Today's the day.

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    Okay?

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    Let me pray and then let's close.

Small Group Questions (Whole Group):
Read Philemon 1:8-18

Breakout Questions:
Pray for one another.

I Forgive....because of who I am in Christ

  1. Because I Trust Christ, I forgive. (Phm 1:4-5)

  2. Because I Love Christ’s people, I forgive. (Phm 1:5)

  3. Because I Belong to Christ’s church, I forgive. (Phm 1:6-7)

  4. Because I am Growing in Christ, I forgive. (Phm 1:6)

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    Forgiven people, now I want you to say the whole thing. Ready? Go. Do you believe that? Amen. Let's get back to it. Forgiven people forgive. How are we doing? Who in your life needs forgiveness? Last week, for those of you that weren't here, we To find forgiveness, forgiveness is the decision to release a person from the obligation that resulted from injury. You did something wrong against me, you owe me. Forgiveness is you no longer owe me. I'm releasing you of that obligation. And the New Testament theme of forgiveness is this. We looked at a whole bunch of verses last week, didn't we? But here it is. There is a connection between forgiveness from God and forgiveness to others. There is a connection. And we saw that forgiveness is not the plan of salvation. Forgiveness is the proof of salvation, right? Like, well, is this really such an important thing that we need to spend four weeks on it? And I believe that it is. And just to make it very personal, jot these three things down in your notes. Failure to forgive is going to result in three negative consequences on yourself, okay? So jot these three things down. Failure to forgive, first of all, keeps me in prison to the past. Keeps me in prison to the past. If you're someone who has been holding on to bitterness and holding on to hurts, and we talked about this a little last week, you know, you replay those conversations in your head, and I can't believe he talked to me that way, and you're holding on to that. What you've done is you've imprisoned yourself to the past. You can't move on from it. And you know, the Lord wants to take you to better places, but you can't go there. You've locked yourself in the past. So, unforgiveness, failure to forgive, keeps me in prison in the past. Secondly, failure to forgive will grow bitterness in your hearts. Not only will you be in prison in the past, but you'll become a bitter person.

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    And that can be a whole nother sermon.

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    Bitterness will destroy you from the inside out.

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    And much bitterness comes from I'm just choosing not to forgive.

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    Then thirdly, failure to forgive opens the door for Satan.

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    It opens the door for Satan.

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    I want you to think about that.

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    That door that I mentioned that Johnny's going to escape from.

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    If somebody was pounding on that door, and I said, "Oh, Satan's at the door.

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    Who wants to open the door?" Like, who's going to volunteer for that?

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    Who's going to volunteer?

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    I'll let him in.

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    Absolutely not.

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    Keep him out of here.

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    But understand that Ephesians 4, verses 26 and 27 say this, "Be angry and do not sin." It's okay to be angry, but you have to deal with it in a godly way.

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    Was Jesus ever angry?

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    He was.

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    Some people think anger is a sin.

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    It is not.

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    There's a righteous way to deal with anger, and there are righteous things to be angry about, right?

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    So Paul says, "Be angry and do not sin." He says, "Do not let the sun go down on your anger," meaning you don't let these issues linger.

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    And then he says, "And give no opportunity to the devil." The longer you leave these things open, the more you're inviting Satan in, you're leaving an open door for him.

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    It's a failure to forgive.

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    So last week we sort of took a little tour through the New Testament, kind of camped out on Matthew chapter 18.

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    But we're going to get really specific over the next three weeks.

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    I want you to turn, you know there's a book in your Bible that is all about human to human forgiveness. Did you know that? There's a book that's what the whole book is about. It's just person to person relational forgiveness. You know what book that is? Who wants to take a stab at it? It's Philemon. All right, I I want you to turn there.

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    Philemon is a little book.

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    It's only like one page in your Bible.

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    It's the shortest of Paul's letters.

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    And how I always find it, go near the back of your New Testament and find the book of Hebrews.

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    And Philemon is the book right before Hebrews.

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    All right, so turn there.

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    Turn louder so I know that you're doing it.

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    That's better.

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    Better.

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    Again, Philemon is unique. It's an individual letter regarding an individual issue.

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    You know, the other letters that Paul wrote were to churches or to pastors dealing with congregational issues.

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    Philemon is unique because Paul's like, "This is just to one guy because of one issue." It was written at the same time as Colossians during Paul's Roman imprisonment.

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    So who was Philemon? Well, he was a man who was led to Christ by Paul and he had a slave that ran away.

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    Anybody know the name of the slave? Onesimus.

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    Onesimus. Well, Onesimus runs from Philemon and he ends up in Rome and somehow he finds Paul.

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    How did he find Paul? I don't know.

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    I don't know if he stumbled upon him somehow or if Onesimus was actually looking for Paul.

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    The scripture really doesn't say how he found him, but we know that he found him.

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    Well, what's the big deal with a runaway slave?

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    Well, in Roman culture, a runaway slave was considered a criminal.

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    And actually, in verse 18, that we'll be looking at in a couple of weeks, It looks like Onesimus might have stolen some money from Philemon when he hit the road.

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    So now you have this runaway criminal slave that stole money, runs into Paul, and when he runs into the Apostle Paul, what do you think the Apostle Paul talked to him about?

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    Like, you know, "How about them pirates?" Right? No.

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    What do you think Paul talked to Onesimus about?

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    He shared the gospel with him, right? That's like what Paul did 24/7. Great inspiration. Everybody he ran into. "Hi, I'm Paul, but let me tell you about Jesus." Well, he shares Christ with Onesimus and Onesimus receives the Lord, so now we have a little bit of a situation.

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    Onesimus, you're a Christian now, but you're also a criminal, technically, and a thief. So what should he do? You need to go back. You need to go back to Philemon, the one that you ran from and the one that you stole from. You need to go back. And actually he was sent back. He was sent back to Colossae with Tychicus. Remember when we went through our series in Colossians, Tychicus was actually Paul's mailman. He was delivering these epistles and Onesimus was sent back with him.

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    Well, here's the danger. Philemon could have killed him. He could have killed Onesimus because slaves were not treated as human beings. They were treated as property. They were sold. They were exchanged. They were given. So that's what prompted this letter.

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    Philemon, in his day, would have culturally been in the right to kill Onesimus when he showed up.

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    But Paul says, I'm sending a letter with you.

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    And make sure Philemon gets this.

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    Before we get into the text, let me just take a second here to talk about slavery.

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    Slavery was part of Roman society.

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    In fact, in the first century, a third of the population estimated to be slaves, one third.

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    When you get to New Testament times, the conditions for slaves were actually improving.

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    And do you know why?

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    Because the masters had found that contented slaves actually worked better.

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    That's what led to improvement in conditions.

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    And the truth is, they were better off than the free poor people, because the slaves at least had food and lodging and could even learn trades from their master.

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    But understand this, the New Testament does not attack slavery.

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    The purpose for that-- the New Testament certainly doesn't condone slavery encourage slavery, except to Christ. But you see, as the gospel was spreading, there would have been a real danger for the gospel to be swallowed up in social reform. And sadly, that's what's happening with a lot of churches. God forbid we ever get down this road where our goal is, "Let's just go after social reform.

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    Let's go after social reform. Let's go out and try to correct some wrongs in society." And that doesn't do it.

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    God actually did something better to turn the course of slavery.

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    He changed the hearts of the slaves and the slave owners.

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    And that is eventually what eradicates the issue. Do you get that?

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    Instead of God saying, "Let's just attack the issue," God says, "I'm going to change the hearts of people." That's what's going to change it.

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    It was always a horrible thing. And even in cases where slaves preferred to be with their masters, you know, bond servants. We still see that the gospel did something better than social reform. It's heart transformation, right? So let's look at Philemon. Are you there? Look at the introduction here, verses 1 through 3, where the Apostle Paul writes, "Paul, a prisoner for Jesus Christ." This is the only letter where he starts that way. Paul, a prisoner for Jesus Christ, and Timothy, our brother. Remember a few weeks ago when Dave Whitcomb shared with us about Timothy. What did you call him? A loser?

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    to Philemon, our beloved fellow worker, and Aphia, our sister, and Archippus, our fellow soldier. Some scholars believe that Aphia is actually Philemon's wife and Archippus is his son. And the church in your house, grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ." Now the purpose of this letter, as I said, you have Onesimus coming back home but he's a believer now and he's coming to Philemon who is a believer, so the purpose is to bring reconciliation between now Christian brothers. So because this is the goal, Paul's going to start this letter by reminding Philemon who he is in Christ. See, this is really important. Paul didn't just say, you know, "Dear Philemon, forgive him." Love Paul. He starts this by saying, "Philemon, remember who you are in Christ. Not forgive Forgive Onesimus because I say so, or forgive Onesimus because he's a good guy, or forgive Onesimus because the offense really wasn't too bad.

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    You need to forgive him because that's who you are in Christ.

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    I'd like to remind you, church, that if your forgiveness is always based on the nature of the offense, or the frequency of the offense, or the other person, you're always going to be all over the board. Well, I'll forgive him for this because I like him, but that was a bad offense. But if that guy does that to me, I'm never going to forgive him.

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    And we start seeing all these inconsistencies and your forgiveness can't be based on anything other than who you are in Christ. And that's what makes it across the board, right? Because forgiven people do what? What do they do?

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    They forgive. So today what we're going to learn is forgiven people forgive because that is who I am in Christ. What we're going to be looking at today, this This is an identity issue.

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    And after the sermon last week, I had several people come to me and talk to me.

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    God's really working on this forgiveness thing in me.

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    He's stirring my heart and I realize that I have some bitterness.

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    This is an identity issue.

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    Who are you in Christ?

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    Because that is going to be the basis from which you're going to learn how to forgive like Christ.

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    You know, this week I was trying to think of a way to illustrate this.

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    Why would Paul start this letter talking about who he is in Christ?

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    He's not trying to flatter him or, you know, tell me something I don't know, Paul.

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    Why does he start this letter in verses 4 through 7 that we're going to look at here in a second?

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    saying all these things about him, well he's saying, "I'm going to talk to you about forgiveness, but we're going to start with this foundation, knowing who you are in Christ." And the best way to illustrate that, my wife and I were talking, actually when we first met the Whitcombs, I didn't know them from any, but they invited us over to their house and they had like some amazing cheesecake and some even better coffee and we got to meet them and I had no idea who they were. So a lot of times when I meet new people interested in the church, I like to ask questions to sort of get a feel for where they're at doctrinally with the Bible, you know, church philosophy, etc. And something came up about origins, right? So I've been sort of a armchair, you know, creation science student over the years and I sort of threw that out. Like, you know, here's what I believe about creation and here's some reason I believe in creation science. Typically how people respond to that tells me how they believe in the Word of God and what studies they've done, etc, etc. Well, later on that evening, Chris actually handed me a copy of the Genesis record. She's like, you know this book?" And I'm like, "Yeah, who doesn't know this book?" You know, back when churches were trying to accommodate evolutionary science by, "Maybe the Bible doesn't really say that." Here's a man named John Whitcomb saying, "We, you know, we have reason to believe. God's Word is true and science actually backs it up." And Chris is like, "Yeah, John is Dave's dad." And I'm like, "Oh, so what you're telling me is, I don't need to sell you on creation, right?" Like, that was completely taken off the table. I didn't need to sit there for a couple hours and say, "Well, you know, because I believe the Bible is literally true, here's why I believe in creation, and here's..." I'm like, "You guys are already sold." Well, see, That's sort of what Paul's doing to Philemon here.

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    Like, I'm going to talk to you about forgiveness, but listen, you already know something about forgiveness because you're forgiven in Christ.

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    And what are forgiven people do?

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    Forgiven people forgive.

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    So that's why he started that way.

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    Does this make sense?

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    Are you with me?

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    All right, do I need to start over?

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    No. All right.

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    Here it is.

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    Draw these notes down.

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    I forgive because of who I am in Christ, first of all.

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    Because I trust Christ, I forgive.

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    Let's actually read through the passage and we'll go back and pick up some of these points, but Paul says, I thank my God always when I remember you in my prayers, because I hear of your love and of the faith that you have toward the Lord Jesus and for all the And I pray that the sharing of your faith may become effective for the full knowledge of every good thing that is in us for the sake of Christ.

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    For I have derived much joy and comfort from your love, my brother, because the hearts of the saints have been refreshed through you.

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    So laying the foundation, number one, first of all, because I trust Christ, I forgive.

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    Did you see that in verses four and five? He says, "I thank my God always when I remember you in my prayers." Why? Well, look at the middle phrase in verse five. He's saying it's because of the faith that you have toward the Lord Jesus. How many people here are big fans of Paula Deen? Paula Deen fans? One. I was afraid this illustration was gonna tank, but we have one. Well, who's Paula Deen? Anybody know who Paula Deen is? She's a chef, right? So if, other than Dale, who I'm sure we all suspected, but if you came to me and you're like, "I'm a big follower of Paula Deen." Well then you know something about cooking, right? You're like, "Oh no, I don't know a thing about cooking." Like, wait, Paula Deen the chef? Right? Or is there like some other Paula Deen, like your next-door neighbor, or like, you know, this co-? Obviously if you follow Paula Deen, you probably know something about cooking, right? Well that's why Paul, starting this letter to Philemon, says, "You know Christ, so you already know something about forgiveness. As a Christ follower, my life is dedicated to the one who is all about forgiveness." Understand this, the unsaved, if you're here this morning and you don't know Jesus Christ, you don't have the resources to forgive, as we'll be talking about these next few weeks. You don't have the resources. So if you don't know Christ and you're coming to me saying, "You know, I just can't I can't forgive. I hate that person." If you don't know Christ, I'm just like, "Well, that makes sense." But if you're someone, you know, "I've been walking with Christ for months or for years, and He's been changing me and leading me," then the forgiveness issue is sort of off the table.

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    Like, you know what forgiveness is all about.

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    So I shouldn't have to sell you on it because you trust Jesus Christ.

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    You have the resources, don't you?

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    He models it, he commands it.

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    But more importantly for us today, I'd like to remind you that he empowers it.

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    It is Christ in you that gives you the strength.

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    Remember, Jesus said in John 15, apart from me, you can do what?

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    Nothing. That includes forgive and offense.

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    You can't do it.

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    You can't in your flesh try to muster up enough magical forgiveness power.

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    You can't do it. You don't have it.

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    It's only Christ in you that gives you the ability to do that.

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    But isn't it freeing?

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    Isn't it freeing that the decision is made ahead of time?

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    Isn't that freeing?

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    The decision is made ahead of time.

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    Like if I say, "Jane Auer, if you get offended tomorrow, are you going to seek to forgive the person that offends you tomorrow?" Absolutely. I knew he was going to say that.

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    Because for him, a follower of Jesus Christ, the decision has been made ahead of time, right?

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    Amanda Frederick, at work this week, if somebody offends you, are you going to seek to forgive that person?

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    She didn't even hesitate. I didn't even have the question out. She's like, "Yeah." Why? Because the decision is made ahead of time.

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    Because I trust Christ, I forgive.

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    Secondly, because I love Christ's people, I forgive.

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    Look at verse 5 again. The structure in the Greek, it's a little unusual to us in the English.

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    It says, "Because if I hear of your love and of the faith that you have toward the Lord Jesus and for all the saints." Like, wait a minute, are you saying that you have, you put your faith in the saints?

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    It's really not that type of structure. It's more like an A-B-B-A type structure.

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    But the word love really goes with the phrase, for all the saints.

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    Because I love Christ's people, I forgive.

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    Relationships are more important than my being offended.

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    Can you say that?

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    I'll tell you what, it's been hard for me at times to say that.

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    My offense and holding onto this grudge is more important than me having relationship with that person. I've been there. And God said to do some work in me.

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    How about you? Relationships are more important. Relationships. And if I asked you, "Well, do you love the people here?" Some of you are like, "Well, this is my first time here. I don't know these people." Do you love the people here? We'll see.

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    Yesterday, it was easy to love everybody from here.

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    'Cause we're like playing and, you know, Aaron and I are like trashing people at Ladder Golf and trashing people at Ladder Golf.

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    I mean, it was like Derek Jeter showing up at a wiffle ball game.

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    At least that's how I choose to remember it.

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    But it was easy, we're eating, we're having a good time.

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    Johnny Tatum's here, we're having fun.

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    And it was easy to love people there.

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    But let's see what happens when you're offended.

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    Do you still love?

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    Again, the decisions made ahead of time.

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    Because I trust Christ, I forgive.

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    But also because I love Christ's people, I forgive.

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    I care more about people than my grudge.

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    I care more about relationships than revenge.

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    You may not become best friends with the person.

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    But you have released them from the debt of injury.

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    Pastor Jeff, it's so hard.

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    It's so hard to love someone you don't like.

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    Can we get a testimony on that?

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    Is it hard to love someone you don't like?

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    It is.

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    But that's grace.

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    That's the Jesus way.

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    You know, the word for love here is agape.

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    That's the "you ahead of me" type of love.

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    That even though you've wronged me, even if you've offended me, I'm still going to seek to put you and your needs ahead of me and mine.

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    That's not easy.

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    But that's Jesus' way.

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    So because I love Christ's people, I forgive. Thirdly, because I belong to Christ's church, I forgive.

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    This is where I want to camp out for a couple of minutes because verse 6, verse 6 is like sucking in a bullion cube.

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    There's like, it's like so much in there, you know, and so let's camp out here for a second.

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    Sorry to give you that, that thought.

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    So is there anybody doing that right now?

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    Okay.

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    Because I belong to Christ Church, I forgive.

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    Verse six, "And I pray that the sharing of your faith may become effective." stop there for a second. When he talks about the sharing of your faith, when I first read that I thought he was talking about handing out gospel tracts. You know, I'm sharing my faith, sharing my faith. Here, here's a gospel tract. Here, here's a gospel tract. Read it. Jesus loves you and here's... that's not what he's talking about actually. Actually the word sharing in the Greek is koinonia. It can also be translated communication or fellowship or partnership.

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    That's what koinonia is.

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    It's fellowship.

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    But understand this again in the church.

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    What do we typically think of when we hear the word fellowship?

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    Oh, that's when we get together and eat, right?

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    We're fellowshiping.

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    We're eating together.

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    When I was a kid, Darren, you remember, we'd go to those potluck dinners, and it would just be like, this was, God's growing me, but as a kid I was just like, I gotta find the thing that mom made.

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    Because that's the only thing I'm sure came from a safe house, right? Oh come on, you've thought it too. That's not fellowship. That might be suffering for the cause of Christ, but that's not fellowship. If you would have had some of that meatloaf, you would have been like, "Amen!" Trust me. Here's what fellowship is.

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    It's also more than, "I like you. I like you. Welcome to Harvest Bible Pittsburgh, North. I like you. You're my friend. It's more than that.

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    Here's what fellowship is. It's this. We belong together. We belong together.

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    We are individual parts of a body. That's what fellowship is. Paul was telling Philemon, "Onesimus, he's your brother in Christ now, so your love for the fellowship, your partnership for the gospel, is even more incentive to forgive." And he writes that your fellowship of the faith, your partnering in the gospel, may be, my Bible translates this, effective.

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    Actually, the Greek word literally means powerful.

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    That's the effect that forgiveness is going to have on the church.

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    It's going to be powerful.

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    Every week when we close the service, what are the last three words that we say every week?

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    say one two three you are loved we say that every week right listen this can't be a place of people harboring resentments and will these people sit over here because they don't like these people over here and no resentment no resentment you know Johnny had talked briefly about you know harvest core groups getting together and working towards launch and look I'll tell you what the leadership here and our leaders will tell you we have had to deal with issues haven't we Ken and we had to deal with issues don't be shy Michelle we had to deal with issues we've had to deal with issues we've had to there have been times that I've had to ask for forgiveness which God is still growing me in. There have been times that I've had to forgive. But don't picture like, you know, last September, like this core group, we were all walking arm-in-arm down the yellow brick roads singing that ridiculous song. There were some times of this. Wonder Sammy. There were times I'm like, "Sam, I need you to to come over to my house.

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    Like, why?

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    Because I want to headbutt you in the nose.

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    He's like, well, I'm on my way with the back of my hand.

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    We've had those times, didn't we, Sam?

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    Those were good times, weren't they?

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    The answer is no.

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    So like, what kept us going through that stuff?

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    What kept us going?

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    because we were partners in something bigger than ourselves.

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    My little disagreement about this, that, or the other with any of the leader teams, or their disagreement with us, we didn't let that drive a wedge because the bigger picture was, God wants his church planted, right?

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    He's been providing in miraculous ways.

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    Hello, just in the last couple of months, the way God has provided.

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    Like, did you see our new podium?

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    God has been providing in amazing ways because we knew that God wanted us to plant this church.

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    God wanted the name of his son lifted high and glorified.

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    God was seeking worshippers to worship him in spirit and in truth.

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    That's the thing that drove us.

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    OK, so we had some issues and we dealt with them and we moved on.

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    What were the issues? I don't even remember now.

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    But that's how it is in the church.

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    We deal with them and we move on.

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    Right? Because what matters is the mission.

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    We love God and we love people, but we're committed to the mission.

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    And Johnny, I'm sorry the whole phrase didn't fit on the sign, but if you grab a Sharpie, maybe we can fix that.

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    But it was the mission.

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    We want to glorify God through the fulfillment of the Great Commission in the spirit of the Great Commandment.

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    We kept our eyes on that.

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    That is the fellowship of the faith.

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    Oh, what would the church be like if we were still hanging on to these pockets of unforgiveness?

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    What would the church be like?

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    Well, first of all, nobody in the leader team would talk to me.

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    It'd just be like I'd show up on Sunday, and it'd be like, "I'm still mad at you, boy." And frankly, there's some people that I wouldn't talk to.

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    Like, yeah, you go park out back. I don't want to see you.

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    Well, the ministry would be stifled, that's what would happen.

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    The ministry would be stifled.

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    I don't want to talk to the worship team and the finances people don't want to talk to me and the children's ministry.

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    Forget them. The ministry would be stifled.

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    You see, that's why he says at the end of this, at the end of verse 6, "For the sake of Christ." We're on a mission together.

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    We're on a mission to experience God's glory together.

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    So because I belong to Christ's church, I forgive.

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    And finally. Because I am growing in Christ.

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    I forgive. Because I am growing in Christ, I forgive.

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    Look back at verse six again.

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    This is a really meaty verse.

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    He says, "But I pray that the sharing of your faith, you know, the fellowship, the partnership that you have may become effective or powerful." You're like, well, powerful for what?

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    Well, look at this phrase very closely.

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    for the full knowledge of every good thing that is in us for the sake of Christ." Now, when he talks about knowledge here, he's not talking about facts, okay?

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    Literally, this is deep, rich, full experiential knowledge.

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    That's what he's talking about here.

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    This is not just here's something I learned from a book.

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    I read this this morning.

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    Now I know this.

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    He's talking about you've experienced this.

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    So you know this on a whole nother level.

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    For example.

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    Moms or moms to be, Alicia, have you read What to Expect, What you're expecting?

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    You've read that.

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    We read that, didn't we, Aaron?

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    Okay.

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    How many other mothers read that book, What to Expect, We Were Expecting a Few?

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    Okay.

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    Now tell me, moms, when you read that book, you learned some things, right?

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    But after having a child and dealing with the up all night, not sleeping, fussy baby, That's how it was in our house.

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    Did you learn the facts from that book in a completely different level after experiencing them?

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    Did you learn that in a different level?

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    You're in for a treat, Alicia.

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    Right?

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    Because you're learning. I have no doubt. Alicia is an extremely intelligent woman.

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    She's learning.

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    But once she's here, you're going to be like, "Now I really get it.

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    Now I really understand." Well, I haven't had any babies personally, so when I was thinking about this, I thought about, have you ever seen this exercise program called Insanity?

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    Have you seen that?

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    There's infomercials on it all the time.

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    Well, I've shared with you before weakness.

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    I'm a sucker for infomercials.

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    I just am.

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    Literally, insanity is the only thing I've ever bought from an infomercial.

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    Actually, Aaron bought it for me, so I still have a squeaky clean record.

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    But I love infomercials.

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    Well, that Insanity one just completely-- I was enamored with it.

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    Because you get these guys on there, they're all sweating, and they got like their six pack gone.

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    They're like, there's no secret to this.

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    It's hard.

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    It's hard work.

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    And if you stick with the program, you'll be ripped like me.

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    And I'm watching it and watching it, And I'm just like, that looks hard.

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    You know, you do all these, my wife describes it.

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    She says, when I do insanity, she says, I'm dancing around the living room like a ninny.

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    But you do all these movements, you know, plyometric circuits and things like that, all these jumping jacks and all these goofy things.

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    So I'm watching it and I'm like, yeah, you know what, that looks hard.

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    Well, I got it.

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    And the first day is just a fit test.

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    You do these little exercises just to see how in shape you are.

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    No joke, the only thing I could think the whole time was don't throw up.

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    Don't throw up.

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    Seriously, the whole time.

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    And then you get to the first actual series of exercises.

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    I was like, who does this?

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    I mean, this dude on TV is like ripped.

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    And he's face down on the floor in a puddle of sweat, like scooping his lungs back into his body.

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    Like insanity, aptly named, I would say.

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    But here again, I saw and understood that it was going to be hard, but I didn't really understand until I actually did it.

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    Right?

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    Well, see, that's what Paul is driving at here knowledge. He says full knowledge of every good thing that is in us for the sake of Christ. Let me ask you, do you want to know Christ or do you want to know about Christ? Which one do you want? If I gave you a choice this morning and said how many people here want to know about Christ? Some of you would raise hand. I'm like, OK, how many of you instead would want to actually know Christ? How many people would sign on for that? I don't just want to know about Jesus. I want to know Jesus.

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    That's what he's talking about here, every good thing that is in us.

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    You see, that's the beauty of growing in Christ, because here it is.

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    You already have.

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    Every spiritual blessing in Christ, you already have it.

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    Growing in Christ is His way of taking you on your journey through life, so that you are discovering what He has in you.

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    Do you see that?

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    He says, "Every good thing that is in us," He says, "it's already in you." If I leave it, you already have it.

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    But you need to grow in the experience.

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    You need to discover it through experience.

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    You see, or to put it this way, I could preach all day giving you Bible facts.

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    But the full knowledge of every good thing that is in us comes only when you experience Jesus at work in you.

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    That's when you know.

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    You will know grace and forgiveness when you let Jesus Christ work grace and forgiveness through you.

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    That's what Paul is driving at here.

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    You can tell he is really setting him up because this is a big issue.

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    So He is setting him up in a big way to say, "Listen, I don't want to tell you what I am about to tell you before I remind you thoroughly of who you are in Christ.

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    And you need to learn what it is that Christ has for you, because He already has it in you.

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    He just wants you to discover it." And that's going to manifest itself through forgiveness.

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    And there's somebody still sitting here, I promise you, there's somebody still sitting here saying, "But I don't want to forgive." Jeff, I hear what you're saying, I see what the Bible's saying, but Jeff, I'm just going to be completely honest.

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    You don't have to raise your hand, but there's somebody sitting here right now saying, "I you but I don't want to forgive I don't want to well which is going to take you to a better place forgiveness or unforgiveness which one which is more in line with your identity in Jesus Christ forgiveness or unforgiveness which one Which is going to accomplish God's purpose to conform you to the image of His Son?

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    Forgiveness or unforgiveness? You know that's God's goal, right? Romans 8, 29.

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    God's goal for you is to conform you into the image of His Son.

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    What's going to accomplish that in your life?

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    Choosing to forgive or choosing unforgiveness?

Small Group Questions (Whole Group):
Read Philemon 1:1-7

Breakout Questions:
Pray for one another.